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Should I talk to him??
Ok so in the 5th grade (im in 9th now) I liked this guy so I told my best friend and she all of a sudden went and blabbed it to him. Surprisingly, when she told him, he said he liked me back. Things were pretty cool between us I guess. The rest of the year was kind of akward for us but we made it through. People thought we went out but we really never did. Sometimes he would call me and sometimes we would talk at school but then during summer break he calls me and asks me if I want to go out with him. I wasn't really surprised but I didn't know what to say. I wasn't even in the 6th gade yet!! i didn't think i was ready for a relationship so i said no. He sounded hurt and I know i broke his heart but I just didn't know how to fix things. I was 11 then and now I'm almost 15. We haven't talked since then. He goes to my church but whenever I see him i make an effort to avoid him. I think he's avoiding me too and i just odn't know what to do. Should I talk to him? Or not? Should i leave things the way they are with us or should i try to become friends with him? I really want to be friends and honestly I don't know if I want to be more than that. It's crossed my mind a few times but I'm just not sure. HELP?
Thanks so much :)
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You may think hes avioding you when really hes not. Maybe he thinks your advoiding him and he is trying his best too accompany you on that. But yeah I would just start a casual converstation with him one day. I mena if you want to be friends there isn't anything wrong with that it seems like you guys were close and good friends dont let you feelings for each other get in the way of that. If you like him for more than a friend after a while of talking get to asking questions about girlfriends and who he likes and all that kind of stuff.
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In my opinion, I'd say definetly start casually talking to him. See how it feels, and it's bound to be awkward at first, but that all happened years ago, so there shouldn't be any hard feelings, yuh know? I'm sure he wants to talk to you also, but since you are both avoiding eachother, it seems as though he is too scared to come up to you and make conversation. so make it easier on the both of you and go up to him :] stop avoiding eachother and try to re-build your friendship that was lost. anything lost can be found. trust me :] and you'll boht find that you want eachothers friendships, and as of now, don't get start thinking about the "what could have beens" or the "what should have beens" just think of the present and not if you'll end up being bf and gf. there's plenty of time for that, just get this situation over with first, and then tackle the next one.
xxo, good luck :] hope i helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me.
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i think you should talk to him to see how hes feeling... but you cant always get your hopes up on these things. you have no idea whats going through his mind, whether hes moved on or not. i would just clear your head and ask how he feels.. and thats the only way you will ever know. tell him how you feel too, and why you said no in the first place.. that might help him understand a bit more.. as he might be avoiding you because hes confused and doesnt understand your feellings).
good luck, and i hope it works out :)
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