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Im melissa and im 16 living in Illinois. I'm very good at advice and i will try my best to help you as much as i can! I will give you advice that i think is right and appropriate. I will answer any question of any category.(: Thanks.
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Age: 16
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What are some fun sleepover games for two people?
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you can prank call people, webcam with people, dare, bake something and see whos baking is better, makeovers, (doing each others make-up or hair) singing and danceing (have a competition on whos better) playstation, call people, paint each others nails!(:
i know some aren't games but i couldn't really think of any fun ones haha
hope i helped, have fun!(:
melissa f/16
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How can I stop myself from eating so much? I dont have time to go to the gym. How I can I stop eating? food is so good. (link)
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haha i totally agree with you!
tell your mom to not buy junk good and don't buy so much food or tell your mom to set a rule in the house that your not aloud in the fridge or cabinet or something.
and if you wanna eat a lot, eat fruits and veggies(:
hope i helped, good luck!
if you have any questions askk
melissa f/16
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Hi, I'm in a situation. I have no job, car, home, money, and no one to turn to when I feel like I need some one the most. I live with guy and his family- he doesn't really support me with my struggles. My step parents will no longer let me live with them and they are not very helpful with what they could help with. My dad is psycho- he harasses me when I'm not at his house and had recently harassed my friends on facebook regarding me. When I found out, I blocked him. He has the mind of an immature ten year old. I've grown apart from most of my good friends. Only a few I still keep in contact with but they are not really supportive or helpful in any way. I have no one. NO support. NO anything. My boyfriend isn't really there for me. I don't think he knows how to be even though I tell him what I want and need. He doesn't do anything even proactive to help me with all these burdens on my shoulders. He usually goes on a tirade about me always wanting something when he's not in a mood to help and says "There's nothing I can do." He doesn't know how to be the supportive type. My step parents who have helped me all these years by giving me a home and taking care of me have the idea in their heads that I didn't care about them like they hoped I would. I did but they didn't know how to be supportive of my emotional struggles at school or with my peers back in my grade school years. They always had a negative approach towards me and it had always brought my mood all the way down. Instead of helping me understand how to deal with my mental troubles, they always nagged about something such as my grades dropping or me leaving a cup on a table for ten minutes without putting it in the dishwasher. When there are times when I really feel the need for some attention regarding my issues and no one is there or even tries to help, I get very agitated and negative towards everyone. My needs are Never met. They are always moved behind and neglected then everything gets worse and my head starts to feel like it's going to explode. I just want something some of you out there have, Someone out there who actually cares about how I feel and someone who could help. Someone to hear me out once in a while instead of just waiting for their turn to speak or to tend to their systematic schedules of their lives. (link)
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if i were in your situation, i would talk to my step parents and talk to then truthfully and seriously. tell them everything that's going on and tell them that you NEED them. tell them you mad a big mistake and you really need them to help you with everything, for you to live with them and food and stuff and tell them you're going to get a job as soon as possible to pay them back and see what they say.
if your step parents are cool enough to do that (wish i really hope they are) i would tell your boyfriend that everything is over because he doesn't care as much as you thought he had or as much as he had before.
and it your step parents don't let you live with them, ask your aunt, uncle, grandma, best friend! anything! and if they live in a different state, call them over the phone and tell them that you REALLY need them! that's what family is for, right?
i do care about what you and other people have to say and i love giving advice and i hope this helps!
there's this song my dad showed me, listen to the words! it's not the the situation your having but it may help, i hope! you may not like this music... but country is all i listen to haha, sorry(:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nt5LzrJZ34Q
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=etr7UtnUflM
hope everything works out, good luck honeslty!
if you have any questions comments or anything just ask, if you want my aim or anything, i will be more then happy to help you!(:
melissa!(:
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i just want to know what can be the most unpainful way to commit suicide , I know some of u will try to convince me not to do it … but i’m afraid a won’t change my mind .my life right know is a living hell I really can’t bare it anymore , the thing is that I have a mom who’s driving me mad even though I’m really sensible and a kind of mature no drugs no drinking and certainly no smoking cause I’m really interested in sport , school report aren’t bad at all I don’t know why I have to stand all these things , I’v been really patient but it’s just getting worst I’v never thought I’d end up like this …. However I just want some answers because I can’t afford a gun or anything like that so… by the way I’m 17 years old ps: sorry for my bad English (link)
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DON't commit suicide! i know you don't want to hear any of this BUT, i know someone who did this and it's not a very good thought or memory!
SOOOOOO many people are going to remember you like that... do you want that? do you know how many people are going to miss you and cry at night wishing you were there! my step mom gets on my nerves EVERY second of my life, but i have to deal with it, just because i hate her and she aggervates me, doesn't mean i'm going to commit suicide! you have to deal with your problems!
live your life, your only 17! you have so much to live! boyfriends, husbands, kids, friends, parties, EVERYTHING! so many things! and if you do something like this.. you will NEVER have a chance to do anything like this and it's a BIG sin! I'm a catholic and my religion believes that if you commit suicide or kill someone you go to hell! and i don't think you or anybody else wants that!
and anyway of commiting suicide would be painful to you and others! DON'T DO IT! that is a BIG mistake you have no idea! you may not know because your so mad or whatever, but it is a big deal!
i hope i helped and i REALLY hope i helped you change your mind!
EVERYONE will miss you and cry to death! you dont want that! everyone you know will think they did something to make you do this or your parents might think they didn't do a good job!
please change your mind!
if you have any questions ask!(:
melissa
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A kid from school that I've been hooking up with on and off with is coming to stay with me this weekend because my mom is going out of town. my question is what can we do. my house can get really boring and i dont want him to be bored but I dont have any ideas! (link)
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watch a moviee, maybe scary, pop popcorn and pretend your scared and jump on him or something and after the movie pretend your scared and he needs to go wherever you go haha. bake him something. makeout. go to a pool, hot tub! go in your bathtube with bathing suits(: & ask him what he wants to do to.! and don't let him alone and dont talk hours on the phone with your friend haha.!
have fun! good luck! hope i helped.
if you have any questions askkk!(:
melissa
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Hi im 15 f and I came on here around september looking for help about getting over a boy I liked and became real close to over the summer hes turning 17 soon anyways I still havent gottwn over him bc he was like the first guy who like me and we didnt do anything not a kiss just became super close the closest Ive gotten to a guy...itsbeen close to year and im going to the uk in 2days and he was going to come with thw group I was going with.but he had other stuff . Is there anythimg I can do to get over him bc I. Feel like hes the one who made me happy ive tried to get him back but no luck its awkward and I keep thinkinb and crying worst part is I know I missing the things infront ofme I need help plz:( (link)
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well tell him how you feel maybe or .. if not then you guys can still be friends!
and i was going through something you were going through also! i know it's going to be hard but DONT think about him for awhile! try to keep your eye on another guy! text or call some other guy!
and this is kind of weird but what makes me not cry is thinking "no matter how much i cry, it's not going to change the fact of the situation."
when im sad or mad i go in my room shut the door and blast music and not even think about it!
sooner or later your going to think back, like im doing right now, saying "why did i like this guy!" hahah!
and who cares, your life isn't about guys! there will be PLENTY other guys, your only 15!!! i guarentee MANY guys are going to be chasing after you! you have your friends, summer, and many other fun interesting things to worry about
hope i helped and good luck!(:
if you have any other questions just ask!(:
melissa(:
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So my uncle has me watching the children for the week because they don't have to go to summer camp. Problem is he won't let me put them in front of the TV. All day so I need to know what to do with them. They were 8 and 6 (link)
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play a board game, make an ice cream sundae for them, sing and dance and act goofy and funny to entertain them, tell funny stories, take a walk, go to the store and buy them something, if one of them is a girl, paint their nails or do their hair, go on a walk and somewhere nice take pictures of them, bring them to the pool, buy a slip n slide and have them play in there, water balloons fight, a little pool, .. haha theres a lot of things to do with them!
have fun, hope i helped, good luck!(:
if you have any questions feel free to ask!(:
melissa.
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Ok I'm 14 and I wanna masturbate but im not sure how to. Iv never done anything sexual before so I'm so totally lost on the subject. I know I sound so held in and stupid but I just wanna know. So don't judge me and just anser my fricken question how can I masturbate? Like I said iv never done anything like this so I need SPECIFICS!!!!!!!! (link)
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okaay well...
take off your pants or just put your hand in your pants and take one of your fingers and stick it up the middle vagina hole. go in and out and whatever feels good.
haha hope i helped, good luck!(:
if you have any questions feel free to ask(:
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I really need some ideas for the talent show to empress lots of people...I love making people laugh but I don't want to look stupid...If you can help me by giving me some ideas...that would be great:) (link)
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if you can make people laughm you won't make yourself look stupid! tell some jokes! act funny scenes from something! it's a talent show, it doesnt matter what you do! just have fun!(:
im sure you will have an awesome time and do great!
have fun! good luck! hope i helped!
if you have any other questions feel free to ask(:
-meliisa f/16
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My friend and I have a lot of history. Long story summarized...
I lied to her about a pregnancy from when i was 15 years old that I told her was aborted but really never became a viable pregnancy. The boy who impregnated me was my boyfriend of 2 years and we broke up when I was 15 around the time the pregnancy happened.
When I was 17 i met my friend, lets call her Sally. Sally and I were friends for 6 months before she started dating the boy who got me pregnant, he was a mutual friend of ours and rather than ask me for my blessing she just kind've told me it was happening. Realistically I would've liked to have just been asked and I would've said yes regardless, they've been dating for 2 years now.
I'm now in a new relationship with a guy that she thinks is horrible for me and recently him and my new guy got in a fight. I stood by her in that fight and he almost left me for it.
Now she's calling me a selfish bitch because I admitted to having lied and told her how I felt about her never having asked about my new boyfriend.
She says she cares and wants the best for me but she's also telling me that she doesn't want to be my friend because she doesn't want to be around my relationship with my boyfriend.
Now she's being rude to me and I don't want to show that it hurts because I feel like that will mean she's winning. I just don't understand how we went from being friends and thinking that we were standing by each other to being so hostile.
I am now 20 and she is 19. (link)
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i would tell her how you feel, tell you that one relationship shouldn't give your friendship away! friends should stick together through thick and thin!
who cares if she doesn't like your boyfriend? you're the one whos dating him.. but maybe you should listen to her on what she has to ssay about him and make sure he's a good guy and he's not cheating and stuff, if you know all that is fine, then it's okay!
"don't ever let anyone tell you he isn't good enough for you because honestly nobody knows how he makes you feel!(:"
i would talk to your bestfriend and tell her everything and don't lie because that's not a true best friend! best friens stick together and can tell each other ANYTHING! and if you were to tell her the truth about the pregnancy she can probably help you with whatever you need instead of lieing.
lieing will bring you down! and burry you, and in the long run they WILL find out!
hope i helped, good luck!(:
if you have any questions ask!
melissa!(:
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Do G-Strings give you butt acne cause I am 13 and I have been wearing G-Strings since I was 10? Is 10 to young?
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i am pretty sure it doesn't. if anything it may irritate it and make a rash.
i do think 10 is to young to be wearing underwear like that, but it's whatever is comfortable for you i guess.
hope i helped!(:
if you have any other questions feel free to ask(:
melissa f/16
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I hate my best friend, i'm not going to go into detail, it just all sums up into her being a bitch. Anyway, this is what happens when i get mad at her:
I'm nice, explain how i feel about the situation, ask why this happened. she doesn't text back for a few days, then pretends like nothing happened, i, just wanting to move on, pretend to. things go back to normal, another week goes by, she does something wrong again, and the situation repeats.
Because of this, I have a lot of anger towards her. I'm mad at her again, and i know in a few days she will text me.
Should I A. just never respond or B. bitch her out?
I am not being friends with her anymore (link)
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well it sounds to me that you guys don't have a close relationship anymore. if i were in your position i would stop talking to her for a while and see if she comes back to you... and if she doesn't, she wasn't that good of a friend.
do you really want that kinda friend, that always does something wrong and pretends like nothing happened and doesn't answer your texts? think about it!
hope i helped! good luck(:
if you have any other questions, feel free to ask!(:
melissa f/16
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This guy I love is 24 and in special needs. He is at my level of thinking and is an amazing guy, funny sweet caring and everything I want in a guy. But like I said he's 24 and no one thinks I should have anything to do with him. But if he thinks like an 8th grader its ok right? What do I do?????! Idk if he even loves me, but he's given me gifts so.........???????!!!! (link)
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if you really love this person and your right around his age, i would totally go for it!(:
but don't love someone just because they give you gifts, love them because you want to!
and if he has special needs... who cares! if you love him/ like him then go for it. dont let anyone bring you down, as long as your happy, thats all that matters!(:
"don't ever let anyone tell you he isn't good enough for you because honestly nobody knows how he makes you feel"
.... but if you are younger then him, i would date someone your own age or somewhere right around there!(:
good luck and hope everything works out.!(:
if you have any questions just ask(:
melissa
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I am 19 years old and have never had anything remotely close to a relationship. I completed my first year of college without anything even resembling a romantic encounter.
I know I am not unattractive. In fact, I know for a fact that there are guys out there who are attracted to me.
Honestly I feel as if I know why nothing has happened for me. I'm shy, quiet, and avoid conversation with the opposite sex. I just don't feel comfortable with most guys, and it causes me to try brush them off as fast as I can so I can get out of an awkward situation.
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your off to a good start at least knowing guys are attracted to you, if your attracted back, then go for them!
maybe you don't talk to them because there just not your type!
you will find someone, your only 19, you have your whole life ahead of you!(: don't stress about it, sooner or later you will fall in love!(:
hope everything works out and if you have any questions please ask!
hope i helped!(:
melissa
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well i did stop texting him for a week and he told me that he realized how much i mean to him then he came and give me a big bunch of roses, so i don't know really what to do, should i take a chance? (link)
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im sorry but i had a lot of inboes and im not sure what you story was, please recap me, sorry, thanks!(: and then i will help you!(:
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I am frm India 21yr old girl..i love a guy frm 5yrs n we are vry close frnds from 5yrs. After 5yrs he accept that he love me and wants to marry me. But the thing is that i feel very disappointd he nvr care for me n stay busy in chatting online with other girls on social ntwrking sites and when i said that you give much importance to your online frnds and not giving any importance to me he said that m too possessive..
What will i do i alwayz cry and want him to realize that it bothers me alot..i expect alot frm him as a lover bt he nvr satisfy me although we are in long distance relationship,n the only means of communication is phone,he avoid talking in phone donot pickup my calls..he don't understand my any feelings...i want him to realize that his behaviour hurts me alot..day by day m getting mentally sick.. Plzz help me please give me suggesstion (link)
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well in my opinion, everything you told us, tell him! and if he doesn't want to listen, then i would probably break up with him. do you want a guy that doesn't treat you right and talks to others girls but you? i dont think so. talk to him and tell him how you really feel!
good luck, i hope everything works out!(:
if you have any questions feel free to ask.
hope i helped!(:
melissa.
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me/18 bf/20
my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and we've had alot of "trust issues' eventually i found out that he was cheating on me with another girl so of course i confronted him about it, but he denied the whole thing and said he just firted with her he then confessed everything he ever did during the course of our relationship, he says that he just flirted with girls but i don't believe that this is true, he said that the only reason he did this was because he found out i was flirting with other guys behind his back, but he also cheated before he found out about this, i know it was wrong of me to flirt with other guys but i thought we looked past that but it seems we didn't because he told me that he "got close" with one of his friends too, i guess the reason i'm still with him is because he confessed everything and we could start again, but i'm still uncertain, what if he does it again? i love him so much but i don't trust him at all please help me (link)
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well if he's doing all of these things to you, then maybe it isn't a good idea to stick with him. because theres a good chance of him to keep hurting you. i don't think a guy that is so much into a girl would do something like that!
in my opinion i would talk to him seriously and tell him how you feel and maybe give him one more chance. maybe stop texting him or something for awhile and see if he comes to you!
hope i helped, good luck!(:
if you have any questions feel free to ask(:
melissa f/16
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What must i do my boy friend kisses me and starts taking my cloths off what must i do .. i think he wants to have sex and i also want to have sex what must i do????Im ef and female!!! and i want to have sex with hime...!!! (link)
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well depending on how old you are and how comfortable you are with him.
but you have to think baout it, if your a virgin, do you want to give it up to this guy?
and you better be careful that he's not just using you and he doesn't have any diseases.
maybe just stick with making out. if you want to do it that bad, maybe just makeout in your bra and underwear or something haha!(:
hope i helped and good luck! if you have any questions, come back!(:
melissa f/16(:
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I drept about talking to the guy im totally in love with (link)
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instead of dreaming about it, how about act on it and actually go up to him and talk to him!(:
you may be shy at first but what is the worst that can happen? everyone is shy to talk to someone they like and have dreams but you need to be brave enough to actually go up to them and talk to them! because if you don't then nothing will happen. who knows maybe he's to shy to come up to you and talk.
good luck! hope i helped, if you have any questions, feel free to ask.
melissa f/16
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Is 12 to young to wear a G-String (thong)? PS I'm actually 13 (link)
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i think you should stay with the bikini underwear because if people see you they might call you a slut, which your prob not, but they might think that. i would wait until im older to do that.
but it's whatever your comfortable in to, but i would wait if i were you.. if anything/
hope i helped.
if you have any other questions feel free to ask!(:
melissa f/16
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