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Telling parents about boyfriend?
Hey there. I'm fifteen/f and my boyfriend is 16. Our two month anniversary was something like 2 days ago, he's awesome, cute, etc. but he's my first boyfriend and I have no idea how to approach the topic with my parents. I'm pretty sure that I'm allowed to date, even though we don't have any concrete "rules", but I'm just petrified to broach the subject with my parents. I'm really close with my parents, we talk about common interests and stuff, but not really about personal stuff and I'm sure telling them would be really awkward. I'm just afraid they'll tease me (they will) and that they'll want to meet him and embarrass me and such and such. I'm just worried that when I tell them they'll (especially my mom) be really hurt that I didn't tell her as soon as it happened. Can anyone help? This is really, really stressing me out...
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I believe everyone is afraid of telling their parents about their first boyfriend so you're definitely not alone in this one! We've all been through this. Don't worry about it too much though because it will only stress you out more.
What you need to do is practice telling your parents. You can even practice with your boyfriend to make it more fun. Practice until you feel comfortable doing it so you feel like a natural when the time comes. Then, once you mastered it...and when the time is ready. Go to your parents and tell them about your boyfriend. It should be easier said than done for you! I wish you the best. I'm sure your parents won't freak about you having a boyfriend either they will most likely be proud of you and happy and want to support you if you have any tough times with him. Good luck :)
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Trust me I totally felt the same way lol it is akward but now it isn't and I talk to my mom about this all the time btw i'm 13 so im close to your age and I understand! about it so last year I got my first real boyfriend like hugging holding hands dates ect. but and I had his pic. on my phone my sig had to do with him and I still kept it from her. I felt awful to keep it from my mom but I new it would be akward because when I was in third or 1st grade when it wasn't true relationships just calling yourself bf and gf she would tease me but anyway back to what I was saying about my first real bf last year and keeping it from my mom well my school Chorus went on a field trip like 2 hours away from our school to a mall and then we had to preform and him and his 5 other friends were in a group and me and my friend were in a group and my mom chaperoned and it was the day b4 valentines day and I hadn't got him a present and he had got me one and I freaked out and when I would see him in the mall his friends would be like hug your gf and it was embarrasing well we left the mall and went to the performance and after it I knew I couldn't hold it off so I told my mom and it was great and she was cool about it and now i come to her with all my guy problems(: So tell your mom(: ok? It'll work out!! I hope it all works out let me know if you have any questions GoOd Luck and congrats on your first bf -Madison Sara!
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I htink that if you are worried that your mom will be upset that you didnt tell her sooner then you should tell her right away. All parents tease so dont worry, your not the only one! Eventually, don't you want your parents to at least meet this guy? If you truly like him and he likes you, nothing else will matter in the end. Good luck and I hope this helped!
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Seriously, it really will be all right. Heck, you could just print out this question (and these responses if you like) and hand it to your mom.
If you don't want to do that, you could gloss over the fact that you've been seeing him for a couple of months ("mom, dad, there's this guy I met recently...") and thus avoid that part. But don't be afraid of any teasing they might do! That's better than a pained, serious discussion, isn't it? You can let them know you're easing into the relationship thing, and they'll be happy you're not rushing things or acting too grown-up all of a sudden. It'll be fine! Your parents (and boyfriend) sound great. Good luck!
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Don't worry about it, I was petrified telling my parents about my first boyfriend.
You're mum will understand that you were nervous, and if she does get a bit uspet (which she won't) then just explain it to her.
This is how I tell my parents about boyfriends. "Mum, dad, I have a boyfriend."
They'll find out eventually since you'll be going on dates and what not, plus they aren't completely oblivious.
The teasing thing is what every family does, it sort of breaks the tension for them.
Once it's done, it's easy. The hardest part is just buildingthe courage so don't fret girl.
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