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While I am still young, I have had a great deal of life experience. It is from this that I give advice. I am open minded and try not to be judgemental. If I can help in any way, I will. Just ask. However, like everyone else in this world, I am not perfect. My advice may not always suit you, since my experiences are not the same as yours. If you want clarification on any answers I give, feel free to ask me. If you don't like what I said, or if I offended you, let me know. This is the best way for me to improve on my responses. Thanks for looking at my page!
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A few days ago I had a follow up gynecologist appointment because my pap smear came up abnormal. During my colcoscopy, they found abnormal cells and therefore performed a biopsy. The gyno said there is definitely something there, and they'll do further tests to see if it's high risk or low risk, she says it's most likely low risk HPV.
The first guy I was ever with was a virgin, and the second I was with had been with a few girls previously. I contacted one of his ex gfs and let her know of the HPV because he was with me RIGHT after they broke up. Therefore making her the last girl he slept with before me. Her pap smear came out normal and she's fine.
My question is: they had sex 1-2 years ago, do you think she had HPV and her body got rid of it on its own? Because there's no way my first partner had it, therefore my second must have. I just have no idea why his ex gfs pap came up normal.
Any help is appreciated, sorry if it's complicated.
The best answer I can give is simply HPV is not always sexually transmitted. I don't really know all the causes, but even HPV that causes genital warts is not always sexually transmitted. I had a gyn tell me that sometimes the virus is latent in a person, and could even be there all her life, and can show up under stress.
Also, "most likely low risk HPV" does not mean that it is even HPV at all. They will need to check further. I recently learned not to freak out over initial tests because I had something show as possibly an STD and it really worried me. Turned out to be absolutely nothing, and I lost a lot of sleep for no reason. Wait for the final results, then discuss potential causes with your gyn if necessary.
okay my ma has been paralized for almost three years and its cause the hospital messed up on her surgery. she has someone "looking" at her case but i dont think she's been talking to the right people cause its been to long and they cant even tell her if she got a case yet so my question is who can help us with this law suit ???
You need to find a lawyer who specializes in malpractice. I can't direct you to anyone specific because I don't know where you are. Check the internet and phone book for malpractice lawyers. Most lawyers give free initial consultations. Also, when looking online, you can usually find reviews from people who have used the lawyers. I did a quick search and found this site that supposedly shows reviews and ratings:
http://lawyersguide.com/
There are actually a lot of sites like that. Just search "lawyer guide."
okay im 18 and have no credit. could i get a loan for a car?? and would that be a good idea or how does that work ????
Whether from the bank or the dealership, you need credit.
I have a fair credit score, but no credit history. My bank won't even give me a car loan, though I have a stable, secure job with excellent pay.
Right now, lenders are just really cautious about lending because of the economy.
You may be able to get a secured credit card or a store credit card to build some credit, but for a car you will likely need someone to co-sign for the loan. If you are reliable, this shouldn't be an issue. Just keep in mind that if you don't make the payments, it doesn't hurt just you but your co-signer as well. If you do make all the payments, you will have great credit history and a car.
16/m i do enjoy sex very much. and i've been in a relation ship for about 6 months now and we are having sex at least twice a week and then oral or handjobs or something pretty much every day of the rest of the week. we started going out because we had sex the night before so and sex was just kind of a once a week thing for the first 2 months or so and there wasnt realy a waiting period like in any of my previous relationships. now im constantly wanting to have sex or do something and im not sure if its normal at my age or if i may be getting an addiction?
16 and you've been with 13 people? That is not healthy. Yes, you may have an addictive personality. Addiction affects other areas of your life, and is often dangerous. Right now, I can see you are engaging in potentially dangerous behavior. Is the constant desire affecting you in other ways? Getting in the way of school or work? If so, it is very likely an addiction. At the very least, you shouldn't be having sex with so many people so young and you should definitely get tested for STDs.
Hi i recently met this girl, didnt really have much of a conversation with her but asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime. She said sure, so i asked her a couple minutes ago if she wanted to get coffee. If she says yes, then how do I prevent awkward silence while we are together, seeing as i dont really know to much about her?
Ask her what she likes to read, what music and movies she likes, etc. It may seem awkward at first, but just a question or two will usually spark discussion. Try to find something in common. She probably has the same concerns and will be relieved to answer your questions instead of thinking of something to fill silence.
hey im 18 and my boyfriend is 21. his ex girlfriend who he is still friends with invited him to her 21st birthday party. its of course going to be a drinking party and such. the only issue I have a problem with is 4 of his ex girlfriends are going to be there one who still has feelings for him. plus he would be spending the night there. 2 of his ex girlfriends have boyfriends so he assured me not to worry. he said he would only go if one of his guy friends went. but he really wants to go because he hasn't hung out with them in a while. I asked him kinda vise versa like if my ex boyfriends were going to a party and I was invited and going to spend the night type of thing. he kinda hesitated and didn't give me an answer. should I let him go I mean I don't want to control him I just find it kind of awkward. thanks for the advice I rate!
Long answer, good way to build trust:
Tell him just how you feel. Say you don't want to control him, but you are just nervous about what could happen, especially if he drinks. Tell him you know he won't intentionally do anything that will hurt you, but you aren't comfortable with him being with so many exes while they may not be completely sensible and might try to take advantage if he has been drinking as well.
Would you feel more comfortable if he didn't sleep over? Tell him so. Let him know what worries you and why, but don't be pushy or difficult. Listen to what he has to say about it. Then, let him go, even if he decides to stay over. Don't give any rules or anything. Just say "I trust you, especially since you let me tell you how I feel. Have fun."
Then, don't worry. The next day, when you see him (don't call him first thing in the morning. That will just tell him you don't trust him), ask if he had a good time and leave it at that.
It is very hard, but if he listened to your reasoning, nothing will have happened. If anyone tries anything, he will stop her and, if you aren't pushing him distrustfully, he will likely tell you about it. Guys are weird. The less you ask, the more they are willing to tell. They get defensive and hide everything if you bug them about it because they become afraid that you will be angry no matter what the reality is.
If he starts acting weird right after, and you haven't been trying to get details from him about the party, you might want to bring it up. Again, don't push. Say "you've been acting a little weird since the party. Is everything ok?" Because you have shown trust in him, he'll tell you.
Thing is, this isn't just a guy quirk. I was engaged and was going out with friends. My fiancee got really controlling over what I could and couldn't do with them that night. So, I almost hooked up with another guy just because I felt I was already being punished for it. We aren't together anymore. Don't make your guy feel punished. Give him freedom and he won't abuse it. It will, ultimately, be great for your relationship.
Ok, so my bf fingered me in the butt and I went to the bathroom after, and i was bleeding.. What does this mean? How long will it last?
Small tears in the anus can cause a lot of bleeding, more than you would expect. It shouldn't last more than a day or two.
Next time (if you enjoyed it and want a next time), use a lot of lubrication.
I started my period on september 6, and finished yesterday afternoon(sept 13). I had unprotected sex last night in my spa. I don't know how long my cycle is, I've never understood it but my period is 7 days. Is there a chance I could be pregnant?
I got pregnant the last day of my period. So, yes, there is a chance you could be pregnant. But, you might not be. If, in a month, you haven't gotten another period, get a test.
hi ,this sounds akward but i just have to ask somebody.
ok so when i touch my vagina down there i dont feel nothing.and i dont even see my clitoris.i seen images on google but i dont see no little circle in there. i just see something thats like a seed.and thats the uretha,my doctor opened me down there and told me i do have one. but i just dont kno because when you touch your clitoris is suppoed to feel good.but me i dont feel nothing.am really sad about this because i really want to feel something :(
Every person is different. I'll be honest, I was 18 and had been sexually active for two years before I knew just where my clitoris was. That was because a man I was with showed me.
When touching yourself, if you are focused on finding the spot and worrying over where it is, you aren't going to feel much because you are too tense and focused. Relax, touch different ways and places. Try light circles or heavier vibrations and see what works for you. But don't think about whether you are hitting the clitoris. Some women just aren't as sensitive there, but are in other areas. There are a lot of nerve endings in the first inch of your vagina, and something will feel good at some point.
Can probation officers break into your home and do a random search without a warrant when you're not there?
My boyfriend is on probation but I have a clean record. He has been going to classes, paying restitution, and working really hard. I've REALLY kept an eye on him and I KNOW he isn't doing bad things. He did miss one appointment with the Probation Officer and called right away to reschedule. I was really proud of him for taking responsiblity.
We were both at work the other day and they (the probation officers) came to our jobs and arrested us saying they searched our house and found something illegal. They claimed that they did not need a warrant to search our empty house. They never did tell me what they claimed to have found!
When they finally released me and I got home I found that they had broken in through the window (or so it looked like) and tore apart the whole house. I mean, it's a wreck...
Was this legal? I'm really confused
This is not legal, from the breaking in through a window, to not telling you what exactly you were arrested for. Talk to the police right away. The longer you wait, the less likely something will be done about it.
any tips on how i can? i want to go to a modeling agency on october 18 and so that gives me about a month and a week to lose 20 pounds. any tips will be appreciated-especially on food or diet plans or pills. and please dont give me crap for asking i want real tips!
xoxox
5 weeks to lose 20 pounds? That is not a good idea. I used to teach weight management classes. It is not healthy to lose so much so fast. You will most likely make yourself sick.
Now, with the right diet and exercise, you can lose around 5 pounds the first week, then your body will level out a bit. At that point, 2 pounds a week is healthy. So, done right, you can lose around 13 pounds in the time you have.
I highly recommend Curves. That is the place where I saw a lot of women lose at the rate I just described. If you follow their diet and exercise plan, it really does work. My first time with the six week diet plan, I lost 18 pounds. Second time around, when I started teaching it, I lost 12 because my body was used to the program. Still, pretty good loss over that amount of time, and the people at Curves are incredibly supportive and helpful.
Now, that is my experience. I'm sure other similar places will work just as well. Just be sure to be consistent in what you do, eat healthy and keep active, and you will not only lose weight but keep it off.
so i have sex unprotected and im at of age but i KNOW i shouldnt be having a kid right now. i look at it as i wont get to do the things i want to if i have one. well i always hope i dont get prego. but when i get my period i always seem a little dissapointed and a part of me doesnt want to get my period and thats at times. but i dont know why its dumb.
Nature makes us want kids. That is why we keep having them, even though we know it will hurt like hell and we may not always be ready for them. So, it is not unreasonable to feel that way. What you do about it is the important thing.
You already understand that you are not ready for a kid, you know you are still too young, and that is a start.
Having sex unprotected is a bad idea at your age. I did it, got lucky in not getting pregnant. I think back and realize how much I would have missed out on had I gotten pregnant as a teen. My life would have been drastically changed, and my kid would have suffered because I was not ready to be a parent. I'm 31 now, and have a 10 year old son, and I still wonder if I'm ready to be a parent.
Think about it this way: you want to do the best you can for a kid when you do have one. When you get your period, it means you have more time to learn to be a good mom and to be ready. You will have a kid eventually, so you don't need to be disappointed.
In the meantime, consider birth control pills, or something else that is reliable, and back them up with condoms. Enjoy all that you want to do before you become a parent and know that you are ultimately doing the best for yourself, your partner, and your future children.
How much weight will i lose if i jog for 1 hour a day for a week?
Depends on your eating habits and other activities. You will probably only lose a couple of pounds. Possibly as much as 5, if this exercise is more than you usually do and you have started eating healthier.
You need to actually have consistent exercise habits and a healthy diet to lose weight. It doesn't even have to be as much as jogging an hour a day. 30 minutes every other day, including both cardio and strength exercises, will work wonders if done consistently. Including strength exercises will build muscle, which will raise your metabolism and help you lose weight faster.
Hope that helps!
Ok, so if I used to eat lots of junk food and all the wrong types of foods and had no kind of exercise in my life, and then i all of a sudden stopped that, and started eating right and exercised everyday, could that possibly bring about frequent headaches? Like from the sudden change in diet and exercise? and if so, after how long should that happen?
Yes, definitely. Any change to diet and exercise has potential to cause headaches. Your body is wondering where all the sugar and such went. It can last up to a couple weeks. Keep up the healthy habits and it will go away. You will even feel better than before.
If you tend to get the headaches right after exercise, you may be overexerting. You could also get dehydrated. Make sure you drink a lot of water. That will help.
Who is the world's shortest volleyball player
That is really not specific enough. Do you mean collegiate, or pro, or something else? Here is an article I found on short players that might give you the answer you are looking for:
http://www.richkern.com/vb/Articles/Short/Short.asp
Is it a coincidence that the cycle of the full moon and a woman's reproductive cycle are both 28 days? Do any other natural occurrences happen every 28 days?
I can't think of any answers on that, though I can tell you that the word "menstrual" relates to the word "moon" as does the word "month." Some speculate it has to do with the moon's gravity, like tides, but I really don't think that is it. Now you have me curious though . . . I may have to look for more information.
is it weird to just stop what your doing when your in the moment to go get some lube or lotion to use to give your boyfriend a hj? Cuz i've tried without and it isnt working. My friend said that is the only way it will work.
I agree with the previous answer.
Sure, guys would take a hand job over nothing, but a bj is more preferred.
If you need lube real quick, saliva works great. Even if you just moisten your hand, it will do the trick with less interruption.
If you are determined to stick with a hj, keep lube nearby so you don't have to interrupt.
i want to know who on here actually uses condoms when giving a bj. i'm positive my guy doesn't have any stds because hes been checked...so does it really matter if we use a condom or not?
As long as you are totally sure he is healthy, then it really isn't necessary. I hate the taste of latex, and prefer to give a bj without condoms. If there is any doubt about his sexual health, then by all means use one. As there isn't, well, you aren't going to get sick or pregnant, so don't worry about it.
Is discharge after sex for a woman normal, if she does not have an std or if she is not pregnant?
Sure, totally normal. Your body will lubricate in case more is coming, as well as a natural discharge to clean out anything that may have gotten in there in the process.
If there is an odd color or odor, then it is not normal and should be checked out. Otherwise, don't worry about it.
Okay so it's been like a week or more that I started bleeding. At first it was barely any (i'm usually a very heavy bleeder) and now it's bleeding a lot. I am on birth control but it was working fine until now and i've been taking it right. It was also kind of brown at first and i'm having bad cramps now. Does anyone know what's going on? I'm confused about it because it was right on time the last time and if I'm been taking it right I'm pretty sure this is weird. Plus it's lasted for a long time. Thanks.
Since you said that none of this is normal for you, it is possible something is wrong. It could be as simple as stress affecting your period, or it could be more. If it doesn't stop soon, check with a doctor. If it does stop, and nothing else seems off, wait until your next one. If that is also longer and more painful than usual, it might be worth checking out.
Also, you are very young (looked at previous questions) and at your age your period will change a lot. Birth control can also affect your period. How long have you been on your current form of birth control? Everyone reacts to pills differently, and age can probably play a part as well. If you do decide to see your doctor, ask if it is possible your pills are the problem. Try another type of pill, or even another method of birth control.
Most people will say not to worry. I'm of the opinion that, while you shouldn't worry too much, you should get something checked out if it is abnormal enough to bother you. If there is a real problem, you will catch it early enough to keep it from getting worse. If it isn't, you will have peace of mind.
That all said, I am pretty sure you are fine. It is likely your age, your stress level or your pills. If your gut tells you something is wrong, though, see a doctor for good measure.