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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)
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I always feel so ugly. Whenever I see the pretty girls at my school I just feel all bad and wish I would be as pretty as them. I'm always so self concious about the way I look now. I don't know why i'm like this. I used to be so confident and didn't care how I look. Will I ALWAYS be like this?
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Honestly, how many girls do you know that can say to themselves, "I'm beautiful!" and actually believe it? I don't know many. Think of those beautiful girls that you see every day at school. You can assume that they're confident, right? WRONG. The "beautiful" ones are those who are standing in front of the mirror for hours on end, asking their friends if their butt looks big in their jeans. They're the ones who are putting on insane amounts of make-up. With observation, you'll agree with me.
You're a teenager. Teens are notorious for low self-esteem. Everyone has the "feeling ugly" phase, but it lasts longer and takes a larger toll on some people. Thankfully, most teenagers grow out of it as they age, because eventually, certain things (college, careers) become more important than appearance. You will probably always think about what you look like, but it won't consume your life if you don't allow it to.
The real problem isn't your looks; Your problem is your self-esteem, and that lies within you. Since you can't change the way you look, you just have to learn to accept it. Going on and on about every single little flaw you may have will NOT make it go away. You spend time thinking about your flaws, right? That's precious time that you'll never get back; time that could be spent making memories with the people you love.
From the physical standpoint, you can do many things. For one, you can wear make-up that flatters your facial features. You can ask your mom, a friend, an older sister, or you can find books and websites to learn how to do that.
Finding a personal style is good, too. No, I don't mean wearing what everyone else wears; I mean that you should find clothes that you like that show off your best traits and flatter your body type. I can't help you here, since I don't know what you look like, but I'm sure you can find websites that can help.
You really have two choices: Love and accept yourself, or dwell on what you can't change and be miserable.
You only live once, and you are the one person you will be with for the rest of your life.
Do you want to be with someone who loves you, or with someone who hates you? It's your call.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
okay so i wanted a casual summer time baby doll, short dress.
stores, websites? no price limit.
thankss :)
I actually just got one from Dillard's not too long ago. They had a bunch of other cute ones, too. Delia's, Charlotte Russe, and Alloy would probably have them.
I'm pretty sure that Macy's would have some, although I haven't been there in a while.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
i usually am music savvy type girl and i always find my own music. but lately i can't find any. im into all types of music except pop. whats on my ipod currently is indie music. anyone got any good artist?
New music is fun. =D Here are some good ones:
John Lennon (Definitely one of the greatest musicians of all time, hands down!)
Of Montreal
Tilly and the Wall
The Strokes
Albert Hammond, Jr. (Member of the Strokes, but he's great solo, too)
The Libertines
Ben Folds
Gary Jules
hellogoodbye
Shawn Mullins
Bloc Party
I know it's not as many as the others, but they're still some great artists/bands that are worth listening to.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
When you went to High school, did you meet a lot of new friends? Or did you tend to stay around the same people you hung around with in middle school?
thanks =]
Personally, I made A LOT of new friends when I went into high school. You kind of have to, because the chances of you getting classes with your closest friends from middle school are slim. But I definitely don't regret making new friends. High school exposes you to different kinds of people that you can relate to in different ways. It's definitely a good way to grow.
But I also kept my best friends from middle school, too. Just because you make new friends, doesn't mean you ditch the old ones.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
i know alot of people that get drunk on the weekend. for some reason i just really want to try it. is this like bad? i mean i dont think drinking is that bad.. it's not like smoking pot or anything. and i wouldn't get so wasted that i'd endanger myself. what do you think?
Assuming that you're underage, no, it's not okay to drink. Why? There are many reasons.
First of all, you can get caught and arrested for drinking underage, even if you aren't driving.
Of course, everyone knows the dangers of driving drunk and getting in the car with a drunk driver. I don't need to explain those.
But do you know how many other kinds of accidents are caused by alcohol? I was watching an HBO special called "Toxic Tales" and this one guy got so drunk that while he was in a mall, he fell 20 feet down. Yes, he had to go to the hospital and yes, he was seriously hurt. You should have seen how his mother reacted when she saw him; It was horrible.
You say that you won't get TOO wasted, but you don't know that. If you've never had alcohol before, you don't know how much it takes to make you drunk, so how would you know?
Getting drunk on the weekends is pointless. How much fun is getting drunk when you won't remember half of what went on the next day?
Sorry if I sound preachy, but I just don't want you to get hurt.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
i think my parents love me but they dont exactly show it most of the time
they always say horrible things and nothing positive but i dont know if im really influenced by it so much or not. i think so, but i dont want to report them.. i dunno
You may say that you're not influenced by it, but you actually might be, without realizing it. Your relationship with your parents are the first relationships you have in your life; They strongly influence other relationships in your life, too.
YOU DON'T DESERVE TO BE TREATED BADLY. If your parents make you feel bad about yourself and only succeed in putting you down, then tell someone. Yeah, you don't want to report them, but you AND your parents need help.
I hope I helped, and feel free to leave another question in my inbox.
-Manders
If best friends fight, and they've never fought before, does that mean they've stopped loving each other?
People have been coming up to my friend and me and saying 'sorry to hear you two are fighting.' Is it normal to fight? We're not really, but there was an issue involving the guy she's with making up stuff about me. I talked to her about it and this whole dramatic thing started.
Can we fix this? I told you, we've never fought, ever, in our three years of friendship.
What can we do?
Most, if not all, friends will fight or argue at one point in a friendship. It's healthy. One little arguement doesn't mean that you have a bad friendship, or that your friend doesn't love you anymore.
You need to talk to her about it again. I know that talking to her in the first place may have caused some drama, but nothing good will come from this situation if you sit there and do nothing.
Since this is between you and her, talk to her alone. Involving more people will only cause more drama.
Let her know that what the guy said hurt your feelings. Tell her that you care about her and don't want to lose her friendship over this.
If she says that she's sorry, accept the apology. If she doesn't show any remorse... that's when you should reconsider how great your friendship with this girl is.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
what would count as mental or emotional abuse from parents?
I think this is one of those questions that is more opinion-based. For instance, physical abuse from parents: Some parents will openly spank their kids, while others think it's abuse and refuse to. Emotional abuse is the same way.
Personally, I think that emotional or mental abuse consists of name-calling and letdowns. Let's say you fail a test. When you tell your parents this, they should motivate you to work harder for next time (By healthy punishment, or perhaps helping you study), but an emotionally abusive parent will probably call the child stupid and say some untrue things, like how much of a failiure he or she is.
Another example would be weight. Let's say that a child is obese. A good parent would care about their health, so they'd try to motivate their child to lose weight and promote a healthier lifestyle. A bad parent, however, will more than likely point out the child's obesity and criticize them for it, which only succeeds in lowering his or her self-esteem.
If you or a friend of yours is being emotionally abused, you need to get help. You can tell a guidance counselor, a teacher, or any other adult you trust. Parents are some of the most important people in someone's life, and we all deserve to have ones who will support and love us, not ones who put us down.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
im a 15 year old female.
so me and my boyfriend are taking a break after 9 months. he is one of those guys who knows exactly what he wants, and its me. he always says how he want us to get married, have kids, and all of that. and me being 15(he is 15 also) am not ready to decided who im going to marry and stuff. im ready to have fun! but, he is really sweet and so nice but i needed a break and some time to catch up with my friends that i havent been hanging out with in awhile. so now he keeps saying how he wants to get back together and it hasnt been a week yet and it is driving me crazy. i dont know what to do. he keeps acting like we are still together. and freaks out with i told him that "i dont like anyone yet." so now he is complaining about how he thinks im going to get with someone else and ah! what should i do? should i give in? ignore him?
I think that you should definitely stay on your break. This guy must be driving you nuts, and he's really putting pressure on you. If you stay with him, you'll just feel smothered and miserable, which will probably eventually lead to a nasty break-up, and you don't want that.
What you need to do is to talk to him, one on one. Let him know that while you care about him, you really want to take a break to catch up with friends and any other areas of your life you've been neglecting for the past nine months. Tell him, straight up, that you aren't looking for a relationship with anyone right now. If he really likes and respects you, he will understand and accept this. If he doesn't, just apologize and move on. This guy needs to find someone who cares for him as much as he cares for her, and by letting him go, you're giving him the chance to experience that.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
How do you handle jealousy in your relationships. Not freindships, because i get jealous of my friends all of the time, but i handle that (sorta) but how do you handle jealousy with your boyfriends...i just dont know how...suggestions anyone?
Jealousy can come from two sources: Lack of trust and/or insecurity. So, the only way to get rid of jealousy is to get rid of those two.
Has your boyfriend ever done anything to betray your trust, such as cheating or lying about where he was? If so, your jealousy is somewhat justified. However, if he hasn't, other girls can be sparking your jealousy. Do other girls flirt with him? If so, remember that it takes two to tango; Meaning, that no matter how much another girl likes him, or flirts with him, it doesn't mean that the feelings will be returned by your boyfriend.
Insecurity, like I said, can also play a role in jealousy. Remember this: If your boyfriend is with you now, then he must have feelings for you, right?
You need to believe that you're worthy of him. This is the reason that people always say that you can't love anyone else until you love yourself.
Confidence involves a change in attitude. Believe that you're beautiful and wonderful and be positive in your abilities.
He obviously thinks that you're special if he's with you; Have faith in that, in him, and most of all, have faith in yourself.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
ok 18/m
shes 17
going out 4 months
then she tells me she loves her x
we break up
2 days later she comes back cryin sayin she made a mistake blah blah blah
wants me back blah blah blah
doesnt want him or ne1 else blah blah blah
i ask her if she has even kissed any1 else. she says no
i say ok
we get back together
Then i find out through trusty lil myspace that in those 2 days she fucked a 20 year old and lied about it.
Confronted her. She admited it. Shes crying over it. Shes givin me all the "im so disgusted in myself, i hate myself for it blah blah blah"
i cant take this pain anymore, every time i look at her i break down cuz i picture her and him.
But i also cant walk away from her. I love her.
And i also cant go on a break with her, becuase im to afraid of what she will do if shes not with me cuz i cant trust her whatsoever anymore. HELP
You say that you don't want to break up with her, and you don't have to. However, you can't just let this slide, because you deserve to let your girlfriend know how you feel. If you don't, it will only put more of a strain on the relationship, making it less likely to be saved.
Two ground rules: No yelling, and no accusations. Those two things (especially combined) will make her defensive, and less likely to listen to what you have to say.
Also, make sure that when you do talk to her, that you two are alone and that she isn't in a bad mood.
You can say something along the lines of, "____ (name), I know you're sorry for what you did, but it still hurt my feelings. I really love you, and I don't want our relationship to end, but it's already hard for me to trust you. If you do something like this again, I don't think we can be together anymore. Please, help me make this work."
Realize that, whether she realizes it or not, that she's playing with your emotions. She said she loved her ex, but she regretted it. She had sex with another guy, and she regretted that, too. That's a lot to deal with. The fact that she's doing things with other men could also mean that she's curious, or maybe she's not happy in the relationship. Like I said before, you really need to talk to her so you can find out where you stand in the relationship.
If change can't come in this relationship, it would be best for both of you to end it. You may love her, but you can't trust her, and trust (along with communication) is one of the most important parts of a relationship. You deserve someone you can trust and who will respect you.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
This is going to be long or no one is going to understand my situation.
Basically I'm 16 & Female: I had this perfect boyfriend (or so it seemed) we dated constant, no breakups, for 17 months. He, too, was 16. We planned so much, we were even getting engaged, it was perfect. Near January of this year, things started getting a little rocky between him & I. See we go to different schools so we never really got to see eachother that often. We planned to meet eachother at the bowling alley, and that night we got in a fight. The fight wasn't really over anything big, he just got mad at me over something & hurt my arm. But I told him that he had anger problems & needed to resolve them. So basically, for the next 3 days he ignored me. He ignored my calls, my texts, my messages, my emails, & he never called me back, returned anything. Then I had gotten on the computer that day & he broke up with me. I was not only mad that it was through the computer, but I was furious because of everything he threw away. A week down the road, he comes back to me & asks for this thing he called "break-up sex" I knew it would have been a mistake for me to have done it, but I wanted him back & I wanted that feeling back. So I agreed to it. Later on, he tells me that he's "talking" to someone & doesn't want to ruin things with her, so he doesn't want to have this "sex." I was hurt. Basically because I still wanted him back. Friday night, I went to the basketball game at his school to meet up with a couple of my friends, and he was there. He wasn't with anyone like he told me he would have been. So he texts me & asks me to meet him outside. We ended up having sex in the backseat of his car. I don't really regret it, but last night he told me that he never would ever get back together with me & that friday night was an accident. What is your all's opinion on this situation?
I could honestly write a book telling you all of the reasons why you should never talk to this guy again, but I'm sure you know all of them, so I'll condense it a bit.
First of all, he hit you. Once a guy does that, there's a good chance he can do it again. If a guy hits you and you don't do anything about it, he knows he can do it again, and usually it gets worse. If someone is abusive, they not only want to be in control of the relationship, they want to be in control of you.
Second of all, he had sex with you while you were broken up. He knew that you wanted him back, and he took advantage of that.
Lastly, he's playing with your emotions. "Break-up sex?" Give me a break! How inconsiderate is that? Plus, he ignored you when you told him he had anger problems, and if he were that great of a guy, he would have apologized for hitting you and realized that what he did was wrong. He seems self-absorbed and you DEFINITELY deserve better. You're not here just to entertain him.
Your best bet? Cut all ties with him. Don't talk to him. If he tries to communicate with you in any way, ignore him. You need time to get over him and all that he's done to you, and staying away from him is the best way to do so. You don't deserve to be with a guy who is so abusive.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months now. Everything is going really well, but I have one concern: he's a Republican and I'm a die-hard liberal. Because I have this knowledge, I avoid any type of politial discussion with him. My friends are convinced that this will lead to our demise, but I don't know. I love him very much, we get along so well, and he makes me very happy, but I sometimes feel like I'm hiding my feelings about certain subjects from him. This is not like me at all; I'm a very opinionated!
I'm wondering if I should end it before we get in too deep because of this, or if I should just stay with him and allow whatever happens to happen.
Thank you all in advance!
ALL couples, no matter how compatible they are, have their differences.
Differences keep relationships interesting. You can learn more things from someone who is slightly different than you are than you would if you dated someone who was exactly like you.
Personally, I think that your boyfriend sounds like a great guy, and that he'd respect your opinions if you do the same for him. But, if anything, you need to feel more secure with expressing your opinions. Communication is one of the driving forces in any relationship. Not being able to communicate with your partner can lead to the relationship's demise more than the different political views can. When you talk to him about politics, share your views with him, but don't make it seem like you want to "convert" him, and let him know that no matter how different your political views may be, you still repect him.
As long as neither of you try to shove one another's beliefs down the other's throat, you should be fine. Respect each other's opinions, and be open to listening to one another. You may have arguements, and as long as you don't let politics define your relationship, you should be okay.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
Ok we are having our valentines day dance soon. (13/F by the way) and we need ideas for songs. Every dance we use this girl's ipod and well....she listens to rock music all the time and the dance gets ruined because noone likes the music. Does anyone know a good variety of songs we can use both fast and slow. Our school is very musicly diversified so any type (EXCEPT RAP) would be good. Since its Valentines Day love songs that are slow would be good then some fun songs are needed as well. Any ideas?
I listen to most types of music, so I can definitely help you here.
POP-
"That's When I'll Stop Loving You" by *NSYNC
"Tearin' Up My Heart" by *NSYNC
"The Best Day of my Life" by Jesse McCartney
"Truly Madly Deeply" by Savage Garden
"What Goes Around Comes Around" by Justin Timberlake
"Why Can't I?" by Liz Phair
ROCK (I mostly chose soft rock or pop-rock.)-
"Wish You Were Here" by Incubus
"Almost Perfect" by Ingram Hill
"Be My Escape" by Relient K
"Beautiful Love" by the Afters
80'S-
"Tainted Love" by Soft Cell
"Too Shy" by Kajagoogoo
"Thriller" by Michael Jackson (Hey, it's a hit at dances)
COUNTRY-
"These Days" by Rascal Flatts
"This Kiss" by Faith Hill
"Wrapped Up In You" by Garth Brooks
"Amazed" by Lonestar
OLDIES (Well, some aren't very old)-
"Can't Buy Me Love" by The Beatles
"Can't Help Falling in Love" by Elvis Presley
"Wonderful Tonight" by Eric Clapton
"Bohemian Rhapsody" by Queen
"Baby Love" by the Supremes
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
1) so there's this guy and he's 17 yrs.old and i'm 14..i'll be turning 15 in october! would that be considered rape if we went out?[boyfriend girlfriend]
2) he's been sending me mixed messages online because we've been talking. i'm pretty sure he likes me though.[he got kept back 3 times so he's a sophmore] and i'm a freshmen] so if he sees me @ school we'll hug but he won't talk to me. i don't mind though because i think both of us are trying to keep our feelings on the "down low" so what should i do? he asked me for a kiss and i said yes,,, but i'm scared because this will be my 1st kiss and i'm pretty sure he's expecting it on the lips. so should i do it? and we'll be seeing eachother tonight @ the skating rink. i was thinking of dodging him.. but should i ??
i know this was very confusing to understand.. but please answer. thanx in advance.
Number one, rape is considered forced sexual intercourse. So no, going out with a 17 year-old isn't considered rape, but if he turns 18 (The age of consent varies from state to state, but it's 18 in most places.) and you two have sex, it would be considered statutory rape (Whether he forces you or you do it willingly) and he could get in A LOT of trouble for it. So, in a nutshell, as long as your parents are okay with your relationship and there's no sex, you should be fine. You shouldn't be having sex at your age, anyway.
As for the kiss, do what you want. You don't have to kiss him just because he asked you to. You don't have to avoid him, either. You may like him, but that doesn't mean that you have to do things you're uncomfortable with to please him. But, if you want to kiss him, go right ahead.
Personally, I think that you should get to know him better in person before you do anything. Why? Well, sure, online messages may be a way to get to know someone, but nothing beats in-person conversations. Plus, body language and tone of voice are forms of communication that you're missing out on by not talking to him in person very much.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
My best friend got DUMPED by her boyfriend, for NO absolute reason, except for another girl of course. And her boyfriend cheated on her several times with another girl, and she knew it. I guess because it was her first boyfriend, it's hard to let go, so she let him. She didn't even confront him about it! I wanted to, but she didn't let me.
I knew from the start he was disloyal. Now this guy is asking her out again and I know why. It's because he wants to make another girl jealous. I tell her, and she says that I was making things up just because I wanted to go out with HIM.
Okay. I thought that was ridiculous. I HATE guys that play around with girls like their toys, and this guy is one of them. I don't know where she got that idea, but now we're not talking.
What am I supposed to do????
Your friend is in denial, plain and simple. She probably thinks that her relationship will be saved if she just ignores every problem that happens to come up, which is false.
Leave her a little time to think; No longer than a few days. You can try to call her or send her a message (over e-mail or Myspace, if you have one) that explains your situation again. Let her know that you don't have feelings for her, and that you would never do anything like that to her. Tell her that you were looking out for her, and that this guy doesn't deserve her. Tell her that she deserves someone who will make her first, and stay faithful. Let her know that you'll always be there for her.
There isn't much else you can do because she's going to believe what she wants to. If she doesn't believe you, you can't do anything else but move on.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
one of my friends, sarah, used to be big into drugs and that, but when she met me, she stopped.she promised me that she wouldnt do drugs again, because she knows how against it i am, and because she didnt want to do them anymore. about six months later, she told me she had smoked a cigarette. i was really mad, but i was glad she told me. she once again promised me she was done with all that. about a month later, she told me she had smoked weed and smokes cigartees twice again. that time i didnt talk to her for like a day, then she, ONCE again, promised me she wouldnt. that was about a week ago, then yesterday, she told me she got "baked" over the weekend and smoked a bucn of cigarettes. she told me that she didnt want to do it again, ect., all the bullshit she told me before. i got reallyyyyyyyy mad at her, and told me not to talk to me until she gets help, comletely stops, and tells her mom about the weekend, because her mom doesnt know. is this being too hard on her? i hate the fact that she does this stuff, and she knows how against it i am, and she always says that she doesnt want to do it, that its an "accedent". i dont fully believe her on it all, but i just want her to stop. i know its not my responsibility to make her stop, but she wont do it on her own. so i just need some imput on if im being too hard on her or not.
thanks for reading my increadibly long question!
In a way, yes, and in a way, no.
Your decision to not talk to her until she stops is understandable, but it's not exactly right. You need to support her, not shut her out.
I think that you should talk to her, first and foremost. Sit her down when you two are alone (preferably when you're not at school, or when she's in a bad mood). Let her know that you care about her and that you don't want her to go downhill because of drugs and cigarettes. Tell her that you'll always be there for her if she needs you, and stay true to your word.
Lastly, tell her that it hurts you that she can't be honest with you. She keeps promising that she'll stop, when she just keeps on with the habit.
I know you've probably said that to her plenty of times before, but you should say it again.
If she's going to get help, she needs her parents. You can go with her to talk to them, if she wants you to do that. Just be mature, sincere, and polite.
If she doesn't want to talk to her parents, you need to do that yourself. You can't let her do this alone.
Anybody would be lucky to have a friend like you, and I mean that. Not everyone would do this for their friend.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
how can you tell when youre in love with someone or just in love with love?
Being in love with love is, really, liking the way it feels. You know, the typical cliche: the butterflies in your stomach, etc.
Being in love with someone is much, much more. The person, not the feeling, is what's more important. You feel as if you have a deep connection with that person, that goes further than just physical attraction. You honestly care for the person, and would do anything for them. Some people say that they would lay down their lives for their loved one. Loving someone means accepting them for who they are, the good as well as the bad.
Of course, you can be in love with someone and like the way it feels. You can be in love with a person and get butterflies in your stomach and everything. But my point is that love is more than a feeling; It's a connection.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
14/f 8th grade. Here latley I've been really depressed because almost everyone in my grade has been out with someone and has had a bf or gf. I haven't. And I've been noticing that whenever I watch a movie or something and a couple has a sweet little kiss or something, it just kinda bums me out because i always dream of having a cute, hot, sweet, nice boyfriend and here latley i've been dreaming of that first kiss. and it makes me really depressed. i mean, what if i never meet that one special person to be in high school with, and what if i never find someone that i will marry and have a family with. this all just makes me really depressed. i mean, obviously no one likes me because no one has ever asked me out or anything, well, at least no one i like. haha. anyways, what can i do to get over this? i know that i'm not even in high school yet, but what if i don't ever find anyone?! this is making me soo sad. help!!!!!! thank ya much!!!
Let me say one thing up front: Don't settle. What I mean by that is that you shouldn't get a boyfriend for the sake of having one, when you really don't have feelings for them. Do you know how many relationships are like that at your age? A lot, and yes, I'm speaking from experience and observation.
Your first relationship and your first kiss should be shared with someone you really care for; You'll treasure it and won't regret it later.
If your high school is anything like mine, it's MUCH bigger than the middle school. You meet a lot more people in the transition from middle to high school, and yes, that includes guys. So, chances are, you won't be boy-less forever. Don't even worry about that. Worry isn't going to help your situation.
Does this make you feel any better? Probably not, but it's reality, and no one else can tell you any different. The best things in life are worth waiting for. You see people around you in (most likely) meaningless relationships that don't last for a very long time. You may see couples kiss or say, "I love you!" to each other all the time, and as sweet as that seems, that alone doesn't make a good relationship.
Be yourself, and don't let a guy determine your self-worth.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
heyy! i was reading through your column (i found it from the favorites list on "younggrandma" and i just want you to know how nice i think you are. you are never mean, you dont yell at the people your giving advice to, and you never give throw-away, one-word answers. actually, you usually give paragraphs and i think you truley help a lot of people. you dont speak out of ignorance, you seem like your talking from experience and you really want the people to do whats best! i know this isnt really asking for advice but i just wanted to let you know that you are appreciated and thank you!
Wow, I'm really flattered! Thank you so much for your feedback. It's nice to feel appreciated once in a while, and I really want to thank you.
I'm here for anything if you need help!
-Manders