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How to solve conflict with a friend?
When I argue or fight with my friend, I tend to ignore them or distance myself around them till I'm not mad anymore, which takes me about a 3 days to weeks instead of talking it out, it seems like I cannot confront the problem and just ignore and pretend they are not there. Sometimes I keep my distance around them and my friend would not know the reason why I'm doing that because they have upset me, how can fix this not ignore my friend and just talk it out? It is very hard for me.
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I do the exact same thing now, but for many reasons. I'm sure you have different reason than I do, but before I hit the revelation behind why I continued to distance myself from friends and family emotionally and physically (if possible)... I noticed that when you bring bad situations or problems to trhe attention of other or the ones involved, it seems that (unless people care about you in a certain way..) they are not willing to reevaluate their current actions because they are involved in pre-schemed motives of their own.
In you case though, you may believe that your friend may not be receptive to your upset emotions and the reasoning behind them. You are already aware that you have the right and the privacy to get upset @ anything and everything that affects you in anyway. You may not alse feel its should be necessary to explain yourself to other for these are your own personal feeling about situations. Remember, if they are really good friends of yours and they truly love you and has concern for your well-being, you should discuss and trust them with your concerns & emotions as well. For they can not read your mind.
In addititon, is it possible that you may be in heightened state whereas you may believe that the things you become upset about are intentionally inflicted rather than a daily life happenstance? If that the case, you may need to reexamine your environment, including your friends.
Usually in good friendships, comfortably opened friendships, friends don't let friends stay mad.. People have a way of nagging/pestering your to discuss your problems with them when they care enough about you... How can any of you enjoy each other company for long periods of time if you're not aware of when you need to intervene and intercept their modd swings... Think it through and decide.
Hope it helps...
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