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How can I get him?
Ok, so I'm 18, f and I live in the boarding school in India. There's a guy in my class who I've knon for about a year now, he was my cousin's friend before I joined this school and now he's my class mate. I joined school in August 2004 and Ihad been mailing and chatting with him since May 2004. On the net he was the sweetest guy ever, and he was there for me when I needed him and he made me laugh and he was an amazing guy, and I fell in love with him, with who he was online. But then when I finally got to school hewould ignore me and just say hi/bye whereas just a month ago we were practically best friends. Nevertheless, my heart refused to forget the guy he was online and I fell even deeper in love with him. And so, I did somethings which ended up in me making a fool of myself and getting very hurt and him finding out. School broke upin December and when I logged back online, there he was, the guy I originally fell in love with. ANd it was just as if nothing had happened in between and we sort of picked it up in between, but this time, before going bacl to school I told him that I had stopped liking him and I had a bf, which was not true. But because of this lie, our relationship at school has become considerably better and we talk occaisonally now. The thing is, he likes this other girl who doesn't like him back and it kills me to see them together (they're friends) and I hate it, I just want to know if there's anything I can do to get him, I'm crazy about him!!!!
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I know just how you feel. Its hard to know the person online is different then the real life thing. Its even harder to see them liking someone who will end up breaking their heart in the long run. I would tell him, in person even though it will be extremly hard, tell him that you don't have a boy friend and never did. If he asks why you lied to him, which he probally will, just tell him you were confused at why he was acting different.Tell him that you honestly just wanted him to be the guy he is online. You don't have to tell him you love him or even like him for that matter. Just let him know your not dating someone and that you miss him being who he is online. I wouldn't go right into the thing about the other girl though becuase that might make him pull farther away. Call him up sometimes to see if he wants to hang out just you and him but not as a date make sure he knows its not a date. He could just be scared about knowing you so well and he might not be sure how to talk to you becuase of this. Ask him why he's different but don't make it sound bitchy that way he wont feel threatened and he will hopefully tell you the truth without yelling it. I wish you alot of luck all the things I've said here have worked for me I hope they work for you.
-Malicious
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You need to be very careful playing games like that. People tend to say all kinds of things in emails... lots of things they would never say in person. If you wouldn't say it in person then do NOT put it in writing! It sounds like he likes the mysterious email/chat thing, but doesn't like you that much in person? and he just wants to be friends. Just keep being you, not who you think he wants you to be and if it's meant to be, it will happen. Patience is the name of the game and in the meantime don't close yourself off to anyone else.
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Lots of people just find it easier to write than to talk.Thats probably why he seems two different people.Why don't you try being friends with this other girl? You can't pick another persons friends but maybe you can give her a chance. She might be nice. Since you told him you had a boyfriend you can't blame him for trying to find a girlfriend.If you want to have a chance with him you'll have to come clean and tell him you are unattached.See where it goes from there.
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it sounds like this guy knows you like him, but doesnt want to ruin your friendship by saying that he doesnt like you back. but by acting the way he did to you in school it sounds as if he does not have the ability to have a proper relationship with anyine, let alone you. as for your love of him, i think you know what im going to say. as long as you talk to him online you are going to stay in love. who must break off all contact untill you meet someone new. you sound like a nice girl, you'll find someone whom is ready to accept and reciprecate(feel the same) your feelings
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