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Was she ever my friend?
We were friends from ninth grade till Eleventh grade. That's when I moved. I came back to visit sometimes. She moved in with her boyfriend. He didn't want me over there. He new about my shady past(messing with guys)She treated me diffferent. I started hanging out with my boyfriend more. She said I was ignoring her and that she felt used. She got pregnant (all of this our junior year in high school). She didn't tell me. She said nothing. So I stopped visiting for a while. She had her baby I came back once a year to see her. We drifted . two years go by and I call her up she's pregnant again and married that guy . I spoke to her several times in that period she never told me until then. Ispoke with her on Tuesday. So I decide to visit her on Saturday. She has moved to Virginia! From Louisiana. She never mentioned she was moving Tuesday. Was she ever really my best friend? I thought we were gonna be friends forever.
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Maybe there was the potential, or maybe you even were best friends, but time does change people. It's hard, and I'm sorry, but these things happen. You can still be friends, I'm guessing, but both of you have grown up and on from each other.
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Life goes on.....I'm sure she doesn't know all that has happened with you either.Unfortunatley all our lifelong friends made at school do not survive the real world.That is hard to explain to people who haven't been there. We tend to believe things will stay the same forever.But they don't. Your friend is now a wife and mother.Her life is totally different from yours, she has problems and struggles that you don't have yet.That kind of responsibility changes people.She can probably no longer relate to you and your life as a single girl.That doesn't mean that you still can't be friends.Your friendship will just have to move to another,more mature level.She should have told you she was moving but maybe she wasn't expecting you? Maybe it was a last minute thing? I don't know.Move on.
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Oh man, you remind me of myself, I was best friends with a girl from second grade, I lost her in 7th grade, I lost her to way overaged teenage guys. It sucked, and took me forever to get overv it, I'm still not over it, but what I think you should do is ask, "what happened to us?" And talk to her, and ask her why she never told you any of these things, they weren't small things, this was big, as in moving out of the state, and having a child. And, you guys could decide to just not talk anymore, since she basically now has a busy life with 2 kids. Or, if you're both willing to pick up the pieces of the shattered relationship and put it back together, then I say go with that. But, to be honest, with her and you in different states, its probably most likely not going to work. But, you can try, I'm sorry about losing her basically, I know how you feel, trust me.
-TheTeenGirl
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I'm not sure how anyone would know if she was ever your best friend. What I can gather is that you two were close, then drifted apart. Now your trying to salvage a friendship that she seems to no longer want to be apart of. She's moved without telling you, so I wouldn't try to get in touch with her anymore. And I doubt you can ever tell whether or not something will last forever at such a young age.
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