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should i just give up?
im 18/f hes 19/m
ok so i sort of have this thing for a guy, he's the lead singer of a local band, in which two of their shows i have attended. both times however the lead singer was taken and i was to shy to approach him. We've been talking over the net and what not for almost a year now, even though we haven't met each other properly. He is so much like me it scares me. I used to talk to him heaps even when he had a girlfriend (not overstepping my boundaries of course) and one night, he told me everything that no one else even knew about him. Thats the moment i started really falling for him. anyway i tried to forget these feelings due to him already having a girlfriend. Conveniently enough for me, him and his girlfriend broke up two days after our big chat. I was there for him, even just as a friend, during his messy break up. I knew that if i was there for him, it would potentially work in my favour, maybe even give him an idea.
So that was a couple of months ago, since then he has become best friends with this other girl. i was getting extremely jealous until he assured me that she means a lot to him as a best friend. So i quickly forgot about it.
I tried my best to deny these feelings... but everything almost felt like a sign with him... i mean his gf and him conveniently breaking up when we get really close. I always told myself i wanted to find the boy version of myself. I believe he is it. Another random thing that i cant get over, is that when i was little i was absolutely obsessed with dinosaurs, mum and dad recorded a video of me when i was three running around the backyard pretending to be a raptor, with a plant down my pants as a tail. I told the guy this very embarrassing story, only for him to be in shock. turns out his parents have a video of him when he was three running around the backyard pretending to be a raptor with a plant down his pants. what are the odds?
Just little stuff like that, so much stuff in common that its to hard to question 'what if'... Anyways, i messaged him the other night this is what we said.
me- hey whens your next gig lovely? so i can finally meet you properly :)' him- "FINNAAALLYYYY =]"
me: 'i wish i had of stayed to meet you at your last two shows haha. i dont know why i didnt! im such a doosh :)" him: " =] ♥" me: 'oh btw, expect big tackle hugs :)" Him: haha okies =] from you...=]"
the last couple of nights i spent getting confused over the 'from you...=]' part haha. everyone that i asked that wasn't getting confused over it was telling me that it means he likes me, if he only wants tackle hugs from me etc etc. Anyways, i logged on to Face book to notice he updated his status saying 'thank you for everything, i'm feeling so much better. you know who you are ♥"
this post made me really nervous, because i know its not about me...it could be about his bestie but even then i still feel like he's more interested in her... i just don't know whether to give up or whether i continue to hope that perhaps he feels the same as me. any advice appreciated!
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I dont really know because you can either go 2 ways with this one.
You kind of have to go with your gut feeling. I mean if you think he's into her you have to leave this guy. You don't want to get hurt and he might still like her or have feelings for her. Best friends who recently dated aren't really a good thing. I wouldn't feel comfortable if I was in your situation like that. I would probably leave because it just seems like he wouldn't give you the full attention you would need you know? But I could be wrong about that...
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If you think he isn't into her and you think he likes you. Then go for it and don't give up on this guy. Because you have faith in him and faith in yourself to have a boyfriend.
I hope you pick the right one because it's all up to you girl!
Make a good choice :)
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Hey,
I say go for it. You *feel* like he's interested in her, yet he hasn't *told* you that and how can you be so sure that his status isn't about you? =) Go with the flow, be yourself, give him those hugs you promised. Have fun and best of luck =).
Note: Love the raptor story <3.
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