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Cheers! I enjoy giving advice and I think I'm good at it. Is it pretentious to say I refuse to answer questions about "Love" from people who are under age 16? I don't think love is real when you're 14, and I don't think you can fall in love in a month. I won't dignify that kind of stupidity with an answer. I also won't answer questions with terrible grammar. I just make fun of them on myspace! I know that's not nice, but it's just SO easy. And it's so unfair for me to give them a good, honest answer when they haven't asked a good, proper question. Ask me a real question and I will give you a real answer!

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I started dating this guy when I was fifteen who was eighteen. He and I were together for a year and two months....partially because I ran away with him for five of them. Well, this last December I had his child and my mom and I won't let him have any part of it. But since he was eighteen, I just want to make sure that in two years when I'm eighteen he can't try to fight for custody. Would he have any rights over my son?

Depending on where you are, you could probably have him arrested on statutory rape and possibly kidnapping. If he's an adult and you are not, and you both disappear, he's legally accountable for your whereabouts.

Now, what happened between the two of you? Is he abusive? Is there a particular reason why you don't want him to see his child? You may be able to retain custody, but he will have visitation rights. However, if he wants visits, demand child support.

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A girl in my group of friends who i HATE is moving ..all my friends are like crying but i cant wait till she moves -is this wrong of me? Im kind of confused and its hard to keep it from my friend but i know if i told them i was happy theyd think i was a bitch ..what do i do??

The best thing would be to not say anything at all. It may not be 100% honest, but it's better than saying you hate her, and it's more honest than acting like you care. Whether it's a right or karmic thing to do or feel is entirely up to you.

Cheers!

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ok i have this friend and well he rlly wants to loose his virginity cause he feels weird at his age...(peer presure) and so he asked me if i would do it with him...im scared of wht ppl wouldthink (ive alraeady lost mine)...but i dnt wanna sound like a slut or anything
pleasee help me!! thnks!!

First, your friend should not be asking you anything like this if he has any respect for you as a person. You are not in ANY way, Shape, or form obligated to sleep with him.

Second, if your friend is really mature enough to lose his virginity, then he should be mature enough to withstand peer pressure. And unless he's like 40+ and not in the priesthood, then I don't really think a young man's virginity is an issue.

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i`m a freshman in high school. ever since i was about 4 or 5, i've had an excessive bladder problem i guess you could say. when somebody makes me laugh, i start to piss myself. it's been happening lately at school and volleyball practice, and i have nothing to cover it up with! is there any type of medicine i could take, or anything that could help prevent this or something.. ? please help

if you're going to laugh or make fun of me, you'll be rated a one, and i'm gonna report you. =)

I think the best person to ask in this regard would be your doctor. She will know best.

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Ok here it goes.. sometime when i get depressed from school (either from friends or sumting else) my way to get over it is to eat. Sometimes when im not depressed i eat anywayz. When my mom goes on walks, i eat more and she doesnt know. I want ot lose wait but i know if i start eating right it would help alot! do you know how to make me stop eating all this junk!?!?!
please help me!

Everytime you get the urge to eat, stop and ask yourself why you're doing it. Are you eating because you're hungry? If not, then stop. You don't have to give in to anyone's whims, not even your own.

Cheers!

Edit: If your craving becomes to strong, avoid the kitchen. Stay away from the fridge and do something else--go for a walk, call a friend, take a shower.

Cheers!

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What do you guys think about having an "Ask Alice" column in a school newspaper.
like where an annonymous person (possibly me) answers annonymous questions asked my students in the school. some could be put online, and some just sent back to the students. do you think that it is a good idea, i read about it in a book, it was called "Teen Idol" by Meg Cabbot, anyone ever read it? then you may know what i am talking about, only in the book it was called "Ask Annie"

the person (maybe me) would remain annonymous so that the people asking the questions would not know who you were or if you were apart of one group or clique and them another, that way the person asking the question isnt scare or whatever!!

So, do you think that this is a good idea?

Thanks!!

Sounds like a great idea, but I think you should have input from others; it adds perspective and would help give you a better idea where someone else is coming from.

Cheers!

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ok well me and my boyfriend who loved eachother broke up and ive kinda moved on.im still single and he has another girlfriend.yeah it hurts considering shes a bff and she went behind my back.well i like this one guy named bradley and another named jeremy.bradley kinda is a player but hes not sweet to anyone else like he is to me.jeremy has a girlfriend but hes planning to break up with her i think and today at school i relized i liked him.he came up behind me in the hall to hug me.the problem is that i dont think i like bradley,i like jeremy more.i dont know what to do and also my boyfriend was huggin all up on me today because my friend wasnt here.what should i do?

X3 signed X3
Heart Challenged

Ignore your ex-boyfriend. He's not yours, off limits. Even if your friend went behind your back, don't do it back to her. That will only cause further problems.

As for Brad and Jeremy, you have to decide who you really want. Weight the pros and cons. If Bradley is a player, be wary of getting burned; Jeremy sounds nice, but question his motives: why is he breaking up with his girlfriend? Is it for you? Sounds nice on top, but just remember that if he doesn't have a problem doing it to his girl now, is he going to have a problem doing it to you later?

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20/f/CA.
My good friend Rose just started dating my ex-boyfriend Justin. We had been broken up for quite a while, but I am still confused about how I fell about Justin, although I think I am mostly over him. I am also seeing other people. But why is it when I see them together when I go out, that I get jealous, or more upset?

If it were another woman dating Him, would your reaction be the same?

If NOT, then maybe you're jealous because you see Rosie and Justin being happy together, whereas your relationship with Justin fell apart. This is not your fault, but it's just one of those things that happens.

IF so, then you have more feelings for him than you're willing to admit. And if that is the case, then maybe you should talk to your friend Rosie about all these unresolved issues.

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(16/f)
It feels like everything I do doesn't make a difference. I always feel like screaming and running away. I feel like running away from my problems all the time, but I know I will never get anything solved if I do get away. What should I do when I get down like that? Also, when I feel like running away...I feel like killing myself, too. What should I do?

First, you should probably seek help. Talk to someone--a doctor, counselor, a trusted teacher. It doesn't have to be your parents if you're not ready to talk to them, but whatever you do, don't kill yourself. You may not live to regret it. Whenever you feel this way, try to distract your mind from these thoughts. IT may seem like your only running away from these problems, but until you talk to an adult or someone you trust, then it's best to occupy your mind and keep your hands from being idle.

Take care.

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see i dont know what to do i like this guy alot but he wants me to tell him why i like him what should i do?

Tell him why you like him. Is he nice? Is he smart? Cute, funny? What makes you attracted to him?

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When my boyfriend and I are sitting down and he puts his arm around me and pulls me into him am I sopposed to put my arm around to or just lay on his chest? What should I do?

Lay on his chest! It's feminine? Do what's comfortable!

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Okie dokie, recently I started working....on the job, I've discovered that I am crushing on my manager and all my co-workers can tell that I like him..... he's a dancer and all this stuff so a lot of people think he is gay, but I don't think he is.... when we are around he eachother, we make the best of eachothers time... and on the first day of work I got real sick and he was very concerned. Then the next day, he asked me if I was feeling better, so he is really caring. But he laughs at everything I say and it seems like he flirts with me back...so I dunno if he likes me or not..... and we have SOOOO MUCH IN COMMON! But I think that he won't date me (or I think I wouldn't have a chance) because of the fratnerization issue (dating anyone higher personal than you which will cause you to get fired or moved to another department.). So what should I do? Like me and him could keep a down-low relationship or somthing, but is he even interested?

Whether he's interested or not, you should probably avoid the issue entirely. If there's a no-fraternization rule at your office place, both of you could be in serious trouble if your relationship went anywhere.

Also, think about the future: what happens if you break up? How awkward would it be to work with him? And if anyone else found out, you can be sure that anytime you advance, they won't think it's because you're good at crunching numbers.

Cheers.

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I'm a really good singer. All of my friends have said so, and are threatening to take me too American Idol when I'm 16. And I love to sing. But when I go to do it in front of some people I get really nervous and choke up. Any suggestions on how to get rid of my nervous-ness??

Sing in front of the mirror! Or sing with your eyes closed. Whatever you do, make sure you're comfortable. It's a state of mind.

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15 f, i have a big group of friends..but they are all guys. we always go to parties together and a lot of them always try to hook up with me i recently broke up with my long term boyfriend and JASON CODY and TERRY asked me out. im worried that if i go out with any of the guys in my group the rest will get cut at me and ditch me.. i really like CODY.. not only is he the youngest in the group (16) but hes the shortest and im the tallest girl in school(5'11)... They are all fighting about it.. i dont know what to do i really like CODY but we look stupid together, it will cause a lot of trouble and i could end up with no friends.. what should i do?

Ooo... tricky. The easiest, simplest, and maybe even smartest thing to do would be to not date any of them. However, if you feel that this is not an option, then go ahead and follow your feelings. If you have good chemistry with Cody, then who cares about the height difference? There's a great big fat chance that he'll hit a growth spurt.

Secondly, if they are really your friends, then you should be able to calmly talk to them about why you like Cody more than Jason and Terry. Don't forget to remind them that you still love them, but you have different feelings for Cody. If they love you, then they'll understand.

Also, remember that it could end sourly with Cody as well, and that could open yet another can of worms.

Cheers!

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ok I finally met this kid who ive been talking to on the internet.. and im so confused with the way I feel about him. Its like I couldnt decide whether I liked him or not. Im basically preppy girl, and hes a punk rock (dude) kind of guy. Hes so different than the guys I hang around, and I cant decide if its good or bad. I know him and my guy friends wouldnt get along, and I dont know what to do or how to feel. I'm so confused. Any help?.. I rate :-)

You have to decide whether your attraction to him is stronger than your desire to stay in your comfort zone. Something new to the mix is always interesting, and if you do decide to date, there's no rule that says your friends automatically have to become his friends. As long as he's good to you and isn't a negative influence on you, then there doesn't have to be a problem.

If your friends really don't like him for any other reason than the fact that he's a punk rocker, then you need to talk to your friends. Remind them that if they really cared, they would keep an open mind about the guy and not judge a book by it's cover.

Cheers!

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I am so lonely. I can't get a boyfriend. I have been so broken lately. I don't know what to do to make a guy want to be with me. I have guy friends and i mean i am a unique person but i can't get a guy. i am not skinny but i am not too heavy. i am 15 and i probably weigh about 190 lbs. what do i do to make myself more attractive for guys to look at? are there any certain measures i should take such as loosing weight or changing my personality? please help...luv forever--->kelsey lou

Whatever you do, don't change your personality for someone else. That part of you is more unique than your fingerprints because it's something that develops with you as time goes by.

If you decide to change your physical appearance, make sure it's for you, not for someone else (or to just get someone else). Fifteen is a dangerous age to be, as you're on the edge of adulthood and adolescence, so it's important for you to learn your self worth now, not later. Don't worry so much about pleasing others with how you look or how much you weigh. If you want to become thinner, than do so for yourself.

And while fifteen is the year you really start learning what adulthood is about, you're still youthful. You have plenty of time to find a boyfriend, but remember: confidence is the best accessory a girl can have!

Cheers.

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are u a guy?

No. Are you?

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We were friends from ninth grade till Eleventh grade. That's when I moved. I came back to visit sometimes. She moved in with her boyfriend. He didn't want me over there. He new about my shady past(messing with guys)She treated me diffferent. I started hanging out with my boyfriend more. She said I was ignoring her and that she felt used. She got pregnant (all of this our junior year in high school). She didn't tell me. She said nothing. So I stopped visiting for a while. She had her baby I came back once a year to see her. We drifted . two years go by and I call her up she's pregnant again and married that guy . I spoke to her several times in that period she never told me until then. Ispoke with her on Tuesday. So I decide to visit her on Saturday. She has moved to Virginia! From Louisiana. She never mentioned she was moving Tuesday. Was she ever really my best friend? I thought we were gonna be friends forever.

Maybe there was the potential, or maybe you even were best friends, but time does change people. It's hard, and I'm sorry, but these things happen. You can still be friends, I'm guessing, but both of you have grown up and on from each other.

Cheers.

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Well theres this guy ive been talking to for like 6 or 7 months now i met him through my friend. Well hes pretty cool and all. But hes always telling my friends that he likes me and all this stuff but we've never met in person all we do is talk on the phone and hes going to ask me out pretty soon and i dont know if i really should because it would cause problems with this girl and i havent even met him and probably never will since im always so busy i mean we've both been at the same parties but never noticed it or anything. So my question is when he askes me out how should i tell him no with a good reason without hurting his feelings?!? Thanks a bunch xoxo (sorry its long ill rate a 5 if you give a reasonable answer)

Tell him you're not ready for that kind of step right now--at least, that's what it sounds like from your post.

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I have this problem with frozen pizzas: I can't cook them. Any pointers?

Follow the directions on the back? Order in? Uh... eat pasta.

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