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A guy at camp has a girl, and he's harrasing and trying to SEX me!
For about, maybe... 1 Week, I have been going to this camp that my friends have been going to. And let me say... I've been hit on a lot. But not as bad. Im just going to sum up this story.
On the first day, I was called "Sexy" and "Hot" a lot. I wasn't really worried about it. And then this guy, he's a year older then me (Im 14), started getting really... "Colorful" with me. He started with just messing with me, and then it got to touching. I was laying down, just chillin', and he came over, and he got super close to me, and he whispered "I would f***ing do it with you."
And then that hit it off. He's been touching me, name calling me, and attempting to get with me. It's actually freaking me out, because one of my "friends" told him where I lived. And this guy is almost 3 feet taller then me, he's way stronger then me as well, he could easily rape me, no problems. That's why I'm so scared about this. I'm not good with words, and I'm afraid if I say something that'll make him upset, he'll freak and go to my house. x I've stopped going to the camp, but I really need help on this. I dont know where to turn.
What should I do?! What should I say?!
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SEXUAL ASSULT!!!!!! i'm not sure but if he does 'do it with you' without your permission, he can be charged!!! just tell an adult or if your not comfotable with your mom alone, get a friend, tell her, and you guys can go to an adult together. plus, its more likely they'll believe you if you have a friend.
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The right thing to do is to let an adult at the camp become aware of the problem.
This boy has crossed the line and is harassing you like you said and the problem should be addressed. It is highly inappropriate to just confront someone the way he did, I would take his actions as a threat and report him immediately.
You can also let your parents know what happened also.
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If you have been talking to him online or through text or something, you should tell him that he needs to stop saying these things to you and if he harasses you or shows up to your house, you will contact the police. Then, if he does, you need to follow through. Anything that he has sent you, make sure you save it because the police can't do anything if you can't show them the evidence. My guess is that this should scare him enough that he'll leave you alone. If you are not in contact with him, do not get into contact with him. If he comes to your house, do not let him in and tell him to leave. If he refuses, call the police. From what you've said in your question, it doesn't appear as if you've been very direct or forceful with him. Did you ever forcefully tell him to stop? Did you tell a counselor at the camp about what he was doing? I used to be a camp counselor and they would've taken something like that really seriously and made sure to protect you. If anything like this happens in the future, make sure that you stand up for yourself. It may be out of character, but you have to be strong and yell at someone like this to leave you alone. They might insult you for doing so (get your panties out of a knot, is it that time of the month, or other really sexist comments), but it's important for you to get the message across. It's possible that he thought that you liked the attention he was giving you. Even if you say no, if you say it quietly or without much conviction, a guy that is that young may not understand. Make sure that he is 100% sure that you do not want anything to do with him and if he continues, you need to take action and get an authority figure to help you. I'm not saying that you did anything wrong here. This guy seems like a complete disgusting creep and that's no fault of yours. The problem is that sometimes, we can get ourselves into trouble by being too nice to disgusting creeps. He doesn't deserve your kindness, he deserves to get put in his place. In the future, try to be more assertive and the situation may not get so out of hand so quickly. Maybe you don't want to admit to yourself that you did like the attention at first. We all like to know that we're sexually appealing and it's nice when people come on to us, it's a great boost to self-esteem. We're probably all guilty of leading people on a little. When it starts crossing the line though, you can't just let it go because you've been letting it go. It's not your fault that he's the way that he is and it's important to put your foot down. When he lied down with you and you felt uncomfortable, why didn't you get up and leave? When he went to whisper in your ear, why didn't you move away? When he said that to you, did you tell him that you weren't interested in him? If you're more forceful and assertive about what you're feeling, you may be able to keep these situations from spiraling out of control. If you react strongly to unwanted advances, the person may get the point easier. It's never too late to stand up to someone that you've been letting flirt with you. When it's enough, it's enough. My guess is that he's not going to do anything, but if he does, you'll be prepared. Good luck!
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