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i have never.....
Okay im truning 16 on august 3rd and i have never ever had my first kiss.nore have i dated anyone.i have opened my options to girls too.so im bisexual and still havent dated anyone or had my first kiss.is that something to be ashamed of?
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Of course not, you should never be ashamed for not doing anything physical -- especially at sixteen! Listen, I know that it seems like everyone else is doing things and you may wonder why you aren't, but let me tell you, things are not as they seem. Many people exaggerate, many people get messed up because of rushing physical things -- you are very lucky my friend. Wait until it means something, when it will make you happy to kiss someone you really like, not just to do it to get it over with or because of everyone else. Understand what I mean? I hope so, friend. :)
Plus, it makes you so much more special and wanted when you haven't done any of those things -- trust me on this one. I'm a good girl, I've only kissed a guy before and it has made guys want me more than ever. I've had many offers but I'm saving myself for someone that I really love and when I know it will mean something to the both of us, and I always recommend that to everyone who needs some advice. :)
Happy early Birthday, the big 1-6! :)
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Ha.
We have the same birthday.
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its not embarassing at all! im 20 and i still have not had my first kiss nor a first boyfriend. My friend even said i am elligible to stay in a monastery ;(
but i feel more fulfilled as things like a kiss or a relationship is more valuable to us. some girls treat sex like how we would treat a hug and i think thats sad because then, they have nothing to look forward to, while we still have the simple excitement of having a first kiss to look forward to. dont worry about it. it's more enjoyable when you have you first kiss or date with some one you really like. instead of just rushing towards it out of pressure.
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Definitely not something to be ashamed of! I didn't have my first kiss until I was, 17 I believe. I've never had a boyfriend, or been in any kind of relationship and I'm not ashamed of it. I guess you could say I'm one of the "popular girls" if you want to put labels on people, and look at me! Of course I've turned down guys, and maybe I am afraid of committment but that doesn't change anything, I still haven't had a boyfriend. Sometimes people will bring it to attention, and people will be like yeah right you guys are lying! And I'm like no it's true. Don't ever be ashamed of yourself, you are just waiting for the right guy. :) Nothing wrong with that! If somebody makes a smart ass comment about it, just ignore it or laugh it off. Don't let it bother you, things will come around!
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Nah. Everyone has a right to their own priorities, to wanting things at different times.
I knew plenty of people in high school who were too busy being social or dealing with school to care much about actual dating until junior or senior year. Honestly, girls get that a little easier than guys generally, because there's a level of masculinity associated with straight guys who have started seeking women, while girls can just be "not interested in anyone they know" forever without too much hassle.
If you're interested, just start talking to people more. The easiest way to meet people you are attracted to is by meeting alot of people you can be friends with. So go out, be social, make friends, and flirt with anyone you find yourself attracted to.
It'll work itself out quickly enough if you make yourself available for other people to notice and be interested in you.
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Believe it or not,, alot of people havnt experienced their first kiss at 16, or had a relationship. If they did who is to say is was amazing and all it seems to be. Take your time, and find the right person, know what you want before you go looking, and wise up a bit so you dont go making silly teenage mistakes. You might do better than the other people who have all that drama and lose their virginity rather early and get pregnant. At least you know none of that can happen.
Everything happens how it is supposed to happen..
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Jesus Christ.
No, it is NOTHING to be ashamed of. Although it may seem like it, you can't put a date on relationships, can't assign a "DO _____ by age ___" type thing or you will just screw yourself over. Don't rush yourself into something JUST because you haven't done it yet and everyone else is. The only reason it even seems important to do is the media; according to the media, sex/partying/kissing/making out/etc is something EVERYONE does. So if you don't, you're not cool, you don't fit in, etc. DON'T BUY INTO THIS. This is a load of horseshit.
Just wait until you get a boyfriend/girlfriend, someone you actually LIKE and want to go out with. And then you'll get your long-awaited first kiss. And it'll actually be special.
However, I honestly don't know why girls make such a big deal out of the first kiss in the first place. I mean, true, it may be something you'll remember in the future since it's the FIRST, but it's really not a big deal. For me (I was 17), it just happened. And then it was over. The end. My world didn't change. I didn't become a cooler, different person. So why worry about it?
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People make fun of you over this? UGH teenagers. Hopefully, they'll grow out of that.
It's best to just ignore them. Don't let the stupid shit they say pressure you. I've been there, and it's NOT that bad. Yes, you may be left out of several dating/kissing/etc conversations, you may have to take shit about it from some idiots, but in the long run, you win. Really.
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