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hello :)my name is amanda.
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ok well my b.f is comin to spend the day with me at my neighborhood TODAY!!! like a ina few hours and i dont no what the hell lwe are going to do !!! PLEASE we dont live close to anything ,,,,and he doesnt have a car sooooo please like i mean litearally we have nothing near us NOTHING and my neighborhood..is a freakin circle,,,,!! HELP PLEASE IT URGENT ..im taking any advice anything
ok well if you guys are gonna hang out inside you could watch a movie or just sit and talk cuz that's really good for relationships. if you guys want to hang out outside you could go for a walk or like, ride bikes or something. just hanging out is cool because it gives you guys a chance to talk and maybe even sneak in a kiss ;]
hahah hope this helps =]
i cant see my best friend ever again. except school but were going to different schools next year... so never again and if she goes some where, i cant. we're in the same group of friends and i can never go with them. my mom always screams and yells at me on how much she hates her. all because she made my neighbor and my mom get in a fight over stupid shit, and she says shes disrespectful but shes not. the last time my mom saw here was like a month or two ago. my mom says so much bad stuff about her and she ends up thinking its totally worse or something thats not. i say anything about it and she yells at me then i end up pissed off and cryin for the rest of the day. well my friend is the only person to really understand me. we get along so good and she really did save my life. i used to cut and was in really bad depression and she helped me threw it. then my mom comes and screams at me and it gets worse. the only reason i feel like shit and got into depression and everything is because of my mom. i lost all my old friends they didnt understand me at all they would avoid me and im in so much trouble for that to. and how i act she blames my friend and she blames her for EVERYTHING i do which has nothing to even do with my friend. my mom blames her for me gettin depressed and likeing all the gothica stuff and style and so much that HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH MY FRIEND. my moms making me loose the only person i really care for and i live for and she helps me and i started loving life for a while till my mom said i was seein her to much then my life went straight down to hell. my friend is the ONLY person to understand me i love her. im crying my eyes out so bad right now even me and my mom got in the biggest fight because i saw her today and got so happy. i just feel dead i hate my life so much now but if i say anything about this to my mom or a counselor it will only get worse. i did tell my mom all this well yelled it and thats why im screamin and cryin so hard right now. i dont no what to do. im 14 female please help me its serious.
ok, well you have to sit down with your mother and you both have to calmly talk about this. there is no way you can ever get this resolved if all you guys do is yell at each other. you just have to sit her down and tell her "mom, i love this friend so much. she is the only one who understands me. i tell her everything. she holds all my trust. mom, i really need to see her again. i know that you don't like her, but right now what i need is my one true friend." besides that, you have to come clean and tell your mom about how you feel about *her*. you have to tell her about how you blame her for your depression and how she makes you feel horrible when she yells at you. if you can't say all this to your mom, you can tell your counselor and then she'll tell your mom. i hope that your mom realizes how much this means to you because it seems like this girl you're not allowed to see is a true friend. i really hope that you can fix things =]]]]
i dont know what to do. my dads in the military and it looks likes we are going to move. i like this guy alot, im not sure i he likes me and i dont know what to do. its hard for me to talk to him and i dont even thinks he knows im moving, but what do i do. im driving my self crazy... i dont know if its even worth it to go after him, im like head over heals and i want him to think of me the same way but if i tell him im moving then ik he wont even try to get involved. but i want him so badly?
i just need to know what i can do to get over this or if its even worth it to go after him. (btw) im moving in like 3 months if that helps.
well, the only this is that you're moving in three months. even if you did tell him and he felt the same way, you would be moving way too soon for the relationship to even get off the ground. i don't think you should go after him just because it would be a long-distance relationship. long-distance relationships put such a strain on people, and it would be harder for you both because you'd never be able to see him. it's probably best to just let it go.
hope this can help you =]]]
does anyone have pics for where to put it on to look more alert and have bigger eyes?
kay well i don't have any pics but you should put it on the lower rim of your eyes and they'll look HUGE. hope it works =]]
My brothers girlfriends 1yo Cat is very frisky and the apartment she lives in wants her to get rid of Tigger because he's having sex with all the other cats. Well that's really sad so I sad I would take him but my parents don't know about it. I'm already cleaning my room, being a perfect angel and paying for te expenses of the cat.
I need to make a very good arguement so i can keep Tigger because I dont want him put down
well, despite the whole thing with the having sex with the other cats, tell your parents the other things that make tigger a great cat. maybe do some research so they'll see how responsible you are, and tell them about taking care of it and cleaning the bedroom and all that. if you explain to them calmly why you would like to keep the cat, and then show them the research and the clean room. i hope you get to keep it =]]]
like i was saying before i carved my friend name into my arm because i used to cut i stop two days ago but she got me introbule which it help me and i try to talk to her but she wont even text back and everytime i see her in school it hurts because i was so close to her i still am so what should i do to to get our friendship backs oh yeah her friends think i stalk her so her friends dont really help me out
ok so i had given you advice before about you and your friend. it's good that you want to get her back because it shows you really care about her. look, you need to try and get her alone. try and talk to her at school. do anything. she was your really good friend and she really helped you. you even said that. so it really shows how much you both really care about each other. i think that she will probably need some time if she doesn't reaspond right away. but still try. try texting her more. or i would say leave her a really heartfelt voicemail. tell her why you reacted the way you did, what you felt, and what you feel now. tell her that you've stopped cutting and that you realize now that she actually really helped you. you need to deeply, truly apoligize and tell her that you know now that she did the right thing to help you.
i really hope that everything turns out ok. just know that you can come to me for advice about stuff like this anytime. tell me how it goes =]
just a simple question. what is cheating. cause honeslty i don't know. i mean i know sex and kissing is but..is there more to cheating than physically? cause sometimes i feel like i might be cheating on my boyfriend even though i've never done anything sexually with anyone else.
well i guess that i think cheating beyond physical stuff is just thinking about doing physical stuff with another person. hope it helps =]
My best friend of a year (and ex boyfriend of 2 years[he dumped me]) OFFERED (I excepted) to let me drive his car so we could run some errands together for his dad. He just fixed it up and got it on the road a week ago. He's been uber close with me recently, we play video games, have tickle wars, tease eachother and such. Everyone thinks he has feelings for me but he claims he doesn't and isn't looking for a relationship untill after highschool. Could the fact taht he let me drive his car, and that he won't let other friends/family members (except for an elete few) drive it, be a sign that he likes me?
it very well might be. just don't rush it. it might take a while for him to show you and others his true feelings. just let it wait a while. who knows??
hahah i hope this helped you =]]]
ok, to start off, im a dude. now, my slight little problem is this, me and this girl have been goin out off and on for 3 years. and this last time she told me she was doin drugs, and she knows im againist that, so i said you know you shouldnt really do that. well she gets MAD. and we break up and all that. well thats been 3 weeks ago and im hurting more than i ever have over a girl. i mean i LOVE this girl. so she goes, i mean right after we broke up, and starts makin out with my best friend, and then finally gets hooked on his one of his friends. so then her and this bisexual pothead starts goin out. which sucks for me, cause i still love her. so can anyone give me advice on how to handle this whole thing? cause its to much for me.
alright, to start, i just wanna say i know i'm young, but i go to school with alot of people who have problems like this, so i'm gonna try and help you to the best of my ability.
ok, so this really is love. and it probably really, really hurts you because you really care about her. well, you have to try and talk to her. i doubt that the relationship that she's in right now is actually serious. it's probably just a little fling because she was pissed off about what you said about the drugs. well guess what? you were right. you were just looking out for her, and you need to let her know so she can understand that. try to rebuild the relationship with her. she is probably hurting just as much as you are right now. because deep down inside, she probably still loves you too. you have to tell her the way you feel. and you have to get her help too. you don't want her drug use to get out of control, so please try to help her. i hope that you guys can work everything out and get back together because i realize that you love her.
i hope that i could help you out =]]]
OK hi. I am dating this kid that goes to a school that is almost an 1 hours and 30 mintues away from me. I can never see him. the last time i seen him was in 2007. and worst of all my best friend was hanging out with him one night and he told me she tried to kiss him. should i trust him or dump him??? and also my parents don't like him jsut because he is 2 years almost 3 years older then me. What should I do
ok, well first you have to ask yourself how you really feel about him. are the strong feelings still there or are you guys just dating and there's no spark? it probably doesn't help that you guys are in a sort-of long distance relationship and you never see him. and not seeing each other since 2007 is a long time; it can put a big strain on relationships.
next, who do you trust more? your best friend or your boyfriend? i don't think that a best friend would lie to you, and you haven't seen your boyfriend in such a long time that maybe he was interested in someone new.
if i were in your situation, i would break-up with him. i would want to be in a relationship with someone who i could see all the time. also, someone who i could talk to and trust. you can't trust someone who tried to kiss your best friend. that's just messing with your feelings and it's not right. you deserve to be with someone who treats you like you are special. someone who will treat you like you're his one and only. someone who you can see alot. the age difference is also probably somethig that is putting a strain on the relationship. i thnk the best thing to do is say goodbye to him and try to find someone new. try and find someone who you will see alot, and someone who you truly have strong feelings for.
i hope i could help you make a decision
tell me how everything works out =]
14/f
k well i kinda have 2 questions here.
1:
like me and my friend dante got really close this year as friends but just friends and i'm always laying on him when i'm tired like just putting my head on his shoulder. i mean i'm just really comfortable around him.but is that wierd though because we are just friends?
2:
this guy i'm talking to right now, steven, is a really sweet guy and we both like eachother but were not going out just yet because he just got out of a realationship and wants a break. well taht's what he told me. i only get to see him in the morning so i kinda want to know how to be more flirtatious and alittle more forward without seeming awkward you know?
thank you so much =]
1. i don't think that it's weird that you put your head on his shoulder and are really comfortable areound him. it's good to ahve really close but not crush guy friends. it sounds like its almost a brother sister relationship which is not strange at all!! =]
2.okay, so flirting. guys notice little things, like shy smiles and a cute little wink or something, you know? and then maybe if you're sitting next to him you can move a little closer to him or lay your head on his shoulder, that's super cute. just don't try to over-do it. make sure it's natural. if you try too hard he'll notice and that's a major turn-off for guys. cute little jokes and stuff are cool too.
i hope this answers your question =]]
13/f
(please dont comment on my age)
I just got a boyfriend, but he's in a different school than me, and he's also a year older.
we really like each other, but do you think its realistic that we could stay together for a while? we live pretty close together (bout a 20 minute bike ride), and we take the bus together.
So do you think it might work out?
(im going to his school next year)
Thanks:)
yeah i think it will work out. it's not really a long-distance relationship, so i really wouldn't worry about that. and just because he doesn't go to your school, it doesn't mean that he can't be your boyfriend. it's good that you take the bus together so you can see each other every morning during the school week. just make sure that you guys hang out at least once a week just to see each other so the feelings won't fade. i think it will totally last until next year. i hope i answered your question =]]]]
I don't know what to do about him, i love him so much and i thought he loved me to but he actually likes one of my best friends and i hate this because to me thats all the talk about=( well they only talk about to me is how much they love each other and i don't know what to do because i seriously like him and i want him to be mine. not trying to be selfish but i love him and she doesn't deserve him she can be so mean! i hate this!!
i know how you feel. trust me, i know how much it really sucks. i think that you need to talk to your friend about it. tell her how you feel. tell her that you're happy for her but you really do have strong feelings for this guy. and i know it's going to be hard, but its probably best to also tell this guy how you feel. you should tell him that it really hurt you because you thought that he liked you but he really liked one of your best friends. you need to get your feelings out in the open. its not good to keep those types of things bottled up!!
tell me how it goes =]]]
i really hope it works out!!
15/f i havent had a bf in such a long time and when i had the bf i like him and as soon as i dated him i started feeling uncomfortable and stopped liking him so immediately broke up w/him...
now thers a good guy for me and i know hes good and thers nothin wrong w/him except that hes not exactly that hott but hes prett sweet but ii feel like thers jus somthin wrong w/him so i dont like him... whats wrong w/me?? im soo picky cause every guy thats good for me i dont like!!!
well, first just let your guard down. maybe the reason why you feel like you're too picky is because you're afraid of being hurt. were you ever in a relationship that made you fall hard and then you ended up getting hurt or hurting someone else? if you really feel like there's something wrong with him, just take everything really slow.
as far as him being not really hot but pretty sweet, that's actually a really good thing. not every guy has to look like super, super hot or anything. and a guy who is really sweet is one of the best guys out there. if he makes you happy, then i'd say go for it. you guys might become totally inseparable or something, which would be great.
trust me, there's nothing wrong with you. you're just confused and cautious about who you give your heart to right now.
i hope everything works out =]
tell me how it goes, k?
16/f
ok so i kinda have a thing with this guy. well we havent done anything yet.. but we are planning on it. we both like eachother and we are really good friends. we went out like 2 summers ago also and have liked eachother on and off a lot. he texts me all the time and stuff. but theres like a few other guys in the picture. theres this one guy that i used to like (he used to like me too and he asked me out but i said no) and anyways we recently started talking again and we are going to hang out tomorrow or something. hes really cute. theres another guy that i talk to on the phone a lot. we're really close. hes liked me for like forever and i kinda feel like im leading him on but i do really like talking to him. then theres this other guy that i like every single freaking time i see him. its like an addiction. i only see him like once a month though. and im pretty sure the same thing happens to him. i can just tell by the way he looks at me. we hooked up like 3 months or so ago. anyways, like i text and flirt with lots of other guys and stuff but i feel like all this isnt really fair to the first guy. im not actually going out with him though. i just dont want to hurt him again because last time i went out with him i broke up with him and started going out with another guy right after that and it completely destroyed our friendship. what should i do? im single but i feel like this is wrong.
it's totally normal to flirt with more than one guy (even if you're in a relationship) and it's totally normal to *like* more than one guy. the only thing is, you can't choose between any of them. before you even decide which one you would rather be with, you need to decide if you really even want to be in a relationship right now. ask yourself if you're looking for a long-time serious relationship or a short-term fling. once you've figured that out, you really just have to look at all of those guys and figure out which one you deeply care about most. which one makes you feel the happiest? which one is the sweetest to you? and which one could you really picture yourself with? i really hope you can figure everything out
tell me how it goes =]
im a 15 year old guy.
i recently came home drunk and my mom called the ambulence (wasn't even really needed). After talking to my mom about my grades and me not going out for awhile (so i already felt like shit), I go check the mail and I got a bill for $730 from the hospital (she thought it would be like $150 max). I havent told my mom about it yet and i dont know how im going to. I dont know how im going to pay that bill, my mom sure as hell doesnt have the money and i dont either. I feel like im really fucking up my life, i just keep getting deeper and deeper in this shit and i want out. I keep getting caught ditching school (which im not going to do anymore). I used to really be a good kid but in the past 6 months all that has changed. Every time i mess up i think it cant get any worse and then it does. I know if i keep going down this path my life will be trash, and i dont want that I want a fresh start but I know I won't get one, so i really dont know what im going to do.
well, think about how your life used to be. you weren't always this way. you said yourself that you used to be a really good kid. so why did you get this way? now, seriously, really take a look at yourself. is there something in the last six months that has changed your attitude or your perspective on things? is that the reason why you've changed? you really have to step back as if you are someone else and look at yourself. then think about how you used to be. try to be that person. go to school, stay out of trouble, etc.
as for the hospital bill thing, i'm pretty sure that the insurance will cover most of it, so i don't think you should worry too much about that.
i hope you figure everything out =]
16/f
theres this guy. hes my new friend. he likes me though. and i dont feel that way about him anymore. i liked him for a few days, but not anymore. anyways, he asked me out and i told him no because my best friend likes him. but now he keeps texting me every night and calling me and asking me to hang out. hes nice, but hes SO ANNOYING. my other guy friends stopped being friends with him because he is just so freaking annoying. i cant stand it anymore. i mean i guess i can be like that sometimes when i like a guy, but usually he likes me back and he doesnt mind that we talk so much. (not to sound cocky or anything, and i also like make sure the guy like texts me first sometimes and stuff like that, i like it when the guy makes the first move to talk). but anyways i never text this guy first and he is so annoying. im like flattered when he calls me pretty and tells me how much he likes me. but i already told him it cant work out. i didnt really tell him i didnt like him though. i just told him my friend liked him. i dont want to hurt his feelings. what should i do?
i think that the best thing to do is just let him down gently. don't totally crush him or you'll really break his heart. tell him that you feel more comfortable being just friends, and let the relationship just stay that way. but if he doesn't leave you alone, you might just have to stop hanging out with him. you can still talk to him, just try to keep a distance.
i really hope it works out =]]
so about half an hour ago i was watching 20/20 on ABC and they talked about a disorder where people pull out their hair and eyelashes and eyebrow hairs. i missed what it was called because it was so long but i know it started with a T. if anyone knows what this was can you let me know?
thanks
it's called Trichotillomania or hair pulling disorder
hope i helped =]
hey i'm 14/f
and i need tips for weight loss.
i weigh 100 lbs!!! (don't laugh at me)
i know i need to lose some weight.
or if you can give me tips for avoiding food, not eating and making your family believe your okay, that'd be GREATO!
first i just want to say that being 100 pounds at 14 is completely NORMAL. there is nothing wrong with you at all, and you are far from being overweight. second, please don't try to starve youorself and then try to make your family believe that you actually are eating. just please don't, because that could lead to anoerexia which is not good.
what i can tell you is that instead of avoiding food, just try to eat healthier. drink more water, eat more fruits and veggies, yogurt, stay away from fast food, eat more lean meats and nuts, lean fish, wheat breads etc.
for exercise just try to do some simple workouts for your core muscles. running on a treadmill always hleps too =]
just don't try to overdo it. overworking yourself is not healthy!!
i hope this helps you out
stay healthy =]]
alright so lately i havent been eating a lot at all. i dont like my weight whatsoever. so ive been trying to eat healthy.
i drink a lot of water and all that as well.
but it seems like no matter what i eat, healthy or not, small or big, my stomach like bloats and i look insantly fatter.
so ive just been pretty much cutting off eating almost completely.
i would never make myself throw up, but is there a possibility that i might become annorexic?
im really scared to eat anything.
please help
please, please get help before it gets worse. saying "im really scared to eat anything." is not a good sign. the good thing is that you're not too far off in anorexia, you're just starting out. just please, don't let this get any worse. talk to your parents, friends, school counselors, doctors, ANYBODY who might be able to help you get back on track. remember that there is a big difference between being anorexic and dieting. please stay healthy!! be careful =]