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Will it Work
Im am an 18 year old female and my girlfriend is 19 and going off to college an hr away. She will also be participating in basketball too. She thinks it will be the same but I know it wont be. For the first couple weeks it will but when basketball starts it will take up more than enough time and she will be to bizzy to even call and I understand I just wish she would see my side. Plus her first year of college she had a problem with committment so I dont really know how to act now. when she was 15 min away she almost couldnt be faithful but now that an hr away what will happen? Can it work or will my heart be broken?
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um you know, she wont be to busy to call. and from what you said about the "almost couldnt be faithful" thing? i wouldnt be suprised if she learned from that. maby she does see your side. but what do you want her to do, not ever go to college and live her dream just so she can be with you? have you ever heard the fraise "if you love her/him let her/him go and if it was ment to be they will return to you"? well, i think that kinda goes with this situation. maby you could be the one calling her more. you know, meeting a little past half way? you are right she will be busy but i bet you annything she will find time for you. hope i helped
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To be honest it isn't likely that this relationship will work for much longer now that she's moving away, especially if you think you might not be able to trust her because she was almost unfaithful before. Try and keep really busy and go out a lot, try and meet new people and make new friends. You might meet someone at home you want to have a relationship with, or you might gradually get over your girlfriend. If this happens make sure she understands you're broken up, because you never know, she might be writing on another advice website saying she's worried her boyfriend will cheat on her while she's away at college! Have you thought about sitting down with her and having a long talk about what you both want? It will be much easier if you sort out both your feelings now and be totally honest with each other, instead of worrying all the time she's away, and not knowing how she feels about the situation. I wish you good luck and hope it works out okay :)
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You never know until you try. Any relationship has to have both people working on it 24/7. If your friend is willing to work on the relationship I don't see why it can't work. Yes, basketball and school will take up a lot of time, but not all. Go to her games. You both will have to get interested in what the other is doing and work, work, work on it!
As far as being faithful goes...if you have forgiven her for a past indiscretion and she has done nothing since then to make you feel she is no longer committed then leave it in the past. People do make mistakes. It takes time to get over but can be forgotten if you stop dwelling on it. Good luck. :)
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Have faith in her. if she doesn`t call you, then call her. But respect the fact that she is trying to make something out of her life and doing what she loves. if you love her, you would want to see her happy and i`m sure she would feel the same about you. Give it time, and see how things go the first few weeks, or months.. if you see a change, sit down with her and talk about it, tell her that you feel that things between you`s are changing now that she has started something new. I`m sure she will understand, and if she really loves you, she will respect your feelings and hopefully try harder to keep your relationship a healthy and trustworthy one.
xoxo -- x3iLOVExoHiM
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