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i have no valentine... im so alone too.. what should i do?? i have a crush on this one boy but i don't know if he feels the same way. I havent seen him in a while either because im homeskooled and well.. i just feel so alone. What should i do?
sry this is son long...

v-day is the last day you should feel alone on.
I suggest you go out, and look for someone who you might be interested in. You can keep tabs on the one you have a crush on, but if you can't keep in touch with him, or something, then it would be better to have a backup boy. Just don't be afraid to make the first move. Hope I helped you out some:)Good luck:D
*Diamyn*

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I finally got over the man of my life, I've liked him for such a long time(not the whole time, but I always went back to him). And I'm not totaly over him, but I just don't have a crush on him. Anyways, I started becoming friends with a new guy and as I got to know him I realized that I kind of liked him because he is really nice, sweet, and cute too. But after awhile I kind have thought that he reminded me of the other guy I liked. And I don't know if I still like him or not because I don't want to like him just because he reminded me of someone else. And now I realize that its not that he reminds me of him just that I like him for the same reasons why I liked the other guy and I'm not sure if that's the same. I still get butterflies when I see him, but sumthing is saying that it's wrong, should I still like him?

In my opinion, i think you should definitely still like him, but if it's really bothering you, and you have this feeling, then I would have to say for you to go with your first thought.
Your ex and this new guy are two totally different people, but being around someone who constantly reminds you of your past love can be bad sometimes. It all depends on how you handle this situation. I hope i helped you out, but in the end, I would just say for you to follow your heart. That's a failproof thing in you.
*Diamyn*

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I think I like this guy, and he called me hot and everything but hes in the grade bollow me. Should I go for it or just forget about him?

Just like age, a grade ain't nothing but a number too:)
I think you should definitely go for it!
If you liked this guy in the grade above you, wouldn't you want him to give you a chance?
Hope I helped.
*Diamyn*

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ok so i`m a freshman and the guy i like is a sophmore. he knows i like him and a little while ago i thought he liked me back. about a week ago i found out that he has a date to the --girls ask guys-- dance, and the other night on the phone, i was like so who are you going to the dance with? and he said, this girl from piner and he kind of likes her and he asked her out but she said she needs to get to know him better. he told me all of this and he NEW that i like him... i dont get it. and theres someone right infront of his face [me] that will like him more than any1 else ever will... i dont see y he doesnt just take it when he has the chance. should i give up on liking him? i`ve liked him for a while, but he hasn`t liked me. i dont know what to do. xOx

hmmm... this is a hard one, but i'll do what i can.it sounds like even though he knows you like him, he might just need you as a friend to tell things to.
if i were in your position, I wouldn't stop liking him right away, because emotions are hard to control and you may start beating yourself up.
I would go out and find someone else who likes me back and try to focus on the new boy instead of the sophomore. Good luck!
*Diamyn*

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hi,
my girlfriend was late on her period by 2 days and then we had sexual intercourse. she is still late 5 days after we had sexual intercourse what does this mean? im sure the condom did not split and everything went fine but im still worried. was she most fertile then or least could you please tell me?

thanks,
rob

I would worry, but sometimes sex interrupts a woman's cycle for some reason. But since you said she was late 5 days, I would look and ask her if she's been feeling sick about 3 more days from now. If she says yes, go buy the test.
Hope I helped.
*Diamyn*

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im sorry for asking this sick question on here, but i rilli have no clue how to use a tampon i tried lookin at the box, i dont get it. i live with my grandma and i really dont feel comfortable askin her, im 14/f n all my friends usin them n i want to too cuz it sucks bein on my period wen all the girls are goin swimming, so if anyone can aleast TRY to explain beter 2 me it would be a big help! thank you... n sorry once again :-/ are they more comfortable then pads?

okay...lets see.
you unwrap it, and theres a big long part connected to a smaller, skinnier part which leads to a string.
put the thing half way you, and then push the skinny part where the string's at. that'll make the cotton thingy go in. like the other girl said you should use a mirror. and when only the string's hanging out, then take out the applicator, and presto! I hope I helped you out and didn't skip any part:D
*Diamyn*

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(sorry its long...)
you see...i've known this guy since the summer..hes 3 years older then me but he always said it doesnt matter! he lives near me and we went before for about a week. and then i got grounded and couldnt see him or talk to him so he dumped me. after that we started fighting more and more. but everytime we would be friends again. it was no big deal but now its getting worse and ive liked him ever since the summer and there feelings wont seem to go away. i feel like he doesnt even like me. he already likes another girl but hes always saying that he will always have feelings for me and he does. and everytime we hang out all we do is kiss and stuff..but his profile and away messages always have different girls in them saying that he loves them and that hes always thinking about them! and when alot of people are around he doesnt even talk to me! it seems like hes using me but what could he be using me for?? i know your probably going to say for me to get over him and jsut stop talking to him but i cant! i really like him...i need to know what i should say to him or ask him i live right near him and hes also a really good friend and really fun person to talk too! so i dont know what to do i cant just STOP talking to him! but i like him more then a friend. and he says the same about me. we dont go to the same school but he hooked up with a couple of my friends weeks ago. one of them was one of my closest friends and he stopped talking to me and started talking to her.i was really jealous. and then he hooked up with my other friend and i was even more jealous but NOW hes talking to my other friend that I introduced him to! she said she wouldnt hook up with him but THAT was when she had a boyfriend and her boyfriend dumped her a few days ago and then she asked him to be her special and only valentine! and hes mine too...but he also has a valentine which is the girl he likes. i really need advice!! what should i do? PLEASE I NEED HELP! i cant stand it anymoree!! i rate!

oh, god... i would pack my bags and move to hawaii if i were you.
but since that's not possible, lets deal with the situation.
okay, from what i can get, you REALLY REALLY like him even though he treats you bad most of the time and blows you off for other girls and countless other things.
he has a commitment problem and loves to flirt, so i think the best way i can think of to deal with this is to go right up to him and tell him that you're tired of him doing this to you and you want to know right then and there how he really feels about you.
I know you don't want anyone to tell you this but i can't help it cuz it so true: if you don't get over him, you'll be miserable for as long as you like him. And he might do something one day that will kill your heart and make you unable to love again. Please try to get over him and then you'll be able to be friends like you wanted and he won't really be able to hurt you anymore.
Hope things work out for you.
*Diamyn*

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hiya,
im 14 and ive been going out with my boyfriend for 3 weeks now. it'll be exactly a month on valentines day. he's the sweetest guy i could ever know, and i know he'd never do anything to hurt me. he's so sweet in fact that he texted me last night to ask if it would be ok for him ti kiss me on valentines day. we're going ot watch the sunset in the park overlooking the city, it should be really pretty.
in theory, it should be the perfect evening, but im terrified. ive never kissed a guy before, so im really scared about my first kiss. and i like him so much, i really dont want to mess this up. everyones told me it'll be fine if i relax and enjoy it, but im scared that i wont enjoy it! i mean, what if we kiss and its horrible? what do i do then? and what if i screw it up completely?
please help!
xxx

Wow! I wish i could do that:) That sounds really romantic.
But as for the kissing thing, don't worry! It sounds like this guy cares a lot about you, so it shouldn't matter to him whether you can kiss or not.
Kissing doesn't come natural to everyone, especially me. Don't be afraid you won't enjoy it because if you really like him and have feelings for him, then you'll definitely enjoy it! Oh, and don't worry about the kiss being horrible. Everyone who told you to relax is right.
Just to be sure, follow this:
1. Relax and breathe. Calm yourself down a bit.
2. When he leans over to kiss you, close your eyes and let him guide you.
3. Don't try to take over and shove your tongue in his mouth.
4. Just slowly go from pecking to more...contact kissing:)
Follow this and you won't screw it up. Just double-check for bad breath and all that. Once again, if you relax and go with the flow, you won't mess things up.
Hope it goes well:D Need anything else, feel free to come back!
*Diamyn*

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uhh... well several day's ago i met a guy, he asked me for my phone number, and we've been texting ever since, i'm really confussed, he seems as if he likes me, and i'm starting to like him too... but i don't want to rush thing's but i want to know if he see's me as just a friend and thats all, or if he wants to actually maybe turn it in to something more... i don't want to straight up ask him because he told me he talks to alot of girl's, so i'm thinking maybe i'm just another friend, but i don't want to be, can anyone give me any advice on something to say/ask him other than asking him straight out??? thanxx.. msbrightsiide

Well, i know that he does like you as a friend because he asked for your number and everything. But guys work in mysterious ways, so not asking him straight out would be kinda hard.
Start asking him about his other friends, if he doesn't mind.
Then, ask him compared to the others, where do you fall?( if that isn't too straight out)
It hasn't been that long since you met him, so don't expect anything too good.
But ask him questions like "how long was your last relationship and how long ago was it?" keep asking him questions like that and mybe he'll get the message. I know this isn't really helpful, but i hope it works out!
*Diamyn*

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me and my boyfriend have been going out for 8 months We havent frenched. Is that pathectic? Actually know one needs to tell me so cuz i know. But how the heck do i get him to kiss me he always talks about doing it like well actually it hasnt been mentioned sense this past summer.

That is definitely not pathetic. Me and my ex went out for 9 months and we just had 1 small kiss.
To get him to kiss you, start kinda touching him and hold his face and turn it and kiss him slowly, then ease into frenching. That should work. if he pulls back, he may not be ready or just doesn't want to right then and there.
Hope I helped some:)
*Diamyn*

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I seem to be the only one around me who is either single or just dwelling on the oh so popular topic of love. I know we arent ment to love anyone at this age, but two of my best friends constantly talk about maybe coming close to that feeling. I wish I could feel empathy for them... But truly I cannot. This is because I always get stuck with guys I dont really care about. I try waiting and staying single, so when the right guy comes along I can like him and become close to that guy. But I cannot have patience anymore! Please try and help...

Well, as far as being meant to love anyone at a young age, i don't know, but it sure still happens.
Being stuck to a guy you don't realy like is horrible. But you can't allow yourself to become stuck. Tell them that you just wanna be friends for the moment. And then you'll be able to see if he's the right one without feeling so....stuck:)
Waiting and staying single is a good idea. But you soon start to fell lonely, especialy if you're used to having a boyfriend. When i feel like this, I just think: "you don't need a boy."
"boys are dogs.They only want one thing."
Then, I continue on with my single, happy and free life. You DO have the patience. You just have to find it and want it. trust me.
Hope I helped you any. Need anything else? Drop a message in my box.Happy to help:D
*Diamyn*

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Is it wrong to cry if your dog died and you've known her since you were a toddler? My friends would think it's silly, and when you think about it, it kind of is. Does anybody else think it's silly?

Truly sorry to hear that:O that is soooo not silly. If you've been around that puppy almost all your life and everything, of course you're gonna cry:( You loved her. You're gonna miss having her around to play with you. I haven't been through it(yet), but i can only imagine what I would do....Hope you feel better!
*Diamyn*

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I have a friend who is SO not over her ex but really pretends to be. They both really like each other and flirt all the time and they still act like they are going out. What should she do, or what should I tell her to do???

well if he's her EX, then there must be a good reason why they split. You can see for yourself if he's a good b/f or a bad one.
She pretends to be over him because she really wants to, but just can't.
if he has a g/f, and they're still flirting, he probably cheated on her, but if he's that good kind of b/f, then you can just leave them be. I think they both wanna go back out, but I don't know the reason they broke up......but i hope this helps you any:)
*Diamyn*

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a couple weeks ago my parents went out of town and me and my sister had the house to ourselve. so we invited some people over. this guy came over and we endin up having sex but he has a gf. i think im startin to like him. what do i do? and do you think his gf should know?

well... if he has a g/f, and he cheated on her, I wouldn't allow myself to develop feelings for him because if you guys go out, who's to say that he won't do it to you?
Now, about the g/f.... it's hard to say whether you should tell her or not because if she was a mean person, she might think that you're just trying to get with him, but if she's an okay person, then she would keep a closer eye on him or break up with him. So, you can tell her, but at your own risk. Hope I helped some:)
*Diamyn*

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well K came over and i asked him to come earlier than every one else and he did so i talked to him about me liking him and everything but before he had a chance to say anything everyone else came over and just walked right in my house and i just turned and sat on my couch and it was all weird and everything so i came out here to my computer and started typing part 2 so what should i do?!?!

i think you should pull him on the side and tell him to stay when everyone else leaves. Then, finish telling him how you feel.
anything else you need, feel free to come back:D
*Diamyn*

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There is this guy.. lets call him K.. well me and K have known each other and been friends for ever because my mom and his mom were friends since elementary school.. well me and K are like brother and sister but the thing is i really really like him but i dont kno how to show it.This year we have gotten closer than ever. i can tell him anything. any ways hes comming over to my house later and the thing is every time we hang out we go with all these other guys because im not a prep or anything im known as "one of the guys" how do i let him kno that i like him with out every one else finding out

Okay...let's see. Since you could tell him anything, you should be able to just catch him alone and tell him how you feel. You never know, he might feel the same about you. Before you tell him,(i know this sounds childish) make him promise you not to tell his friends, or you wouldn't like it. He should understand, and you'll be happy you got it off your chest:)
Hope I helped you some:D
*Diamyn*

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A Valentine Dance is coming up and I'm nervouse to ask someone out. I usally give advice, but now I need some one to help me ask a girl out.


Nervouse

:) No sweat! Just go up to her, start a convo, and sk her! She should respect you for coming up to her. Nothing to be afraid of...:D
Hope it works out!
*Diamyn*

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i went out with this boy 3 times. he said he loved me once we broke up i wouldn't believe him. things eventually ended for good between us and now hes dating this girl that i really don't like and she dosent like me. i'm so in love with him, but he loves someone else. i don't know what to do i want to be with him but it dosent look like that is going to be happening at this point and time = /. i rate.

:( This might not sound so... helpful, but what I would do is try very hard to get over him, because if you guys went out 3 times, and you didn't believe him when he said he loved you, then it sounds best to forget about him. It might be hard, but it'll be worth it once you can move on and not have to worry about him anymore. Hope I helped at all:)
*Diamyn*

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I have a column, and I've seen others have personal links where the view feedback links are.
How can I put my own link?
Thanx:D

Go to column settings, and put the link where the website URL is.
Then put want you want to name it. it should show up in the sidebar of your column page.
Hope it works!

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i am like madly in love with my best friend. we've been friends for about 5 1/2 years. he's the coolest person ever and he is so nice and so cute and just generally amazing. pretty much everyone says he likes me too but i'm sort of afraid to say anything or make the first move. and if something does happen, then im afraid to loose the great relationship that we already have. help?

:) This one is kinda easy. If you really like this boy, and you're really cool friends, especially for a long time, then your best thing would be to just stay friends. Most people say that the best relationships start out as friends, but so many things come with it like jealousy, that if you get mad with each other, your relationship and friendship might be lost.
So, you can tell him ho you feel if it's really bothering you, but let him know that you really don't wanna hook up. Hope I helped you some:D
*Diamyn*

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