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How should I tell him?
I'm thinking of telling my guy friend who i happen to like that I like him. I'm scared out of my mind however but I can't bottle it up anymore. I want to tell me via letter, and I have a good plan of how I'd give it to him but that's besides the point. What I want to know is whether or not a letter would be a good choice. Is it ridiculous and just an awful idea? It's just that I don't want to do it in school cause were never really alone and I don't want people listening at all, and I really don't want to text or do it over the phone. What should I do?
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Thats a good idea just make sure you word it correctly and make sure it will be specific and easy for him to understand.
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Yes, that sounds like a good plan just be careful about what you write in there. Because we all know how high schoolers are and if someone stupid get ahold of it then the whole school will know. That seems to be the only thing you need too work out since you want it to be a private deal. Seems like you have it all planned out. But after you write it down give yourself sometime to be sure that you really feel this way for him. Then give it to him. It's never good to want someone and then decide you dont.
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Yea you could write a letter, it's a great way to let out your feelings, but hang on to it! Be careful you don't loose it and it ends up in the hands of the WRONG person.Instead write it, let your thoughts run freely,express your feelings out.Then, read it, read it again and if you still feel 100% percent sure that giving your friend the letter it's the best idea then go for it!.You never know until you try.But if you do decide to give him the letter make sure that you give to him in person... that means NO GIVING IT TO A FRIEND TO GIVE IT TO HIM...that's a NO NO!.Make sure you give it to him in person and tell him to read it, that it is very important.I hope i helped you make a choice, Good Luck and hope it works out!
-Sujayne
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ok ... write the letter - BUT HANG ON TO IT. You will feel better and more in control/calm after writing down your feelings and facing them.
But do not give him the letter. Should he NOT feel the same way, you will be more secure without worrying about a letter getting passed around. Even if he isn't the type to do this, you never know which one of his friends will stumble across it.
Instead of a big declaration of love/like/lust etc. ... I suggest putting it out there more subtly, in person.
"You are someone I could see myself dating- it is ok if you don't feel the same way - because I can also see us being really great friends"
In your own words of course ...
This gives him an 'out' without you feeling like you were left hanging ... and if he doesn't WANT an out and feels the same way, then you have given him an opportunity to respond.
Hopefully he has already given you some indication you are more than just a girl buddy. Private conversations, flirty texts, time spent alone, etc. If not, you might want to give him more time to know you first so he isn't taken totally off guard.
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