Hey I am 16 and believe it or not I have a lot of experince in giving advice.
So let me know if I can help and I will do my best.
Gender: Male
Location: US
Age: 16
Member Since: March 21, 2009
Answers: 97
Last Update: April 29, 2009
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there's alot of girls at school that dont like me and think im a slut . and i barely have any friends that are girls, should i care? or should i just keep living my life the way i do? people tell me its just because their jealous, cause i dont really give them reasons to think that way of me . (link)
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I would just ignore them. Most of them have low self-esteem more than likely and need too belittle other people to make them feel good about them selves. Its ok I had that problem too its common in young teens they will get over it one day. You should just go one and be happy with who you TRULY are.
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Tomorrow I'm planning to admit to the guy i like (who also happens to be my friend) that I like him and I'm so nervous. I keep trying to decide the way I'm going to tell him and I can't think of it without freaking out about it. I'm just so scared that he's going to be totally weirded out and avoid me. And if he doesn't like me back its fine and I hope we'll still be friends but I'm just so scared that everything's going to get messed up, since it usually has happened to me in the past when guys have found out I liked them (the difference is i never was the one who told them). But why is it so hard to admit to someone that you like them? I mean I know it's not the end of the world and there are scarier things. I just want to get it out already and tell him but I feel like I'm going to explode I'm so nervous. Why is this type of thing so nerveracking for a lot of people like me? (link)
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Most of the time it's hard for people to open up and tell their true feelings. Much less tell them in person. I understand and its not werid. You just need too tell him that you like him and that if he doesn't feel the same then say that you don't want it to be werid between you guys and you don't want him to avoid you. You just want to go back to being friends if he doesn't feel the same. You just needed too get that off your chest and then wait and see what he says. Theres nothing to be nervous about trust me your going to like a lot of other people in your life.
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Okayy... Theres Two Guys.
Lets Call them A And B.
A Is My Ex... B Is My Best Friend.
Im Still In Lovee With A But B REALLY Loves Mee. We Went Out For Like 24 Hours And Went Out To Watch A movie Togetherr. He Was Sweet And Sed How Preety I Looked Ectt. But It Felt Weird. I Mean Cumon I Was ON A Date With My Best Friend :S.
A Has Moved On But I Lovee Himm...
I Lovee B To Bits But I Dont Think I Could Lovee Him Enough. And I Feel I Dont Deserve Himm..
Helpp!!!! (link)
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Truth is you deserve both. But you need to just try to go out with B. Don't be afraid to experiment. How do you think A moved on. He didn't just wake up one day he moved on by getting out and dating and having fun. So now it's up to you to decide weather you are brave enough to just give it a try with B. Just ake sure he knows that your not in love with him you just like him and that it may not work out but you guys could always be friends. But don't let A control your love life. Hes out hvaing fun you should too.
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Alright, so im 15/f and I really like this guy, Lets rephrase that. I love him. I have loved/liked him for a little over a year. But he lives in Massachusetts.): and he liked me alot at 1st then stopped, and now claims to like me again, and says he loves me, he was so happy on the phone last night and even texted me good morning, witch he never does... What do i do??
thanks in advance.
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Sounds like you need too decide wheather your ready to be in a LONG distant relationship. Secondly you need too make sure that your not going to have trust issues with him. He may stop liking you one day and then start the next. Sounds like you two have a lot to talk about. You need to be the one to bring it up it sounds like. Make sure he realizes that he can't change his mind from day to day and he has to be commited to the relaionship.
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hii so there is this new guy who came about 3 months ago, so not too new anymore haha :]
and well i really really fancy him, like he's so cute and nice. but he also seems a lil shy tho :/
so like when he was new, his mum told my mum (they got to know eachother at parentsnight) that he really likes this girl who looks like blabla(discription) and that was pretty much me haha (: and my mum was like omygosh thats my daughter blabla and then told me. i was really happy and i know that he meant me because like i'm the only one with long hair down to my waist x]
so like in school i try smiling at him and stuff but he never really looks at me? but my friends tell me that he looks at me ALL the time when im not looking. and we've talked like a few times before but he never really shows his feelings and acts all 'cool'. but then he gets really jealous sometimes when i talk to anothe rguy. i mean i talked to this guy yesterday and he was watching, staring at him like he wants to punch him in the face :/ he's really shy when it comes to liking someone though but the issue is, so am i. and i want to say hi to him sometime in the hallway or something but i never really find the right situation and i dont have the guts ://
argh, i know this is a typical problem but please help meee :] (link)
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Well the truth is one of you is going to have to step up and just ask. I mean find something to talk about. If you have classes talk about the homework or the class itself. Or talk about music anything you guys may have in common. Get to know him better then bring it up in converstation one day and just ask him to go out with you. It's easier when you can talk about something you both have in common.
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this guy i dont know well at all who goes to a catholic all boys school asked me to his senior prom. im a junior. i thought it sounded fun and he was pretty cute so i said yes. we ended up making out and he turned out to be a terrible kisser. he gave me a beard of his spit!!! well i wanted to break things off but didnt. he ended up breaking things off monday after school because some girl he really likes wants to go with him. hes appologized a million times and claims to like me and says he wants to hang out with me again really badly and hes going to make it up to me. ive been really short with him. is it normal though for me to feel really insecure and upset after this though even though i didnt really want to go with him? (link)
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Yes everyone at some point no matter how beauitful or ugly is going to experince rejection. (I hope i'm on the right track this time, if not i give up lol) anyway sure everyone after rejection is going to feel insecure and down on themselves. Until someone else comes along and boost you self- esteem again. It's really not your fault, he just happened to find out about that girl at the wrong time for you anyway. You need too look at it as though you didn't have too hurt his feelings by leading him on when you would of eventually had too tell him your true feelings. So yeah I understand why you feel insecure and upset. It's normal.
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is it trained? is it rare to find people like that? (link)
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I think that its a rare trait you will find. Me being in a high school that people are two faced and very untrust worthy. i decided at a young age that people can tell me whatever they wanted and I wouldn't tell without their permission. Of course I have made a few slips but he has worked and people ask me about all kinds of things. But its something you are born with trust me. People don't change.
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i cheated on my bf. he forgave me and it has been 5 months since the cheating. he is having a hard time trusting me but is doing his best. i dont want to rush him with it. but i do want him to let me hang out with my guy/girl friends, without worrying. i dont want him to let me go to parties and trust me because thats silly. how can i help him or make it easier. (link)
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The truth is he may never trust you again. But thats something you lose by making the choice that you made. Some realstionships wont make it and yours may be one. If he can't trust you enought to let you live your life because you cheated then you guys need too talk and sounds liek you need to let him decide whats more important him trusting you or you living your life.
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Ok so in the 5th grade (im in 9th now) I liked this guy so I told my best friend and she all of a sudden went and blabbed it to him. Surprisingly, when she told him, he said he liked me back. Things were pretty cool between us I guess. The rest of the year was kind of akward for us but we made it through. People thought we went out but we really never did. Sometimes he would call me and sometimes we would talk at school but then during summer break he calls me and asks me if I want to go out with him. I wasn't really surprised but I didn't know what to say. I wasn't even in the 6th gade yet!! i didn't think i was ready for a relationship so i said no. He sounded hurt and I know i broke his heart but I just didn't know how to fix things. I was 11 then and now I'm almost 15. We haven't talked since then. He goes to my church but whenever I see him i make an effort to avoid him. I think he's avoiding me too and i just odn't know what to do. Should I talk to him? Or not? Should i leave things the way they are with us or should i try to become friends with him? I really want to be friends and honestly I don't know if I want to be more than that. It's crossed my mind a few times but I'm just not sure. HELP?
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You may think hes avioding you when really hes not. Maybe he thinks your advoiding him and he is trying his best too accompany you on that. But yeah I would just start a casual converstation with him one day. I mena if you want to be friends there isn't anything wrong with that it seems like you guys were close and good friends dont let you feelings for each other get in the way of that. If you like him for more than a friend after a while of talking get to asking questions about girlfriends and who he likes and all that kind of stuff.
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I'm thinking of telling my guy friend who i happen to like that I like him. I'm scared out of my mind however but I can't bottle it up anymore. I want to tell me via letter, and I have a good plan of how I'd give it to him but that's besides the point. What I want to know is whether or not a letter would be a good choice. Is it ridiculous and just an awful idea? It's just that I don't want to do it in school cause were never really alone and I don't want people listening at all, and I really don't want to text or do it over the phone. What should I do? (link)
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Yes, that sounds like a good plan just be careful about what you write in there. Because we all know how high schoolers are and if someone stupid get ahold of it then the whole school will know. That seems to be the only thing you need too work out since you want it to be a private deal. Seems like you have it all planned out. But after you write it down give yourself sometime to be sure that you really feel this way for him. Then give it to him. It's never good to want someone and then decide you dont.
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Here is my story. Sorry this is long, pls bear with me.
I was in a long in a 7-year relationship with my ex. He is a good man and loyal but I felt taken for granted in the relationship. After 7 years I decided to break-up. He ended up sending me txts msgs though I never replied. Two months after I met my current boyfriend. He is sweet, makes me feel so important, special and loved. We are happy together but since my current and I are both living in a country different from ours, he was sent home due to some immigration problems. He is not back until now (over a yr now) but we commucate evryday thru chat and phone. He has been doing successful business before but things has changed, now he is financially broke and his attempts to do business again always failed. Six months after I met my current boyfriend, my ex came back being more persistent, almost crying and begging to take him back. He said, he has now relaized all the mistakes he has done and he has now changed and even proposed a marriage. At first, I ignored him but as several months passed by becoz of his persistence and my confusion with my current relationship I open the communication with my ex again. I am already 30 yrs old and I want to get married soon, I don't want to play games, this situation is making me crazy. I know my ex is obviously the better choice but I feel I love and miss my current boyfriend BUT his financial situation is scaring me. I don't mean to depend on him, I have a good job and can take care of myself but I also want a husband who is financially stable and can help me build a good family financially. My ex, is a good man, financially stable, ready and available right now but my feelings for him has changed, it isnt like before. I really don't know what to do. I know the best thing is to leave them both, be by myself but I am just so scared basically of everything (of hurting any of them, of maybe realising I made a mistake and will regret my decision(if I choose the ex or current) forever , of being guilty to leave my current in his lowest, of deciding to choose one and finally realize I still love the other and be in pain of missing him, of being alone. I am petrified. I just feel sick and crazy. I sometimes really have no idea who is the one I love anymore, I don't know love and complete happiness anymore and I really dont know what to do! Help pls..Thank you!
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The truth is your going to feel bad no matter what you chose. I would say though that your current needs too understand your needs. That you want to have a family and have a husband and right now he can't do that. But your ex also needs to realize that you are in a good relationship and should respect that. You shouldn't let the financal aspect of your current affect your desicion. What he needs is to come back to america to get his feet back on the ground. But with these hard-ships you have to also realize that neither have a good job unless its medical or something to that effect. You need to decide which one you love being with more. Which one makes you forget about your problems at the end of the day. Which one can help you through hard times and the one that is truly going to be there for you no matter what you need, then I think you will find your answer. But remember there is no wrong choice but there also isn't a right choice your going to feel bad and regret no matter who you chose. It's human nature.
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Okk...I had my heart broken by a guy...that I thought cared about me ...well...he didn't. I just started liking my guy friend...well he doesn't like me...he likes my friend..I think...but she's not the right girl for him...because...she doesn't really care about guys feelings...she dates them for 2 to 3 days...or maybe if the guy is lucky a week! Ok...like...I am single and I really would like a boyfriend.. um..I am a 7th grader...and NO one in my school likes me!! I absolutely don't know why. Ugg...I am really nice...I have a lot of friends and I don't judge anyone.I am fun and silly..lol I'am pretty... well...all my friends say i am all hte time so..and... well...I just don't understand. What I want to know is ...will I ever find anyone? Like..I am 13...but...still... a lot of people have boyfriends in my grade. What can I do, any tips on getting a nice guy?? All...I really want is a sweet caring...lol cute guy!! Gezz..and all those guys are taken at my school!! It's hard to find a sweetie pie...lol Please...anyone try to help!! (link)
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Trust me you have more than enough time to find someone. Don't spend your life worrying about having a boyfriend. Because before you know it you will blink and your lifes gone and all you ahve done is worried about finding the right guy. When the right guy comes along you will know. Of course you will have boyfriends along the way that you think is him. So you have hit a dry spot it's ok. It's not that no one likes you its just that maybe guys aren't looking right now. It's ok your a 7th grader remember that.
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Okayy, Well here is the story. I'm 15 female.
There is this guy that goes to my school.
And I told him that I really like him.
He said that he liked me first.
But I really do like him. But He has a girlfriend.
And He won't tell anyone who it is because I guess if he does people will call her a slut or whore for dating him. But see. Why should she care what people think. I know I wouldn't. Okay so the guy wont talk to me. And I tried texting him twice in the past two weeks. I don't know if he really likes me, Or if he's just saying he likes me so he wont hurt my feelings. I wonder if I should move on. Or if I should wait till him and his girlfriend break up. (link)
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Sounds like you should just move on. He isn't worth your time the way it sounds. Don't let him have a hold on you.
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French exchange students have been staying at my school this week, and, of course, I am having a bit of a "thing" with a French boy. However, today he told me some long story about him falling in love with an American exchange student for a week when she came to France last year. So he gives me some bullshit about how he does not want to go back to France and miss me. Is there any possible way I can get him to change his mind? (link)
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Sounds like you shouldn't focus on whats going to happen enjoy now while you have him. Who's to say you can't e-amil and call each other. I know what it means to be in love or like someone an awful lot the truth is you are prolly going to lose him. So fall in love and have fun until he goes back. It will be worth the risk you will enjoy and make memories that you will never forget. How could you pass that up.
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please dont judge me.. but i have a boyfriend and i care about him soooo much. the problem is before we were official i was getting some from this guy i also kinda liked but it would never work for us to date. and we had txt sex pretty often. i went official with my bf but ive still been having some txt sex with the other guy. i feel SOO bad and after trying to stop but getting pulled back in i finally said NO MORE. if i told him hed hate me and dump me and it would break my heart. weve only been dating so far for 2 weeks and we see so much potential i couldnt have that happen. the reason i did is because he and i r pretty conservative and idk the guy would txt me late at night and be all horny and so was i. but now im sitting here crying feeling so awful. what should i do? please help me. and please dont judge. please..it hurts enough. but i kno i dont deserve him. :( (link)
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There is hope for you since you seem to feel grief and regret for doing what you have done. But more importantly he doesn't deserve someone who is going to have text sex every other night with a different guy. Honestly I would say you need tell him and let him decide wheather he wants to keep you as a g/f. I don't think you should get to make the desicion. What you should do is tell that other guy that you have a boyfriend and you are breaking it off with him because it's not right or fair to your BOYFRIEND.
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so, i had sex for the first time ever last month and i thought the person that i had it with would be with me forever.. but he broke up with me, and now we don't talk. do you think i was a booty call? it hurts cuz it was special to me, ya know? what do i do? i'm so heartbroken, i don't know what to do. (link)
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Sounds like more than likey you were. But he may also have some issues with getting close with someone. A lot of guys do I know that I am a guy and I have those issues. But my best advice is that time will heal the pain and you will move on I know that it was special but you can either decide that, that one doesn't count or you can just move along with time and find another guy to share that special moment with.
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So i have been dating this guy for about two weeks now...
And things have been soo amazing, i don't think i could ask for anything better then having him in my life right now. But before we started going out, this girl told him that she wanted to meet up with him and hook up. He told me she was being all flirty and then he asked me if i would be comfortable with it because we have been talking so much...
I told him ofcoarse i wouldn't be comfortable with it but we werent going out so he could do whatever he wants. He chose not to go because he said he cared about me too much to loose me. Then about 3 weeks later he asked me to be his girlfriend. Things are going fine until i see his facebook status 'Cant get this out of my mind, and i know it wont be worth it and ill screw things up but something tells me to go for it...'
So were in the mall together and he tells me this same girl has told him that if things dont work out with 'that girl' that she'll always be here. He told me he said 'alrite cool'.
The he told me she was a giant creeper and started making fun of her...
I dont know what that means but i am really worried he's gonna dump me for her.
Is there anything i could do? (link)
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The only thing you can do is just let him know. You don't want to hear about her and that he is YOUR boyfriend and that if he doesn't want to be YOUR boyfriend then he needs too break up with. Because dragging you around like that isn't respectful and you deserve better. You also need too realize though that if he does break up with you is that your young and I am sure he wont be the last boyfriend that you have.
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I’m 16/f and I have this best friend Katie. (not her real name; she’s also 16) We became best friends in grammar school. We went to a small, private elementary school. There was another boy in our class, Ben. Katie and Ben never got along really well, but after 5th grade, they ended up going to a public middle school together, ended their feud and became friends (I was at a different school). She developed an intense crush on Ben and she firmly believed he was interested in her too. She made subtle advances but they never amounted to anything. Her friendship with him soon died after he became popular (in the time that I knew him, he was a friendless geek) and after he discovered that she liked him, but she apparently didn’t get the message that he didn’t really like her back.
However, I remember having talked to Jason, a friend of Ben’s, who went to our old school together. Jason told me that Ben told him that Katie was chasing after him, and that Ben really wasn’t interested in her. Knowing Katie, her idea of how other people think are skewed. She was confident that Ben liked her, but she probably picked up signals from him that weren’t really there.
They ended up going to the same high school together. He lost his popularity and became a nerdy loner again. Katie started going out with this other guy, Danny. She thought she was totally in love with him and all that, and lost her virginity to him a few months ago. Recently, Ben got transferred to a new school and Katie is really depressed. She’s always liked Ben and she only got together with Danny to get over him, but it didn’t really work.
Katie is really sad and upset and she wants to talk about it with me, but I really don’t know what to tell her. I’m torn between whether I should break it to her about what Jason told me awhile back, that Ben was never really interested in her. I’m afraid that it would be really bitchy and mean and coldhearted for me to tell her that, but at the same time I don’t think it’s really good that she have this deluded idea of Ben having liked her, when he really didn’t. It’s just that I’ve never been in any sort of situation like this before and I don’t know what advice to give her.
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All anyone can really do is be there for her. Let her talk to you about him. Listen to her while shes talking about him. Care that she likes him and that shes hurting. Time heals the pain. Yes give her a 2-5 month she will have moved on and forgotten all about ben. I don't think you should tell her about him not liking her, at this point I don't think it matters anymore. Just be her friend for a while. You may not know what to say ot her when shes talking about him but it will help her just to know that she can talk to you about him and that your there for her and that you care enough to listen to her. Your doing a great thing.
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how can i be better friends with a new friend that i made recently? (link)
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Find something you both have in common. Start with the casual converstation and then just start talking about your interest or hobbies your bound to have something in common. Then before you know it your both really good friends. Some ideas Movies, TV Shows, Music, Books, School. Anything like that.
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im a secretive person, and i dont like telling how i feel or basically open up/secrets so i keep stuff to myself. People blabbed my secrets in the past so im really paranoid about it till now. i dont really trust anyone, but i would like to believe some people can be trusted but how can i open up if they cant keep secrets? i keep getting those impressions from other people that they might not be able to keep secrets. But i wanna have a close friendship with my new friends what should i do? (link)
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Well first tell them unimportant things that may not destory you or anything. If they tell someone then you know you can't trust them.I know where I live I can't trust anyone either. That's jsut the people around here thats nothing I can do about that. People trust me and that's how I like it because someone always needs someone they can lean on. So I understand your need to find someone to trust. All you can do is test their trustworthiness.
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