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my bf is having mixed emotions with me?
18/f & 17/m; we've been together for almost two months; im in love with him even before we got together; we talked on and off; i knew he was guna be something hard to forget. we rarely agrue; we always joke around and have a good time; and our physical connection is amazing; well today he said he was working out, and he randomly starting having mixed emotions about him missing his ex marissa that he was with for a year and six months before we got together; she left him and hurt him both times they broke up; he said he knows its not going to work;
he's having mixed emotions, and said that he relaly loves me, but he thinks he rushed into a relatioshiop. He says he doens't know what he wants, but he knows if we break up, he isn't brekain up with me to get back with Marissa. He said in the morning we will see how things go, and to see if they go away after he sleeps on them;
I just don't know what to do; help?
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Honestly, if i were you, id possibly prepare for the worse. Okay, your guy gets points for admitting that he has mixed emotions but i think it would have been easier on the both of your behalf's if he was up front from the beginning. Its sort of to late for that now, so you have to push forward. If you love this person more than words can express, try your best to work it out. You never know, he could be the one. But on the other hand, what if he never gets over this ex of his and hes stuck like that for god knows how long. So my advise to you is prepare for the possible worse IF the worse ever comes.
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Just give him time and space you two rushed too fast in a relationship together. Because 2 months is too short. He needs time to think about things and what he wants to do. He might not be ready for a relationship right now because he might not be over his ex. He needs space from you in order to figure out where he wants to go and what he wants to do. Once you give him space he will make his own decision.
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Your boyfriend had two months to lay on it, Two months later he confronts his feelings to you that he still hasn't got over his ex. There is nothing to sleep on, He clearly isn't ready to be in a relationship. If he expressed that it is not going to work out, Then it probably won't. The truth, If he continues to be in a relationship with you the doubt of it being a healthy relationship will likely be on his mind as again he expressed he hasn't moved on from his ex. What can you do? Talk to him. Ask him what he wants, If he says he needs a break let him have it. You can't force someone to be in a relationship when they aren't ready to be in one all you can really do is except the truth and give him his space. If you two are strong enough to maintain a friendship then play it by ear for awhile and overtime see where it takes you. Denying the truth is only going to put your relationship on a rocky road.
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