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OH YES? or NO?
1) so there's this guy and he's 17 yrs.old and i'm 14..i'll be turning 15 in october! would that be considered rape if we went out?[boyfriend girlfriend]
2) he's been sending me mixed messages online because we've been talking. i'm pretty sure he likes me though.[he got kept back 3 times so he's a sophmore] and i'm a freshmen] so if he sees me @ school we'll hug but he won't talk to me. i don't mind though because i think both of us are trying to keep our feelings on the "down low" so what should i do? he asked me for a kiss and i said yes,,, but i'm scared because this will be my 1st kiss and i'm pretty sure he's expecting it on the lips. so should i do it? and we'll be seeing eachother tonight @ the skating rink. i was thinking of dodging him.. but should i ??
i know this was very confusing to understand.. but please answer. thanx in advance.
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1] Rape is when someone forces you to have sex with them. Being in a relationship with someone is completely different from being forced to have sex. So...no. Age difference, whatever, not a big deal.
2] Don't rely on the internet as a reliable way to communicate, you can't see the person's facial expressions or body language or hear their tone of voice, therefore you can't tell what their attitude is about whatever you're talking about. As far as giving mixed messages, older guys who like younger girls tend to be kind of ashamed of the fact that the girl is so much younger. Trust me, I know.
All in all, do whatever you feel most comfortable with, what you feel is right, what you want to do. Good luck.
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hes 17 and your 14. I say dont do it. He should be a senior right now. There's a big difference there that you may not see. Its better to find someone your own age or at least closer to it. He's been kept back three times, jeez. Not to be mean, but he doesnt sound too smart, but he is smart enough to know that he should be trying to get with a child when he is almost an adult. If you were to date it wouldn't be long before you'd have to break up since he would be turning 18. Sorry, but it's the law.
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no, because he isn't an adult yet (18) plus you'd have to have sex for it to be rape. -kaylalynn
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1) It wouldn't be considered rape if you guys only went out. It would, however, be considered statutory rape (having sex with a minor) if you guys had intercourse.
2) Keep in mind that although he is still a sophmore, he's 17 years old. He's more mature than you are, and until you know a lot about him and his family, etc., I think you should probably remain friends. If you feel like you trust him enough to know that he won't take advantage of you, then you should be together if it's something you both want.
Why would you dodge him? Because you don't want to kiss him? If so, then don't. Tell him you don't want to until you know him better, and if he doesn't understand that, then he's not right for you.
Hope I helped. =P
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Hey,
1.] No it wouldn't be considered rape unless you have sex.
2.] I think he likes you but he's afraid of what his friends might think. At the skating rink, just be yourself and stay with HIM for a little while-get to know him a little better. I don't know if you should kiss him yet, though, unless you know him pretty good. Don't dodge him if you like him!
[For Kissing Tips, If You Decide To Kiss Him Obviously]
Good luck
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Number one, rape is considered forced sexual intercourse. So no, going out with a 17 year-old isn't considered rape, but if he turns 18 (The age of consent varies from state to state, but it's 18 in most places.) and you two have sex, it would be considered statutory rape (Whether he forces you or you do it willingly) and he could get in A LOT of trouble for it. So, in a nutshell, as long as your parents are okay with your relationship and there's no sex, you should be fine. You shouldn't be having sex at your age, anyway.
As for the kiss, do what you want. You don't have to kiss him just because he asked you to. You don't have to avoid him, either. You may like him, but that doesn't mean that you have to do things you're uncomfortable with to please him. But, if you want to kiss him, go right ahead.
Personally, I think that you should get to know him better in person before you do anything. Why? Well, sure, online messages may be a way to get to know someone, but nothing beats in-person conversations. Plus, body language and tone of voice are forms of communication that you're missing out on by not talking to him in person very much.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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you shouldn't dodge him cause that would be really mean, so dont. if you absoulutley dont want to go and you dont want to tell him the truth then call him and tell him you dont feel good but if i were you i would go meet him and when you get there tell him that you're not sure about the whole kissing thing. i hope i helped.
oh yeah and i dont think it would be considered rape unless he makes u have sex with him
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