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I am quitting my job and I want him to quit his job too so we can just BE TOGETHER!
I have a boyfriend for a year now and i can things are going great in general. We are officemates but we seldom see each other in the office (since we have to go to different clients). Our jobs are demanding most of the time, we can be sent to different places or we get to work really late. This brought up the hard part of our relationship. Everything in my job sucks right now (politic in the office) and there were times i just cant stop crying. During those time i just want to see him and hug him to make me feel a little better, but i cant. He's busy too with his work. He never fails to say 'love, things will be fine. just be strong.' but that's not enough for me. I want to see him so bad. We missed special occasions in the past because of our work and in every single event i cant help but feel sad and disappointed. I am planning to leave my job soon since i am not happy anymore but he's planning to stay for another year. The thought that i had to bear getting little of his time and attention for another year is just pathetic :(
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I am an authority on making it through hard times. My husband and I are just reaching our first good times in the 5 years we've been together. 5 years of debt, financial struggle, living on one part-time salary, hoping to make it to the next month and spending 4 months out of every year apart. I haven't even spent his birthday with him yet. Right now he's working a part time job and a full time job, while I'm only able to work part time, so I spend a lot of time alone.
It's hard. It's really hard. In this financial atmosphere, though, your boyfriend has the right idea. He has to wait until he has another job lined up to be able to leave this one. Really, you should be doing the same, but if you can't because of the strain on your mental health, you can't.
The best thing you can do for your boyfriend is to take the pressure off of him. Your boyfriend is probably insanely stressed out right now if the job is as crappy as you say it is. The last thing he needs is to feel like he's not being a good boyfriend. So ease up on him and try to make the time you do have together as happy as possible. Be accommodating, try to be there when he is and take on whatever you can at home.
Something you can do for yourself is to find your own strength. Keep your networks open. Start a new hobby, or three. Keep yourself occupied so that you're not spending all your time waiting for him to come home. When we fall into the waiting trap, that's when we start nagging and shouting because we feel slighted when they have to work late or go out of town. Find something you love to do and do it with all your heart. Volunteering, or starting your own business, or knitting for charity, or giving advice on Advicenators ;). Anything to keep your mind off of waiting.
It's not how we handle the good years that determines the success of our relationships. If that were the case, everyone would be happy in their relationships. It's how we handle the bad times that counts the most. If you can make it through the lean years with your love for each other still intact, you'll last the distance.
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Honestly, your an idiot. Quitting your job, and you want him to quit his so you guys can be together? Your dumb. You haven't really put much thought into this have you? In order to survive in the economy, you have to have a job. You know how many people would LOVE to have a job right now? Your boyfriend is doing the right thing by staying there. You need money in order to be together, unless you are just okay with being homeless.
Don't make him quit his job. You need to find someone else who doesn't want to work and wants to be nothing in life.
Stop being so selfish, and get the hell over your emotionalness.
Good Grief.
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