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thoughts on engagement at 18 yet marry in 3 or 4 years?
Would there be anything harder or bad, if I would get engaged at 18 but wait to actually get married till towards the end of college?
He is my age and love him to death and he is my world. We give each other space and can do our own thing but also spend a lot of amazing time together. We are going to the same college and he doesn't want me to feel tied down but he wants me to know he's my world and there for me no matter what. We are both simple chill people but I have just done all the stupid things under the sun like smoking drinking drugs and he has never even touched a thing. He doesn’t hate me for it or even get mad when I do anything, he just helps me see the bad and even got me to stop smoking. He spent all he had on a ring. My heart skipped a beat when he proposed and I was speechless, it was amazing and I told him I definitely would but I don't know when. He understands me completely and we've been together for almost 2 years people even say we are the perfect couple. He also has brain cancer and a bad heart, I love him enough that if i could take his cancer I probably even would. Many of our friends are having kids already without a thought of marriage, is it weird for us to want to get married yet wait even longer for kids? What is the safer thing to do for a perfect family when we are 25-30?
Just some other opinions though, would it be better to wait and get engaged when we are ready to marry or would getting engaged now be alright because I know I will marry him eventually. Any brutally honest advice or thoughts about this are greatly appreciated.
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I would of told you that you are setting yourself up to fail because generally when you start young, You end it young. However, You stated the guy has brain cancer and a bad heart and therefore I am going to say go through with it and live your lives to the fullest.
If your boyfriend wasn't sick, I would of told you that you were probably making a really stupid ass choice. Sometimes it doesn't matter how old you are, It's a matter of whether you are ready financially and mentally able to handle it. Considering the circumstances I'm going to say go for it! Enjoy life with him and congrats to the both of you.
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I posted a question similar to this one. I'm 19, and my boyfriend is 18. He asked me to marry him last Saturday. I know that I want to marry him, and everything, but from the negative things my parents said made me feel like I was too young.
To me, I don't see a problem with getting engaged at 18. Like me and my fiance' said, just because we are engaged doesn't mean its' going to ruin our lives. It doesn't mean I have to drop out of college, or even give up my dreams just to be engaged.
We aren't going to get married until I'm done with college. I think getting engaged and waiting a couple/few years is the smart thing to do. It's easier to break off an engagment rather than get a divorce ya know?
You need to live with him first, because thats when you get to know someone the best. Me and my fiance have been living together for 6 months; and it hasn't been as 'perfect' as I thought, but it has brought us closer.
I hope my opinion didn't bore you; but I think its a good idea. If you feel as if your ready, than go for it. You don't have to rush into marriage; so it's not like you will be having an regrets or anything!
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Its a simple answer to this if you want to get married soon then marry him and if you feel you may need a little more time then take that time. Don't get married if that certain time doesn't feel right. Make sure everything is exactly how you want it to be. You both seem to love each other and are understanding. Talk about it with each other and see when's a good time for the both of you.
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