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ok um 15 yr old girl been giving advice for about 2 years but just found this site last year. hint I'm not good with does he like me probs.

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after summer 2003...my boyfriend broke up with me that summer...I thought we were for real...well that following year I was starting 7th grade...I started losing faith in everything and everyone...I started skippin school, gettin in fights, hating everyone, getting lower grades than usual...I thought there was no life beyond my ex boyfriend...I never actually prayed...I'd do it everyonce in a while...and then I'd always have second thoughts towards "him" cuz even when i think positive and pray nothing ever happens for better than for worse...how do I start trusting and believing "he" IS there?

so your bf broke up with you it's not the end of the world you could go to all those extra church things like those wendesday church services and stuff talk to your youth minister they can help you get back into it and feeling good about life agian

ok well latley i havn't been myself and i don't know how to fix it. i meen i pray and stuff and i am a strong christian . but i dunno it is wierd cause i don't even know who me is when people say your name you feel like you are somone when i hear it is like just my name nothin speacial just a word that was given to me. and it is wierd cause when i pray latley bad things seem to happen like in some way i get hurt emotiionally my friend hates me or somthing of such matter.

so here is the question how do i firgure out who the real me is again the one that everyone knew that i knew. the one who can think clearly

thnx

it's part of growing up you change and you mind begins to think idependantly how I know this at 14 looooooong story any to find the old you you should probly sole search ( I can't spell so if I miss speall somthing sorry) put on a christian cd stay in your room write in a diary read your old faveorite book it helps and you might not be the only one changing you can sole search in groups but it's probly better to do it alone

Do you all think that you are responsible for what you dream about? Like, lets say for example, you don't cuss or something...Well, are you responsible for that kind of stuff?

dream are often somthing you want or disire or have some meaning to them usually you aren't in control of dreams just pay attention to them here are som things to remeber: bad dreams usually equal good luck coming or a problem being solved and good dreams are usually for entertainment or symbolizing somthing

Ok, i met a boy online....THROUGH A FRIEND, lol dont worry! Yes, my friend knows him and i've been talking to him for a few days now, and i wanna meet him, but i'm not exactly the thinnest girl in the world (not fat really just not thin like a lot of boys like) and i am really scared to meet him, because i don't have confidence. what should i do? also, if i wanna call him, what are some good conversation starters? thanks!

don't worry about your weight If he's truly a good guy he won't be into that he should still be friendly towards you as for conversation starters you could talk to him the same way u do on the net without the net lingo of coarse

hey, well. i have this thing on the very side of my mouth, it used to be a cold sore and i popped it, and now its a scab, it looks really gross/ and when i put concealer on it makes it look worse!! but i hate it being there, does anybody have any solutions that'll make it go away faster?? thanks for any help!! =]

I would suggeset seeing a dermatologist or atleast your doctor they'll know what to do

I am a very flirtacious person. I flirt and mess around with all my friends who are guys. My boyfriend tends to get slightly jealous when I flirt with the guys we hang around with and even though he knows it doesn't mean anything, he still gets annoyed. I understand this and we talked about it but I can't help my personality. How can I be less flirtacious?

Well if theres a situation that you can sit by your bf instead of a random guy then sit by him I know it's hard not to flirt so try to hang around some girl pals of yours and if you think your about to flirt think of your bf just be sure not to think of the guy as your bf

i am 13. but i look like im 15. i want to get my belly botton peirced, and my mom will let me. but i still think im too young to get it dun. im almost dun growing...so im not sure about getting it done or not and if it will hurt. please help.. i rate

well it will hurt not to friten you or any thing but if your really not sure about it do some reasearch or talk to a doctor about the pros and possible cons

I moved to Colorado, and i lived in cali, and i dont like colorado what should i do? . . .my parents are bungholes and i think im kinda stuck wit em, whats da best way to meat new peoples when u move?

easiest way is to find out one really popular person or just be yourself it takes time to meet new friends another way to make friends is to join thier clubs you may end up liking the place once you get used to it

What are the chances of getting pregnant if you had sex without a condom.. but he took it out before he busted?

*please don't delete this time mods, i really need some answers. i'm scared to death for my friend.

well depnding on how far from her period it is it can either be really likely or an absolute no try not to worry about it too much you can't stop what's going to happen tough I think you may be able to get it out of her if she wants it

Okay. This is what I go through, about once a month, sometimes more/less frequently. I start changing. I really don't know what it is, it's hard to explain. But I'll try.

It feels like my heart is becoming empty. Like I'm becoming hungry, or like I'm enraged, or like I'm in love (they all feel the same to me.) You know, that feeling. In my heart. It feels like something is trying to change me from the inside, like trying to change my personality. My personality is weird. I think differently. I have no mental problems. O__o;;

I'm thinking that maybe my way if thinking is correct and maybe....God....doesn't want me to know whatever it is I know. Anyway. Back to what happens. The first time it happened, at my friends house, I started getting the feeling and for some reason I knew what was happening almost immediately. I started crying and pounding my chest really hard and saying "Don't change....don't change...." And I was grabbing anything to pound my heart with, I almost went for the silverware ;_;

My friend was really concerned xD I don't think she had any clue what was happening.

The second time, just recently, this happened again, only it wasn't as strong. I have gotten rather good at fighting it. But then it felt like there was a pressure in my head...like something was gently squeezing it.

This isn't puberty. This is something weird happening to me and if it has happened to anyone else I would like to know. I would also like to add that I am not insane. This is a FEELING, not a twisted thought or action. My apologies for the length of this question.

its probly a change your going through not like puberty a councilor or parent may not help in this case perhaps meditating or mabey just practice your not mental I know that I had things a little like that you think differently and your mind may not want to let it all in it's ok your going to be fine just have your friends help you when your having it and keep water with you it may help calm you down

I have not been going out with my boyfriend for very long.. We got 2 know each other and he asked me out and i said yes.. Than he was sent to boarding school in SC and but were both from NC.. He never really calls but sometimes he will and we talk about nothing i know he does drugs but the only one he says he does is weed... But all my friends and ppl tell me he does other stuff.. He came home like 3weekends ago and we really didnt talk or see each other cause he was " Fucked Up" and is annoying to be around cause he does not talk really.. I know his guy friends that he with do drugs.. But i really like him and he just soo sweet..and etc.. i have no idea what i should do.. should i break things off.. Or just deal with the fact that he does drugs and i cant do ne thing about it.. HELPME PLEASE
*Kristen*

don't deal with it but don't break up try to help him out show your affection he doesn't have to call you call him send him presents on the drugs thing try to talk him ou t of it send him photo's of what could happen to him and if you can get to his school councilor or his parents

ok one of my friends ( well i thout she was my freind=( ) but she was my best friend 4 3 years and we never got in a fight and she got too be friends with another grl and we just sarted fighting i started doing drugs and now i cant stop and i have bin going throw so much right now and i just need too talk too her what should i do??

well talk to her as for the drug thing talk to your parents or start medditating if you don't know how you can contact me or you could alsolook for it if she still isn't being a very good friend you can find a new one even though it sounds hard if you do it you will end up a lot happier or you could hang out with ur friend and her new friend

What do I do when my anger is so built up that I feel I could hurt my friends with the pain of it all?

meditate very easy easest but a very powerful way is to sit there breathing and concentrate on your breath or you could get a punching bag or stress ball it helps just dun do somthing stupid like take up cutting!

Last year i was at my mom's friend house and her daughter, a senior at the time, wanted to put blonde highlights in my hair, my hair was dirty blonde at the time. then those started looking bad so i colored it brown. But that is wearing off and i have no idea what to do. I don't really want a big color change but i want to go back to blonde. We can't match the color i have now bc it got really bleached .. i guess you could call it.. from the sun. I'm pretty tan.. and i really want blonde hair.. like back to dirty blonde hair. But i don't want to be another fake blonde. Is being a fake blonde that bad?

ps.. looking back at pictures the color before it was sunned looks soo bad!!! o and sorry for the longness!!!

if you don't want to look fake well for starters stay out of the sun so your skin can gradually return to normal though it might not hurt to get some makeup to make ur skin a little lighter and if you don't want a big change just gradually change it back but if you want to stay tan talk to a stylist they should be able to help it look natural

This is a double question so apologies if it's long. There's a guy on my tennis team that i've been friends with since freshman year (i'm a sophomore) and lately I think he likes me. At a tournament, for example, one day he carried my bag for me, saved me a seat on the bus? *yeah it was wierd*, and had his arm around me for only like half a minute, my friends on the team say he likes me but does he? And if he does I don't really like him much in that way. If he does what do i do?

If you don't like him they way you think he like you don't mention it to him instead just be nice and stick to friends as for the carrying the bag stuff he might just be being nice your friends won't always be right

Hey Hunz! This is strawberriilova92!!

My neighbor not really a friend, but not an enemy, an aquantaince!! *Dev* has been cutting herself...and she always writes these horrid, absolutely, horrid, gruesome, poems about killing herself!! It really scares me because I've seen her cuts! And I have told her to get help, but she won't listen. Today at school she said she was gunna cut herself deep and not stop the bleeding so she can bleed to DEATH!! Or take a bottle of pills, or some other self-mutalating way to kill herself!! I'm really scared I've known her since I was in diapers..is there anyway I can stop her before it's too late?? Sorry about length!!

PS--SHE HAS NEVER CUT HERSELF DEEPLY

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ok I know you wrote to some one else but ....... ne way the easiest way is to talk to her about other things then sloly bring it up find her problem and find a way to get rid of it or at least not make it hurt so much it's ok to cry when doing this if she still won't listen call her parents or talk to a councilor and if you don't feel confortable you can always tell them not to mention your name show her you care and get some more people to help you.

I am taking mid terms tomorrow. (I know it's early for mid terms but my school does a different schedule.) I have Theatre Arts first period and 20% of our grade for the exam is a performance. My teacher has given me a script to memorize with a partner, it's basically a conversation. It's very short but I'm so nervous about my other tests I can't think straight and I can't memorize this! I've been able to memorize a 2 page monologue in the past and I don't understand why I can't memorize 16 stupid lines. Does anyone have any tips on ways to memorize my lines? I've already tried reading them. Yeah... it's not working. Thanks if you can help!

well you could start by memorizing one line at a time or another great way to deal with it would be to meditate it really helps if your life feels over busy and help clear your mind. the easiest one is to sit with your eye closed and breathe as you do that only concentrate on your breath

i have a crush on this girl..Chrissy..... she knows i like her but i am too shy to talk to her and ask her out... does anyone have any advice for me to get over it and talk to her or give me something to say to her to start a convo.... please help me out ... thanks -

well you could practice in front of a mirrior or pick up a magazine with flirting ideas even if it's for girls you can probly get some good ideas or you could have a friend find out how much she likes you just be sure it's some one you can trust and she thinks she can at least halfway trust

At lunch today, I started talking to my friend ( a guy) about his "girlfriend" (nothing bad or anything), like in front of her. She's at the table. I forget what I said, but it was just about them too. And then half our table went to get lunch but his *girlfriend* and I didnt, so we were there alone. Then she told me she broke up with him last night, so I was like "oops" in my head. And when they all got back, my 2 friends (the ex gf and bf) were like so unhappy. He had his head down..and in the next class he looked like he was going to cry. He's a good friend of mine and I felt so bad that I brought it up..because I didn't know about it. I don't know exactly what I am asking for..it's just that he was so upset. so..i dunno?? :'(

You feel bad becauseyou made a mistake it's natural in time he'll feel better but why not speed it up like giving him extra hugs and giving extra help on homework or if he forgets lunch money lend him some money basicly just be nice and don't bring it back up unless you think he wants an apollogy even if you didn't know

my boyfriend always calls me sayin how some girl kissed him today at school but if i just say my friend likes my butt he freaks out and i dont care about him flirting cz we dont go to the same school so im not there to do something..anyways i wanna tell him on halloween i was holdin this guy i just met hands but i dont want him to freak out..how can i tell him and ask why he freaks out about me doin the smallest things with my friends and me not doin nothin about him and his???

o yea when he flirts i get jealous but i dont act or say nothin about it..is he tryin to get me jealous?

guys can be really weird just sit down and talk to him about it tell him your feelings mabey he doesn't know u feel that way. also guys are usually pretty protective how do u think dads end up that way?

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