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Alright so I'm 17 y ears and I don't believe in love for my age yet.
I don't date at all because I find it useless , it's just my perspective.
So I met this guy lets call him "S", (was out with most of ma friends and he came along)
Well S is hot and yeah I am the kind of person who cares about looks so sue me.
I kinda have drinking issues that I know of and we were at a party and i was wasted. I don't remember clearly what happened but I do remember dancing with S.
Now H is a really good friend of mine, he is a male and my best friend. He can become over protective sometimes of me. I sometimes suspect that he has feelings for me but I made it clear to him that I don't have feelings for him and I don't believe in all the dating crap.
After the party in couple of days. I was hanging out with M who is my friend but he is better friends with H and he told me that S tried to kiss me at the party and that H got really mad and threatened him and crap like that.
So i got pissed that people are getting into my business and H should have told me, I shouldnt have heard it from M. And I really kinda like S.
So after a couple of days, I was drunk at ma place and H was with me chilling. And then I talked to him about it and he got really pissed and denied it. And he really wanted to know who told me but I promised M i wouldn't say he did.
Anyways after a day, H texts me and says he is ready to talk about it. We met at a party (where i was just kinda tipsy) and we had a big fight even though he was the one who was wrong.
Then after a couple of days H calls me and he says "I'm not gonna ruin my friendship with you for S and i'm sorry and I'll tell you everything when I see you"
The same day, some unknown number calls and it was S, I was really surprised like I only hanged out with the guy for like two or three times and he seems really nice. I was also surprised he got my number ya know. Anyways he flirted and he asked me out on something like a date. And he told me exactly what happened between him and H. That he was dancing with me and then H pushed him and told him "There is something going on between me and (my name)so you can dance with her but dont dare make out with her or else i'm going to fuck your sister" That was really weird you know.
Anyways I talked with H after the call from S in two days and he was like "I told S to back off because he was taking advantage of you while your drunk" and he also apologized.
The next day, my date with S which i couldnt go 2 because I had a thing with a family member. S calls me late at night and goes like "M and H called me and they wanted to fight with me cuz i only said hi to C (who is M's girlfriend)"
That was really weird because M never gets mad if someone just says hello to his girlfriend you know. Then H told me the story and M told me that he is pissed at S for it and that he doesnt like the guy.
Now the problem is, M and H father's are big shit in this country and they want to kidnap S (for fun) and beat him up and fuck him up literally. Yes it's mean but they always do it if someone is bothering them.
S didn't do anything. And I really feel bad, what can I do? (link)
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I say stay away from S for a while if you really care for him. I mean, what can you do if H and M are gonna bring their hot shot parents into this problem? you cant do anything.
Tell H and M you wont be involved with S anymore. and then lay low for a while. Stay away from H and M until they're used to not having you around. You can say you need to be studying or something. Just stay away from them or subtlely find a quieter, more peaceful bunch of friends.
Then H and M can finally find a new girl friend to "protect", if thats what they call them.
I know you dont want to lay quiet and give in to them, but H sounds like a very aggressive person and I hope you dont get hurt or in trouble. Take care girl!
p/s and if both you and S like each other, it will definitely eventually work out. Just as long as he is not kidnapped.
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Okay im truning 16 on august 3rd and i have never ever had my first kiss.nore have i dated anyone.i have opened my options to girls too.so im bisexual and still havent dated anyone or had my first kiss.is that something to be ashamed of? (link)
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its not embarassing at all! im 20 and i still have not had my first kiss nor a first boyfriend. My friend even said i am elligible to stay in a monastery ;(
but i feel more fulfilled as things like a kiss or a relationship is more valuable to us. some girls treat sex like how we would treat a hug and i think thats sad because then, they have nothing to look forward to, while we still have the simple excitement of having a first kiss to look forward to. dont worry about it. it's more enjoyable when you have you first kiss or date with some one you really like. instead of just rushing towards it out of pressure.
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i don't want to annoy thid guy, but i want to text him. sometimes he doesn't answer & when he does he does a lot of smiley faces. what should i text him? hi :) hey hi hiiii heyyyyy heeeeey yo ?... (link)
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The smiley means he's just being nice. Usually when a guy doesnt text back, that means he's just not interested enough. Wait for a guy to text you back. I think it's better for you to talk to him personally face to face than text.
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So, there's this cute guy in my gym class. He is friends with my friend. So, my friend has been talking to him for me and she said today "Hey, remember the girl I introduced you to in the hallway the other day?" him -> "yea, Sarah, right?" her -> "yea, she thinks your really cute, and I think she likes you" him -> "uh oh, she's cute but I don't know her a lot." her -> "you should get her number, she's a really cool person, I know you'll love her!" and he just smiled and said "maybe I will, maybe I will" Does that mean, he's kinda diggin me? Also, my friend said she'll give him my number tomorrow, if he texts me what do I say? I wanna sound cool, not over the top and obnoxious. Heeeelp! Thanks! (link)
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WOW your friend is bold! i think he is honest when he says he doesnt know you and seems very friendly through his response when he says you're cute. But i dont think he's digging you yet. The best way to ensure he digs you (since he already think you're cute) is to personally introduce yourself. If he really does call/text you, you should act surprised so he wont think that you ask your friend to give him your number, that would sound desperate.
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do you think it's possible for a person to COMPLETELY change who they are? (link)
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POssibly. THrough experience, through friends, opinions of others. We are human, constantly changing and adapting to new environment. If principles can change, why not styles and personalities. I say it doesnt happen very often, but it is a possibility.
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Sooo, This weekendd I'm going to my friend Audi's house. We are going to have a kick back at some guys house and I guess it's going to be Me, Audi, Enrique, *Angel* Johnnyy, Jose, *Paulo* And *Carlos* My problem is I've dated two of those guys before [Angel, and Paulo] And I love Angel with alll my heart and whenever I'm with him I can't help it We end up doing things. He's messed up with me a lottt in the past though. And Paulo? He kind of messed up to but just not as bad. I reallllyy liked Paulo just not as much as Angel. So it was like I loved Angel but I liked Paulo. Well anyways my friend Audi is trying to get me with Carlos. Carlos is a nice guy and everything but I really don't know. I always make bad choices. I have a feeling I'm going to mess up and do something with Angel and that could ruinn my chances with Carlos. But there is a chance that Angel might not go. If he doesn't then I'll still have that same feeling that I'll mess up except not with Angel but with Paulo. I don't want to mess up though. I neeed help. How do I avoid both Angel and Paulo? (link)
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i say dont go to Audi's house that weekend. I dont care if Audi, you friend, is gonna be upset, she should understand that there WILL be drama if you put a person with two of her/his exes at the same house full of alcohol. Just dont go! the best way to not screw up stuff is avoid the situation that will cause drama in the first place.
you can meet up with carlos anytime. or if you dont, then it's alright too. guys come and go, but bad memories and DRAMAs stay with you forever...
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Ever since fourth grade, I have been good friends with this girl my age (I'm female too). We are now both 15. She is kind and generous and always willing to help. But ever since we started highschool, she has totally changed, but it could be me who changed. She is now distant and hangs out with the people I just don't connect with. I like to hang out with the laid back kind of people and she likes to be with the perfectionists. To top it all off, she is rich and extremely pretty, unlike me. I like to talk about problems and how to fix them with others and she likes to talk about her clothes, hair, and how high her grade point average is. I know she has a slight problem with pride, but I am very jealous of her! How can I get through this? (link)
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everyone has those kinds of friends. friends that sometimes you enjoy to be with so much, and sometimes you just hate being with her.
dont worry, if you're jealous of her that means you do have a pride that equals her too. (please do think of it as a compliment, having pride in yourslef is a good thing). Im sure you have something that she doesnt have, like maybe you're good at painting or playing music, or you're closer to your parents than she is, anything... the next time she starts bragging, just think about what you have that she doesnt have, and you'll feel better.
btw dont EVER say she's prettier than you! evry girl is born pretty, im sure you're very pretty too :)
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so, i've known this boy for a few years. we're both 17. we liked each other last year, but we didn't date because i was going through some hard things and i didn't want a relationship. we stopped hanging out as much, and now we started hanging out again. i really like him but i can't tell if he likes me. all my friends (girls and guys) tell me that he flirts with me, but i can't tell. what are some signs that a guy might like you ? even if he's a little bit shy ? and how could i get him to possibly like me ? (link)
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Im as clueless as you are, girl! But my friend says, from experience, if a guy likes you he'll make you know it. Maybe he'll be subtle at first, but if he likes you,he'll eventually make it so you'll get his feelings. even if he's shy, he'll make the first move if he likes you enough.
But the way to flirt, make yourself unavailable. As if wait for him to find you first, and sometimes say no when he's asking you out. By being unavailable and then being irresistible when you guys hang out, he'll be thinking it's really fun to hang out with you and will continually pursue you.
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i have a really close group of friends. and usually i have a lot of fun with them, sometimes i can't stand them. but today was just terrible.
i had the most problems today with one of my better friends lexi. she was just being taking me to seriously and always contradicting herself by what she was telling me. but the thing that really upset me what in social studies. i have that class with lexi, my best friend, and another close friend.
well, sometimes i say stuff and i don't know why like it's weird but i can't control what i say sometimes.. well i started making fun of deaf people and stutters because i was watching a show last night about them. i know what i said was wrong and i wish i could take it back so don't judge me too harshly.
anyways then lexi said 'you know i'm going to laugh hysterically when you go to hell.' and it was just so mean the way she said it like i saw evil in her eyes. but that really bothered me. and it didn't help that my other friend joins in and says 'yeah, me too.' (and she doesn't believe in that stuff) THEN my best friend says stuff too. i can't really recall what she said but she was definately against me.
it didn't feel nice to be ganged up on so i just ignored them and didn't talk to them the rest of the day.
if it bothered me that much that they said that, like i almost started crying and i don't cry at all, does that make me such a bad person.
i just am really upset by that so if you have any advice on what to do please help.
also, i'm sorry this is so long but if you read it all thanks. (link)
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hmmm... what you said was really awkward. and from the way you said it, you say awkward stuff like that alot.
maybe you didnt mean it, but you will come off as being insensitive and mean. i know you dont mean it, but sometimes the pen is mightier than the sword, and what you say cannot be taken back.
anyway, maybe your friends were just really annoyed at what you said, who knows lexi has someone she knows who's deaf too and so she was offended. what you said was politically inappropriate too, so i cant blame your friends for their reaction.
plus, you said first that lexi annoys you because she takes you too seriously. maybe now, its time for you to not take her seriously.
just be patient :)
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is there a way i can look up concerts on a certain day? I'm looking for concerts on may 14th (in new york, conn., or rhode island). i know some people might not have announced their tour dates yet, but is there a way i can look up a date and get a list of shows that day? (link)
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ticketmaster.com or livenation.com
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people at my boyfriend is going around the school telling my boyfriend friends that im ugly and i really think are relationship is about to end and myboyfriend mom think he need to think about school before he need a girl friend and i really dont want to loose this boy this is my heart and my soul mate i really love him please help (link)
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well, does it matter what people think? i think angekina jolie is hot, but some people have the audacity to say she's a puffer fish. what matters is perspective. if your boyfriend thinks you're hot, then hot you are. be more confident!
btw dont be surprised by the mom's advice. every mom says that. if he loves you as much as you do, he'll stay by you.
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I'm 15 years old.. a freshman.. and i like his sophmore guy. lets call him D. my friend is R. well anyways my R has liked D for about a month. but ive liked D for like.. around 5-6 months.. she has NO idea what i feel about him.. in fact i told her that i didnt like him cause i couldnt trust her with my secret.. D told me that he dislikes R. R doesnt even TALK to D.. only on msn for liek.. 2 min once a week!
WHAT DO I DO (link)
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hmmm R sounds like a complex person, or a not-so likeable person, if a guy she doesnt talk to (hence D) openly says he doesnt like her. Or maybe D is not really a nice person. just saying. sorry im pretty honest.
I say, dont tell R you like D unless she's your really really best friend. Cos you know, she might be mad she'll tell D about you liking him and tell him your other secrets or make up bad stories and ruin any chance of you and D. they still talk, you know, on msn. as rivals in love, girls can do some real mean stuff.
and if things do eventually go well for you and D and nothing can come between you, then you should nicely tell R. if she's a real friend, she'll understand. and if you feel bad about taking D from me, go hook her up with some hot guy ;P
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I am a 17 old female. Okay I met my boyfriend about a year and a half ago, he lives about 3 hours away from me so you could kinda say we are long distance. Anyway when I first met him I was young and didn't have anyway to go see him so we remained friends. I didn't tell my mom about him because there was no chance in hell she would let me see him. Well we talked a lot and I really began to like him. About 8 months into knowing him I finally got my chance to see him. I had a car and my sister likes maybe 40 minutes from him so she let me go see him. My mom did know. I saw him and we ended up sleeping together. It wasn't the best choice I know but it happened. After that I was determined to see him, we were pretty much together after that. I continued to go see him about every other weekend without my mother knowing. It became harder and harder to stay away even though I knew I was doing wrong by not telling her. I fell for him the more I got to see him. Well after christmas he moved a little farther away but we both agreed to stay together. We were going to make it work. I was going to tell my mom when I was eighteen because then she couldn't do anything about it. Well the second time I go to see him I get caught. I covered my ass by saying I was somewhere else and drove home, that way I could keep him out of the mix. That night I came home I ended up telling her about him, I was scared I'd never get the chance to see him again. I didn't tell her that I had snuck off to see him, just that I had seen him once before. She agreed to let me see him if she came with. So a couple weeks later we go up there she drops me off and goes to the hotel. We spent a normal day together and she picked me up. Just recently she found out that I slept with him while I was there and now she won't let me see him. I have no car anymore since I got into an asccident. So I can't sneak if I wanted to. I really care about him and it will kill me to not see him until I'm eighteen. I have 8 months until then. I don't know what to do. (link)
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Just be patient. It seems you really love him and thats a good thing. If he loves you as much as you love him, he'll wait for you and stand by you throughout this tough times. And your mum is probably just so shocked by the fact you and your boyfriend are having a really serious relationship, that she is giving you a hard time. But im sure your mother loves you and just wants the best for you. Keep a sincere relationship with your man, and your mum will eventually give in. Once your mum cools down, properly introduce your man to her. If you love him that much, im sure your mum will adore him too.
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Alright so theres this boy I have known since I was in 1st grade, We have been best friends ever since until this one day me and him got really close and we looked to other people as if we were dating and we went to this place called syms hotsprings, we went swimming but we were with all these other people two and we got dared to make out. I said okay not thinking it would hurt our friendship. after we were done playing truth or dare we were fine we sat by eachother and stuff we talked, in the way home i sat with him and this other guy and we just talked and stuff but then a week later at school he didnt talk to me I acted as if everything was fine but he wouldnt talk to me so or even make eye contact with me.. all I am asking is how do regain that friendship to where we are cool again! can you give me some advice. Please. =] (link)
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just ask him why is he mad with you. there's a possibility he might be acting weird due to the kiss. but if he waited a week before acting all distant and stuff, i think he's probably mad about something else. but dont ignore the problem. it's hard to find a long-time friendship like yours.
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Ok so there's this guy I like. He knows I like him and 50% of the time he acts like I'm not in the room. And the other 50% he acts like he wants STUFF for me. I'm head over heels for him and I don't know what to do. Please help me. (link)
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im sorry. i may be harsh. but it seems like 50% of the time he DOES want STUFF from you. and other 50% he just doesnt want STUFF so he doesnt care about you. i dont think you should be wasting time with this guy. just ignore him. you'll find someone much more worth it in time :) good luck!
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18/male.
now i don't know why i do what i do, and yet i do it anyways. i have a nice relationship growing with a female friend of mine. and things are going good. and then i always always do or say something stupid to push her away. like tonight for example she said she would call me back in a few minutes as she had to get off the phone momentarily. and so i sat there for a while then my friend rodney came by and asked me if i wanted to go see a movie. and me being the idiot i am went along with it and left this girl who i have such intense feelings for hanging. and so i came back around and tried to talk to her online and she was mad at me which was to be expected. but the point of this question is: why do i do this crap? why do i always make an idiot out of myself and ruin things between me and a girl? why can't i just leave well enough alone and stick around? is it just because i'm immature and stupid? or is there more to it? (link)
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maybe cos you're a jerk. or you dont like her well enough. but knowing that you care about her, i would say you're just clueless. however the way you're treating her even if she likes you she'll probably be thinking 'he's just not that into me'. so if you really like her, show it to her. treat her as if she's your number 1 priority.
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17/f
Okay so I want to get to know this guy in my resource class a little better but don't know what to say!! Jus the fact that he makes me nervous proves I'm kinda crushing a little bit!! Ahhh well here's the thing: he's a soohmore I'm a senior, so we only have one class together and that's resource hour. He sits like a row and a half away too so I can't exactly yell from across the room "Heyy! I think your cute and want to get to know you so here's my number if you want to get to know me too!" I can't bring up other homework to talk bout becousr we have no other classes together!!! His friend whom I helped out gave me his number when I told him I was diggin his friend but I've yet to contact him plus my friend says the guy may be gettin a new phone cuz he didn't answer him the last couple times. I guess the question is how do I talk to him and what about?! I jus want to get to know him is all!! Ugh please help!!!! (link)
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I have the same problem too right now! i totally dig you, this is so frustrating especially cos i have nothing else in common with this guy except the fact that we're in the same class. It seems you guys have a mutual friend, so maybe you guys can hang out and be like 'hey, i think you know my friend, xxx, how do you know him...?
and eventually, after class maybe you'll be like 'wth, im so hungry right now? you wanna go grab a bite?'
it works on my part. im atill in the process of figuring out if this guy i like is interested...
so good luck to you girl! and tell me if anything happens!
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I want to break up with my long distance relationship. There's no real reason..I honestly just don't feel like being in a relationship anymore. I live in the US, he in the Uk. I'm 19, he's 21. We've never met yet, been dating 8 months. He wants me to visit this summer.
I like him, but I don't love him. He LOVES me, he's actually obsessed. It freaks me out in a way. I tried breaking up with him earlier this week by using excuses about school, and he started crying for about 2 hours. So, I gave in. He told me he couldn't breathe, and that he'd come down here immediately and such. I don't WANT that, I'm scared if I break up with him that he'll show up at my door.
He's a very fragile guy, it took him 2 years to get over his ex, and he still talks about how he never thought he'd love again, blah blah, but then he found me. :/ I do like him, but I want to be free. I hate staying inside all day on the computer to talk to him, I want my life back. I know if I tell him this that he'll have some solution, like: you can go with your friends, or spend less time with me!
Basically, I don't want to be sucked in again. I want to break up with him, not lead him on with false hopes. Can you PLEASE tell me how to go about this? I've been struggling with it for about a month. I want to end it, cut all contact. But, what do I do when he starts crying? I'm not a heartless person, I don't know if I can just hang up on him. Ahh, please help!!! (link)
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just close the damn computer and go out! have fun girl! tbh, it's better if he shows up to the states, 1) it shows he does really care for you, 2)then you'll feel like in a relationship because now he's physically there with you. but i dont appreciate a guy's tears if he's only gonna tie you down, so if you dont have feelings for the poor guy, dont give him false hopes and let go. both you and him will be happier in the future.
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My fiance, tends to be quite the hypocrite. Today, for example, I was doing work for him on the computer, and it had to be done fast. My internet was acting up (my luck), my 5 month old was screaming bloody murder, and my dog was barking, so I was frustrated, which for me doesn't happen that often. He calls on his lunch break and asks how it was going. I replied "fine, I'm just frustrated." He could tell i wasn't in the greatest of moods, and said IN THE MEANEST MOST DISRESPECTFUL WAY POSSIBLE, "I don't want to hear that you are frustrated or mad, I don't have time for that *&^@." Again, ON HIS LUNCH BREAK.
Now, let me tell you about him first.
He works EVERYDAY from 8am-8pm. He is an extreme workaholic.
He and his family don't get along AT ALL.
He hates his job and everyone there.
me?
I'm a stay at home mom with a colic teething 5 month old that i get nooo help with.
Hairdressing on the side.
Car-less right now so I'm home 24/7 and have been for 4 months.
Now, he comes home every night with a frustrated attitude and i am there willingly with open ears to listen and try to make him feel better.?????
Why wont he listen to me when I'm frustrated? he just gets mad when i even bring up something about me!?
HELPPPPP????
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maybe he's not worth it. just saying.
From your feedback, I think you really do care for him. And a man who is a great dad is worth fighting for.
Since you have been with him for a long time, you should be able to know now his goods and flaws.
His crankiness, if has been going since the start, think back if you can continue to live with that kind of behaviour.
If his crankiness only starts recently, maybe he really has a problem at work, or something is bothering him. Be patient with him, maybe he really needs someone who will stand by him.
To be in a relationship, there's give and take involved. Now maybe he's having a hard time and you have to be patient with him. Next time when you're distressed, if he loves you, he'll be there for you.
I love people who fight for their relationship and dont give up. good luck!
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im not sure how long i should wait until i like, go to third base [as in blowjob] with this guy. like ive never done it, and hes gotten head before. im nervous, but i know im always gonna be nervous no matter when i decide to. i just dont know peoples opinions on it. like, is it the same thing as sex where you have to be in love? is it trashy if your dating? how long after you start dating is it socially acceptable. im a sophmore, and hes a junior. at this age, i know he expects it, and the pressures on. so i just want honest opinions. not like "ohhh do it when your ready!" cause i know ill never be completely ready. ok well thanks :D (link)
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i dont think theres a deadline for it. if you're comfortable enough to do it, you will. but of course dont be pressured to do it. you can watch some errrr videos to learn just so you wont be that nervous. but just saying, dont do it if you dont feel like it.
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