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Wot gurls want
y is it that all you gurls say you want a nice sweet guys when u wind up going out with the dark nasty selfish ones.
and dont say its bs because u know exactly what i am sayin
and a serious question demands a serious answer because my sanity is @ stake
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Most of the time guys are the ones that do the asking. "Nice, sweet guys" aren't full of themselves like the "nasty selfish" ones. So because of this, typically, the nasty guys ask girls out way more often than nice guys. There's lots of reasons why girls say yes to these guys. They want to be with someone, since nice guys don't ask them out they don't think very highly of themselves, a lot of the time the nasty guys are the popular ones and some girls want to maintain or gain their popularity, or maybe they believe in giving most guys a chance or something. I've never been in this situation, but I've seen it happen to so many people. I agree with you that it's pretty dumb. Girls should be more careful and look at personality just as much as they look at popularity or attractiveness.
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well, what it is, is that normally we dont see the dark nasty selfish side at first until we are too involved (or at least that is how it works out for me) and i will admit that alot of the time girls go with a "hott guy" b/c he is good looking. and then he turns out to be scum. or it is the attraction to a "bad boy" b/c he lives on the edge and such shit. but it is different for every girl.
the future mrs steven mark jones
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Some girls think the nice guys are desperate or just needy because they're so sweet and never blow you off. Girls get attracted to bad boys because those guys act like they don't care so much and like they have better things to do, which makes them seem "cool". In the end though every girl wants a good guy...the bad boy thing is just a stage for most.
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I'm guessing your talking about teenage girls in which case I guess it's because what most are really looking for is fun, mystery and a big drama.
On the other hand the idea of the poor misunderstood rebel who only they can understand and take care of can be a very attractive (if often misguided) prospect. That's the explanation that usually applies to older women too. Needing to feel needed. Some maternal thing *shrug*.
Some grow out of it, some never want a "bad guy" at all even if they find them attractive so don't panic. Nice guys never finish last in my book, it's the selfish ones who are going to lose.
P.S. If you're a nice guy please don't try to stop being one- there are too few of you around.
In answer to your comment: it made me laugh but catagorically untrue! My own boyfriend is possibly the most terminally nice guy you will ever meet and I can assure you he is not a virgin. A guy friend of mine only managed to finally get laid once he dropped the "i'm a bastard" act and showed some actual emotion. Don't comdemn all females as being the same as those you've clearly run into so far.
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Umm when i say it i mean it. Sometimes some girls say it cuz that is what they want but not always what they end up with. So some girls just arent lucky enough to get the great guy that they want. When girls say that thats what they mean but sometimes they see the "nasty selfish ones" as lovnng, and caring. They find , what you might call a imperfect person, perfect. It all depends on who's judging the person.
Trix
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Hmmm.. i said that protossc gave a kick-ass answer, and that you should take his advice. You gave me a 1, which i wont bitch about but maybe you didn't understand me. I think protossc is totally on the money, but i didn't just want to repeat what he said. I DO think it was a good answer and by saying so I hope to give credibility to his argument, rather than just wasting time.
P.S. I hope you get laid soon, it may take your edge off. And 'gurls' is spelt 'girls'. I understand abbreviations, but they both have the same number of letters!
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Ok girls say they want nice sweet guys because they want someone thats going to take care of them etc etc (that bit's the obvious part). However because these guys are nice and sweet quite often they're easy to get with- there's no chase if you see what i mean.
So bad guys are perceived as being more interesting and more often than not theres more of a chase. Its all about the playing hard to get thing. Nice guys never seem to play hard to get and i think that's got a lot to do with it. Girls of a certain age also like being with the bad guy because they think it makes them look cool and they're in with the right crowd. But then they turn round and say that they love the nice sweet guys because all the movies show that and deep down thats what they want as well.
I can see why guys get so confused!
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