Hi my name is Sujayne and im cuban and live in Miami,I love giving advice and i love recieving it aswell.Its a way to look at others way of seeing things and expressing your own opinion on certain situations...we might relate and know how you can feel.So go ahead and ask i should give you the best advice i can I PROMISE:)
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im cheating on my bf. how do i tell him? im fifteen. (link)
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Choosing to come clean and say the truth is always the right choice. While it might be scary,because feelings are going to be hurt, choosing the truth is always right. I think you should just invite him over, or go somewhere where you can both speak in person alont. Notice how I mention in person, the reason why is because things are better done in person and you will seem more mature if you stand up and speak face to face rather than over text or call.
Tell him that your feelings have changed and you don't want to hurt him. While you know that you are going to hurt him by admitting that you are cheating on him, tell him that you no longer can't keep this hidden for respect towards him and your old relationship. Even though you know that what you did was wrong, it's better to end things on good terms by telling him the truth rather than having him find out by another person eventually.
If you are lucky he wont get so hurt to never speak to you again. If he does, then it's better to let him, he has his rights. You chose to cheat on him, and if he decides to take that path you only have the option to accept it. But after a while if he realizes that you can be friends, then accept his friendship and learn from your mistakes.
Good luck,Hope everything works out.
-Sujayne
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hi im 15/m
i have bad luck and bad experience with meeting girls. i always say the wrong thing and never end up with any girl. I only do if im lucky.
the problem is to get girls to like me. im not ugly or fat, im just an average looking guy, i dont know what my problem is. .. (link)
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I believe you shouldnt change who you are for anything. It's who you are! and that's what makes you!. I think you just have to keep on trying and don't give up. Everyone is bound to face rejection but that should be taken as a lesson to move on to better things. Just because you are shy doesnt mean that there are not girls for you out there. Of course you should practice self confidence because one should always feel proud of who they are and show it off to the world. But it's ok to be a bit shy as well. You will find that you will end finding a girl who loves anything about you even that you are shy. Being in a relationship also helps with this, the more you become comfortable around girls, the more you will feel no need to be extra shy around them. Just keep practicing and don't give up because if you do, you are only hurting yourself and the chances of finding that girl that's meant for you.
Good luck!:)
Sujayne Hernandez
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I am obsessed with sucking dick. it's all I think about all day long. I need to get my mind on other things. any advice? (link)
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Hello, Well My opinion would be the same as the others who have answered, if you feel that no matter what you do you just can't stop thinking about that, then you should seek profesional Help. But there are some things you can try and test your self will, while you are actually not giving oral,you are just thinking about it,you can test your self wil and catch yourself thinking about it and say "STOP" and think about something else. If you practice doing that and distract your self doing something besides thinking about sexual activities you will eventually move past thaqe habit and you will no longer feel the need for this.
Good luck:)
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i am from pakistan i love some one and he is also but my family will never give me parmession to marry with him n i cant live without him what should i do for this setuation my parents wants that i get marriage in my family and i need advice (link)
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Hey, well as i can see you are in a very difficult situation love and family. First you have to sit down with yourself and analyse whether your love is really worth all the problems, would it last through the hard times, if you doubt anything about your love's ability to last then maybe you shouldnt go against your family.But if your answer is yes then fight for your love in the end you will deal with you and him and only you knows what type of man will make you happy, you dont want to live a life of regret now do you? Im pretty sure your family will give in in the end because they love you and if they dont its inmature they are. Do what makes you happy if hes the one then dont let him go because of anyone. If its meant to work out in the end it will.Good Luck let me know what happens, hope i help and if you need more help make sure to ask.
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18-female.
well me and this guy (ben) have been friends for about five years now. i've always had a thing for him, but thats another story. well if i text him he will always text back. BUT last night, i slept at my brothers house with his friend (whose like my second brother) and this morning i guess they took my phone when i fell asleep and was texting him but he never said anything back. i was so mad at them and so i texted ben today and was like what the hell did my brothers say to you. tell me now. and he didnt say anything back either? i'm a little sad. i dont know whats up with him. he's never NOT texted me back. now maybe he thinks it was actually me who "pretended" to be my brothers because he saw me leave my cousins at like 12:30 last night and knows my curfew is 12:30 but my parents let me go to my brothers to watch movies and stuff after. i hope he doesnt think it was me the whole time, i would feel dumb. i dont know what i should do :( i cant belive my brothers did this! and i really want to talk to ben, but i dont know why hes not texting me. it's not like him at all. obviously i'm not going to keep texting him because that would just be annoying. it's freaking me out though, and making me really sad. (link)
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I would not take it so seriously,maybe he doesn't have his phone with him or he's just busy and hasnt gotten around to it.He should not be so mad you guys have been friends for a while.Try calling him instead and see if he answers.Good Luck!:)
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(this is kinda hard to explain. hope you understand if you dont ask me)
okay so theres this guy that i went out with and we broke up because we argued a lot. and were still friends. we hang out like a couple times a week. and everytime we do hang out, we make out, and other things like that. and he wants to go farther, but i told him im just not ready. the other day we were hangin out and we got pretty far with things. farther than i had wanted things to go. and he started to undo his pants and then undo mine. i got scared and kinda pushed him away. then he grabbed me and was holding me cuz he realised he had pushed it to far.
well for some reason i want to go out with him very badly but he told me that its better we stay friends cuz we dont fight as much. and the other night we were talking about how i wanted to be with him. and he was like you know it will make our relationship a lot stronger if we just had sex.
im not letting him push me over.
so i guess im asking....
what should i do??
any help is great
please and thank you
-cuttechick24 (link)
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First, sorry to tell you sweetie he seems like a player that just wants to have sex.He obviously does'nt want a relationship and looks at you as an easy target that he can manipulate to have sex.
Stand up for yourself, you are wasting time with him when you can be with someone who actually respects you and understands that you are not ready,and doesnt try to push you to something like that.
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I'm thinking of telling my guy friend who i happen to like that I like him. I'm scared out of my mind however but I can't bottle it up anymore. I want to tell me via letter, and I have a good plan of how I'd give it to him but that's besides the point. What I want to know is whether or not a letter would be a good choice. Is it ridiculous and just an awful idea? It's just that I don't want to do it in school cause were never really alone and I don't want people listening at all, and I really don't want to text or do it over the phone. What should I do? (link)
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Yea you could write a letter, it's a great way to let out your feelings, but hang on to it! Be careful you don't loose it and it ends up in the hands of the WRONG person.Instead write it, let your thoughts run freely,express your feelings out.Then, read it, read it again and if you still feel 100% percent sure that giving your friend the letter it's the best idea then go for it!.You never know until you try.But if you do decide to give him the letter make sure that you give to him in person... that means NO GIVING IT TO A FRIEND TO GIVE IT TO HIM...that's a NO NO!.Make sure you give it to him in person and tell him to read it, that it is very important.I hope i helped you make a choice, Good Luck and hope it works out!
-Sujayne
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ok here is the deal. My birthday is on feb 7. So to celebrate my bday, my mom wanted to take me on a cruise on feb. 26...it was all good, until monday when i found out that i had to take a part of the fcat that day( a state test that u have to pass in order to graduate from high skool). So i told my mom , and she wants me to go to the cruise and retake that part 4 days later. I do not want to do that cause its just complicating things for me in the fcat. i mean not only does it complicate it, but i dont think that i can concentrate on the test if i just came back from the cruise a day before.(the test is several days long). So today, i got tickets to see Wicked. Supposebly that show was sold outand i had gotten the last 2, but then my friend finds some individual tickets and buys them . So i tell my mom and she is like no they are sold out i looked everywhere for them. Then she tells me that i cant go to see Wicked unless i go to the cruise with her. I tell her that is not cool to say that and she makes me choose. I say mom no i am not going on the cruise cause of the fcat. So she starts screaming at me and then throws me my Christmas present and tells me to try it on to see if it fits. I open it and they are Prada sunglasses that do not flatter my face at all...(only rectangular ones flatter my face)so she asks me wat i think about them and i tell her that i dont like the shape. Then she screams that im ungrateful. She says HAPPY BIRTHDAY and leaves off to her house (i live with my grandma). I am soooo sorry that this i long, but i feel soo mad and sad at the same time. Wat do i do? do i go to the cruise to make her happy? I feel like the cruise is fro her, not for my bday anymore... :( and plz dont tell me to sit down and "talk" to her cause we all kno that is not gonna work... thanks in advance! (link)
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Ok so the deal is that i believe your half right half wrong...for the gift ur mom gave you it was mean that you told her that you didnt liked it,i mean maybe letting her know in another way is easier its a delicate deal and for the cruise and the rest of the matter well yes your right and its important that you let ur mom know how important this is and that you really dont feel comfortable taking as a "retake"
But even if you think it doesnt work sitting down with her and telling her... it will work she is your mother and has to understand you and be proud that you choose your studies over fun and also think about im sorry for the whole gift deal...hoped i helped
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I really need help because I'm starting to get extremely scared.
13/f
Well two nights ago when I got out of the shower I noticed my right breast was really darkish blotchy brown around the nipple but there was like a circle of white around the nipple seperating the two. Also the nipple kind of looks swollen. My left breast looks fine and I thought if I ignored it, it would go away but it looks like its getting worse.
Please tell me if you know what is wrong. I'm too embaressed to tell someone but if I need to I will.
P.S. I tried researching but I couldn't find anything.
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The best thing you can do is go to a doctor,try not to worry because sometimes we worry that the worst is going to happen when its actually nothing.So go ahead and get that checked out ASAP!
-Sujayne
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16-female
i'll make this short..
ive liked this guy for awhile but he has a girlfriend..whenever we hangout we always flirt and sometimes the things he says and does makes me think that he likes me or is attracted to me but hes always talking about how much he loves his girlfriend. but he has taken over my heart (link)
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Well first this is not a nice guy,think about it... he has a girlfriend and he is flirting with another girl.What makes you think he wont do the same thing to you if you go out with him.Another thing he is a taken man and if he likes you why is he still with that girl?So he is not worth it my friend.You should try to date others who can respond to you're feelings and are worth dating.
Remember:Mess with a taken man,you're only asking for trouble
Hope i helped
-Sujayne
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well Theres This Guy we went out like in term 1 or 2 in this year and i liked him then stoped then i saw him again nd we talked and im not sure if i like him but his the player type he gets a girl and dumps her in a month so i know i shouldnt tell him cause he wont care but if i do end up liking him what should i do ??
[xOo] (link)
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Well...i can relate to you.My ex boyfriend is a player.All i can tell you is to think about things if you know he is a player you know how he is going to be.Maybe before rushing into a relationship you should get to know him more like umm a month!.If he sticks around after the month and you see that he is really interested maybe take the chance and go out with him.But here is the secret...players love what they cant have,so think about it.Always be strict on guys who are players,make them see they are not the last guy on earth,if you make it seem they are the best they will take advantage of you.So think about it and good luck!
Hope i helped=]
-Sujayne
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Hey everyone!!! I am 15 years old and I have never had a bf. I dont think that I am ugly, nor i am not antisocial. Is something wrong with me? After all, i am already a sophmore.... (link)
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First there is nothing wrong with never having a boyfriend before.The way i look at it your doing just fine,your waiting for that guy that fullfills you and makes you happy and is actually worth dating.Some girls at this age look for a boyfriend just to brag about it,and thats not the point.Having a boyfriend means that you found that special guy that gives you butterflies in your stomach when you're together.You are that type of girl and you shouldnt think that there is something with you because there isnt.In fact i can relate i had my first boyfriend just a few months ago,and i can tell you that even though it didnt work out its such a great feeling being with that special guy that you actually love.So keep on you're doing great,HE WILL COME:)
Hope i helped
-Sujayne
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