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What have i done????
please dont judge me.. but i have a boyfriend and i care about him soooo much. the problem is before we were official i was getting some from this guy i also kinda liked but it would never work for us to date. and we had txt sex pretty often. i went official with my bf but ive still been having some txt sex with the other guy. i feel SOO bad and after trying to stop but getting pulled back in i finally said NO MORE. if i told him hed hate me and dump me and it would break my heart. weve only been dating so far for 2 weeks and we see so much potential i couldnt have that happen. the reason i did is because he and i r pretty conservative and idk the guy would txt me late at night and be all horny and so was i. but now im sitting here crying feeling so awful. what should i do? please help me. and please dont judge. please..it hurts enough. but i kno i dont deserve him. :(
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This is up to you. You have only been with your boyfriend for two weeks. You're still trying to get to know each other and sometimes it will bore you. You said that your bf is pretty conservative. That is actually good on your part. Because it means he's not taking you for granted. Sure, it is frustrating especially when you're in the moment and he pulls away, but in the long run it is actually okay.
If you really care about him, do not expect things all at the same time. The best relationships are not started in one night only. I know that a part of you longs to tell him about your escapade. But if you do, you would only be pouring your guilt to him. I think that would only worsen things because your admission would make you feel better but it would break his heart. It will not do any good.
So, be strong and stop texting the other guy. And when you do that, chalk him up to your list of "Never-agains" and go back to your boyfriend whom you can put to your list of "Forever and Evers" Best of luck!
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There is hope for you since you seem to feel grief and regret for doing what you have done. But more importantly he doesn't deserve someone who is going to have text sex every other night with a different guy. Honestly I would say you need tell him and let him decide wheather he wants to keep you as a g/f. I don't think you should get to make the desicion. What you should do is tell that other guy that you have a boyfriend and you are breaking it off with him because it's not right or fair to your BOYFRIEND.
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*sighs* This is hard. I know if my man cheated on me, I would NOT want to know because him and I have such an amazing thing going. But, sometimes things come out of the open when you are not wanting it to. Guilt is a horrible thing, if you think your guilt is eating you up enough and your guilt is putting you through enough punishment to the point where you know for a fact you will NOT do it again, I would keep it quiet. Some people are different though, sometimes the guilt is so bad they cannot eat, sleep, function daily through life so they need to get it off their chest. It just always depends on who you are as a person.
Personally, I beat myself up enough damn times when I know I have done something wrong and I ALWAYS come out and apologize to whom ever I done wrong to.
Hope this helps.
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