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Is this wrong?!?
Hello, gigglesnort. I absolutly LOVE your column so i decided that I would ask you a question to see how your advice is. Ok so I currently have a wonderful Bf and we have been dating for almost 5 months. He isnt the kind the kissing kind of guy, he hugs me though. I have a Bgf (best guy friend) though and i leave for vacation on friday, he wants to give me a good bye hug. I want to give him one too but problem is, my Bf doesnt know tht Im friends with this guy and isnt too fond of him either. Would it be wrong to hug my Bgf? My Bf hugs some of his friends that r girls so i think it would be fair, what do u think?
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Wow, thank you! I hope I don't disappoint. :D
Well, it would be best to talk to your boyfriend. Tell him the dude's your best guy friend and ask if he would feel uncomfortable if you two shared a hug. Keep your tone curious and don't sound like you're asking something wrong, because you're not. Remember this doesn't mean he has to give you permission, this means you just don't want to do it because you don't want to upset him.
If he says that he doesn't like it, don't bring up how he hugs some of his friends that are girls. This might make him mad. Just agree calmly and say something along the lines of, 'Okay. But he's one of my best friends so I hope you'd get to know him better and be more comfortable around him in the future.'
Insisting on it would just make him suspicious. However, agreeing with him now while still pointing out that you want him to accept the fact this dude is a close friend might get him to see that he really has nothing to worry about. :)
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