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For four years I have really 'liked' this guy (Guy A) but he hasn't ever returned these feelings, and I still can't understand why I still 'like' him. At this current moment I am dating another guy (let's call him guy B) but guy B's best friend (Guy C)has a crush on me and Guy C also happens to be one of my best friends, so things are all tense between Guy B and C which makes it weird for me because I don't wanna get involved. The worst part is that as much as I care for Guy B and Guy C, the only guy I can say I could quite possibly be in love with is Guy A. He means the world to me but now I feel like a horrible person because I'm dating one guy, and hurting another when I just love someone else. What do I do?
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Hey, so my problem is that me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a year and a half. I love him so much and he really does mean the world to me. I dont know what I'd do with out him. Lately though he's been being less affectionate and well doesnt really remind me anymore that i'm important to him. It's bothering me because well i'll tell him cute things or text him that hes the best and i love him. and his answer is always just "thanks and same." were in highschool but were very mature for our age and have been through lots together. He goes to a different school and i only get to see him on the weekends usually just saturday bc i work on fridays and sundays are family day for him. It's very stressful and i know that we care about each other but sometimes he feels i'm ignoring him when im really just working on school essays, projects, college applications, and then working a part time job so i can pay for my car! anyway i just wanna know how i can make him feel loved and get him to be more affectionate?
Try backing off and give him some space. He probably loves the attention but he might act completely different if you give him some space. If he doesn't click by then, then you need to ask what's going on. Show him that you care and your ready to listen to him. He should be honest with you and communicate in a good way to get through.
He's probably not feeling good about something in your all's relationship. Guys aren't that good at opening up to people. He could be just sad about something. But he should be affectionate and loving back in no time. Just give him some space to think about things and be there for him if he needs you!
I talked to my mom shes fine with it just wants to meet him and im just confused because he gives me mixedd singles /=
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Heyyyy. Okay... So I'm a sophomore girl, fifteen. Some background on me: Dated a guy all of last year (I was freshman,14 he was sophomore,16) and he was a jerk. He would be a complete ass one second and then force me to look him in the eye when he told me he loved me. He kinda sorta (based on your defintion) cheated. He pressured me into fingering. He physicallyl forced my hand to give him a hj. He asked me for weeks for a bj saying things like "if you really loved me, you'd do this". He dumped me in a text. All in all, he really hurt me. He confessed he was only in the seven month relationship for the physical stuff, only liked me when we were hooking up, etc. He also told me he didn't tell anyone about how far we'd gone which was a lie cause he would give his baseball team entire play-by-plays and brag about how he "had me on a leash". But okay. I was whipped. I was so confident and strong before I met him. I really changed when we dated. I hate that girl that I was. I was an IDIOT and I wish more than anything I could take it back. I became a little puppy dog and basically lost all of my self worth when the whole thing was over and done with. I felt like a joke. I felt like(because of this and other instances involiving guys prior to this one) a guy couldn't ever like me for the person I was. That there was something so horrible about me or my personality that my body was the only thing that would keep them around. After the break up I was to put it shortly a mess. And one of my really good guy friends basically saved me... He talked me through a lot of it. I told him things I didn't even tell my girlfriends. When I wanted to beg for my ex back he told me I was too good for that and he basicallly helped me find myself again. We've stayed god friends August he started dating a girl. Around November I started dating a guy. Towards the end of November he was talkign to me about how he wanted to break up with the girl. He did it and called me after so we could talk. He was pretty upset just because he felt bad for hurting her. About a month later I decided to break up with my boyfriend cause he was super clingy and would look through my phone and yell at me and stuff. Again, my guy friend helped me through this. After that we started talking every single day. People accused us of liking eachother but we both assured them we were just really good friends. But the thing is... I like him now. I'm so confused by our relationship. And I don't want to ask him about it because I don't want to ruin the friendship. Recently he hasn't texted me as much and he acts really distant when we hang out around other people. But that's only b een the past like week so maybe he's just in a slump? I dont' know... but it actually makes me sad. We've been through so much and I don't know what's going through my head or what to do or if I really do like him or what... I need some serious help...
The best thing to do would be to give each other some space. Don't text him a whole lot.
If you want communicate and ask him about what you both should do. If he says remain friends then just do that. Tell him you like him though. If he wants to be in a relationship with you he will ask you out and say so when you guys talk about it. You can't force him to go out with you. Go by what he says.
I hope this helps and that's a really rough situation. I'm sorry you had to go through all this. If you need more help inbox me. :)
march 13 2011 marks a year of me not seeing the one my heart desires. a year. how is it possible for someone to feel this way for someone else over a long period of time as if it was the first time seeing them. i mean during this past year i think ive even fallen deeper in love with him when nothing even happened between us. & overall he's my STEPBROTHER! its not right! but in the 2 years ive known him he's been one of the most amazing guys i have ever met. is this an obsession? well he IS physically attractive but its his heart & the little things that lure me in... i WANT to tell him but things would get even more akward. what should i do?? Any advice is MUCH appreciated. thanks. -female 17
You shouldn't keep it inside. It's probably that excitement you get when you really want to be with him because it's been a year and you missed him a lot. You get like really happy and smiley.
Bring this up and tell him that you kind of have something for him. He should be thrilled to have to hear what you have to say...he might say something about it too that you don't know about. Like if he likes you or thinks your attractive or likes how funny you are stuff like that. So I wish you the best of luck with your stepbrother :)
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Is it possible to be in love with a guy who lives in a different state and who I only met once and only hung out with once for a short period of time? I'm 16 and I am a young lady.
I have been with this guy for 2 years.
We have been through a lot, for a year we had to sneak around because my dad didnt like him.
He made me so happy though and I had so much fun with him.
He even told me his deepest secret-that he was raped when he was 4.
He smokes weed a lot and never seems to be able to quit. He has a lot of problems. I used to not mind the weed thing, but now I have outgrown it and it annoys me he depends on it...
He is also not legally allowed to get a job. This frusterates me a great deal that I always pay, then I feel bad because I know its impossible for him to get one...
Anyways we fight a lot now. I love him, but I do not believe I am still "in love". I promised him I would stay with him forever and help him with his problems.
I have kept thinking about seperating but I always second-guess if I should...
If I decide I am trunly unhappy, I will...I just do not know how....he is soo sensitive and has even told me he would kill himself if I left him. He is madly in love with me and I am the only one that gets him...
What should I do? What do I say to the poor guy if I leave him?
:(
I'm so unhappy and lost right now....
20/f
This guy probably needs you a lot more than you need him. So just stay with him. If it keeps making you unhappy then I suggest you say that you aren't interested anymore and you've had a fun time with this guy but it's time for you to move on and break it off with him. But for now just stay with him.
For his job since he can't get one right now...He could shovel snow and make money. Or fix things if he's good at that mechanical kinda stuff. Mow lawns in the summer. Those are just some examples on making some money.
And you shouldn't really be paying for him since guys are supposed to pay for the girl. So I completely understand that problem. I would be really frustrated myself.
But yea I see where your coming from...stay with him for a few weeks or a month or two and see where it goes. You've dated for 2 years so you have a lot of history. If not you need to tell him your feelings and honest thoughts and say it's time I move on, and I don't think this relationship will work out with us so we should depart our own ways.
Just say those that and hopefully this guy will get better and succeed in life.
I wish you luck though because it's hard breaking up with a guy that needs you a lot :)
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Well My boyfriend Touched Another Girls Butt. And Said He Didnt Mean To,I Just Dont Belive It Im so hurt, I Live With Him I Have No Where Else To Go. I Dont Know If I Should Stay Or Go. I Really Love Him! im Just So Jelous! I Get Jelous Over Anything What Do I Do Please Help!
I told this guy how i felt about him .. Hes 20 and im 16 .. ive known him for four years . He told me he liked me alot && he likes everything about me except one thing my age .. I asked him if anything would ever happen between us more than friends and he said not untill im 18 .. idk what to do because i really like him and it hurts .. /= Please help ...
Wait till your 18 to date him and just remain friends. You can ask your parents about going out with him if it's ok with them then it's perfectly fine for you to date him. But if your parents aren't ok then you have to do what they say or there will be consequences. I hate to say it but that's how it goes for everyone.
It sucks I know. But you don't really have a choice. Also it needs to be ok for his parents too if he still lives with them but I doubt it.
Just don't have sex. I'm warning you he could go to jail.
There's nothing really to do but ask your parents about it first and see what they say...and just listen to them. I hope I helped contact me if you need it. I wish that age didn't matter in this world and you could love anyone you want but life has it's rules and you have to live by them whether you like it or not.
16/f
Honestly, I'm not trying to sound conceited but I know guys think I'm attractive. I've just had really low self-esteem for the past few years, and barely flirt with anyone.
I was at a party, and this guy kept trying to make-out with me.
(Oh right, it was my first real kiss)
I kissed him, but I wouldn't make-out with him because I was scared I was going to be bad. How do I make sure I can be a good kisser, HELP
Is the moment right? In order to be a good kisser you should know when the perfect moment to kiss him is. Timing has a very vital role when it comes to being a good kisser. Make sure he is looking and expecting a kiss as well and you have your timing perfect in order to become a good kisser.
Add variation to it. Some people simply do not know how to kiss and the best way they find this out is when the guy tends to push them away whom they are kissing. Remember while you are kissing you need to add variation to it. You simply can't be in the same position throughout the whole time. You can add a variation or combination of various things such as adding some tongue action, changing face positions, your rhythm etc in order to be a good kisser and get the best out of the situation.
Never ask him. Some people tend to ask guys if they're good or not. Never ask him if you are a good kisser or not. If he enjoyed your kiss then he would be willing to do it again or maybe tell you instantly after you are done with the kiss. Asking him is not only cheap but might spoil your chances as well as any future dates. Remember being a good kisser is all in your mind. If you think you are a good kisser than you are and if you think you aren't a good kisser than you aren't.
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Hey again(: Thank you for what you replied you are really nice and you really give me good words of advice and encouragment?(: and yes I really am happy with him! I am kinda scared tho because my best friend just went out with him and he just broke up with her a couple days ago so I don't want her to be mad! how do I cope i guess you could say with that, because nobodys gonna stop me on saying yes to him. Also I have one lil problem I'm gonna scared because I don't know how to kiss and well Im scared I will mess up and yeah. I know people say it comes naturaly but I just don't know,I know you don't like (pucker) your lips like if you kiss your mom and dad bye or whatever but I just don't get it and do you make hat mwwah noice or what I know that sounds stupid hehe(: but yeah.. Anyways though I am actualy about to text him now:P so wish me luck and one more thing tell me what you think about it! I remember like three times me and him would hang out at highschool football games on friday nights like from like 7 to 9 or 10 then go home and talk on the phone all night litteraly and talk about everything all of my secrets even the most embarrasing things:P and my phone battery like died two times we talked so much and sometimes i fell asleep and he waws talking and i wouldnt answer then we would talk more till i fell asleep and he would be talking and i would start mumbling and then fall asleep on him then say love you bye.:) and this was the time length we hung out/talked from 7:00 pm till 3:30 a.m. and Hey and that was even b4 we started going out!! oh and I remember there was this one time when we were talking all night that I couldn't go to sleep unless he sang mw a song haha i was just kiddin but i did want him to so he did just being funny and he said that i was his and he never wanted me to leave and then i love her so much lol!:) ok I'm done now! So what do you think about that? :P like do you think he will say yes? :)
Well about your best friend going out with him...you should definitely say something to her about it. Because if you just go out with him behind her back she might get really mad. You want to get on her good side so just say you really like him a lot and you think it will work out with him. Tell her your not trying to make her mad but you just want to be with him and hopefully she will understand. Just be nice to her and don't try to be mean and make her jealous. Don't get into girl fights it's really pointless and a waste of time to be fighting over a guy you really like. That's the last thing you want to do.... And if she gets mad just know that's its perfectly normal for her to be mad at you. So just please her, buy her some make up or take her out to lunch. Go shopping together, or get a manicure or pedicure. Just be extra attentive to your best friend because you don't want to lose her because your best friend just went out with him & you want him.
Ok let's talk about kissing this guy. It won't come naturally to you at first because you aren't used to kissing or haven't kissed right or kissed him? Well once you start it will get easier for you and you'll be a pro at it. But I'll give you a few tips you might wanna know about kissing...
Be romantic for your first kiss. First Kiss him as in a peck, then kiss him but this time take his lip slightly in between your lips and pull gently backwards letting his lip go just away from his mouth, then do this but before you pull away stick your tongue into his mouth and gently swirl it around his mouth being carefully not to go into too deep. Withdraw from your tongue and pull away like when you didn't do tongues then just do a mixture of all of these kisses and take it from there. Guys often like it also if you nibble their lip (usually bottom) but don't worry too much about that as you don't want to do it wrong and hurt the guy. RELAX AND ENJOY! (This was kinda hard to explain I hope it's not too hard to do)
I wish you the best of luck with this guy!!! WOW this guy talked to you on the phone from 7 to 3 am? That's ridiculously good! He must really enjoy talking to you and enjoy who you are :) I really think you 2 should go out. You guys seem more than just friends ;) I think he will say yes to you too. Just ask him for another chance. If he says no then ask him why not. He could say because of your best friend tho. But if he really likes you and wants to hang out with you then he more than likely won't say no. If you need anymore help Ill always be here to help!
GOOD LUCK! :D
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Hey girl its me again(: well you asked why I cheated on him well it was because I liked the other guy better but now I see how it turned out...:( but also you said to apologize I already did and he is not like any other guy I have met(: in a good way so he totally forgave me and he never was mad when we broke up he wasn't mad at all infact when I was the one that should have apologized to him he apologized to me! He is just so sweet, but anyways the other day I apologized to him and he said wow I wasn't expecting that then I said its true and I of course explained what I did, then he said don't worry about it(: and I was so happy about that then I also regreted us not kissing but I didn't tell him that all I said was I also regret another thing and he kept saying what what tell me over and over again, and I said no its to embarrasing but anyway. So what do I do now?? please reply you give really good advice lol!
What you should ask this guy "Can I have another chance with you?" Because he seems like the perfect guy and you apologized and he forgives you for cheating. He should say yes or no. If he says yes then you need to promise to him that you won't ever cheat on him again and that you will be loyal to him at all times. If he says no then you can either be friends or do what you want with your life.
He might keep asking you about what you regretted (the kissing part) because you got him thinking about it. Which is good because he will try to figure it out but he won't be able too. Since your too embarrassed to ask him about the kissing part...just be ready for it!
Take a mint, lean in and make eye contact, look at his lips, relax, take the lead, and then invite him to kiss you. It's that simple. Don't ask him about it just let it come naturally like I just said when you guys get back together. The best kisses are the one's that are unexpected and are natural. :)
To be honest tho this guy seems really nice and you should treat him with all the love and respect you can. Because he seems like a keeper and a hard guy to find. I would definitely trust this guy.
You seem happy with him :)
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18/f & 17/m; we've been together for almost two months; im in love with him even before we got together; we talked on and off; i knew he was guna be something hard to forget. we rarely agrue; we always joke around and have a good time; and our physical connection is amazing; well today he said he was working out, and he randomly starting having mixed emotions about him missing his ex marissa that he was with for a year and six months before we got together; she left him and hurt him both times they broke up; he said he knows its not going to work;
he's having mixed emotions, and said that he relaly loves me, but he thinks he rushed into a relatioshiop. He says he doens't know what he wants, but he knows if we break up, he isn't brekain up with me to get back with Marissa. He said in the morning we will see how things go, and to see if they go away after he sleeps on them;
I just don't know what to do; help?
I don't mean to sound conceited but I've been told I'm really attractive. When I go snowboarding guys always notice me because I'm good, I've done tours and I can do the terrain park and everything. Again, I promise I don't mean to sound cocky, but its the truh. I always catch guys staring at me and I'm always afraid to like look back I just give a quick glance and look away I guess I'm shy but how can I get them to approach me? I guess I just need a confidence booster lol. Thanks.
Ok so I am going to make a long story short 13/F So last year I had a sweet caring boyfriend but I started falling for another guy and me and him spent all of our time together even tho he had a gf and i had a bf, well my boygfriend saw us together all the time and broke up with me. I thought it was fine at first because me and the other guy spent all summer together and then I was sure he liked me so I finaly went ahead and told him i liked him and he liked me too. Well everything went good for about two weeks (even tho he never asked me out)I thought he was because he said I don't know and I thought he'd just think about it because I mean he likes me right? well like I said it was great for about two weeks everyone knew we liked each other and it felt good then he got mixed up with the popular girls and forgot about me and litteraly broke my heart I loved him more than anyone I cried myself to sleep so many nights and now he don't talk to me anymore and everything is messed up and I don't even have my boyfriend anymore and he is such a sweet guy he still liked me but he broke up with me so I could be with the other guy now seriously he woulda had to care alot about me we've stayed best friends since and told everything to each other and everynight before we stop talking we always say love you bye...I now I just regret it like he coulda been my first kiss and everything but I gave it up for something I thought was gonna be great but it didn't turn out so great. So I mean what do I do, also do you think I could get him back He is really sweet and different from most guys please help!!! and sorry I know it isn't short like I said haha Pleaseeee give me answers!!(:
But what you should have done was to not talk to this other guy because that's where it caused you this huge mess. I almost hooked up with my ex in the summer when I had a boyfriend but I realized that it wasn't a good idea because he would treat me like this guy did to you. What you need to do it cut contact with this dude. Because your boyfriend is a good person for letting you be with the other guy. I don't know if he will take you back though because what you did to him.
You should go back to your boyfriend though and apologize for what you did. He deserves it more than anything. Don't be with the other guy because you don't need to that's just selfish.
Everyone makes mistakes. So don't worry about it. You realized what you got and it wasn't what you wanted. So you need to fix your situation the hard way. Go back to your old boyfriend and make it up. It will be hard but that's kinda what you need to do right now. Good luck and hope it works out :)
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I'm a baby and can't tell the girl that I like, that I like her. That's because I'm a girl, and have never been with a girl or liked a girl in this way. Nobody knows, so I'm so scared of somebody finding out. So, I wrote her a message on Facebook explaining my situation. I made a fake account and told her that I didn't want to tell her who I was yet, because I needed to know how she felt about the whole situation. My question is though, is there any way she could find out it's me. I mean, I know she couldn't just because we never talk at school- she knows who I am but our school is HUGE. I'm just wondering if there's any way on Facebook she could find out who I am?
its me again and me and my girlfriend mary have made it official were now running away from all the crap our parents give us and we will be able to be together . right now were at a hotel my friends brother rented . its going great and we had sex only 1 time . but is this right? help me please
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im 18/f hes 19/m
ok so i sort of have this thing for a guy, he's the lead singer of a local band, in which two of their shows i have attended. both times however the lead singer was taken and i was to shy to approach him. We've been talking over the net and what not for almost a year now, even though we haven't met each other properly. He is so much like me it scares me. I used to talk to him heaps even when he had a girlfriend (not overstepping my boundaries of course) and one night, he told me everything that no one else even knew about him. Thats the moment i started really falling for him. anyway i tried to forget these feelings due to him already having a girlfriend. Conveniently enough for me, him and his girlfriend broke up two days after our big chat. I was there for him, even just as a friend, during his messy break up. I knew that if i was there for him, it would potentially work in my favour, maybe even give him an idea.
So that was a couple of months ago, since then he has become best friends with this other girl. i was getting extremely jealous until he assured me that she means a lot to him as a best friend. So i quickly forgot about it.
I tried my best to deny these feelings... but everything almost felt like a sign with him... i mean his gf and him conveniently breaking up when we get really close. I always told myself i wanted to find the boy version of myself. I believe he is it. Another random thing that i cant get over, is that when i was little i was absolutely obsessed with dinosaurs, mum and dad recorded a video of me when i was three running around the backyard pretending to be a raptor, with a plant down my pants as a tail. I told the guy this very embarrassing story, only for him to be in shock. turns out his parents have a video of him when he was three running around the backyard pretending to be a raptor with a plant down his pants. what are the odds?
Just little stuff like that, so much stuff in common that its to hard to question 'what if'... Anyways, i messaged him the other night this is what we said.
me- hey whens your next gig lovely? so i can finally meet you properly :)' him- "FINNAAALLYYYY =]"
me: 'i wish i had of stayed to meet you at your last two shows haha. i dont know why i didnt! im such a doosh :)" him: " =] ♥" me: 'oh btw, expect big tackle hugs :)" Him: haha okies =] from you...=]"
the last couple of nights i spent getting confused over the 'from you...=]' part haha. everyone that i asked that wasn't getting confused over it was telling me that it means he likes me, if he only wants tackle hugs from me etc etc. Anyways, i logged on to Face book to notice he updated his status saying 'thank you for everything, i'm feeling so much better. you know who you are ♥"
this post made me really nervous, because i know its not about me...it could be about his bestie but even then i still feel like he's more interested in her... i just don't know whether to give up or whether i continue to hope that perhaps he feels the same as me. any advice appreciated!
You kind of have to go with your gut feeling. I mean if you think he's into her you have to leave this guy. You don't want to get hurt and he might still like her or have feelings for her. Best friends who recently dated aren't really a good thing. I wouldn't feel comfortable if I was in your situation like that. I would probably leave because it just seems like he wouldn't give you the full attention you would need you know? But I could be wrong about that...
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If you think he isn't into her and you think he likes you. Then go for it and don't give up on this guy. Because you have faith in him and faith in yourself to have a boyfriend.
I hope you pick the right one because it's all up to you girl!
Make a good choice :)
I'm a sophomore in high school and my new-ish (3 mos.) boyfriend is kind of starting to drive me nuts. I really, REALLY like him, but he texts me about a million times a day and he asks me every. single. day. if I want to hang out with him. Like I said, I definitely like him, but I don't want to spend every waking minute with him and I'm running out of excuses...Help much appreciated :)
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Hey there. I'm fifteen/f and my boyfriend is 16. Our two month anniversary was something like 2 days ago, he's awesome, cute, etc. but he's my first boyfriend and I have no idea how to approach the topic with my parents. I'm pretty sure that I'm allowed to date, even though we don't have any concrete "rules", but I'm just petrified to broach the subject with my parents. I'm really close with my parents, we talk about common interests and stuff, but not really about personal stuff and I'm sure telling them would be really awkward. I'm just afraid they'll tease me (they will) and that they'll want to meet him and embarrass me and such and such. I'm just worried that when I tell them they'll (especially my mom) be really hurt that I didn't tell her as soon as it happened. Can anyone help? This is really, really stressing me out...
What you need to do is practice telling your parents. You can even practice with your boyfriend to make it more fun. Practice until you feel comfortable doing it so you feel like a natural when the time comes. Then, once you mastered it...and when the time is ready. Go to your parents and tell them about your boyfriend. It should be easier said than done for you! I wish you the best. I'm sure your parents won't freak about you having a boyfriend either they will most likely be proud of you and happy and want to support you if you have any tough times with him. Good luck :)