Hi everyone... I've got a Psychology degree so I like to think that i know a bit about how people think and why they do the things they do- maybe i don't know a thing, make up your own minds! Also i work with a youth group of girls aged 10-14 so that helps too! Anyway ask me anything no problem too big or too small and I'll do my best...
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i met a cute guy this weekend, at a rebel paintball cuarse - he works there - my house is jus a few blocks away from it - we started chattin right away - well - long story short - i was playin with his phone, and he told me 2 put my number on - i asked him why, and he told me its so he can call me when hes there again - i dont know if he likes me - but it sure looks that way - i jus wanna know - does he like me - or doesnt he - cause i sure-as-hell like him. (link)
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Yeah course he does!! He's not going to ask for your number when he's not interested in you!! Good luck hope he calls soon!
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*this may be kinda long sorry! but thanks for taking the time to read this*
*well me and my ex boyfriend "mike" have been broken up for 9 months now! we talk about once a day or sometimes every other day! we have hung out quite a few times..and this is where the problem starts
*last night he came over and picked me up at my house around 10! he lives like 30 mins away from me so the whole time we were driving he was just kinda flirting with me..like making fun of me and stuff! well we were going to his friends house to get him and then gonna go bowling but his best friend was there and he doesnt like me so we didnt go there..instead we just went to mcdonalds! he kept asking me if i wanted something but i said no! well he got something and while he ate we sat in his truck and just talked..he kept staring at me and i was like what and hes like can i not look at you! and he kept calling me turtle lip which is what he called me when we went out! well then we left and went to his house and i started playing with my hair and
he was like whats wrong? i was like nothing and hes like what are you thinking about and i was like nothing and he was like dont lie to me i know better..well i didnt wanna talk about it! so we get to his house and he undoes his seatbelt..he looks at me and goes do you think it would really work out? i was like i really dunno and he was like honestly and i was like i dunno maybe! well i told him i was cold so he moved the thingy in the middle up and came and cuddled with me! well he was rubbing my feet for a while and he knows i love that! then he layed his head on my chest and was listening to my heart beat! well then he looked at me and was like can i bite your lip and i was like why and he was like i want to so i was like sure..so he did..then he layed his head on my chest again and just stared at me and was like can i kiss you so i was like i guess so we kissed! and that happened quite a few times! he kept trying to hold my hands and hold me in his arms! well i got up for a sec so he laid in my spot! well i was like fine ill go in the back and he was like no lay on me so i did! the seat belt thing was in my way so i went to the back..so he came back there with me and of course we cuddled and ended up messing around! weve hung out several times before this and weve never touched eachother like that or cuddled/kissed or anything! well then it was 1:30 and his dad was like you need to take her home! ya it seems awesome i know..but heres where it doesnt make sense! today he was on AIM and imed him (he was away though) and i was like you know things are gonna be hard now cause i cant get over him at all..and he signed off so i was like what the heck! so i got on myspace and he was on so i was like whatever cause sometimes it just leaves it on! then again later i got on it and he was on it again but he wasnt on AIM so i felt like he was avoiding me! so i called him and was like why are you ignoring me and he was like im not im watching a movie ill ttyl so i was like whatever! and he hasnt been on AIM all day..sometimes hes not but its kinda weird! i dunno if its just me or if hes ignoring me! i guess my question is what should i do? let go or keep trying? keep in mind he is my 1st love but i have been trying for 9 months.. how do you think he feels? do you think he really likes me and is scared to tell me or fall me or what? ughhh someone please help me! thanks so much (link)
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It sounds to me as if he still likes you- he's making all this effort to come 30 mins drive and pick you up he must still feel something pretty strong. The reason he's not replying to you online may simply be because he was busy doing something else or maybe he's playing hard to get. The best thing you could possibly do is talk to him. I know everyone always says this and it's not nearly as easy as it sounds but the only person that really knows whats going on is him! And surely if you want to start something with him again you'll need to feel as if you can talk to him. Good luck
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hi, im a 13 year old female and i have a question for you that i really dont want to post.... so can i have your screen name... if not thats okay ill just post it (link)
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You just sent that to me personally- only I could see that so just do exactly the same with your question! Craazylau xx
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hi well its my boyfriends birthday next week hes 17 and weve been goin out for like 3 week what should i get him (i live in england by the way)
and i want it to be nice but i dont want him to think ive made too much of an effort.
thanx xxx
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I reckon getting him a photo frame with a picture of you two in it? Or a dvd of a film you know he likes? Or a cd? Or you could take him out to dinner? Or buy him a driving lesson? Ebay is also really good if you wanted to get him some autographed stuff of people he likes? There are some sites that do funny t-shirts or personalised t-shirts, mugs etc etc....
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I am over weight and i have tryed exercise and diets and im only 13 so i cant do anything like pills. But i seriosly need help im like 5 2 and 150lbs please please help! What do you think i should do?
~overweight
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I've managed to lose about 10 pounds recently by halving the amount i have for breakfast (and always having breakfast), eating just fruit for lunch and having a normal main meal for dinner with no dessert. In addition i've stopped eating bread because i think this puts on weight. For snacks i eat little cereal bar things that are about 100 calories each and have less than 5 grams of fat per 100g. To find this out you check the food labels. This should work!
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If you don't look at somebody in the eyes...do they get upset or something or feel like they did something wrong? Im really bad at eye contact. It makes me feel weird knowing somebodys eyes are staring right at me.. (link)
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I think sometimes people prefer it if you look them in the eyes because it seems more honest and you can understand what they're actually saying and how they feel about it. But I don't think people actually get upset if they don't have eye contact! But if you don't want to make eye contact don't!! It's no big problem
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What is a good birthday present to give to my boyfriend?? im all out all ideas (link)
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A watch, a leather wallet, a photo frame with a photo of you both, a games console, a dinner for you both, dvds, cds.... um i've run out of ideas now!!
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Kissing is nice :-D, but honestly...what in everyones opinion is the definition of "making out". I know that frenching is...but other htan that? Please be as clean w/ this as possible! haha! thanks! (link)
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It's kissing with tongues and a bit of touching as far as i'm concerned!
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hey 16/f
so i finally got my mum to agree to let me have a party for my 17th next week!!
yay
but the problem is all ma best mates are gunna be there and also a few boys and heres my plans:
people arrive we get drunk whilst listening to loud music. HOW BORING :(
so has anyone got any good ideas on interseting things to do?
the guy i fancy is coming and i really want to get with him.
so what shall we all do besides getting drunk and dancing to music?
its in my house by the way, about 12/13 people are coming
thanks in advance xxx (link)
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How about spin the bottle?? That way you might get to get with the boy you like! Or you could play some drinking games if alcohol is going to be involved? Or truth or dare with alcohol!! The possibilities are endless. You shouldn't worry too much though even if it's just loud music and alcohol it's still going to be a great party!!
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There's this boy that I've known ever since 5th grade (we are in 9th grade) we are very close besides the fact that I NEVER SPENT TIME WITH HIM BESIDES SCHOOL!!! Yea we would talk on the phone, text and stuff but, I would LOVE to go somewhere with him one day but there are 2 problems:
1.) I am afraid that if I am alone with him, he might put the moves on me and we might have sex! (Only a kiss will do)
2.) I am afraid that if I go to the movies with him or something, that he might try and play me by taking me somewhere far, leaving me alone or embarrassing me.
What can I do to overcome my shyness and how do I explain to him that I am shy?
P.S. I gave him some excuses! I don't want to seem like a liar or that I don't want to be with him because I DO! it would be like a DATE or something.. My FIRST date! (link)
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You've just got first date nerves! Think this through- you've known him since 5th grade and you know he's a good guy otherwise you wouldn't be interested in him. If you are alone with him and he tries to have sex with you (which i doubt) you do have a choice in the matter! You're talking as if you have to go along with whatever he says which is completely untrue. If this happens you need to make it clear that thats not something you want to do and he should understand this. You're worried that he's going to leave you alone or embarrass you right? If he's going to go on a date with you that means he wants to be with you- nobody forced him- it's actually what he wants to do. Therefore how likely is it that he's going to abandon or embarrass you? It's just not going to happen like that!!
However after all this, I can understand that you're still going to feel shy and it certainly wouldn't hurt to let him know this. Maybe in the middle of a text conversation you could tell him in a laid back sort of way that you're feeling really shy about it all. That you're really looking forward to being with him it's just that you feel shy. He'll understand and you'll feel better about it all.
To overcome your shyness the best thing you need to do is just take a deep breath and go on the date. You'll realise that it's not as bad as you thought- in fact you're going to really enjoy yourself!! Have faith in the fact that this is a nice guy and you have nothing to worry about. Good luck
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ok sorry if this is long and confusing but here it is....ok well my friend lets call her amy invited me to her house and she was also having another friend over, amy didnt go to my school at the time. well to cut the story short she said that girls at her school made out with other girls at parties house ect... and its no big deal and then they pressured me into making out with them too. well now amy now goes to my school and im afraid everyday that shes going to tell and eveyone will think im like a lesbian but im not becuase i like this guy alot like alot alot. the reason i think she is going to tell is becuase she told about a girl at her old school and everyone thought she was lesbian and stuff. o by the way im 14/f and i live in ny thanks for the help who ever is brave enough to answer this ques. i will rate a 5 for everyone who gives me a good answers thanxs. o yeah and by the way dont tell me something like go talk to her and shell understand cause shes not that kind of person (link)
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Ok well to start with she may not even tell anyone so look on the bright side! However if she is a nasty piece of work as you expect and she does tell everyone here's what i reckon you should do: Say to everyone that you're not you just did it because she made you. Say you didn't want to but it was just easier to go along with it at the time. Add in that it was HER that made you kiss her so surely people should be calling her a lesbian and not you?? That should do the trick! Good luck
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Hey i just started taking english, i live in denmark. So i was wondering should you write days with a capital letter. like in the middle of a sentence? Example: are you calling Teresa on monday, or are you just gonna forget about her? Should monday be with a capital letter or not? Thank you., (link)
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Yes you should write them with a capital letter!
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What do you do when you've got two people that really like each other but they are both really shy?
The guy that I like ( and he likes me back) is really shy. We've done things together as friends like played tennis and gone to hockey games. But he's never tried to kiss me or even go to second base with me. The most we have done is hugged each other. I'm really shy too so I've never tried anything with him, but I'm worried that if I keep waiting for him to make the first move it will never happen!
I want to break out of character and make the first move the next time I see him.
Does anyone have any advice on how I could do this without freaking him out! (link)
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Next time you hug bring your face to his and look into his eyes for a while. This will signal to him that you want to kiss him. If he leans in to kiss you then that's great! However if he still doesn't why not give him a quick peck to start with and see how that goes? You've got nothing to lose- if you know that he likes you he's obviously going to like you even more if he gets to kiss you! Good luck
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Ugh, you have no idea how fed up I am with periods.. I get depressed because I get them. Basically my question is, is there any chance that I can make the flow a little less and is there any way I get rid of periods by surgery?? By like removing the eggs or something.. Please help!! I just want to die.. grr (link)
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Surgery isn't really an option because if you remove your eggs you will never be able to have children! (and i'm assuming you're quite young!) You should go and see your doctor if you really are having problems because they may put you on the contraceptive pill as this often makes the flow lighter. However, it all does depend on how old you are and how long you have had your periods. If it's only a short time then this phase could pass. However if you started your periods two or three years ago a trip to the doctor sounds like it could do the trick! Good luck
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I've always had this view on cheating. I never understood why people would cheat. I always thought that if you wanted to be or do things with someone else then why not break up with whoever you're with? You obviously didn't care about them if you wanted to cheat on them.
I still think of it that way but I recently was in an incident were I made out with another guy. I completely went against in what I believe in. I knew it was wrong while I was doing it but I couldn't help myself. And at the time my boyfriend and I were not speaking. I know those are not excuses and I have no idea what to do know. I can't even talk to my boyfriend. He was supposed to come over today but I told him not to because I have a load of homework.
How do I handle this? 17/f (link)
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Exactly the same thing happened to me- almost word for word! Basically you have two options: You tell him and be completely honest with him. You say that it was a spur of the moment thing and that you only did it because you had an argument and were not speaking. He may take it badly but then again he may be better than you imagine about it and you will feel better as you have been totally honest. The other thing you could do is not to tell him. Here you run the risk of him finding out from someone else which would be awful or having to hide it from him forever. However, if you're sure that this was a one off and you feel sure in yourself that it will never happen again it may be worth keeping it to yourself to spare his feelings. The question is can you do this? Personally, I had to tell my boyfriend as I would have preferred to be dumped than live a lie. Luckily he forgave me and all is ok again. Ultimately it's up to you- you have to question whether you did it because secretly you're unhappy with the relationship or because you were simply unhappy with that little argument. Good luck
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lately my boobs have been hurting, i am pretty sure its only because they are growing really fast and ive gone up a few bra sizes.... but now today i figured i was starting my period soon so i started wearing a pad. i looked today and there was some brown liquid stuff there but no blood, i dont know what this brown stuff is. i still have not gotten my period. i do not have sex. i dont eat healthy and i have been craving weird foods lately. what could be wrong with me? (link)
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It's the beginning of your period- it's absolutely nothing to worry about and completely normal. You may find that over the next few days you see some blood so you should carry on wearing pads. However if you don't see any blood it's ok that's normal too- bodies do weird things around this time! Basically it sounds as if your period has pretty much started so congrats! Always remember sisters and mums come in handy at times like this and can put your mind at rest.
(added in) period blood is a bit different from normal blood- often its a brown colour so this does sound like what it is. Don't worry too much about your vagina hurting although if this goes on for a few days you should get some medical advice.
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can you get stds or whatever from masterbating? i mean like are there any risks involed? thanks. (link)
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If you're on your own definitely not cos you need someone else to give you a std. However if you're with someone else and you get really really close theres a tiny risk but mainly the only ways you can get std's is through oral sex or intercourse.
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okay everytime i walk outside in the dark by myself like i always feel like someone is there with me..its like someone is following me or watching me and when im not outside or in the dark and im inside it feels like someone is watching me through the windows. i am always turing around to see if there is neone there and i can always get a clear picture in my head of what "he" looks like. i mean i can draw him out i know exactly what the mental picture i have of this guy looks like and it really freaks me out. i mean obviously i know that no one is really there and that is all in my head but how do i make it stop?! i feel like there is like someone out there to get me... (link)
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It does sound like you're suffering from paranoia. The best thing i think you can do (even though it may seem like the last thing you want to do) is to talk to someone about it. Maybe a parent or a sibling or a friend you can trust? You need help on this one and perhaps you should consider going to a doctor. This problem is more common than you may think and a doctor would fully understand what you're going through and would be able to put you in touch with someone who can help further. I'm sorry there's no magic self help thing you can do- but talking this through with someone will definitely help. Good luck
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heyy well heres the thing .. i'm getting old and i haven't started to shave my legs yet. with winter coming up i can wear long pants but in gym, we have to change into uniforms that are shorts. all the popular and good looking guys are in my gym class and i don't want them to get any wrong impressions .. i want to bring this up with my mom but it really gets uncomfortable talking about puberty and such .. i really need some help! thanks ahead of time ! (link)
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Well you've got two options: either you speak to your mum or you go out and buy a razor and gel yourself! You could start off the conversation like "this is really awkward but I think I'm going to start shaving my legs" and see what she says! If she asks why just say it's because you're going to feel a bit self conscious in gym class. But if you don't want to talk to her and she's not the sort of mother that will mind if she sees the razor and hasn't spoken to you about it then get down to the shops! Or the other alternative is to go and buy the stuff and then talk to her about it like "i went shopping and bought this today." That might be easier!
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y is it that all you gurls say you want a nice sweet guys when u wind up going out with the dark nasty selfish ones.
and dont say its bs because u know exactly what i am sayin
and a serious question demands a serious answer because my sanity is @ stake (link)
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Ok girls say they want nice sweet guys because they want someone thats going to take care of them etc etc (that bit's the obvious part). However because these guys are nice and sweet quite often they're easy to get with- there's no chase if you see what i mean.
So bad guys are perceived as being more interesting and more often than not theres more of a chase. Its all about the playing hard to get thing. Nice guys never seem to play hard to get and i think that's got a lot to do with it. Girls of a certain age also like being with the bad guy because they think it makes them look cool and they're in with the right crowd. But then they turn round and say that they love the nice sweet guys because all the movies show that and deep down thats what they want as well.
I can see why guys get so confused!
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