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confused>and need help!
(this is kinda hard to explain. hope you understand if you dont ask me)
okay so theres this guy that i went out with and we broke up because we argued a lot. and were still friends. we hang out like a couple times a week. and everytime we do hang out, we make out, and other things like that. and he wants to go farther, but i told him im just not ready. the other day we were hangin out and we got pretty far with things. farther than i had wanted things to go. and he started to undo his pants and then undo mine. i got scared and kinda pushed him away. then he grabbed me and was holding me cuz he realised he had pushed it to far.
well for some reason i want to go out with him very badly but he told me that its better we stay friends cuz we dont fight as much. and the other night we were talking about how i wanted to be with him. and he was like you know it will make our relationship a lot stronger if we just had sex.
im not letting him push me over.
so i guess im asking....
what should i do??
any help is great
please and thank you
-cuttechick24
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I was in a similar situation. This guy sounds like a jerk that is just trying to get into your pants. If you don't want to have sex with him then no means no and that is final.
You don't have to have sex with a guy to make your relationship stronger. A real relationship is more than just sex. In fact, there are many that don't involve sex until later. Don't let him push you over. I say find a guy who is o.k. with you wanting to take things slow.
Empower yourself honey, always know that you are beautiful, fabulous and amazing. And any guy who wants what you have has to wait till you decide it is o.k. for them to have it!! Don't ever settle for less than you deserve and it sounds to me like you deserve a lot more than that guy is willing to give. I hope that this helps and that you find an amazing guy!!!
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Sounds to me like this guy is just trying to have sex with you. Saying that you guys shouldnt go out because you fight less as friends is bull. He just wants to keep his options open.
I'm glad that you said your not giving in. Dont. It seems like you already know whats going on. Just use your head and dont be naive. Guys can be very good at taling girls into things they dont want to do.
I understand you may really like this guy, but dont let yourself get hurt. Tell him that if he just wants to be friends, thats fine, but friends dont hook up.
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First, sorry to tell you sweetie he seems like a player that just wants to have sex.He obviously does'nt want a relationship and looks at you as an easy target that he can manipulate to have sex.
Stand up for yourself, you are wasting time with him when you can be with someone who actually respects you and understands that you are not ready,and doesnt try to push you to something like that.
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Seriously, I'd suggest putting your foot down. He wants sex, you don't. If he can't understand that, or at least respect that you're not ready.. He's not the boyfriend for you. He's not allowed to really make the descion for you, or push you into it. You have to make your own choice and also let him know you put your foot down to his wants. You're not out to ruin or make the relationship better between you guys, you feel it's already a good relationship, if he'd stop pushing sex on you.
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