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Boyfriend Problems...
So i have been dating this guy for about two weeks now...
And things have been soo amazing, i don't think i could ask for anything better then having him in my life right now. But before we started going out, this girl told him that she wanted to meet up with him and hook up. He told me she was being all flirty and then he asked me if i would be comfortable with it because we have been talking so much...
I told him ofcoarse i wouldn't be comfortable with it but we werent going out so he could do whatever he wants. He chose not to go because he said he cared about me too much to loose me. Then about 3 weeks later he asked me to be his girlfriend. Things are going fine until i see his facebook status 'Cant get this out of my mind, and i know it wont be worth it and ill screw things up but something tells me to go for it...'
So were in the mall together and he tells me this same girl has told him that if things dont work out with 'that girl' that she'll always be here. He told me he said 'alrite cool'.
The he told me she was a giant creeper and started making fun of her...
I dont know what that means but i am really worried he's gonna dump me for her.
Is there anything i could do?
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remember if he dumps you for her it's his lose. but right now it seems like he was confused but i think he's gotten over it or at least is in the process of it. so there shouldn't really be anything to work out. if you're still worried you can't really do anything. because you can't force someone to like you or you can't force him to choose you. its what he feels. and you wouldn't even want to do something fake for him just so he stays with you, because it won't even be the real you.
hope i helped.
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Your boyfriend's attitude can mean a lot of things. It may be that he is comfortable talking to you about "the girl". Or he's just trying to see what your reaction would be. Unfortunately, it could also mean he's preparing you because he wants out of the relationship. The reason why I can not determine what he really meant by doing it is because you have only known the guy for two weeks. So basically you don't really know him that well. My advice to you is, just stand back. Observe him when you're together. Listen to what he says. does he talk about "her" all the time? Does he pay attention to you? Does he go out of his way just to see you or is he still in touch with "her"? when you do this, then you will know what to do. Whether to stay with him or to let him go.
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Yes, you can break up with him before he breaks up with you.
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The only thing you can do is just let him know. You don't want to hear about her and that he is YOUR boyfriend and that if he doesn't want to be YOUR boyfriend then he needs too break up with. Because dragging you around like that isn't respectful and you deserve better. You also need too realize though that if he does break up with you is that your young and I am sure he wont be the last boyfriend that you have.
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If he keeps bringing this up, not only is he considering it, but he has absolutly no respect for you or your relationship. Ask yourself if you would rather have a bf with wondering eyes, or one who's so focused on you that he doesn't even see other girls (and I promise that one is out there somewhere). If your comfortable with him considering the other girls than do nothing. If not, ask him how important you are to him. If he gets up tight or angry, than he's obviously not ready for a real relationship. If he tells you, and you're ok with his answer, then let him know that you don't like the fact that he's flirting with the idea of another girl. Lastly, should you two come to an agreement that you're his girl and there are no others as long as you two are together, talk to the other girl. I'm not suggesting a fight...just a calm and rational converstion where you let her know that he is YOUR bf and you don't appreciate her flirting with him.
Chances are, she'll continue to do so, but now the ball is in your bf's court. It's up to him to let her know that as long as he's with you, it's not gonna happen. And if he doesn't care enough about you to tell her that, then he's not worth your time. You could find and you deserve someone WAY better.
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My best advice is don't sweat it. If you're still young, then he's just a boy. I know it seems like he's the world right now, but if he's dumb enough to dump you for some girl, that he will probably get bored with after a month, then it's his loss. I've been there before, and I've waited around for a guy so he could "explore" his options. I've also been dumped by a guy for another girl he thought was better, and then he dumped her for another girl. It's just how some guys are.
There will be tons of guys. I know it sounds like something your mother would say. But it's true. Don't spend your time worrying about the "what ifs". Enjoy the moments you are with him. I use to worry all the time with my current boyfriend, but now I realized it is better to not worry and live in the moment. If something bad did happen like that, then I would deal with it when it did.
Your best bet is to forget about it. But be careful also. If he has more status's like that, or your gut tells you somethings wrong. Confront him.
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