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Why do I have a crush when I'm afraid of rejection?
Why do I want a relationship, but don't want one at the same time?
I'm too afraid to give any overt hints.. like there's this guy I like and it's just not an opportune time for a relationship in my life, but i don't know, i cant control how i feel. but it makes me kind of anxious because i'm trying to not show how i feel cause he's pretty shy too but opens up with me, during class at least, but it's a bit awkward but i feel comfortable with him, and we have similar interests and are sort of part of the outcasts at school. im pretty much a loner, unfortunately, but i dont associate with him out of class. i have like the worst social skills with stuff like that, i guess this is why i've never been in anything close to a relationship. but im just scared and dont want to get hurt and don't want other people judging me like if i were somehow to be in a relationship (I don't know if the guy even likes me like that) cause technically it would be interracial but i live in the south, where it's "controversial" or w/e but ugh this is just so annoying. it doesnt help that tomorrow is valentines day, it just sucks to be alone and etc and everyone wants to love and be in love or even if it's not love, idk you know. why is this so hard for me. like i want to talk to him but i want to avoid him at the same time. what if he doesnt like me and im just making a fool out of myself and what not. idk if i even, ugh sorry see this just goes round and round and im just confused and have no legit friends i'd trust to talk to about this, cause im not even sure how to make sense of it
damn you teenage hormones (I'm 18 though, so i'm not that young). its just hard seeing everyone else being so comfortable in relationships and it looks nice but i feel like its just complicated and etc and what others would think and etc. im not even sure if i really like this guy, i mean technically i dont know too much about him or anything but ugh I don't know what i'm doing
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What you're doing, is that you're over thinking. You're analyzing everything. Trust me. This is perfectly normal. :)
I myself get too many thoughts when I'm alone and I just need to let it out somehow. So I make a list. It can be a list about anything. It helps to organize my thoughts. But enough about that. (Although if this helps, that's awesome too!)
You're cautious about your every move and all this leads to is paranoia - because half of your fears may just be imposed on you by yourself.
A good thing to do would be to just accept the fact you like spending time with this guy. Liking someone's company doesn't have to equal liking them romantically. So don't worry. Keep spending time with him, just do what feels normal. Stop thinking about it. Let things flow. Sooner or later your feelings would become clear. Enjoy the time as it goes by. Stop questioning your every move, it's keeping you from being comfortable with yourself. I think you should take the time to relax more around others and be comfortable in your own skin before you think about being in a relationship. Hope this helps. (Listing stuff really does work though! XD)
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