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Well, me and my boyfriend had sex like 3 or 4 days ago and he told me he got off in me, twice, 'cuz we had sex twice that day and that he got off in me both times. well, he said that he's had sex before with like 3 girls and he's got off in them and they didn't get pregnant. He says that he thinks he may not be fertile, but I'm just scared that there may be this chance that I could be pregnant. If I am, my parents would absolutely kill me. What are some of the syptoms that you get right after you get pregnant..like food cravings?.. things like that? is there a big chance that I could be pregnant. answers asap will be appreciated very much!!!
while your bf wasnt lying n its probably te truth the other girls didnt get pregnant, its not sometin to risk. any unrpotected sex is a pregnancy risk. from now on get the pill or always wear a condom. if i were you i would be pretty concnerned. the missed period is the biggest sign. if its running late, get a home test immediately and/or go to planned parenthood for the urine test.
morning sickness,frequent urination,food cravings,sore breasts,back pains are all signs but the missed period/morning sickness thhing is usually teh first signs. hopefully you get lucky and you dont get pregnant. i beelive after 3 days its too late for thhe morning after pill, but you should still call planned parenthood and inquire about it. from now on please be safe, because any unprotected sex is a pregnancy risk.
hi well this is about me & my boyfriend.. we both have trust issues..but weve been dating 7 months so we trust each other with everything..but im very paranoid bout him going thru my phone..bc, well my parents split up & now my mom & i are dirt poor, & i cant afford my phone. so, im REALLLY not proud of this, but i send this guy..pictures..& he pays my bills. so he text me last night saying "hey sunshine" & my bf saw it..& he kept asking who that text was from & i was drunk so i said idk then i deleted it. & then he saw i deleted it..& now he says he doesnt trust me anymore bc of me not telling him (he doesnt know about the pics..) & i feel so hurt bc he doesnt trust me anymore (but i would feel the same if the roles were reversed) but i dont have any money and i dont consider it cheating bc idk this person, theyre on another coast, & i have NO feelings for him. but it kills me inside whenever i do it & i want to regain my bfs trust but i just dont know what to do..about any of it..please help??
i think the longer you do this, the guilt will just pile on even more and add more stress to the relationship. it doesnt take much to break trust, but it takes a lottt to gain it. i would come clean to him, assure him it was only through phone, no physical contact. understand that he will be angry/hurt.
it will take time, but hopefully trust can be regained. the worst is if he wants revenge or thinks he can do something and use it as an excuse because of this situation.
so, my solution forr your trouble paying the bills is this..are you old enough to get a part time job?
if not maybe just babysitting,house cleaning,etc.
dont continue sending these pictures, its not worth ruining your relationship over.
The condom broke today...i dont know exactly if he got stuff in me but whens the earliest possible signs of being pregnant? I need help
Please.
Family lifes not real good right now.
i know friends of mine who have paid about 25 or 30 for the morning afterpill last year. however, at the planned parenthood here in ny, i got mine for FREE just recently. i didnt have to give proof of income or fill out financial forms, but for some reason it was free. plannedparenthood.com could help. it is available over the county at pharmacies, but they cost so much at the pharmacy! ($50-75) definitely go to planned parenthood
Say someone confessed to another person that they accidently killed someone 7 years ago and then covered it up so it looked accidental. Is there a way in the court of law that could prove the crime? without actual proof, just confession to one person?
maybe if you confess to someone, and they go to the police, they can set you up by having the person you confess to call you , email,etc and talk about it and show police. but..this question does get me curious. if there is anything you need to get off your chest, you should do the right thing.
i'm turning 16 in december and i'm planning a sweet sixteen [or will be soon].
i don't really want a theme party, but i don't want something too simple. i want it to be memorable and not tacky.
my mom is renting a dance hall and there's gonna be a dj and stuff, but i have a few questions.
1. is it better to have a sit-down dinner or buffet?
2. is it kind of corny to have like the macarena and cha cha slide and other things like that to get people involved?
3. favors. i have no idea what to get. my mom said something filled with like candies but i don't know if i want to make my favor edible.
4. entrance ideas?
1- buffett will work better i think. people get what they want and as much as they want. no need to fuss with a sitdown
2- its not corny! when i was 16 and went to a million parties everyone had them!
3- entrance ideas..hm
maybe get a couple of guys to roll out a red carpet and the dj kind of shines a spotlight on you while a song of your choice plays and you walk with an escort, or you can have everyone outside(obviously not if it will be really cold) but then you could pull up in a limo if you want to have one rented and everyone can oo and ahh kind of thing.
well, i have this ex boyfriend that i had for three years, so obviously we still talk, we broke up about a month ago. and i am going to try to start dating again, it's going to be hard, but i want to do it.
well there's this boy that i have feelings for, he wants to start dating soon . but the thing is : if me and this boy do start dating , do i tell my ex boyfriend? i mean wouldn't it be best if he found out from me so that he didn't get upset , or should i let him find out himself?
13/f
whatever you do, dont play either guy. if you chose the new guy, let your ex know otherwise things will get into a t otal mess. if you know you will go back to your ex, then be upfront with the new guy. if you arent, trust me things will blow up in yourr face, ive been there :/
I am very confused. =] Any help is appreciated!
1) What is the mininum wage now?
2) What kind of jobs can one get whose salary goes beyond the minimum wage (lifeguarding, etc)? Only jobs with training or can entry-level newbies do anything?
3) What kind of jobs are open to 16+ college bound persons?
4) It would probably be better to get a job I would have a greater chance of landing a job if it were "full time"? So that means working over the summer as opposed to weekends during the school year, right? How many work hours would that average per week approximately?
5) How does the process work? I go in, ask for an application, fill it out, hand it back and wait for them to call and schedule an interview? If all job processes are different, what is the general process usually?
6) Any other tips.
Thanks in advance!
1) i live in ny. minimum wage is 7.15 it depends on the state
2) entry level jobs may certainly get over minimum wage. im currently working in a recreation department in a nursing home earnign 9 an hour. i did tennis lessons over the summer and earned 12 an hour. i know someone who worked in home depot and got 11 per hour. if you work as a lifeguard thats definitely over minimum wage, and my friends who did that get raises every yearr they come back. the more responsibility your job has, the more money you will get. something like a grocery store, mcdonalds, etc will be minimum wage.
3) cashiers, fast food, lifeguard, camp conselors, waitressing, even somethin like i am doing, working in a nursing home keeping the elderly busy with activities.
4) not necessarily. some jobs just need someone to fill in part time. if you say you can work weekends, thats a plus. you can say you can work full time but only mon-fri. but the person who has weekends free could certainly get the job. full time in the summer could be something like 9-5. my friends are camp counselors in the summer and their hours are i think 9-5 which is 40 hours per week. full time at mcdonalds could be different being that they are opeon 7 days a week, many of them 24 hours so you and your boss would discuss work hours. full time at mcdonalds could consist of 4pm-12 or 8-4 , etc.
5) job processs could work in different ways. you may respond to an add in the paper. call in by phone and arrange an interview and bring a resume like i did. ( dont panic, i ddint have much working experience either but i found a website that gave me a format. i filled in the blanks like name,address,education,voluunteer work, interests, qualities you have that would suit the job such as friendliness,reliability, etc.
references and all that good stuff and i got hired!
you could fill out the application online and get a phone call. you could walk in or call random places askign if they need help *this is how i got my current waitressing job*
other tips..hm
-go to the interview dressed nice
-be aggressive/persisntant. meaning give frequent calls to jobs you want, follow up on applications you fill out, etc.
good luck!
my boyfriend and i had really bad sex about three days ago.
he says he doesn't care and that it's okay, but i can tell that he's a little dissapointed.
any ideas on what i can do to make things better?
alright. this time make it hott lol. buy some hot lingerie, or wear his favorite underwear. he must have told you what he thinks is hot. seduce him, do some new sexy things. when hes in your bedroom or whatever, come in the room with a robe and start massaging him, or even better do a little strip tease. take your time with foreplay, try something new, maybe talk to him about his fantasies. maybe he wants to be tied up, talked dirty to, or spank you. role play, go to a sex shop if your old enough and maybe buy a hot nurses outfit, or just simply some KY jelly. take a hot shower together and get him to the point where he cant wait to get you in bed.
he must have a favorite position. if he does, get right in that position for him :)
browse the net for hot new positions, tips, etc. cosmopolitan.com always has great sex articles.
have fun!
i asked my mom if she could take me to my boyfriends house, and she said no so i started to flip out at her. so i called my boyfriend and said sorry i cant getta ride there. and he said why so i explained to him what my mom said. and then my mom grabbed the portable outta my hand and threw it out the window. then she said "give me your cell phone" i threw a fit and ran upstairs and locked my door and texted my boyfriend saying "my moms going physco, shes taking my cell away, ily" and then i went to my bed to 'fake cry' "dont take my cell away stop it!" and she knocked my door down, and started crying "laura, i cant tell you why, but i need your cell phone, i cant tell you, ou wouldnt understand, i cant tell you, im sorry" and she started sobbing on me andi started crying on her, so i took my battery out i was like fine.. here. and she was liek "i need the whole phone!" andi threw another fit and she just left with half of my phone... does anyone have any idea whats going on? my mom never asks me for anything and she always gives me what i want.. but whats happening!???
i would give her the phone. who knows why your mom got really upset. maybe she knew someone when she was your age who got raped, maybe she had a bad experience at a boyfriends hosue when she was younger, maybe shes just really nervous about you havgin a bf. no more tantrums. just give her the phone and try to have a serious talk with her. tlel her you understand she has the authority here, but you wnat to know why she got so upset. try making a compromise with her like your bf comes over for dinner and you watch a movie in the living room. hopefully something can be arranged
I'm 18. I'm not sexually active but I would like to be and I think it would make relationships a hell of a lot easier. The only problem is that i'm really afraid of the result....meaning....the pain and initial hymen-popping and whatnot. I've done everything sexual other than sex but I have NOT been fingered nor have I fingered myself or used a tampon. I'm uncomfortable with anything being inside. I'm worried that this will make sex completely unattainable.
Is there any way I can "train" my vagina to be a bit looser? Anything!
i was nervous about this as well on a personal note. also, i didnt use tampons at all and i never really fingered myself. my bf did for a week before sex, and then when we had sex, yes it hurt a bit but it wasnt terrible. using lubrication,foreplay, and most important relaxxxing when you have sex and not tightening yourself up is the best advice :)
Alright, a bit more of an adult focused one, but I need some outside opinions.
So, my girlfriend is chronically ill. Not really sick, theres just always something wrong with her. She has migraines (she says, they dont seem to affect anything but her sex drive) she has body aches, she gets tired, she ________. Insert anything under the sun for the blank that doesnt require a doctor.
She used to have a sex drive that outstripped mine. Now, I'm lucky if we have sex once a week.
I don't know what to do about it. I used to be able to climb into bed with her, and seduce her. Now, she either ignores or rebuffs all the advances I make, and I only actually get to have sex when she is horny enough that she makes an advance. Basically, if she isnt in the mood, there is nothing I can do to get her that way. The only thing she wants constantly is non sexual physical affection, to the point that I feel used by her. I feel like a convenient toy that takes care of her needs whenever she has them, and the rest of the time she rolls over and pretty much ignores me.
Perhaps its selfish of me, but this is a big problem, on top of a bunch of other problems. Big enough that if it continues I am going to leave her over it.
I just need some outside perspectives. I can't handle being in a relationship with a girl who seems to have lost complete interest in sex. Its been going on for months, since last summer basically. She gets short bursts of horny for about 2 hours every few weeks, and the rest of the time I feel like we are married with kids and careers, when we are students with a decent amount of time on our hands.
i can understand your frustration. its understandable to be sick of feeling pushed aside unless SHE wants it.
i dont know if you have tried this..but here are some tips.
-do something special. maybe romantic like a candlelit dinner, laying out under the stars, take her to dinner, make her a card, buy her something nice for no reason like some perfume or something you know she would like, go out for a picnic even if sounds cheesey. when its you and her in bed, massage her, cuddle with her, maybe take a relaxing shower together*this might do the trick for getting her in the mood* , make her a coupon book that includes things like - one free back rub, one free cuddle, one free session of oral on her could be added in there :) lol
do you try to seduce her every night? im not sure so if you do, maybe lay off that. she would definitely notice and maybe she would make the move on you. if she asks you about why you arent trying to seduce her, just tell her that you dont want to pressure her if shes not interested. try this for a week straight of not seducing her, see if she notices.
there isnt much more you can do besdies being a little more romantic and hopefully getting her in the mood , or another tactic like laying off for a week. you expressed yourself very well here, perhaps if these suggestions dont work talk to her about it like you told us.
if a few weeks go by and nothing changes, maybe leacving her is the better option. seriously. because you both have different needs, and if you cant get her to come around after communicating, laying off for a week, being romantic, then there isnt really anything left to do. hopefully some sparks will happen after you try these suggestiond, but if not maybe breaking up is the best choice, i certainly hope if doesnt come to that though. feel free to inbox me!
Hello. This is LM, and this time I'm the one who needs advice! Anyways, I recently got my permit. I went through driver's ed, I'm doing driving school in a couple months, etc. etc.
I know the rules of the road, I don't speed, things like that. I went on the highway for the first time today, got off at the first exit, and ended up in rush hour traffic (well, for a small town we have a LOT of cars, haha) and to put it bluntly, I freaked out. I didn't lose control of the car, so I know I as doing okay. Is there any way I can reduce my anxiety/nervousness about driving? Tips from experienced drivers, or actually anyone who drives legally, will help me out more than you can imagine.
Thanks in advance! ♥
hey i've had my full license since a year ago from july. my drivers ed teacher really helped me get comfortable with the road. he put me on a busy strip and pretty much told me to go for it lol i wass definitely nervous, but the best advice i have for you is that the more you drive, the more comfortable you will be with driving and your ability to drive. by the end of the summer i felt great and confident. no accidents at all for me! :)
you could try mastering the basics of driving first. go out driving with your parents on roads you know during quiet times. work on basics, get really good at keeping distance behind cars, turns, etcc . think about what made you panicy. was it that there were just so many cars on the road? if so, the more practice in situations like these, the better. just keep in mind once you have your skills down you will be fine.
the only way to get better in these panicy situation is to face them. no tailgating, keeping a good speed, etc and soon it will be like second nature to you, trust me! and yes when i got my permit i thought i would never be a solid confident driver.
-relax, take a deep breath
-relaxing music, gum, practicing more on quiet roads and easing into the busy stuff, and the biggest thing, overall practice. the more you drive, the better you will become. :)
ok so i have this amazing boyfriend who i love soo much and i may be falling in love with him. the thing is we go to different schools cause i transfered half way through the yr to a private school. also he volunteers at this teen youth center place and i've never been there but im going to go with him soon. At that place he had his first gf where he made a mistake and went to 2nd with her. not i struggled with dealing with this but now im ok with it and we worked it out tho we havent even gone to 2nd yet. he made a mistake. anyway the problem now is im so worried that he flirts with other girls since im like never with him. this one girl likes him and he told her he had a gf but normally girls dont obviously flirt unless the boy has shown sum interest and he talks to a lot of girls. ok he is good with girls. i know he is. his last couple gf's i know and i dont mind them just the first one. i am insecure about him being with other girls because he does flirt whether hes aware of it or not. he knows he does cause i've told him but he tells me there is no actual interest like he doesnt like them more then friends. but i am still nervous! i trust him but hes good with girls and girls seem to like him! also just the other day at our youth group he wasnt there but some random girl came up to me and asked where he was and he doesnt even know who she is!! this bothered me. What should i do and am i over reacting? i just love him so much and i know hes a flirt and half of his life i dont even know about and almost no one there at the place he volunteers knows he even has a gf so that leaves it wide open for him to get hit on!! i know he doesnt mean to flirt and hes told me not to worry and he would never cheat but i am jut so afraid of his flirtiness and those girls. he says he doesnt mean to and hes working on it but that hes still gonna act that way cause thats just how he is apparently. i understand cause im flirty too but i dont have as many guy friends as he does girls. he hangs with girls a lot. please help and thank you sooo much!!! I will rate :]
hey i wouldnt worry about a thing. hhes with YOU . you said it yourself, hes good with girls. if he wanted, he could be with others. so you should actually feel great because he has other options but he chooses to be with you :) you gota trust your man. i wouldnt start worrying unless he gets weird, like gets random calls and goes in private, leaves his phone off when hes with you, makes lame excuses why he cant hang out , etc. but dont worry about it ..trust him when he tells you there is no interest there. hes YOUR man :)
Hello, I'm 17/M, and I've been thinking. Having a girlfriend is something I'd like to experience before I graduate high school. The problem is, I have no idea who to ask out. I meet a girl I have chemistry with maybe once every two years, and the last two girls I had chemistry with turned out to both be complete bitches. So who do I ask out if I'm in high school? One of the millions of cute girls I don't know? One of the millions of cute girls I'm friendly with? Or do I wait around for chemistry? I'd definately start asking girls out left and right, but I haven't ever dated and I don't want to try it for the first time with someone I don't feel comfortable with.
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Who to ask out? Well, i dont know you and i dont know who would be best to ask out. thats something you need to ask yourself. ask out a girl you talk to sometimes. ask her to just hang out. if you want advice on exactlyy who, ask a guy friend. but a girl who knows you exist is a good start.
dont start asking out a million girls. i knew someone who did this and got quite the reputation. not a good idea. try asking a girl to hang out and see a movie. iff you want, bring a couple guy friends who hav e girlfriends or something so its a group thing. if you guys hit it off, you two can hang out one on one and maybe something can happen. good luck! :)
Me and my boyfriend just broke up. We broke up on good terms and we both still love each other but he felt like he needed to grow up some more before we can be together and be happy. I know that he is the one and I know that he loves me and wants to be with me and he thinks we will be able to get back together in a month or two and be perfectly happy, but I am having problems.
Like I said, I know he loves me but I keep having these thoughts that he doesn't or that he likes the way things are now. Whenever we talk he always says he misses me and I feel good for awhile but then I go back down into depression again until I hear from him again.
I don't know how to stop these thoughts. I don't know what to do with myself. All I think about is him and how happy he must be, and all I want to do is just sleep or forget about him until this is over with.
The reason I joined this site is because helping other people with their problems makes me feel better for a period of time, but what am I supposed to do in between. I just want to forget I ever loved him so that I can get through these months faster and it's just not working!!
Please help me!
"its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all:\."
^ i totally agree with this quote. immagine never having someone special. so many girls on this site ask questions on how to get a bf because they have never had a serious guy before. think of the positives here, you two left on good terms, its not like hess saying he hates you..some breakups i hear about are reeeally nasty.
the pain is so intense and hard to deal with at first. trust be i have been through it a couple times. you have to give yourself time to heal. its normal to feel hurt for a little while. take things one day at a time.
hang out with friends more, go out and meet new people, maybe get a part time job to keep busy, plan a trip with friends, do something new, join a club, a gym, etc.
surrounding yourself with friends *a great support group* really helps. dont isolate yourself. so many people go through divorces, breakups with people thye have been with for years, and they too go through this hurting process but they move on and meet other peopole.
nobody here can predict the future. you might meet a great guy a few months down the road, you and your ex may work things out, or you might discover that living the single life isnt so bad.
its normal to feel hurt . but in the meantime just try to keep busy and with time things will get easier. please feel free to inbox me anytime and i hope i helped a little :) stay strong hun!
im 16 and i need a job to get money for when i start driving. i dont babysit, so what options do i have? i dont really want to work at the mall, waitress, or at somewhere like dunkin donuts. that elimates more than half the jobs for teens, but any suggestions?
i kno w what you mean. i didnt work until i was 18 because i didnt want anything to do with fast food. this past summer i found a tennis instructor job. i made 12 an hour! it was tons of fun and well above NY minimum wage. i currently work in the recreation department of a nursing home. i help with activities and visiting the residents. its so much fun.
so look in the newspapers for jobs that look fun and fit your interests. are you a people person?then the jobs i mentioned along with front desk worker at a hotel, daycamp counselor,lifeguard, etc. i dont know if your live in a small town or large area, but if there are theme parks around, hotels, camps, resorts, or a blockbuster. i always wanted to work there..free movie rentals :) lol i found the jobs i really liked by just reading the help wanted ads whenever i could.
think about where you would enjoy working around your area and be aggressive about it. what i mean by that is ask if they are hiring, fill out applications, call them, etc.
I am female, and want to be a teacher. I need to find a relatively cheap college, not like a bad one but one thats not expensive, and it has to be a good school for teachers. I live in New York and dont want to go too far away. I may want to be in like 4 states away from New York, but thats my limit. Or maybe florida, we own a house there. Does anyone on here know any good schools that fit my standards? Thank you!
i have a friend who goes to miseracordia for teaching and its right in scranton pretty much. she likes it, good program, and a bunch of different colleges are around it. also only a couple hour drive from the catskills (our area) dont know what part of ny you are in but from us its not that bad. some other suggestions :
1- talk to your guidance counselor. they are like experts!
2-browse the internet
good luck~ :)
I currently dislike the public school I'm attending and right now, and I'm strongly considering transferring to a private school at the beginning of my sophomore year. The problem is, I don't know how to go about figuring out which school I want to go to. I'm doing my research on both schools, so when I choose I know for certain that this is what I want. I was thinking of making a pro/con list, but I don't know if that'll work out. I heard shadowing a student was a good way to see the school life, but right now I'm confused on what to do. Any tips? Any advice would be appreciated.
i think it would be a lot like choosing a college to go to. so much like choosin a college, do your research, narrow it down to a few schools and go on some visits/tours. shadowing a student is an excellent idea. im sure if you find websites for the schools or phone numbers you can make tour and visiting arrangements. you can maybe even spend the weekend there if they can accomodate that. a pro and con list is also a great idea you had. it will remind you of the highlights and disadvantages of each schoool. making notes about each school is also a good idea. visiting the school and seeing first hand the environment, the teachers,and students is the best wway in my opinion though. good luck!
Sorry a little long . please read though
Ok , well me and my boyfriend have been dateing for 11 months . And i cant stand that woman , seriously im not over reacting by no means . She is only nice when its convenint to her and when she feels like it. She pushes her husband around and her kids . My boyfriend got one bad grade on his report card and he's been grounded for 5 weeks now , & today is our 11 month anniversary and she wont even let us see each other at all today , not even for a damn little bit , she is the most horrible person i have ever met , even my whole family doesnt like her . I cant take her bullshit anymore . She doesnt like me and i just know all she wants is for me and him to break up . Iv cryed so much because i couldnt see him today . what do i do ?
i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. His mother (in all seriousness) has mental problems. she will babble, scream, not make sense, its terrible. she will lash otu at me and scream at me for no reason. so i can relate to you in the fact that we bot dont like our guys mothers.
my advice is to maybe sit down and have a talk with her. you are lucky because its hard for me to have a serious conversation with a woman who desperately needs medication. but anyway, perhaps a private and polite chat might help.
maybe after awhile she will realize you two are serious about each other and might loosen up a bit.
but it sounds like she has a very bossy personality, and unfortunately she may never change. but whats important is you and your bf are happy together. hopefully if you and your bf or maybe your bf and his dad talk to his mom, maybe she will loosen up.
so some tips to deal for now:
-try talking to her. either yyou, your bf, or both of you
-do something to break the ice like bake some cookies to bring over, buy her a small gift,etc.
-have him over your house more often
So theres some presents that a guy should give a girl in every semiserious relationship.
I think they are as following:
1.flowers
2.a sweatshirt of his
3.an item of jewelry
4.a stuffed animal
what else?
gifts arent everything, but some other common gifts are a nice bottle of perfume or chocolates.
:)