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What to do?
Me and my boyfriend just broke up. We broke up on good terms and we both still love each other but he felt like he needed to grow up some more before we can be together and be happy. I know that he is the one and I know that he loves me and wants to be with me and he thinks we will be able to get back together in a month or two and be perfectly happy, but I am having problems.
Like I said, I know he loves me but I keep having these thoughts that he doesn't or that he likes the way things are now. Whenever we talk he always says he misses me and I feel good for awhile but then I go back down into depression again until I hear from him again.
I don't know how to stop these thoughts. I don't know what to do with myself. All I think about is him and how happy he must be, and all I want to do is just sleep or forget about him until this is over with.
The reason I joined this site is because helping other people with their problems makes me feel better for a period of time, but what am I supposed to do in between. I just want to forget I ever loved him so that I can get through these months faster and it's just not working!!
Please help me!
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gosh this must be very hard for you... especially when you feel like hes "the one"... that happened to me and my boyfriend, we broke up for a little bit and he would not talk to me at all, no response or anything and i seriously thought i was going to die...i didnt care about my social life or school all i wanted to do was stay in bed and sleep all day... which is sad that us girls let ourselves get that way...fortunately we worked things out and got back together...
but i think what you need to...as hard as it may seem is surround yourself with your friends and family...keep your mind focuses on other issues and thats the biggest challenge because once he sees that you are moving on or whatever hes going to be like i love you i miss you and your walls are just going to come crumbling down again... but you gotta stay strong and just keep yourself focused on friends, family, school, maybe take a walk to have time to reflect... keep yourself busy thats your number one priority! and also, if that doesnt work (remember its not going to work within or week its going to take awhile before you can stop thinking about him constantly) then you can always talk to him about it...and be like you know i love you i do but maybe it would be better if you stopped telling me you miss me because once he stops talking to you like that it will make things ALOT easier! dont be afraid to tell him how you feel about the situation!
stay strong girl and good luck:)
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"its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all:."
^ i totally agree with this quote. immagine never having someone special. so many girls on this site ask questions on how to get a bf because they have never had a serious guy before. think of the positives here, you two left on good terms, its not like hess saying he hates you..some breakups i hear about are reeeally nasty.
the pain is so intense and hard to deal with at first. trust be i have been through it a couple times. you have to give yourself time to heal. its normal to feel hurt for a little while. take things one day at a time.
hang out with friends more, go out and meet new people, maybe get a part time job to keep busy, plan a trip with friends, do something new, join a club, a gym, etc.
surrounding yourself with friends *a great support group* really helps. dont isolate yourself. so many people go through divorces, breakups with people thye have been with for years, and they too go through this hurting process but they move on and meet other peopole.
nobody here can predict the future. you might meet a great guy a few months down the road, you and your ex may work things out, or you might discover that living the single life isnt so bad.
its normal to feel hurt . but in the meantime just try to keep busy and with time things will get easier. please feel free to inbox me anytime and i hope i helped a little :) stay strong hun!
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