Gender: Female
Age: 19
Member Since: February 23, 2012
Answers: 3
Last Update: February 23, 2012
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Would there be anything harder or bad, if I would get engaged at 18 but wait to actually get married till towards the end of college?
He is my age and love him to death and he is my world. We give each other space and can do our own thing but also spend a lot of amazing time together. We are going to the same college and he doesn't want me to feel tied down but he wants me to know he's my world and there for me no matter what. We are both simple chill people but I have just done all the stupid things under the sun like smoking drinking drugs and he has never even touched a thing. He doesn’t hate me for it or even get mad when I do anything, he just helps me see the bad and even got me to stop smoking. He spent all he had on a ring. My heart skipped a beat when he proposed and I was speechless, it was amazing and I told him I definitely would but I don't know when. He understands me completely and we've been together for almost 2 years people even say we are the perfect couple. He also has brain cancer and a bad heart, I love him enough that if i could take his cancer I probably even would. Many of our friends are having kids already without a thought of marriage, is it weird for us to want to get married yet wait even longer for kids? What is the safer thing to do for a perfect family when we are 25-30?
Just some other opinions though, would it be better to wait and get engaged when we are ready to marry or would getting engaged now be alright because I know I will marry him eventually. Any brutally honest advice or thoughts about this are greatly appreciated. (link)
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Its a simple answer to this if you want to get married soon then marry him and if you feel you may need a little more time then take that time. Don't get married if that certain time doesn't feel right. Make sure everything is exactly how you want it to be. You both seem to love each other and are understanding. Talk about it with each other and see when's a good time for the both of you.
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i am an aspiring artist. i love art and everything that comes with it, i am also an active member of Subeta.net a virtual pet site wher i see other artists work and try and get inspired recently i finished this work and asked for peoples opinion. they said it was 'sordid'. I feel let down because i really work hard in what i do and i thought it came out fairly well.
I just hate that im never good enough! it kills me cause theres so many other people who do so much better then i do and i can never reach their level of skill.
what am i supposed to do? shouls i just give up my dream on becoming a concept aartist?
16/f (link)
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If you like doing what you do then do not give up if you don't like it then drop it. Lifes to short to wonder if you are good enough or not just simply enjoy w.e you do and don't worry of any other peoples view on what you do. Focus on what you want and what you like doing
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I am an 18 year old male and I have been a pretty emotionally dead person for...well since my early childhood. And when I say dead I don't mean depressed or really down or anything of that nature. It's nearly impossible for me to feel anything genuine and I can only put a mask of fakeness on so I don't seem so far out. When I was in a psychology class I read about something called anti-social personality disorder and it almost disturbed me how similar the symptoms were to my own character. I've done enough to put myself away for the better half of my life and I haven't felt a shred of remorse or conscience. Anyways, I'm wondering if my lack of emotion is a cause of concern. Nothing brings me joy, pain, or sorrow and I can't even feel love for my own family anymore. NOTHING will make me feel anything and it bothers me. All I feel like is a body and a brain without a soul. Something is wrong with me but I don't know what. I'm a very intelligent person and all it seems I can do is succeed with material things like work while my relationships are built on false pretenses and emotions I never even felt but acted like I did. My question is: If there is anybody somewhat educated about this...what could be wrong with me? Do I have anti-social personality disorder?...and am I stuck with this? (link)
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Hey for everyone on ere it kinda looks like slowly you're well we are helping each other out I mean if we really didn't feel anything we wouldn't try to find an answer for this. I think we may just have a hard time venting or we have very serious trust issues that we learn not to say a word and just move on like it's nothing. So we basically get everything else that every happens isn't anything and we choose rather not to feel. Ive read some of the comments and it seems at one point many of you say you did feel and most stopped over a good while of dealing with something horrible. I think we all just need to face that horrible thing that happened but we choose not to so we remain the same
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