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I'm 18. I'm not sexually active but I would like to be and I think it would make relationships a hell of a lot easier. The only problem is that i'm really afraid of the result....meaning....the pain and initial hymen-popping and whatnot. I've done everything sexual other than sex but I have NOT been fingered nor have I fingered myself or used a tampon. I'm uncomfortable with anything being inside. I'm worried that this will make sex completely unattainable.
Is there any way I can "train" my vagina to be a bit looser? Anything!
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okay my initial thoughts..
HOW could sex make a relationship easier?! it brings a whole lot more dangers, risks, emotional problems, etc.
and it doesn't seem like you're ready to be active at ALL..it's almost like you're trying to just convince yourself that you are. if you've never used a tampon, i don't think you should be having sex.
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ok I think that sex is not a way to make a relationship easier unless you don't really care about the result. You need to know that you are ready...I think you should find the right person because you may feel so much better when you do.
But if you do decide to I think the best way to stop pain is to be fingered first. When I lost my virginity it didn't hurt at all because I was fingered first but also the guy should go really slow the first time. Don't be surprised if the first time sucks because it probably will because if he goes slow you may not really feel much pleasure and it he goes to fast you will probably feel pain...but believe me it gets better.
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i was nervous about this as well on a personal note. also, i didnt use tampons at all and i never really fingered myself. my bf did for a week before sex, and then when we had sex, yes it hurt a bit but it wasnt terrible. using lubrication,foreplay, and most important relaxxxing when you have sex and not tightening yourself up is the best advice :)
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Well, sometimes being sexually active does make a relationship easier. But first you can try using a tampon or fingering yourself. It doesnt really hurt when u try fingering yourself its just a different feeling.
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Well...no..there's not anything that can train your vagina to get it looser. lol. Sex is what does it..not even a tampon..just because girls use tampons...it doesn't break the hymen..maybe once in a blue moon..but no. lol
Sex doesn't necessarily ruin relationships. Relationships are built on trust..not sex. There's nothing wrong about being a virgin at all. You're keeping yourself safe for one.
Don't ever think sex makes relationships easier..if a guy tells you that..he's full of shit and probably just wants the sex.
I wouldn't drop into sex just because you think that it would make relationships easier. Your virginity is a gift and should be waited to give it to someone that you won't regret. It's a tough decision.
Sex- your first time..yes it hurt...for some people it doesn't...but for most it does. And it will take a few times for your vagina to loosen up before it won't hurt anymore.
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The thing is, you can't make your vagina "looser" because every girl is made differently. No matter how much you have sex, your vagina will always be as loose or tight as it has always been. Honestly, the best you can do to "train" your vagina is to masturbate. It sounds really weird and stupid but it's the only way that will make intercourse a lot less painful. You're 18 years old and I can't tell you what to do, but my advice would be to strongly recommend that you wait until you find someone that you truly care about in order to have your first time with because that way, they will understand that it's your first time and that they should take it easy and it won't be as awkward. Also, it's probably unlikely that your hymen's already been popped because usually the hymen pops because of random everyday things when you're younger, like falling off your bike or something like that, it's usually rare for a girl to not have torn it by the age of 18. I hope I helped you!
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ok well you have to remember your body mite be ready and you think your ready but emotianlly it can damamge you it mite not make the relationship so much better but worse its sorta a fact the 2 out 4 people who have sex their relationship only lasts for another 3 months or so.. and if you do need to make your vagina bigger more ready i heard that fingering yourself or him doing it will help it.!
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My dear friend,
Part of losing your virginity is making your hymen break, and its never easy. Get in a relationship where the guy cares about you and will go slow for you when you first have sex and will stop if it gets to be too much for you. I hope it works out for you.
-Linda
P.S. (remember to use protection!)
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