Hello Everyone. I am Kaci. I am 18. I may be young, but I can give some good advice. If you ever need anything at all, do not heistate to ask. I'll help the best I can.
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This is a better quality question that I gave more informatiom to you. I'm sorry for the length, but please help me. I NEED help.
So, hi! I had a treatment twice(i'm sorry, I don't know the name. Let's just call it treatment 1.) and they put a thing in my vagina. I think they called it a catheder, but it didn't look like one. It was a long, clear tube. Anyways, I had that treatment twice, now. And my parents told me I had to do it again. Well, I had a procedure(I don't know what this is called ;-( let's call it treatment 2.) where they put a pebble thing in(Or on) my vagina and they put me FULLY asleep. I'm afraid the treatment 2 will make the treatment 1 hurt more. The treatment 1 hurt a lot but it hurt worse the second time.
And I think when I didn't tighten my vagina(if you know what I mean) it didn't hurt as much. What do I do? I don't want to do this! My parents are forcing me to. They keep saying it's my last treatment but.. Uhhh! By the way, i'm not pregnant or it's not puberty. Please help as soon as you can!:( (link)
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Your question still isn't detailed enough.
Why are you having these treatments? If its not pregnancy, or puberty, than why?
How can anyone help you, if you aren't explaining yourself enough? Some of us can probably relate to your situation. If we know exactly what is going on, than we can give you updated advice, on the pain and whatnot.
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17/f me and my boyfriend have been dating for two years and I want to switch things up a bit try some new things make him happier. I'd really like some med advice but girls r welcome to anything helps. (link)
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Hm, I'm a female; and I know you wanted male advice, but I have a couple of ideas.
Have you ever asked him what his fantasys are?? Ask him what they are, and than do it.
I'm not too sure how much privacy you guys have; and if you don't have a lot; you can purchase a hotel room and set it up all romantic; and than go from there.
One time, I blind folded my fiance and made him put his hands behind his back; (or you can tie them up) and I basically teased him really bad with some kissing, light touching, ect.
Than I made up for all the teasing and I put ice in my mouth while I went down on him; also menthol cough drops are great too. It gives it a cold sensation and drives them crazy! It also makes them go crazy when you play with their balls while your going down; (some guys don't like it; but you should know how he'd react if you did it)
Also, more about going down on him; there are many different techniques you can use; if you go to youtube, or google, and type in "BJ techniques" there will be an asian lady, and she does tutorials; my boyfriend has a favorite one now!
Back to the hotel room thing; (i say this, so you can have amazing itimacy, without interruptions) dress up. Be a maid, a teacher, a school girl, a lawyer, a nurse-whatever you think makes you look sexy; its different and he'll have fun doing it;
for example:
I got a hotel room and I bought a school girl outfit, and I got him like a principle outfit; and in the room there was a desk; before I brought him there I pulled out the desk and put candles on it to make it look romantic; than I blind folded him before he went in, took him to the bathroom and told him to put on the outfit, when he came out, I was in mine, and I took control. He loved it.
Whip cream, is a good item to use. It gives you a reason to be sticky, than have to take a shower together ;)
You can look up different positions; AND/OR ask your man what his favorite position is. And do it; ask him to try new positions. Find one you wanna try and tell him you wanna try it;
that way it'll be new for both of you.
I'm not sure where you are from, but there is a store here called Spencer's and they have cute outfits, sex toys, and sex coupons.
You could get the coupons and give them to him one at a time, and he can use them whenever he wants; that'll make things interesting.
How about a lap dance? A strip tease?
Sorry for so much; I hope I helped.
I have plenty of more ideas; if you want them, just inbox me!
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please help my boyfriend broke up with me the other day because he doesnt like somethings that i do and when i tried to apologize all he said was "mhm" and even though he MADE PLANS to date another girl.. i forgave him and he cant forgive me... i feel bad about what i did and i still want him back how do i get him back?! please help he is the best thing that has ever happened to me and we even made "forever and always promises" which means we promised each other we would be together forever.. but i guess not
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Obviously, you don't like to hear the truth, but darling, you're only hurting yourself. I'm telling you what I told you because I have been in your position before.
I know you really want him back, but trust me, some things are better left undealt with. Okay?
I'm going to explain why I gave you the advice I gave you before, and maybe you can relate to it?? :)
I was 14 and I dated this guy for about 7 months. He was my first boyfriend, and just like you, I thought he was the "one". When he left me, he got with another girl 4 days later! I couldn't believe it! Here I was, crying my eyes out; trying to get him back; and there he was all over some other girl after he told me he wanted to marry me. I felt sooo stupid for believing him, ya know??
After the pain healed, I realized I didn't love him. I liked the thought of him. I liked having someone who cared for me differently than family & friends. I've had plenty of boyfriends after him; and none of them lasted past 8 months.
I've realized that every guy I date is a stepping stone to lead me to my knight in shining armor.
But now I'm 20 and I'm happily engaged to a man of 2 in a half years; and I know this is love. This man is the one I've dreamed of my entire life.
I know what you're thinking "OMG SHE'S 20-I DONT WANNA BE THAT OLD WHEN I FIND MY TRUE LOVE"--I was 17 when I met him; and we're still together and I'm 20.
Plus another tip; when you're ready to settle down, you'll know it girl. I promise. Guys don't begin to mature until after their 18-25. Girl's mature SO much faster than boys; and thats why we want to settle down, before they do. :)
-----------------------------------------------Hunnie, you're 13. You will have plenty of other guys that you will think are the 'one'. I don't know any 13 year old's that are/were/have been with their 13 year old boyfriend 'forever & always'.
You don't love him. It was puppy love, which is common for pre-teens.
If he already had plans to date another girl, than he didn't 'love' you to begin with. If he truely loved you babygirl, he would've believed you and listened to your apology instead of letting it go through one ear & out the other. Boys this age aren't ready to be tied down-they want to date around.
I know it hurts, and I know you are confused, but trust me. You have your whole life ahead, and their will be another guy out there that will sweep you off your feet, and give you a TRUE definition of love.
Hang in there.
It'll get better. I pinky promise!
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i loss my virginity with my boy friend now i am getting marry with someone else, how can i prove him that i am virgin? (link)
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You lost your virginity to your boyfriend, BUT now you are marrying someone else, and you want to LIE and say you are a VIRGIN???
You're not a virgin. You lost that with that boyfriend, remember?
If you can't even be honest about your virginity, than you don't deserve your husband in the first place. He deserves a lot better. Sure, you are lying about somethnig little, but some people take that seriously.
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I'm trying to get a head start on planning my nephew's 18th birthday party. I want this party to be extra special because his home life hasn't been good, but since he's turning 18, he can finally move in with me. I'm trying to come up with a theme that will represent his new found freedom. Any help would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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How about going ahead and getting his room together? You said he's moving in with you, so what a great way to show him that your just as happy about him living with you, than he is! It'll make him feel loved and welcomed. :)
I'm 19 years old, and my parents planned my fiance' birthday when he was 18; and let me tell you from experience.
Boys don't want to do anything with family. They wanna go out with the 'boys'.
He may be different.
How about taking him out to dinner? His favorite place to eat? How about getting him tickets to his favorite sports event?
How about paintball? Boys love that!
Lazar tag could be good, but is he interested in that kind of stuff? My fiance did that, and he said he got bored after a couple of rounds.
I mean its kind of tough to give you something helpful, when we aren't sure of his personality type. Does he like to party? Is he more the shy, stay at home type? Does he drink? (not severely, but occassionally)
For my 18th birthday, I went to the club, and back to a hotel with a couple of friends and just chilled and drank. I felt like an adult for a night.
How about taking him shopping? Get him a new look, to make himself feel more like a man??
As we get older, we aren't really into 'birthday' parties. We like hanging with friends. So let him do something with his friends, and than when he comes home, surprise him with a room, and a few gifts from you.
Does he have a cell phone? How about a computer? Does he need new shoes? A hat? A razor?
Just a bunch of little stuff; and of course freedom and not blowing up his phone every ten minutes asking where he is at, will definitely make it a great birthday.
I'm sorry about his home life; he's lucky to have an aunt/uncle who are willing to let him move in with you.
Best of luck!
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Recently I went to a party and saw a boy I used to go to school with years ago there. We didn't really talk at school but we know who each other were. Anyway we both got quite drunk and ended up kissing that night and we spent a lot of the night together just kissing it was really nice. He told me he had only just been dumped by his girlfriend a week ago and he wanted her to leave him alone. He got my number at the end of the night and has texted me a lot since. Anyway we caught up again last weekend and were both drinking, as soon as he saw me gave me a kiss. We hooked up again that night and he was so lovely to me. We ended up going back to my house and sleeping together. He stayed the night and he was so so nice to me the whole time and seemed really interested. He apologized the next day for drinking so much because he was nervous. He has also texted me every day since and he wants to go out drinking again this weekend. Do you think he likes me or is just in it for the sex? (link)
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Like you said, he was just recently dumped by an ex. It was a one night stand. Your a rebound. He's using you for sex, and someone to look forward to on the weekends so he isn't thinking about his ex.
I wouldn't give him anything else. If you like him, DON'T HAVE SEX WITH HIM ANYMORE. Figure out what he wants with you, and go from there.
If he doesn't want committment, why have sex with him? Your wasting your time.
Figure out his intentions, and see what he wants from you, ok?
You deserve better.
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Can baby oil help you tan. I think it can i just want to make sure.
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Yes it does, but if you want an amazing thing to help you tan, go to Walmart, or any store
and go to the hair stuff. You'll see a pink bottle of hair spray. I call it "black girl hairspray"
Black girls have a different texture of hair, so they don't use sticky hairspray like white people do; so its basically oil sheen. It's oily and it smells amazing; plus it keeps Bee's, Wasp's, and other bugs away from you.
It cheap for a big, tall bottle! Makes me brown like a biscuit each summer!
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Friend has gotten a cell with unlimited free texting and has asked me to send her a text message. Can I do this from my computer using Windows xp and FireFox and if so, what steps do I follow? (link)
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I use to do this all the time. The easiest thing to do that is FREE is download AIM. It's an instant messager.
You can make up a screen name, and when you download it, click the first tab, and it'll say NEW IM- and than it'll ask you to type in the person screen name. THere will be a blue link under it, saying "send as a text" click that, and enter the number along with the area code; and than send her a text.
easy as that.
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does getting braces out of your mouth hurt? (link)
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No it doesn't hurt at all. Your just going to feel a little pressure, and thats it. It's real exciting, and very painless!
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My boyfriend loves sex! I do to, don't get me wrong, but it's hard to enjoy it when it's so painful, and sadly my boyfriend loves the painful stuff. We did anal one time and I was practically screaming in pain and crying the moment it started. Not once, even when I was crying and trying to hold in the screams of pain did he stop or ask if I was alright. After that he promised he wouldn't put me through that again, but we've done it twice since then and it was the same everytime.
Then there's the "Blowjob"... I throw up every time. After he's finished I run to the bathroom to throw up what he's done to me, and he just watches me throw up from the bedroom like he's watching tv and my pain is nothing to him. I love him so so much but I don't want to have to be in pain to please him. (link)
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If you throw up after a blow job, why do you do it? If Anal hurts so bad you scream and cry, why do you do it? Obviously you like it because you aren't doing anything to stop it.
If I was you, I'd be straight up with him. Let him know that you aren't going to give him head anymore because of what it does to you. And he if he wants to have sex, than he can stick it in your vagina and not in your ass.
How old are you? How old is your boyfriend? How long have you guys been together?
A relationship takes two people. Even in the sexual department. You have to communicate with each other what you guys like, so its pleasurable for you BOTH!
If he gets mad that you do not want to do anal or blow jobs anymore, than that will show you that the user you gave a "4" below me, is right. He is only with you for sexual desires and needs. If he gets mad, but doesn't leave you- than tell him that you aren't gong to do anything else with him until he learns to respect your feelings.
Personally, your an idiot for continuing to do things that cause you pain and vomiting. I guess because if it was me, I DON'T GIVE A FLYING HOOT HOW MUCH I LOVE A GUY- I'M NOT GOING TO DO ANYTHING THAT HURTS OR HARMS ME.
But i guess it would be helpful to know ages and the length of how long you guys have been together.
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I have a boyfriend for a year now and i can things are going great in general. We are officemates but we seldom see each other in the office (since we have to go to different clients). Our jobs are demanding most of the time, we can be sent to different places or we get to work really late. This brought up the hard part of our relationship. Everything in my job sucks right now (politic in the office) and there were times i just cant stop crying. During those time i just want to see him and hug him to make me feel a little better, but i cant. He's busy too with his work. He never fails to say 'love, things will be fine. just be strong.' but that's not enough for me. I want to see him so bad. We missed special occasions in the past because of our work and in every single event i cant help but feel sad and disappointed. I am planning to leave my job soon since i am not happy anymore but he's planning to stay for another year. The thought that i had to bear getting little of his time and attention for another year is just pathetic :( (link)
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Honestly, your an idiot. Quitting your job, and you want him to quit his so you guys can be together? Your dumb. You haven't really put much thought into this have you? In order to survive in the economy, you have to have a job. You know how many people would LOVE to have a job right now? Your boyfriend is doing the right thing by staying there. You need money in order to be together, unless you are just okay with being homeless.
Don't make him quit his job. You need to find someone else who doesn't want to work and wants to be nothing in life.
Stop being so selfish, and get the hell over your emotionalness.
Good Grief.
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Would there be anything harder or bad, if I would get engaged at 18 but wait to actually get married till towards the end of college?
He is my age and love him to death and he is my world. We give each other space and can do our own thing but also spend a lot of amazing time together. We are going to the same college and he doesn't want me to feel tied down but he wants me to know he's my world and there for me no matter what. We are both simple chill people but I have just done all the stupid things under the sun like smoking drinking drugs and he has never even touched a thing. He doesn’t hate me for it or even get mad when I do anything, he just helps me see the bad and even got me to stop smoking. He spent all he had on a ring. My heart skipped a beat when he proposed and I was speechless, it was amazing and I told him I definitely would but I don't know when. He understands me completely and we've been together for almost 2 years people even say we are the perfect couple. He also has brain cancer and a bad heart, I love him enough that if i could take his cancer I probably even would. Many of our friends are having kids already without a thought of marriage, is it weird for us to want to get married yet wait even longer for kids? What is the safer thing to do for a perfect family when we are 25-30?
Just some other opinions though, would it be better to wait and get engaged when we are ready to marry or would getting engaged now be alright because I know I will marry him eventually. Any brutally honest advice or thoughts about this are greatly appreciated. (link)
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I posted a question similar to this one. I'm 19, and my boyfriend is 18. He asked me to marry him last Saturday. I know that I want to marry him, and everything, but from the negative things my parents said made me feel like I was too young.
To me, I don't see a problem with getting engaged at 18. Like me and my fiance' said, just because we are engaged doesn't mean its' going to ruin our lives. It doesn't mean I have to drop out of college, or even give up my dreams just to be engaged.
We aren't going to get married until I'm done with college. I think getting engaged and waiting a couple/few years is the smart thing to do. It's easier to break off an engagment rather than get a divorce ya know?
You need to live with him first, because thats when you get to know someone the best. Me and my fiance have been living together for 6 months; and it hasn't been as 'perfect' as I thought, but it has brought us closer.
I hope my opinion didn't bore you; but I think its a good idea. If you feel as if your ready, than go for it. You don't have to rush into marriage; so it's not like you will be having an regrets or anything!
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A friend was rapped and she says she wants to kill the baby in the womb without abortion but with tablet. But she's 8 months pregnant (link)
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She shouldn't do it. She's eight months pregnant, therefore she only has a couple of weeks left. If she doesn't want the child, please talk her into adoption.
I'm against abortion by all means, but abortion isn't the way to go. I understand she is pregnant from rape, but she should have got the abortion alot sooner instead of eight months pregnant. She will be killing an innocent life. Tell her to carry out the next couple of weeks, and put the baby up for adoption. That why she won't have any major regrets later down the road, and if she still wants to see/contact the baby, she can have an open adoption. There are 34, 212 people in the world who cannot have kids. They are desperate to have a little on of their own. She would make a person very happy to give them her little one, instead of killing it.
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how to steal from hollister
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This is so easy!
You grab the item you want, and than you let the lady at the register know that your taking this, so she can turn off the alarm system...
See, when you ask a stupid question, you get a stupid answer.
You don't steal. If you can't afford it on your own, than you don't deserve it in the first place.
Hopefully if you do steal, you will get caught because people like you deserve to be put away for a long time.
You know how expensive that store is? The reason why prices go up is because PEOPLE LIKE YOU STEAL, it causes prices to go up because they won't have enough to cover inventory.
True story. I use to work at Aeropostale, and thats how it goes.
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I've been in a relationship for a year and a half, and the other day some girl(not knowing I was dating someone) messaged me on FaceBook. She goes to my school and thought I was cute, and asked if I liked to talk dirty. She seemed nervous about the fact that I was in a relationship, but for a few nights we sexted a few times.
Today, right before we finished out working out a place to meet, I told her I couldn't go through with it. I told her she's a great person, and she deserves better, and that she'll find someone who can see how great she is. I told her that neither of them deserved that treatment, and that I was really sorry.
I stopped it before it was too late, and instead of everyone hurting a lot, she was just a little disappointed but relieved.
My questions are these:
Did I go about solving this the right way in the end?
Should I come clean to my girlfriend, or leave it because nothing ended up happening?
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You made the wrong decision by actually texting this girl;
you made the right decision by ending it.
Don't listen to the user below me. You should always be honest with your girlfriend/boyfriend. Thats how a relationship works.
How would you feel if your girlfriend was saying "Oh, I wish I could stick your hard cock in my tight, wet vagina" TO ANOTHER GUY!
Would you want her to tell you? Would you want her to keep it from you?
How would you feel?
You should really be ashamed. Your girlfriend deserves a lot better than you. You may have been faithful phsyically, but not emotionally, or verbally. Words hurt, ALOT.
You need to come clean, or your relationship will just fade away. Any guy who could keep something like this from their girlfriend, doesn't even deserve to have a relationshp in the first place.
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Ok, so i'm recieving scary messages that might be one of my old friends that hate me. The end of the text messages say "-" then an initial.. What?!
What do i do? (link)
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You are full of crap.
You seem to be mocking the TV show
"Pretty Little Liars"
You can't recieve text messages that are blocked. It's impossible.
If the number shows up when you read the text, than how about you tell your parents? Go the police, or whatever.
But until then, good luck.
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Things are going very well with me and him. The reason he couldn't come and see me was because his grandma is dying and he wanted to spend more time with her. She seemed really sick when i went and visited her with him once, now, she is just getting worse. He gave me a promie ring for an early valentines day present...he told me that once he gets out that he PROMISES to change his enviorment, friends, habits, and people he talks to. He told me he would NEVER cheat on me or ever hurt me. I believe him....yes, he did use my friend. But she is stuipder than me, and puts out easier than me. He told me he never used her....he said that she asked if he wanted to have sex, and him being a boy, asked her out before they did..and said yes to having sex. He is straightening up very well, without me even having to say anything. My best friend (who dated his best guy friend) told me that she txted him if he REALLY DOES like me,And he replied to her "hell yea, I love her with everything I got..I plan on spending my life with her (link)
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There really isn't any point in anyone giving you advice. Your just going to do what you want, therefore we are wasting our time.
Your questions you're asking are really annoying. If you believe him than why in the hell are you still ask the same questions? Obviously you don't believe him and you have doubts.
I don't remember how old you are, but you aren't going to spend your life with this guy. He's too young to want to change. People like that normally don't change until after a certain thing happens, (and i'm not telling you what, because knowing you, you're just going to go and do that to keep him) but right now, they are too immature and peer pressured to change.
But you can do what you want, but if you ask me you are just as stupid as your friend; regardless if you put out or not. Once you open those legs, his ass will be gonee!
As of his grandma, I've heard that excuse plenty of times before. And the promise ring? You guys have been together, what? Two months? Hahaha! Relationships that start out fast, END FAST!
So if you want all your silly questins answered, than you answer them yourself, because your the one that is having doubts after we have already told you what we thought.
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So I have been bestfriends with this guy for like three years. We are literally as close as brother and sister and I couldn't imagine life without him. I could go on and on about our relationship, but long story short, he gets me through everything. Until recently...
See there has always been a physical attraction between us. Can't help it, it's just there haha. We had never kissed, but we would hold hands, cuddle, I'd sit in his lap or kiss his cheek, even when one of us was dating someone else. Well, about a month ago he broke up with a girl he had been dating for eight months. He just didn't like her as much, and it was getting too serious (he didn't like that she wanted him to say "I love you" and stuff). Then, a week ago, we were joking around and somehow we started joking about hooking up (which isn't uncommon for us, inside jokes and stuff). And then all of the sudden, he got serious. He was telling me to come over, and it was like 1am. It took me like twenty minutes to finally believe he meant it. And I was pretty uncomfortable with it so I told him I wouldn't be able to sneak out. So he said, okay, I'll come over there. And I was like I don't know. And he just says "Look, yes, or no? Now?" and I said yes. He came over, we made out, and I gave him a handy. It was actually the most fun I'd ever had hanging out with someone. We would kiss then talk for an hour, then kiss somemore, till it was like five in the morning. When he left he texted me and said "bout time that happened. please don't tell anyone about this. I mean it was only a one time thing right?" And thing this I don't know. I'm so confused about my feelings for him now. And the week after was so confuing. He was a huge dick to me all week and we got in a huge fight and he said hooking up with me "wasn't the best decision he's ever made". That literally hurt. So. Bad. I started sobbing. I was a mistake to him. And I feel so stupid and confused. Like he used me, right? I was a rebound, why was I so dumb, why did I think I could hook up with him and it wouldn't change our friendship. He says he values our friendship more than anything in the world, so why did he do this to it?
Now its just weird. He asked one of my friends to this upcoming dance, who doesn't know anything that happened between us. She did feel weird and wanted to check with me before she said yes, make sure I knew she was just going with him as friends. And what could I say? So they're going together. He made it pretty clear he doesn't want to talk every day anymore. So we don't. He specifically told me "I know you don't wanna date me, but it honestly felt like we were at that stage. We would talk everyday and I don't want that." I just don't know what to do. He wants to pretend like it didn't happen but I don't think I can do that. I don't know what I want, and all I know is that this hurts me and I just want it all to be better. I don't like having to guess how I should act around him, I don't like feeling like a mistake, and I don't like feeling like shit.
PLEASE don't tell me all hope is lost. I don't think I could handle that. He's like my best friend. I can't lose him.
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You were a rebound. I think he was kind of upset at the fact that him and his girl broke up. He went to something that made him feel comfortable and gave him that sense of ease. That why he went to you.
Hooking up with your best friends isn't a great thing to do. It ends up with mixed emotions and sometimes an ending friendship.
Honestly, I think all hope is lost. I know you didn't want to hear it, but you have to stop lying to yourself. You need to realized the truth, and move on. If you really dind't want to lose him, than you should have thought about alllll that before you hooked up with him.
What you really need to do is sit down and talk to him. Let him know what you think about everything. Don't address him with how you feel, because guys don't work that way. They never go with how they feel, they go with what they think. They use their heads, while us as women, use our hearts.
Sit down, talk to him; and go from there.
It won't be easy, but you need to let him know that you love him as a brother, and that you agree that hooking up wasn't the best decision either. Let him know that you don't want it to come between you guys' friendship, and that your intentions aren't to be anything but just friends. You just want the uncomfortablness and everything to go away. Find out why he's been so distant.
Because to me, I honestly believe he is distant because he's scared that you think he wants to be with you, and he honestly doesn't know how to tell you that he doesn't. That it was just a one time thing.
But I'm always here if you need some more advice.
Let me know how it goes.
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Im an 18 year old female and a nympho. The other day I was really horny and my boyfriend was at work so I decided for some reason to look up lesbian porn and old men and young women porn to masturbate to. I'm not attracted to either,girls or older men. Later that night he asked to use my phone and let him,which was probably a mistake. He went to google and it showed the list of things I looked up such as lesbian porn and old men porn. I knew he saw it because it wasnt the last thing i looked up and when he saw it in the google window he clicked on it and left it on that site.The rest of the night it was awkward and then he started talking to me like nothing happened but I knew he saw it so I couldn't help but be quiet. Lastnight he texted me and asked why I was so quiet and I said because of what you saw..obviously. I don't know what to say or why I did it. I feel fucked up in the head for doing it and more the old men porn. Now he wants a few days for space to think. I'm fine with that but I feel like he just found out the biggest secret about me and I don't want him weirded out. Idk what to do or what to think. I love my boyfriend 100% and I don't want this ruin anything. I'm not a lesbian,never will be,I'm not attracted to older men..I just don't know why I looked up what I did..? Answers on all of this please (link)
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My boyfriend had a problem with porn. It torn me up inside. I believe that porn is for someone who isn't in a relationship. Especially when the sexual needs are being met.
To me, porn is absolutely disgusting.
Reasons of why I'm telling you this is because porn really messed up my boyfriend and my relationship. So we went to a relationship guider.
He told us that reasons why people look up porn is because they aren't recieving the proper sexual satisfaction from their partner. That people who come across porn as a problem in their relationship, never stop. If they do stop its because their desires and needs are being met.
Is it normal why you do this? Yes.
Is your boyfriends' reaction to what he found normal? Yes.
Guys aren't the type to talk about how they feel. They get upset, and move on. They drop it like it never happened, because thats how they are. They feel weird for expressing feelings. Girls feel. Guys think.
Maybe your boyfriend wants space because maybe it caught him off guard. If you really love your boyfriend, sit down and talk to him. Nothing will get resolved if you ignore the situation (like your boyfriend wants to);
ask him what he thought about it;
ask him if it bothers him.
If it does, than stop doing it. Have him made a video for you of you guys doing it, or even of him doing something you find sexually attractive; that way when you urges- you can watch him.
I can tell you right now. It's going to be hard to stop; you will always have temptation since you are a nympho. You just have to turn the internet off your phone; block porn sites from it; or whatever you have to do so you have no ACCESS to it.
But I'm sure everyhing will work out. Your not a weirdo, and your not 'fucked' up. Your normal. Some people just get turned on by different things.
Not a big deal!
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I really miss my ex and we've hanged out a bit but I really want him to want me back and show him what he's missing. His best friend sure thinks he's missing out on a lot for some reason. Should I send him a picture? How would he take it? (link)
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LMAO! WOW. That seems a little pathetic! Hah, sending you ex a picture isn't going to make him miss you, its going to make him realize that leaving you was the BEST decision of his life.
Sending nudes PERIOD, is wrong! Your ex will probably send those pictures ALL over school, along with on the internet. If he wanted you, he would have got back with you. No guy likes a clingy, desperate girl. And hunnie, you are border line desperate.
Get over him, like he did you. Move on, and learn how to have some self respect!
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