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Could I be?
Well, me and my boyfriend had sex like 3 or 4 days ago and he told me he got off in me, twice, 'cuz we had sex twice that day and that he got off in me both times. well, he said that he's had sex before with like 3 girls and he's got off in them and they didn't get pregnant. He says that he thinks he may not be fertile, but I'm just scared that there may be this chance that I could be pregnant. If I am, my parents would absolutely kill me. What are some of the syptoms that you get right after you get pregnant..like food cravings?.. things like that? is there a big chance that I could be pregnant. answers asap will be appreciated very much!!!
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well there is a big chance that you could get pregnant. don't rely on what your boyfriend told you that the three girls didn't get pregnant. each woman reacts differently. maybe they did it when those women were in their infertility period.
anyways, these are the possible symptoms but take note that these may not appear on every women.
:> nausea
:> morning sickness - note that morning sickness does not happen in the morning only. these may happen anytime of the day.
:> a feeling of swollen breast
:> possible drowsiness
:> a feeling that there is a butterfly in the stomach
;> frequent urination
:> food cravings
:> missed period - this is the first sign that you are possibly pregnant. When you missed your period use the pregnancy test. this will help you.
* Note that these symptoms are also signs of pre menstruation. So be careful and don't be mistaken on menstruation with pregnancy. for assurance, use the pregnancy test or get a check-up.
* don't be afraid of your parents in case you get a positive result. just tell them truthfully and im sure they will NOT kill you. you may be scolded but eventually they will accept it. think positive and be strong. expect for the consequences and be prepared for it. and PLEASE in case do not get an abortion ok.
I hope you will not get pregnant and i hope this will help.
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while your bf wasnt lying n its probably te truth the other girls didnt get pregnant, its not sometin to risk. any unrpotected sex is a pregnancy risk. from now on get the pill or always wear a condom. if i were you i would be pretty concnerned. the missed period is the biggest sign. if its running late, get a home test immediately and/or go to planned parenthood for the urine test.
morning sickness,frequent urination,food cravings,sore breasts,back pains are all signs but the missed period/morning sickness thhing is usually teh first signs. hopefully you get lucky and you dont get pregnant. i beelive after 3 days its too late for thhe morning after pill, but you should still call planned parenthood and inquire about it. from now on please be safe, because any unprotected sex is a pregnancy risk.
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WEAR A CONDOM. its not that hard. there is a HUGE chance that you are pregnant. his sperm got inside of you. if you're not pregnant, you're very very very lucky. there's not really any symptoms this early. you should get a pregnancy test or go to a doctor. also if you miss your next period then that shows that you are pregnant.
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You had unprotected sex, that means there is definately a chance you could be pregnant.
Unless your boyfriend has had a doctor tell him he is infertile, there is also a definate chance that he is a commplete idiot who would think just because he has never seen a whale, they must not exisit. The likelyhood of a healthy young man being infertile is very slim and needs to be checked by a doctor. It is not something he can just realize on his own because he hasn't knocked anybody up yet. He's been luckky. You better hope that luck holds.
You should not sleep with him agian. Mostly because he is either an idiot, or a liar who knows that it is unlikely he is inferitile and just told you so to either make you feel better or to get into your pants. If you going to take this huge risk of becoming pregnant, at least try for intelligent babies.
If you choose to sleep with him agian, which I certainly don't recommend, use condoms.
You most certainly could be pregnant now, but all those 'signs' are different from woman to woman. Some will crave food, others will get morning sickness, others will have sore breasts and some will have no symptoms at all.
The only way you will know for sure is when your next period comes, or doesn't come.
If it doesn't, you can pick up a pregnancy test at your local drug store. Read the package carefully and use it correctly, most are only accurate when you are 3 to 7 days late.
Learn from this experience and educate yourself about fertility and sex. Also, don't sleep with idiots.
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First off, you and your boyfriend need to sit down and research some things about sex before engaging in any more of these activities. You have put yourself in a situation that you may not be able to handle and I am truly very concerned for your well-being. Please sit down with your boyfriend and look through some of the things I link below and discuss what I add in this response.
It is always better to be well-informed so that if anything negative arises from a sexual encounter, you are able to deal with it. I'm truly very, very concerned that you've put yourself into this situation.
First off, there is no way to tell if your boyfriend is fertile or not unless he has gone to a doctor and has given them a semen sample to test. Believe it or not, many women become pregnant and do not realize it because they have a miscarriage due to stress or hormonal birth control--they just think they have a slightly heavier than usual period. This being said, your boyfriend could have impregnated each of his previous partner and neither party had any idea of it.
Even if your boyfriend has gone to the clinics and had semen samples tested (in which they pretty much count how many sperm has been ejaculated), there is still a possibility that he can impregnate a woman. I know two men who were told by doctors that they would never become fathers; however, both are now fathers--one of them even got a woman pregnant the FIRST TIME they had sexual intercourse.
If your partner is indeed infertile then he needs to be seen by a doctor because it usually indicates an underlying health problem. Sometimes it can be as simple as a birth-defect, sometimes it can be from a STD/STI that has gone untreated for a prolonged period of time. If it's an old STD/STI that has reeked havoc in his body then be aware that you also need to be tested for it as it is highly likely that you have probably contracted it.
Repeated Chlamydia or gonorrhea infections are most often associated with male infertility. Such infections can cause scarring and block sperm passage. Human papillomaviruses (HPV), the strain specifically causing genital warts, may also impair sperm function.
Each and every time you have sexual contact, you are risking so many things of your body. Engaging in sex means always taking the risk of becoming pregnant since no contraceptive is 100% effective. You should always be using some sort of "protection" to lower the risk of pregnancy.
Right now there is a high risk that you are pregnant. Sperm usually live in the average female body between 5 and 7 days. From the time of ejaculation until all of the sperm die inside of you, you are a risk of becoming pregnant.
It takes only one single sperm to fertilize your one egg. They are designed to do everything possible to ensure reproduction. Your body also does just about everything it can do to make sure the sperm can successfully fulfill their duty. Because of this, you are fertile every day of your cycle, including the days you are on your period. The only time you are more fertile than usual is when you are ovulating (when the egg has been released from the ovary and begins traveling down the fallopian tubes).
Then there is always the risk of pregnancy. No matter what birth control method you use (even if you use two) it isn't going to be 100% effective on preventing pregnancy and STD/STI transmission. A baby takes a lot from a woman's body during pregnancy and if your body isn't mature enough to handle it, it can really be rough. In addition, if you don't have good support from your partner then you're left holding all of the bags. You'll have to figure out what to do with the baby, decide if you can raise it and how, and give up any future goals you have so that you can focus on the child. A baby takes 100% of your time, energy, money, and emotional support 100% of the time.
One night of sex can result in creating another life or living with a disease the rest of yours. I know many people who lost their virginity and became pregnant (or had gotten the girl pregnant) the same night. They weren't emotionally ready to have children but they made one mistake and they now have a tough road ahead of them trying to make enough money and time for their child.
Even if you think that you can have an abortion if there happens to be a pregnancy, think about the consequences of that action even. Some women suffer major depression for many years after having an abortion. There are cases of women committing suicide years after having an abortion because they couldn't deal with what they had done. Some women become infertile and can no longer have any children. Some really good men refuse to be with a woman who has had an abortion. Throwing a life away because you wanted to have some fun should be an unacceptable option.
Here are some serious facts you want to consider on pregnancy:
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You risk STDs/STIs with each sexual contact. These can render you completely infertile and you won't be able to ever have children. If it doesn't do that, it could hide in you and you could end up spreading it to every partner you ever have without knowing it. Even at that, some STDs can deteriorate the brain and be so severe that they cause a long, painful death years later.
A lot of people have STDs/STIs and don't even know it. Many people don't show symptoms. This means that many mothers pass on things to their unborn babies. I'm sure none of us would like to find out 20 years from now that we had contracted HIV/AIDs and that our baby has it too now because we passed it along.
Here are some amazingly scary facts about STDs currently that you've be really surprised at:
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..and here's some photos of SOME STDs (graphic photos of mostly males, you have to click on links to choose which ones you want to see though so if you click here it isn't going to pop up a bunch of photos). It's important that you check these photos out so that you know what STDs can do to a person's body, just in case you experience problems in this area:
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I know what it all comes down to is that it's your life, your body, your decision, and possibly even your mistake. I am really concerned for your well-being though. It is best to keep yourself informed and well-educated. Please sit down with your partner and discuss the possible outcomes of your sexual activities together. You may also find it helpful to view the above sites with him so that you're sure he is just as informed as you are.
Now, you may want to drop by your local store (Wal-mart, various pharmacy, etc.) and pick up a pregnancy test. It is really too early for the tests to show up accurately but you can have them around if your period is late. If you're truly concerned (since these sort of tests can show a false negative anyway--and no, there is no false positive) you may want to make an appointment for a pregnancy test in your local clinic.
I hope you become better informed of your body and what you've been doing with your boyfriend lately.
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Oh dear! That was not a very good idea to believe him. You also put yourself at risk of catching an STD.
However, damage limitations. You need to do a pregnancy test when your period is late. You should also consider testing for STDs or any other nasty things he may have passed on to you.
Usually the first signs of pregnancy are:
No period
Tender breasts
Nausea or morning sickness
Food cravings don't generally happen at the beginning of pregnancy.
If you start to experience these symptoms (they will vary from person to person) you will need to
establish whether or not you are pregnant. You should then see a professional who can take you through your options. It will also be necessary to tell your boyfriend because you will need his support.
I suggest refrain from saying anything to your parents until you know the facts.
I will also say that despite you thinking they will kill you - they love you and will want to be supportive eventually. Yes they will be disappointed and may get very angry, but that will pass.
Please learn from this and always use a condom regardless of what the boy may say. Also, you could have gone to your doctor for the morning after pill. I feel that too much time has passed for that to be an option this time. (I may be wrong and it is worth checking).
I wish you all the best.
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