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Did I make the right decision?
I've been in a relationship for a year and a half, and the other day some girl(not knowing I was dating someone) messaged me on FaceBook. She goes to my school and thought I was cute, and asked if I liked to talk dirty. She seemed nervous about the fact that I was in a relationship, but for a few nights we sexted a few times.
Today, right before we finished out working out a place to meet, I told her I couldn't go through with it. I told her she's a great person, and she deserves better, and that she'll find someone who can see how great she is. I told her that neither of them deserved that treatment, and that I was really sorry.
I stopped it before it was too late, and instead of everyone hurting a lot, she was just a little disappointed but relieved.
My questions are these:
Did I go about solving this the right way in the end?
Should I come clean to my girlfriend, or leave it because nothing ended up happening?
Thanks
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Though you feel youve done nothing,I tend to disagree kiddo.You also know you shouldnt have had any kind of talk behind your girls back,but if your cool witholding that info than do,If your sure you will have no more contact with this other girl.But in my opinon HONESTY is the ONLY policy at all times no matter the cost.Because living with secrets like that or lies is like not living a REAL life at all.Its on you,I myself could not! Be open & honest,No matter what.Good Luck, Cheriscope
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I believe you did the right thing about ending things with that girl.
Now with the coming clean to your girlfriend or not, I think you should tell her. You know relationships are based off trust, if you don't tell her and she somehow finds out that you sexted with this one girl from somebody else she will most likely be even more mad than she would be if you just told her. I'm not going to lie she's going to be pissed and I'm not saying she's going to forgive you, I don't know her personally. But would you rather her find out from you or from somebody else?
And that is all I have to say about that (:
Good luck!
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You made the wrong decision by actually texting this girl;
you made the right decision by ending it.
Don't listen to the user below me. You should always be honest with your girlfriend/boyfriend. Thats how a relationship works.
How would you feel if your girlfriend was saying "Oh, I wish I could stick your hard cock in my tight, wet vagina" TO ANOTHER GUY!
Would you want her to tell you? Would you want her to keep it from you?
How would you feel?
You should really be ashamed. Your girlfriend deserves a lot better than you. You may have been faithful phsyically, but not emotionally, or verbally. Words hurt, ALOT.
You need to come clean, or your relationship will just fade away. Any guy who could keep something like this from their girlfriend, doesn't even deserve to have a relationshp in the first place.
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I think that what you did was right in the end.
As for telling your girlfriend, it depends on her temperament. Is she unreasonable? Or is she terribly understanding?
Personally, if I was the girlfriend, I'd prefer if you came clean instead of this situation rearing its ugly head in the far future. 'Cause hiding it makes it look like you're guilty. Although you have to make sure you explain fully, she really listens, and that you end the confession with both of you on the same page. Make sure she understands that it was never more than a few texts.
However, if she's the extremely jealous type, I think it would be better to stay quiet. If her jealousy is stronger than her will to understand the situation, things may just get ugly. Your conscience may suffer though. (Not for being terribly unfaithful, but from keeping the secret.)
I hope she understands.
(Edit: I read the above comment. I understand how it may seem like I'm encouraging you to lie about this but I think what's important is you realized your mistake and did something about it. Not many people can do that. We've all got hormones. We're not perfect. It would be terrible to let one mistake ruin a real relationship.)
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