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hey. yeah. i keep it real, and i'll try to help out annyway with annythin i can. im Em, and im a pretty smart chick. im a preddy good person, you know the type you would let babysit ur kids. dont take me for granted. i k how to rock it and keep it kool. w/o all the drugs and tequila. go ahead, ask me. ill anser. cuz u k im good lik that ;)
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I truely like this kid so much. I've known him for 4 years, and he knows I like him and such. Actually, last year in 7th grade, he asked me out. He was smiling although he said he was serious, but I said no because I figured that he was joking (he's that type of person). Than after he asked me out, he started doing weird stuff to me, and requesting I do things to him. For instance I would usually help him with his French homework, and he would ask that I sit on his lap. He would always hold my hand, try to kiss me, etc. Then he started to get worse, like ask me to have sex with him, flash him, go over to his house and in his room...
This year, he acts as none if it happened. He won't mention the slightest thing to me. That doesn't exactly bother me but it's weird. I still like him and it's not that he acknowlages me (because we're still best friends), but he doesn't like me this year like that.
I just wanted to know if anyone here thought that maybe he took advantage of me. Please help (easy 5's)
he probly was just realy imature before and just really really liked you and he probly also noticed when it started to get out of hand. its a good thing that you didnt do that stuf cause maby he was useing you. he might have just been going through a really rough time before or something and started to act kind of weird. maby hes matured or just simply stopped liking you because he was confusing himself, or i dont really know. but if you still like him, then maby some day when you are talking to him just simply say, "can i ask you something? when you asked me out last year, did you mean it?" there might be an aquard silence or he might anser rite away, or he might just think about it for a min. but at least you will get a anser. hope i helped!
ps: when you ask him, make shure you are alone!
I need your opinion:
I have been love for four years.
I am 17 now.
Some people say I'm too young and others say that seventeen is ld enough to know what you want.
I've always been mature for my age and when I told everyone I was in love at fourteen, needless to say, they didn't believe it. But it has been years and I am still in love.
Do you think I'm "old enough" to be in love? If I am, then wasn't I old enough when I was fourteen because back then, I was sure I would be in love forever and I still am.
in my opinion, there is no age where you are suddenly 'permitted' to feel love. you are never to young to love, no matter what others say. but thats just my point of veiw. hope i helped!
Theres this New kid in my grade and i wanna talk to him and ask him questions and such but i dunno i have no idea how to start out. Me and my friends titled him a Bad Boy. So how should i get to know him?
you should just walk up to him someday with a friend and say something like "hey im (insert name) where are you from?" and after he ansers say, "thats kindof cool. what classes are you taking? (insert anser) im takeing (insert classes). maby you want to hang out sometime?" then you could say hi to him every once in a while if you see him in the halls. then he will probly tell you more about himself. hope i helped
Ok...there's this guy and i like him so much and i know him pretty well. My friend has only met him once but likes him too. I told her that i would try and fix them up but i don't know why i said that because i really wanna go out with him. What should i do? Should i ask him if he wants to hang out but ask my friend if it's ok first or should i just fix them up like i said. There is a 3 yr.age difference between both of us and this guy. I would never ruin a friendship over a guy.
first i would tell my friend that you know that she likes (name) but you realized that you kind of like him 2. tell her that you were wondering if you could ask him out for yourself. make shure that she knows that you would never choose a guy over a friend, and that you never will and if its not ok with her you will fix them up annyway. hope i helped!
Ok well i have been best frineds with this guy forever like since we were babies and i am in love with his sister. she is absolutly beautiful. i see her all the time and sometimes she acts like we r friends and others like she completely hates me. do i tell her how i feel and risk ruining my friendsip with her bro or just keep quiet? her bro is kinda protective
the first thing i would do is talk to your friend about it. there is a chance he might be ok with it, and besides if he is, he can help hook you up with her! i mean, if you have been friends with him sence forever than he must be a preddy decent guy. but if he isnt cool with it, i dont think that you should risk it. i know this sounds horribly corrny but i feel like i should say it annyway: relationships come and go but friends can stay forever. hope i helped!
my mom is kinda a control freak...
She won't let me shop with anyone but her. .not my dad, any of my friends.. or anyone.
She has to even be in the same department with me...
I only have a pair of jeans and two pairs of (very very ugly) capris that don't fit right.. so I really need to go shopping. She always says that she's too busy or that i don't need anything. I keep explaining to her that I need to go shopping because I am lacking in things to wear.. and she always makes up excuses. I'm also afraid that if we go shopping that she won't let me wear what I want to wear (low rise jeans and form-fitting baby t's) because she wants me to wear things from the girls section still. And when we went into aeropostale (once) she made me buy everything a size too big so I pray that it will shrink. I just don't want to look like i'm too poor to buy clothes.
HELP ME!!!!! PLEASE!!!!!!
13/f (if it helps size 1/3 and shirts small)
ok what you need to do is help your mom learn that you are now a teenager and are more indapendent. maby you should ask her how her day went every once in a while, going to bed with out her telling you to, getting your homework done by yourself, etc. you could also let her in on some girl talk you know, like guys, friend problums, etc. and maby you should talk to her about getting new clothse in idvance, you know, like a week ahead or something. and when you talk to her, tell her that you are starting to get kind of self-consious about your clothse sence they dont fit rite. let her in on the fact that your clothse dont show anny of your personality and you want to get a look of your owne. if your mom is annything like mine, theres a good chance she will listen. i hope i helped!
ps:you could also show her you are more mature by buying your owne clothse, or even buying her something!
ok..... PLEASE help me im SO stuck!!! well two of my BEST friends in the world are in a HUGE fight, they say i have to pick one of them. i dont want to pick one, but i dont ant them to fight!!! they sometimes fight OVER me!!!!!! but PLEASE help me im begging you!!!! im desprate!!!
ps. they talk about eachother and i dont want to talk about eather one!!!
what i would do is every time they try to talk trash about eachother just say, "look, im both your guyses friend and i dont really want to be part of your fights. so can you please not talk about (insert name)? i would ask the same from her if she started to talk trash about you. so can we please just change the subject?" that should preddy much just make them stop asking you to ake sides. as for the fighting, you cant really do to much about that. well i hope i helped!
Well for about 2 weeks so far I've been skipping breakfast and lunch and only eating a snack and dinner.My wrists are really skinny but my moms are 2.And my friends are really worried about me.They're always trying to shove food down my throat.What could happen to me if I keep eating this way?
ever heard of terry shilo? you know, the one person who turned into something from dawn of the dead and her parents and husband were fighting about if they would take her feeding tube out or not and they ended up doing it? well she hadnt been eating either, just like you. she got a stroke or something and drove the car off the rode. the people couldnt get to her in time and not enuf oxigon( have no clue how 2 spell it) got to her brain and she ended up brain dead. this is serious. some people who eat like that end up with not enuf bloodsugar, and can die. some people have gone to rehab aso. anerxia is no joke, and if you have it, you need to get help befor some serious consiquences. hope i helped
Hey, please no wise-cracks. I really don't want to deal with them right now.
Just a forewarning, this is a long one.
Everything at school used to be so easy. Then I got prescribed an anti-acne drug, and hit puberty - somewhere in there something went missing, went wrong. In the years since then, I've kind of slowly lost my purpose, occasionally it would come back, but I have no real "Drive" anymore. That is mainly what worries me. I have become the model of apathy, all the while worrying about it. I suppose that a lot of psychologists would call it depression, and try to make me "better". They would ask if I had suicidal thoughts and everything. The problem is that I live because I am living. I have suicidal thoughts, that don't MEAN anything, and I don't WANT to die - and I don't even know why, because I don't care about much anymore. I care, and I don't care. I wish I had real "fair-weather" friends, while at the same time I can't break away from my poisonous ones. My schoolwork is important, and I screw myself up worrying about it, when I could get it done so much faster without worrying, and be happy in my spare time. I don't even know why my schoolwork is important anymore, but I don't want to sacrifice it, because I know it would screw up the rest of my life. I play computer games, because I don't want to do homework, and I don't have the will to do anything that I need to do, or want to do. I keep a list of things I want to do when I have spare time, instead of wasting my life playing computer games, but somehow I feel that I will never do them, because I just go back and addict myself to a computer game. I know that I NEED to do things, and that I am screwing up my life, and I still just CAN'T find the discipline to DO anything.
So my question in short;
How do I find my will?
How do I discipline myself to do things that matter?
How do I find the courage to make new friends?
How do I shake that constant feeling of knowing I've been put in to boxes, and nobody knows who I am, and actually find people who will help me to feel happy?
ok first, you need to get rid of your games. you either need to throw them out, store them away, or give them to your parents. inthen, you need to go to the bookstore and buy yourself a copy of "life stratigies for teens", and read the hole thing once or twice. it should shape you up most of the way. thats how i got over alot of my shyness, bad habbits, parent problums, denial problums,etc. and im shure it will help you. hope i helped!
my friend has a boyfriend. he can be really nice. but this summer he did a lot of things with girls this summer [not sex or anything like that] but lots of stuff that he shouldn't have been doing. and my friend, was like "i'll never go out with that player". but of course he asked her out and she said yes. now they're always with eachother, that doesnt bother me. but what she doesnt realize is that he's a bad person. me and my other friends were talking about it and we were like "yeah she should break up with him." but i dont know what to say to her. if i said anything like that she would probably get really sensitive about it. and trust me, i'm not jealous at all. i could never date him. it's just annoying that she'd choose him over her best friends. and he is bad.. not the greatest grades, all that summer stuff, and everything else. in high school he'll go crazy. what can my friends and i do??
just make shure that she knows you are worried about her. tell her that you just wish she would be more carefull, sence he does have a player history. you cant make your friends desisions for her, i mean, she can go out with annyone she feels like. but just let her know that you guys are afraid she will get hurt, and that you guys dont want to see that happen. maybe your veiw of him is rong. start hannging out with them and maby you will start to realize that he isnt as bad as you thought. well i hope i helped!
okay so there's this guy, and i'm kinda in love with him. but we broke up like before the summer even started. and everywhere i see him, he's with a different girl. he's like a man-whore or sumthin lol. but i'm still soo in love with him. and i've told his best friend that and stuff. i need him so bad right now but he's so outta my league now. what can i do??
try to stay away from him as much as possible. the more you see him it will just make you miss him more. maby you should just use your friends as a support system, so you can talk about it to them. do somne things to get your mind off him. pick up a new hobby like drawing or photography. get some type of job. go out with other guys just for fun. but just remember that you need to get over him. life is to short to waste on some guy, even if you do love him. hope i helped
I liked this boy alot.. and alot of people said we were "together" cause i was always with him and he always held me and kissed me and he called me his baby and everything.. but he also had this lil thing with his ex gf but i kinda just ignored it.. cause he always asured me nothing of it.. well the other day he got mad at me.. and he told me he just wants to be friends for now cause he doesnt like anyone and doesnt want a girl.. Well I`m tryen my best to stay happy cause i mean we are still friends right? but i havent talked to him in like for ever and havent seen him! and if im his friend i still wana see him! and i guess he is with his ex right now.. so i uno they a prob fucking or something! and i Just need advice on how to maybe move on or feel happy or someone to talk to or something! cause im about ready to just give up and spend my whole life crying!
he probly is just really confused or something rite now. you say he had a thing with his ex and maby that skrewed him up a bit so he just wants some time off girls so he can get his thoughts straight? maby you should give him time and maby go out w/ a few other guys for a while. he most likly will come around sooner or later. hope i helped!
I've been friends with this guy for about 2 years now, and a few months ago he confessed to me that he really likes me. i told him i wasn't sure about my feelings (beyond friendship) and that i didn't want to rush anything, and he was okay with it. we don't see each other too often, but i enjoy the time we spend together. i'd be ready to take the relationship further because we really are a good match personality-wise and i do like him a lot, but the only thing that bothers me about him are his looks. i hate admitting that to myself and i'm ashamed that i let it stand in my way. he's a really great guy, but physically he's like a 3 on 10! i know i should be able to, well, look past his looks, but it's hard to imagine being more than friends with someone you aren't really attracted to. i'm just so angry with myself...but i can't help it...i can't see myself being able to introduce him to people as my boyfriend or kissing him. it drives me up the wall being unsure of what i want just because he's far from good-looking! i've never thought of myself as shallow; i've been with other guys who couldn't have been considered that cute and it didn't bother me because i liked them for their personality, but this guy is just so far from even that...what's worse is that recently i met another guy who's really cute and who seems interested in me, and even though i don't feel nearly as much of a connection with him as i feel with my other friend, i'm tempted by him because he's just...so much more tempting!! i don't want to hurt anyone and i don't want to make the wrong choice because something stupid is holding me back. sorry for this being so long, but if anyone has any advice i'd appreciate it VERY much!
u cant stand the thought of kissing him? you should talk to him and tell him you would just ike to be friends. shure you lke his personallity, but are you really attracted to it? my best guy friend is adorable and really really nice and hes in to the same things as me, but for some reason i realised i couldnt stand the thought of being b/f g/f w/ him. i ended up going out whith this guy (he wasnt egsactly the most beautiful male in the world either and was like 4 in. shorter than me)who was so freakin confident and he just didnt care what other people thought. i mean, one day he just walked up to me and told me i was the hottest woman he had ever seen (and im 13 lol). that takes gutts, and thats what made me attracted to him. he just didnt seem to care. but if you are attracted to his personality, then how about this: you try it out for a little while, or get to know the other guy befor you make an absolute dissision. i hope i helped! good luck
Im am an 18 year old female and my girlfriend is 19 and going off to college an hr away. She will also be participating in basketball too. She thinks it will be the same but I know it wont be. For the first couple weeks it will but when basketball starts it will take up more than enough time and she will be to bizzy to even call and I understand I just wish she would see my side. Plus her first year of college she had a problem with committment so I dont really know how to act now. when she was 15 min away she almost couldnt be faithful but now that an hr away what will happen? Can it work or will my heart be broken?
um you know, she wont be to busy to call. and from what you said about the "almost couldnt be faithful" thing? i wouldnt be suprised if she learned from that. maby she does see your side. but what do you want her to do, not ever go to college and live her dream just so she can be with you? have you ever heard the fraise "if you love her/him let her/him go and if it was ment to be they will return to you"? well, i think that kinda goes with this situation. maby you could be the one calling her more. you know, meeting a little past half way? you are right she will be busy but i bet you annything she will find time for you. hope i helped
hi
i am 16/f/uk
i used to cut last yr then i stopped cos things got a bit better in my life
but since about feb this yr i ave bn really depressed i cry my self to sleep every nite i ave started to cut again over the most stupid things. i cant find another way to let it all out. its like an addiction, when i get angry or upset i have an urge to cut.
my parents ave split up n i wanna be with my best boy mate hu is leavin to live in aussie and i wanna tell him how i feel i also hate the way i look i am over weight i have spots and i am just so low at the moment i dont want to see any doctors i just want some one to listen and not judge me
can some one tell me why im feeling and doing these things?
sorry its so long
you are probly feeling rather lonely rite now. probly you believe cutting is the only pain you can control? you see, you may believe that you are controlling the pain but he pain is controlling you. next time you feel like cutting, think of the positive and negative side of what you are doing.
positive side- you can controll how you feel about something, you get to forget about what is happining in your life for a few min.
negative- you could get an infection, you could be labled the rest of your life, you could end up hurting yourself in a far worse way then just bleeding, maby even something that could kill you, you could get caought then put in a phyke ward, you could make your life even worse.
after you go over these, ask your self, is it really worth it?
oh and about the doctor thing, they wont judge you. they will listen and provide you with ways to make your life better. maby a school counseler is a good place to start. hope i helped and good luck!
Ok, i had a boyfriend and we were totally in love, but we barely saw eachother (once or twice a month) because we both went to different schools and were in all honors and ap classes (aka TONS of hw). In the end he ended up breaking up with me because "I love you, but i really cant b attached to someone right now." We still ended up being best friends, but about a week ago he told me that he had never told his mom about us breaking up, and i asked him y. He told me that it was because he still loved me (after 2 months), and that he could never take down the picture of us that i gave him for valentines. We're going to the same school next year, and he wants to get back together then....should i go for it because i love him...or just not put the used gum back in my mouth?
if i were you i would go for it. he probly broke up with you because like he said he just didnt really have that much time for you and now that you 2 are going to the same school things should change. but are you shure you really love him? i mean, no offence, but if i were in love with someone and we broke up for a logical reason, i would go out with him again asap. there probly is a reason youre not shure about it. maby you like being friends more, or maby you just injoy being single. in anny case, maby you should ask your self what you really truely want. hope i helped good luck on deciding
a few days ago, my friend slept over at my house. she's worried about me because she thinks im starving myself!! i dont eat breakfast ; ususally have a pop tart or a bagel for lunch ; and mostly crackers for dinner. i dont think im starving myself.. but she does and my other friends are seeing it too. what do u think? im scared.. i dont want to be starved. please help .. ill rate high for good answers!!
well are you doing it just to loose weight? maby you just dont get that hungry anny more. i know i probly sound like a mom or something but you should make sure you are getting the vitemens and stuf you need or your hair and/or fingernails could fall out. you could also end up with a number of serious problums. if you eat when you are hungry, then no, you are not starving yourself. you should probly like, see a doctor or someone though just in case. maby a shrink could help too just in case your eating habbits are influnced by a phycalogical problum (i have no clue if i spelled that rite). well i hope i helped
OKay... so is there any way at all to get rid of a cold sore faster because I've been sick for like a week and usually when I'm sick I get cold sores, well, I have one, I woke up with it this morning and my boyfriend comes home tomorrow. He won't kiss me when I have a cold sore. And he's been gone for two weeks. Any suggestions?
um i dont know if you can get rid of it in one day but abreava (i think thats how you spell it) will make it heal a lot faster. but one thing, if you are sick do you really want your boyfriend to kiss you? i mean shure you must realy miss him and stuf but if he gets sick you might not be able to kiss him for even longer. well, good luck! hope i helped
I can be pretty shy. When it comes to guys and sometimes even making new friends. I am going into a new school now, and I just want to be able to have as many friends as possible. And I don't want to be standing there seeing all of these girls talking to guys just because they look confident and walk a certain way. Do you think that makes a big difference? Being confident in yourself and showing it? Or am i just hopeless? Let me know. How can I fix this?
thanks
well, holding your chin up slightly can make you look alot more confident. and yes, it makes a big difference, but you can fake confidence just from how you walk or stand. and dont be afraid to talk to people. just by simply asking someone their name can make you seem alot more friendly. just be like, "hi whats your name?" when they anser, you say, "my names _______. im a new student. well, i gess i will see you around, _____." its not as hard as it seems. i used to be really really really shy to the point where if a guy said hi to me i would just feeze but im getting over it, and you can too. hope i helped!
I just got my hair cut and i REALLY hate it,[[long story short im not a good "hair" expert and i didnt no the difference between angles and layers..]] Is there any Shampoo or ways to make it grow faster? [[im lucky this happend on summer vacation,and not in school!!]] Also,what is the avrage rate of hair growth with in 2 months? [[when school starts]] I have fine,soft,not-so thick hair if it even helps at all. Please Help!!
i dont know about shampoo, but i do know that getting good circulation to you scalp can make hair grow faster. like you can sit upside down and massage your head (i know it sounds stupid but it works). protiene can make it thicker, too. you can also go to a salon and get another hair cut so it looks better. there are things you can use to hide it too. like headbands, ponny tails, hats, etc. well annyway, hope i helped!