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anger build up
I hate my best friend, i'm not going to go into detail, it just all sums up into her being a bitch. Anyway, this is what happens when i get mad at her:
I'm nice, explain how i feel about the situation, ask why this happened. she doesn't text back for a few days, then pretends like nothing happened, i, just wanting to move on, pretend to. things go back to normal, another week goes by, she does something wrong again, and the situation repeats.
Because of this, I have a lot of anger towards her. I'm mad at her again, and i know in a few days she will text me.
Should I A. just never respond or B. bitch her out?
I am not being friends with her anymore
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Look, the coin of the realm to women is attention. So if you have nothing to do with her from here on in then she will get the message. Until then, you are just enabling her.
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Why don't you just talk to her in person? Texting can always be messy, especially if she is not responding for days. If you feel more comfortable writing down how you feel then do it, but you should give her what you wrote down in person so you know she will respond. If she really is your friend she will respond to this and try and make it work. If not, then it's her loss and at least you'll have no regrets and know you tried!
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You should respond, simply and polietely and say
"I can't handle it when you ignore me and then txt me agian and pretend that nothing has happened.
I've decided I can't continue with this friendship any more. Please do not text me agian."
You are anrgy, and that's fine, but you don't have to be a bitch about it. You don't have to yell or scream. You don't have to try and get even with her or hurt her. You don't have to be rude to her and give her the silent treatment.
All of those approaches are mean, petty and immature.
Instead, tell her what you choice is and why it is.
"I'm choosing not to be your friend anymore because I don't like how you handle it when we disagree."
And repeat.
She'll try to argue with you. She'll try to drag you back in. She'll try to bait you. If you want to be a mature, respectful person, just repeat your choice.
"I'm choosing not to be your friend anymore. Please stop contacting me."
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I've had problems with friends in this way as well. But my best solution is to consider the friendship. Is she worth keeping around at all. Do you have fun times that outweigh the bad times. If the answer is yes then keep the friendship "simple". Don't rely on her, or have expectations regarding your friendship. Tell her what she does is bothering you if she fixes it great if she doesn't just keep her at a distance. If the good does not outweigh the bad then just be on your way. Don't waste time bitching at her. It may or may not make you feel better but if your friend is anything like mine she will find a way to turn the tables as if you are the one in the wrong. Life is too short and you don't have time for all this negativity. Find people that uplift you and are a positive influence in your life. If she values you as a friend she will change her ways. If not then perhaps she wasn't really a good friend but more of an opportunist. I hope things work out because real true life long friends are hard to come by.
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well when you guys had a problem you should have asked her personally instead of texting her, this is more effective and in that way she can't ignore you. For now if you do want to be friends with her you should explain the situation to her and tell her that if she is gonna continue acting the way she is then you're not gonna be friends with her and besides she doesn't seem like a true friend but that's up to you to decide and there are billions of people in the world that you can be friends with you don't really need this particular one
best of luck
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well it sounds to me that you guys don't have a close relationship anymore. if i were in your position i would stop talking to her for a while and see if she comes back to you... and if she doesn't, she wasn't that good of a friend.
do you really want that kinda friend, that always does something wrong and pretends like nothing happened and doesn't answer your texts? think about it!
hope i helped! good luck(:
if you have any other questions, feel free to ask!(:
melissa f/16
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If you do not want to be her friend anymore then tell her but dont do either of the things listed above... how about option c. call her and tell her that you cant go back to pretending that you are fine and okay and then tell her that you cant be friends any more and leave it at that... good luck and I am sorry you have to lose a friend
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