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I need someone in my life to turn to. [LONG]
Hi, I'm in a situation. I have no job, car, home, money, and no one to turn to when I feel like I need some one the most. I live with guy and his family- he doesn't really support me with my struggles. My step parents will no longer let me live with them and they are not very helpful with what they could help with. My dad is psycho- he harasses me when I'm not at his house and had recently harassed my friends on facebook regarding me. When I found out, I blocked him. He has the mind of an immature ten year old. I've grown apart from most of my good friends. Only a few I still keep in contact with but they are not really supportive or helpful in any way. I have no one. NO support. NO anything. My boyfriend isn't really there for me. I don't think he knows how to be even though I tell him what I want and need. He doesn't do anything even proactive to help me with all these burdens on my shoulders. He usually goes on a tirade about me always wanting something when he's not in a mood to help and says "There's nothing I can do." He doesn't know how to be the supportive type. My step parents who have helped me all these years by giving me a home and taking care of me have the idea in their heads that I didn't care about them like they hoped I would. I did but they didn't know how to be supportive of my emotional struggles at school or with my peers back in my grade school years. They always had a negative approach towards me and it had always brought my mood all the way down. Instead of helping me understand how to deal with my mental troubles, they always nagged about something such as my grades dropping or me leaving a cup on a table for ten minutes without putting it in the dishwasher. When there are times when I really feel the need for some attention regarding my issues and no one is there or even tries to help, I get very agitated and negative towards everyone. My needs are Never met. They are always moved behind and neglected then everything gets worse and my head starts to feel like it's going to explode. I just want something some of you out there have, Someone out there who actually cares about how I feel and someone who could help. Someone to hear me out once in a while instead of just waiting for their turn to speak or to tend to their systematic schedules of their lives.
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We all need someone in our lies that we can turn to and talk to about anythign someone we can trust not to tell a soul about our secrets and someone we need to vent to... if you would like you can email me at stephiesadvice@aol.com I would be happy to listen to your problems give you advice and most importantly be a friend... good luck on everything
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if i were in your situation, i would talk to my step parents and talk to then truthfully and seriously. tell them everything that's going on and tell them that you NEED them. tell them you mad a big mistake and you really need them to help you with everything, for you to live with them and food and stuff and tell them you're going to get a job as soon as possible to pay them back and see what they say.
if your step parents are cool enough to do that (wish i really hope they are) i would tell your boyfriend that everything is over because he doesn't care as much as you thought he had or as much as he had before.
and it your step parents don't let you live with them, ask your aunt, uncle, grandma, best friend! anything! and if they live in a different state, call them over the phone and tell them that you REALLY need them! that's what family is for, right?
i do care about what you and other people have to say and i love giving advice and i hope this helps!
there's this song my dad showed me, listen to the words! it's not the the situation your having but it may help, i hope! you may not like this music... but country is all i listen to haha, sorry(:
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hope everything works out, good luck honeslty!
if you have any questions comments or anything just ask, if you want my aim or anything, i will be more then happy to help you!(:
melissa!(:
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Hey, So I never been in your exact situation but I can definitely relate to that feeling of loneliness and burdens. Its very hard to dig deep in yourself to get the will power needed to stand up for yourself and get your life together. The first thing I suggest is maybe therapy, someone you can trust a family member maybe even reach out to one of those prior good friends, you surprised maybe they feel the same way. Talking things out sounds corny but believe me feeling something and saying it out loud is sooo different.
It will help you as the first step to better yourself for you. And of course the support you emotionally need. The next thing I think is to come to terms with your reality and accept it. Psycho dad, non understanding step parents, non supported boyfriend, etc. you can not change what people think, say, do. Give it your best to express how you feel and if you know in your heart you tried all you can will little response, then you have to just focus on your self 100 percent. Lastly is looking at groups in many community center in your area where you can meet other people build a better support system and start building your life. Life is too short to sit around with burdens that are not even your fault. Remember its your life good or bad choices they are yours and you learn from everything in your life. Hope you feel better.
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