Okay well me and my boyfriend have been through a lot including porn addiction Erectile Dysnfuction and him attempting to cheat among other things this has made me insecure. My boyfriend cut off internet and tv for a while because he had a porn addiction that caused ED and he admitted that movie sex scenes or make out scenes aroused him and made him want to look at porn and repeat the cycle of ED ect.. anyway he is now recovered and our sex life is great but when we began to start watching tv again we were watching monk last time and this 55+ year old lady was doing yoga poses and he got aroused it hurt my feelings and he said he didnt know why it happened...another day we started watching the avatar a KIDS show and the girls are 12 yrs old fully clothed this girl got stuck in the mud and she was struggling and he got aroused again this was another day..is this normal?! it makes me so insecure because of everything thats happened it amazes me how this happened we had sex 3'xs in a row and he got turned on by a 55+ year old lady that was fully clothed?! i would've though he would've been sexually depleted..it hurts my feelings every time we watch something little kids show normal tv show and a girl comes out he literally gets hard even right after sex i dont know what to do i feel like we cant watch anything without him getting aroused! Is this normal?!
Men can't control arousals, it happens when it happens. However, your boyfriend's libido is unnatural. I suggest seeing a Doctor about this problem. From the sounds of it, it's more psychological than physical. Don't get hurt about this, think about how he's feeling - not being able to watch anything without getting an erection. Help him see an expert and get this problem fixed instead of worrying about how sexually satisfying you are. Wish both of you luck ~
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I am a 13 year old girl and i am outgoing and funny. me and this guy have a had an on and off :thing" all year and just started going out on valentines day. he put a flower in my locker then asked me out later that day and i said yes. the thing is though is that we dont talk. i mean a casual laugh or we talk in a group of people but not just one on one. he was my best guyu friend before we started going out and now he acts different around me. he talks to other girls like he used to talk to me. this is also both of our first real realationship. does he not like me anymore??? im confused!!! we used to talk all the time and when we started going out we dont. it has been 4 days now also. does he still like me?? how can i make it less awkward with us?? help!!!
It is very likely that he is as unsure of how to proceed as you are. Ask him out for lunch or a walk or something you can do together. Talk to him like you normally did before. You're going to have to break the awkward tension because he might be cautious about upsetting you if he does something 'wrong' as your boyfriend now. Being in a relationship doesn't change who the person is. It just brings your relationship to a more intimate level. So talk to him like you normally do. And before you part ways give him a kiss on the cheek and/or a hug. Little signs of affection here and there. Do this and eventually you should both grow comfortable in your new relationship and things would hopefully just come naturally. Good luck to you both ~ :)
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Hello, gigglesnort. I absolutly LOVE your column so i decided that I would ask you a question to see how your advice is. Ok so I currently have a wonderful Bf and we have been dating for almost 5 months. He isnt the kind the kissing kind of guy, he hugs me though. I have a Bgf (best guy friend) though and i leave for vacation on friday, he wants to give me a good bye hug. I want to give him one too but problem is, my Bf doesnt know tht Im friends with this guy and isnt too fond of him either. Would it be wrong to hug my Bgf? My Bf hugs some of his friends that r girls so i think it would be fair, what do u think?
Wow, thank you! I hope I don't disappoint. :D
Well, it would be best to talk to your boyfriend. Tell him the dude's your best guy friend and ask if he would feel uncomfortable if you two shared a hug. Keep your tone curious and don't sound like you're asking something wrong, because you're not. Remember this doesn't mean he has to give you permission, this means you just don't want to do it because you don't want to upset him.
If he says that he doesn't like it, don't bring up how he hugs some of his friends that are girls. This might make him mad. Just agree calmly and say something along the lines of, 'Okay. But he's one of my best friends so I hope you'd get to know him better and be more comfortable around him in the future.'
Insisting on it would just make him suspicious. However, agreeing with him now while still pointing out that you want him to accept the fact this dude is a close friend might get him to see that he really has nothing to worry about. :)
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It's 4am and I just felt food coming up my throat by I pushed it back down. I haven't eating anything yet. Also I have a sore throat and had shivers but those has mostly stopped. My eyes sting a little bit when I blink. I know you guys aren't doctors but can you please help me? I prefer to use home remdies. Thanks! :)
Do you live alone? I recommend telling someone about this if you're beginning to feel nausea. Meanwhile though, try drinking room temperature water for that sore throat. Then just lay down. Sometimes my eyes sting when I'be been on my laptop all day and after my eyes would strain from the sudden shift from the LCD to the relatively darker lighting of my room...? Especially if I lacked sleep. So drink non-cold water and just nap it off until you can tell someone who could take care of you in a few hours.
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How do I get a Victoria's Secret Model body?
Option 1: Get the model's personal info. Hire an assassin. Ask body to be delivered. :|
Option 2: Photoshop. :))
Option 3: Set a healthy sleeping and eating schedule. This will stabilize your metabolism. Getting it going would help your body use up all those calories. Always eat breakfast and have at least 3 meals a day. Skipping meals messes up your metabolism. Makes you gain weight faster because it becomes slower. Lots of physical activity speeds it up. So if you're not into those boring exercises, learn a new dance or take up a sport. Though shopping also entails a lot of walking and is great fun too. ;)
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I've been in a relationship for a year and a half, and the other day some girl(not knowing I was dating someone) messaged me on FaceBook. She goes to my school and thought I was cute, and asked if I liked to talk dirty. She seemed nervous about the fact that I was in a relationship, but for a few nights we sexted a few times.
Today, right before we finished out working out a place to meet, I told her I couldn't go through with it. I told her she's a great person, and she deserves better, and that she'll find someone who can see how great she is. I told her that neither of them deserved that treatment, and that I was really sorry.
I stopped it before it was too late, and instead of everyone hurting a lot, she was just a little disappointed but relieved.
My questions are these:
Did I go about solving this the right way in the end?
Should I come clean to my girlfriend, or leave it because nothing ended up happening?
Thanks
I think that what you did was right in the end.
As for telling your girlfriend, it depends on her temperament. Is she unreasonable? Or is she terribly understanding?
Personally, if I was the girlfriend, I'd prefer if you came clean instead of this situation rearing its ugly head in the far future. 'Cause hiding it makes it look like you're guilty. Although you have to make sure you explain fully, she really listens, and that you end the confession with both of you on the same page. Make sure she understands that it was never more than a few texts.
However, if she's the extremely jealous type, I think it would be better to stay quiet. If her jealousy is stronger than her will to understand the situation, things may just get ugly. Your conscience may suffer though. (Not for being terribly unfaithful, but from keeping the secret.)
I hope she understands.
(Edit: I read the above comment. I understand how it may seem like I'm encouraging you to lie about this but I think what's important is you realized your mistake and did something about it. Not many people can do that. We've all got hormones. We're not perfect. It would be terrible to let one mistake ruin a real relationship.)
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Why do I want a relationship, but don't want one at the same time?
I'm too afraid to give any overt hints.. like there's this guy I like and it's just not an opportune time for a relationship in my life, but i don't know, i cant control how i feel. but it makes me kind of anxious because i'm trying to not show how i feel cause he's pretty shy too but opens up with me, during class at least, but it's a bit awkward but i feel comfortable with him, and we have similar interests and are sort of part of the outcasts at school. im pretty much a loner, unfortunately, but i dont associate with him out of class. i have like the worst social skills with stuff like that, i guess this is why i've never been in anything close to a relationship. but im just scared and dont want to get hurt and don't want other people judging me like if i were somehow to be in a relationship (I don't know if the guy even likes me like that) cause technically it would be interracial but i live in the south, where it's "controversial" or w/e but ugh this is just so annoying. it doesnt help that tomorrow is valentines day, it just sucks to be alone and etc and everyone wants to love and be in love or even if it's not love, idk you know. why is this so hard for me. like i want to talk to him but i want to avoid him at the same time. what if he doesnt like me and im just making a fool out of myself and what not. idk if i even, ugh sorry see this just goes round and round and im just confused and have no legit friends i'd trust to talk to about this, cause im not even sure how to make sense of it
damn you teenage hormones (I'm 18 though, so i'm not that young). its just hard seeing everyone else being so comfortable in relationships and it looks nice but i feel like its just complicated and etc and what others would think and etc. im not even sure if i really like this guy, i mean technically i dont know too much about him or anything but ugh I don't know what i'm doing
What you're doing, is that you're over thinking. You're analyzing everything. Trust me. This is perfectly normal. :)
I myself get too many thoughts when I'm alone and I just need to let it out somehow. So I make a list. It can be a list about anything. It helps to organize my thoughts. But enough about that. (Although if this helps, that's awesome too!)
You're cautious about your every move and all this leads to is paranoia - because half of your fears may just be imposed on you by yourself.
A good thing to do would be to just accept the fact you like spending time with this guy. Liking someone's company doesn't have to equal liking them romantically. So don't worry. Keep spending time with him, just do what feels normal. Stop thinking about it. Let things flow. Sooner or later your feelings would become clear. Enjoy the time as it goes by. Stop questioning your every move, it's keeping you from being comfortable with yourself. I think you should take the time to relax more around others and be comfortable in your own skin before you think about being in a relationship. Hope this helps. (Listing stuff really does work though! XD)
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20 F
So i have 4 months with my boyfriend. We care about eachother alot, and im sort of new to this boyfriend thing so i have no clue to what couples do on this day? Haha. So my question is what are you getting your boyfriend for valentines day? And what are you guys going to do? My boyfriend has school on that day until 830PM which means we will be hanging out at 10 PM. So i know thats a little late but what can we do?
Thankyou in advance !
Honestly, the lovey-dovey cliches get old. I think that to really do something special for your boyfriend, it has to be something you guys both take interest in. Or give him something he likes or has significance for you both, instead of something mainstream. It doesn't have to be what other people do. They're not the ones celebrating. Valentines is really just about showing the people you love that you love them. So just do something you think would be special for both of you. :)
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I'm 19 f; I'm 5 foot and I weigh 220 pounds.
This is the biggest I've ever been. I've always been chubby, but my stomach isn't that bad. It's mostly my face, and my thighs. I'd like to make my stomach more firm so it isn't flabby but anyways.
I'm joining a gym and I'd like to know what excerises are the best? They have a pool and yoga and stuff; so any tips?
Also, anyone know of any successful diets that actually show results? And have a list of foods that I can eat, and times that I should eat?
I'm also taking a pill called Phentomine; my doctor prescribed it to me; when I was last one it, it curved my appietite and helped me lose 40 lbs; once I stopped, I gained it back plus 20 more lbs.
So..?
Any tips, or stories?
Swimming would be great for building a lean body and strengthening your arms and thighs. (Which would help burn off the excess flab consequently.)
Not to sound cliche but vegetables, fruits, and fish meat are advisable food options. Especially foodstuffs that would get your metabolism going and help in digestion too. (A lot of fruits can do this.)
Sleeping properly and having a fixed eating schedule would help to stabilize your metabolism. Eating in intervals too far apart would slow it down and quicken one's gain in weight with food intake. Of course, drinking lots of water is a classic too. Don't forget to always eat breakfast too. It goes without saying that majority of what you should eat should be stuff good for your health. I say majority because banning yourself from those desserts we love is a horrid thought. There's nothing wrong with eating them in little amounts. :)
When you go without sleep, the body releases something to keep your energy going and this badly influences your metabolism rate.
It's all about keeping your metabolism rate going - having more physical activities would help this.
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