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friend and mom
i cant see my best friend ever again. except school but were going to different schools next year... so never again and if she goes some where, i cant. we're in the same group of friends and i can never go with them. my mom always screams and yells at me on how much she hates her. all because she made my neighbor and my mom get in a fight over stupid shit, and she says shes disrespectful but shes not. the last time my mom saw here was like a month or two ago. my mom says so much bad stuff about her and she ends up thinking its totally worse or something thats not. i say anything about it and she yells at me then i end up pissed off and cryin for the rest of the day. well my friend is the only person to really understand me. we get along so good and she really did save my life. i used to cut and was in really bad depression and she helped me threw it. then my mom comes and screams at me and it gets worse. the only reason i feel like shit and got into depression and everything is because of my mom. i lost all my old friends they didnt understand me at all they would avoid me and im in so much trouble for that to. and how i act she blames my friend and she blames her for EVERYTHING i do which has nothing to even do with my friend. my mom blames her for me gettin depressed and likeing all the gothica stuff and style and so much that HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH MY FRIEND. my moms making me loose the only person i really care for and i live for and she helps me and i started loving life for a while till my mom said i was seein her to much then my life went straight down to hell. my friend is the ONLY person to understand me i love her. im crying my eyes out so bad right now even me and my mom got in the biggest fight because i saw her today and got so happy. i just feel dead i hate my life so much now but if i say anything about this to my mom or a counselor it will only get worse. i did tell my mom all this well yelled it and thats why im screamin and cryin so hard right now. i dont no what to do. im 14 female please help me its serious.
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I'm sorry for the late reply =( I don't seem to have enough time to get on here nowadays.
But I must say that I know 95% of what you're going through. My best friend Angela is my life, no joke. I have clinical depression (before I even knew such a word existed) that my mom refuses to believe and told me to "snap out of", I go through repetitive self injury everyday, and I hate life. But the only person that seems to get me through is Angela (and sometimes Andrew). But after my mom found out I pierced my lip, she blamed Angela for that (stupid, I know). And now I'm not allowed to see Angela at all and she's the only person I gave shit about. I see her at school, but other than that, she has to hide when I meet "friends" at the theater and at club activities. I do believe it's straining out friendship to a certain point right now.
Parents do believe that their child's biggest influence is his/her peers. And that's probably what your mom thinks as well.
It didn't work for me, but you can give it a try: tell your mom that you are depressed because of a chemical imbalance in your brain, not because of your friend. Tell her that your friend stopped you with your cutting and that she should give your friend some kudos for that. Ask her to please understand that it's not just a teenage phase and that if she wants you alive and well, she shouldn't be so blaming of your friend.
From what I can see, you have two choices. 1) Talk to your mom or dad again. If it works out, fabulous. If it doesn't, here's choice 2) Meet her at the theater, mall, wherever you want to. Just make sure to have few people go along with you. Actually, 3) Write. Sing. Draw. Dance. Whatever. It'll keep you distracted while helping you vent.
Even if you guys do go to different schools next year, you'll still be able to talk to her on the phone, e-mail, etc. Strong friendships last, and hopefully yours will, too. If you want to vent or talk or just scream at someone, feel free to email me at xethereal.imbalance@yahoo.com
Emily
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ok, well you have to sit down with your mother and you both have to calmly talk about this. there is no way you can ever get this resolved if all you guys do is yell at each other. you just have to sit her down and tell her "mom, i love this friend so much. she is the only one who understands me. i tell her everything. she holds all my trust. mom, i really need to see her again. i know that you don't like her, but right now what i need is my one true friend." besides that, you have to come clean and tell your mom about how you feel about *her*. you have to tell her about how you blame her for your depression and how she makes you feel horrible when she yells at you. if you can't say all this to your mom, you can tell your counselor and then she'll tell your mom. i hope that your mom realizes how much this means to you because it seems like this girl you're not allowed to see is a true friend. i really hope that you can fix things =]]]]
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WOW reading this i was in amzemnt...i have a friend like that...actually im the friend lol her parents dont like me for what ever reasons....but i think no since your scared to talk anybody about it..the only thing is...its going to be hard..dont bring her....just bring your friend home...and sya mom im done just for one in your life listen to me i want to telly ou somethin.and explain everything to her..there is no other way to seolve it besides to get them together and make your mom see that everything she blamed he for has nothing to do with you r friend...and tyr to make her understand htat your friend is everything to you and she is the only perosn that meakes you feel right....beacuse if you dont do this she'll just keep always blaming her and it wil never stop..just make sure you dont get her pissed....of and i know its harder done then said but thats the only thing i cant tell you to do ..yea shell be pissed of that shes in your house but just be like shes not leaving......and i need you to see somehting mom...and shes your mom she should undertand...i wish you the best i feeel for you =) dont cry eveyrhtin gis going to be ok =) wish you both luck
xoxo y.b Good Luck!! and remmber nothign is ever more important thena you only besat friend and your mother.=0 you can choose between then so you must ry to have both
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