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I just asked a question earlier today about my white & light brown chihuahua. Here are the two names I have chosen.

1. Princess
2. Isabella (Bella for short)

What do you guys think? 1 or 2?

I like Isabella, it sounds so cute!!

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well my parents just got divorced and i am 14 by the way and um well my dad cheated on my mom and now since there divorced he is showing me all to these diffrent women and i am really pissed about that what should i do

Help me!!!

Tell him you don't want to see it. It upsets you and he has no right. < thats all I know what to do. I'm sorry bout the divorce.

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This guy liked me for several years. He told me and asked me out several times. I started to like him too. We decided to try it out, and for several months we were blissfully happy. And then it all went wrong. I got mad about something I heard about him cheating on me, he got mad I didn't trust him and dumped me on the spot. First issue in our relationship and we're over. He then expected me to be friends with him but I said screw you and blocked him.

My mom reckons he was just using me. I just can't understand why he would, but then why would he give up on me so easily? I know he had liked me a long time yet one bad thing happens and it's over. Just like that. No attempt to work things out.
I tried to make a complete break of him and get him out of my life and for a few weeks I didn't hear from him. Then he messaged me out of the blue and we started talking. And we discussed where it all went wrong, and he said he had been planning to do it for a while but he was going to do in person. Then he said "let's meet and work it all out, perhaps get back together, at least let's be friends" and agreed and went up to him the next day, and he made me feel like a fool by saying there was nothing else to work out. He said he only wanted to be friends again. So I yelled at him that night and said I no longer wanted to try and be friends and he said I was a bitch because we had been friends for so long and I was throwing it all away. I told him it was no longer my concern and if he wanted to work things out, he had to come up to me and do it in person and he was the one who gave up on us so easily. Haven't heard from him since. The truth is, I didn't wanna be friends because I couldn't get over him that way.
We work together so I see him all the time. And I can't get over him even though he's such an asshole and he's probably over me. What should I do? Am I a bitch for not being friends with him? And why would he give up on us so easily if he had liked me so long? That makes me so mad.. I wanted to work things out and he didn't.. I can't figure it out.

thanks.

Wow, that pretty much happened to me, cept it was a little bit differnt. No your not a bitch for not wanting to be his friend! A real friend wouldn't of treated you that way! You need to get over him and he should understand that. Maybe he did do something wrong, like cheat on you but tried to put it back on you not trusting him. Trying to make it your fault and an easy way out of the relationship. Maybe he was happy with you and got bored and started to use you or used you all along. You can't really know for sure why he acted the way he did. If you really want to know you have to ask him all these questions. I'm really sorry that happened to you. Good Luck!

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Alright, before I ask my question I want you guys to know that even though it's kind of funny, I'm being completely 100% serious.

Last night I was over at a friends house and we found his step mom's...dildo. Well someone thought it'd be funny if we put Icy Hot on it so that whenever she uses it...well you know. I thought it'd be funny as well so I went with it. When I got home I realized that it was a pretty immature thing to do and I was questioning whether or not I should call her and tell her about it or to tell my friend to wash it off or something before she gets to it. What do y'all think I should do? Or should I just not say anything?

hahahaha!!! I'm so sorry thats hilarious. Almost everyone would of done that. I'm assuming yur not very old. Kids make mistakes, just call yur friend and tell him to wash it off. I wouldn't call her..you might get your friend in trouble if you tell her and I don't know bout you, but I wouldn't be able to look at her the same. hahahaha

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Hey. Do any of you guys know what "SOL" means, because a tee-shirt says " Ur SOL pal" (from Hollister). Thanks!

Shit Out of Luck or Sorry Out of Luck

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Alright so in the middle of like May I got birth control. I started it right when I got it because I had just finished my period and that's when you're suppossed to start. Anyways, the last week in June I got my period (a little late but that's normal i guess) but it was EXTRMEMLY heavy and I honestly thought I was having a miscarrage (im a virgin so i knew i wasnt but thats how bad it was) and I even had to leave work early. Anyways, on Friday (today's Sunday) I noticed that I was getting my period AGAIN. After only a week. It's extrememly light this time and it's more of a brown color (sorry if that's too graphic) and I can get away with a light tampon all day.

Is this normal for being on birth control or should I be worried?

15/f if that helps.

Well I'd give it a while, your body has to get used to the pill. If it hasn't gotten better in 2/3 months call the doctor. You might need a heavier type of birth control. The light period is bleeding in between time. Your body has to get ajusted, but if it keeps this pattern up {bleeding in between time} call the doctor. I'm pretty sure the bleeding in between time is your body not being able to wait that long to get rid of the blood. Since you just started on the pill not too long ago, your body still needs to ajust. I'm sure it's just your body not used to it. I know what I'm talking about. If you need anything or didn't understand something, just leave me something in my inbox. Don't worry!!

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Is it weird to have a 3 year age difference between me and my boyfriend? Like 15 and 18?

It really just depends on the guy your dating. You could be 13 dating a 15 year old but he could be a great guy who really loves you, or a guy that is using you bc he thinks your easy bc yur younge. A 3 year difference isn't that big of a deal, just make sure the guy/girl is treating you and wanting you for the right reason.

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hey. I'm 14/f. Me and my ex boyfriend had sex ,i thought it was a good idea at the time and i felt really comfortablewith doing it but now i don't think it was right. He dumped me the day after and i felt realy bad because i liked him alot but he obviously didn't like me. Now he is calling me horrible names and being really mean. All my friends are all acting wierd to me now and i don't know what to do.

If anyone has any advise it would be much apricated! xxx

omg he's a jerk!! I'd kick his ass {don't take that advice lol}. There's not much you can do though, when he calls you a bad name laugh it off and shrug, or ask what does that make you? a using asshole? Act like it doesn't bother you, or if you want deny ever doing it with him. Show him your fine and he didn't hurt you. Be strong. I'm sooo sorry though!!Good Luck & Hope things get a LOT better!!!

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k so i'm 14 and i fell for a 16 yr old. He said he liked me and i told him how i felt. We decided that we'd wait a month before we decided anyhting b/c we had met really recently.
Now he says that he doesn't think he'll be ready to date anyone for a while, but he still only likes me. But i dont want to wait. Should i just give up and move on or wait for him?

Don't wait. Play hard to get, he'll want you even more if he knows he can't have you and your not waiting for him. Just be like ok I'm not waiting for you, I don't wait for guys. It shows respect for yourself and it shows him you don't need him. If he knows you don't give a shit and are hard to get he'll probably be interested and want you even more. Good Luck!!

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ok so my boyfreind is 15 im 13 the age doesnt bother me that much but the fact that he has has sex before does we can talk about it openly and all but i think he thinks i am imature for telling him there is no way in hell i will lose my virginity when i am only 13 and stuff i dont really no wat my question is i think i just need to talk to someone about it help please

Oh gosh, been in the same position.. I'm 13, but the guy wasn't my bf. Anwayz if he truly does like you for who you are he wouldn't care that you aren't ready for sex and would wait. If he ever tries to pressure you, just say alright I'm done! I have more self respect and morals than to do it w/ some punk who thinks he's soo experienced when he's only a 15 year old whore!! lol Sorry to be harsh. Trust me, let him know from the start how far you wanna go and that your not just some stupid 13 year old who is going to be easily persuaded just because he's older! I'd tell him, I won't do anything with you, until I know for sure you like me and not what I can give. Don't give in. You'll regret it. Don't do anything stupid and don't let him use you! Good Luck!!

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Im 13 yrs old. and still havent got my first kiss =. i feel like eberyone else has & its really bothering me.& i want to get a boyfriend.

Trust me you want to wait til your older. The guys don't even know how to do anything yet. If you rushed your first kiss there would be no point or no excitement. You will get your first kiss and boyfriend, your only 13. I know people who didn't have a boyfriend or first kiss til 16. You have time, it'll happen, don't worry! It's good to have not kissed than to have done everything at 13. Sorry and DON'T WORRY!

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hey guys! i`m not really sure the purpose fo me posting this but yeah.. i am a 15/f and a Christian. i met this guy at church about two and a half years ago. his name is nick. he is the sweetest lil kid. he is one year younger than me and really cute! now i know he doesn`t like me but the other niite he called me and we somehow got on the subject of masturbation and whether or not i thought it was riite or wrong. i told him i didn`t think that it was wrong or anything and it kinda escalated from there. he told me to go to my computer and he sent me some sites of porn and i really liked them. then last niite, we watched tons of law and order episodes together because it had chris meloni in it (one of the guys from the sit he sent me). and then i mastubrated with him on the fone several times and he was too. is this wrong? i really don`t know what my question is so any comments or thoughts would be helpful!

I personally don't see what the big deal about it is as long as your not having sex. Your just horny teenagers. Yet, in the eyes of the Church they would say it is wrong. lol

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Hey, Im a 16/f and recently i stayed over and one of my guy friends house, and we were fooling around and ended up having sex, and he told me he wanted our relationship to stay as friends but still be able to do things like that. Do you think thats wrong?

I'm sorry, but I'm going to have to say yes. If he doesn't respect you enough to go out with you, but just wants to fool around with you, he isnt worth it. He has to make a commitment and respect you to get anything like that in my opinion. Your intitled to your own opinion though. Good Luck!

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Hey guys. Right now, I'm a bit sad. For as long as I can remember, my number one priority in life has been softball. It's all I ever wanted to do. When, I lived with my mom, it was all I ever DID. I moved in with my dad when I was about 9, going on 10. I still played softball, and I still loved the game with all my heart. I made all-stars every year I played. Then, one year after we lost a game, my all-star coach made us practice right afterwards. We were all too hot and worn out, and my dad was furious with this, and told my coach I quit. This happened when I was about 12. Ever since then, I haven't made the all-stars team, and I see myself becoming worse and worse. I would do anything to play softball in college, but I don't think I'm going to make it. I'm now going to be a sophomore in high school, and I'm on the high school team. I want to get better, and help myself. But I don't know how. I also need confidence, something I lack tremendously. I'm going to the World Cup of Softball in July, and I just want to be able know that there's a chance I could be there one day. Maybe not on the Olympic team, but a college team, one that is highly respected, like the Texas Longhorns. It is my dream to play for them. I guess I'm sad because I know I'm not going to make it to where I want to be with softball. I don't really know what my question is, but could someone just help me?

Oh I know exactly what you mean, and I love the Texas Longhorns and wanna play for them too!!! lol
First off, don't say you can't do it. Most of softball is mental, seriously. Practice drills at home that your learned at softball practice, go to softball camps, get lessons for hitting. Have one of your parents or friends practice with you, play catch and hit fly balls and grounders to you. Always be confident and say you can. I heard in hitting like 90 something percent is mental, it's same w/ playing defence too. Most of the errors you will ever make is mental. Don't worry and don't give up! DON'T DOUBT YOURSELF!!! You still have a chance to be on the Olympic team if you try, their ending the team in 2008 though. :[ JUST GO FOR IT!!

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16/f

I have horrible cramps. They are so bad I can't stand up straight and I'm almost in tears. How can I lessen the pain? I tried ibuprofen but it's not helping and a heating pad doesn't work either.

Since ibuprofen doesn't work, try using a heated pad on your stomach. This happened to me, but that's all I could think of doing, or a hot shower. I'm sorry, ik it sucks!!!

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Can you shave your legs using soap and will it give you razor burn?

Yeah you can, but I've noticed body wash works really good for me, it's worth a try!!

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I don't understand why boys take advantage of girls. For example, if a boy knows a girl likes him, he'll ask for sex from her because I guess he thinks that if a girl has feelings for her, it makes her seem feeble, and what makes matters worse is if the girl does it, it does make her look weak. This happened to one of my friends, and it's so infuriating! What makes me even more pissed is she gave him head because she said "she really likes him." I'm just really mad right now and this was more-so to vent, but I want to tell me friend that what she did was wrong, and how naive she is for doing this. I feel like I always have to look out for her, so can someone please tell me what so say to her? Thanks

It sounds like she's insecure and thinks the boy will leave her and move on if she doesn't do this stuff or think she's "imature". Yeah, I know it's stupid, but this has happened to me, just not as bad. Just tell her you shouldn't have to do things like that to feel accepted and wanted by some guy. She may really really like this one but I'd tell her it sounds like she's being used. It hurts less to leave and move on than to wait for him to move on and realize u were used. It's always up to her, but I'd just ask her if she really thinks he cares about her and not just what she can give. Hope that Helped !!!!Good Luck w/ your friend!!

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I'm really pale. I mean, my body refuses to tan easily. I mean, I've layed out in the sun for about an hour and I have some tan lines but not really noticable. How can I tan better? I don't want to be the pale girl anymore! Oh and whenever I'm outside, I seem to get a lot of freckles...how can I stop that? Thanks~

Seriously if your skin is that fair DO NOT USE TANNING OIL or w/e! I am the same way, I can't tan for my life. If you use that oil u will fry! Just lay out for an hour or two each day you'll gradually get one or there's always a fake one!!Good Luck!!

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Is there any way i can make my hair lighter without highlighting or coloring?

Ok put lemon juice in your hair with a little water and use a squirt bottle and spray it through your hair, then stay out in the sun for a while. You could go to the pool w/ it in but don't dunk your head. There's also this shampoo, it brings out your natural highlights, like brilliant brunette, radient red, and ones for blondes. I'm a brunette and I used that shampoo and it made my hair lighter! Hope that helped!!

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ok so i have some stretch marks embarassing to. well i'm losing weight and i was wondering if i went down to like 110 or 100 lbs would the strech marks go away and if not are there any ways i can make them go away. i rate.

Try putting some co co butter on it {sorry spelling}

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