My name is Ashley Laskarin and i am sixteen years old. I have been through many different experiences in my life as many have, but i believe i have a gift for advice most of my friends and family come to me when they have an issue. im a good listener and love to help people. My life is the very essence of drama. I dont like it but ive grown up with it and know how to deal with pressure. ill answer anything with the best of my ability. so ansk me anything! :)
E-mail: nicolelaskarin@hotmail.com
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Location: Indianna
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Age: 15
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I'm female and 16, and i just got through a relationship that lasted for 3 years, and me and him are still really good friends, but we both like other people. We talk everynight and everything, but whenever it comes to me likeing someone else, I always think of him and stop liking them. Like, I kinda make up a reason not to like the guy, like he's stupid, a loser, or pathetic. I dont want to go back out with my ex, sure i still love him, but he's not a good boy friend at all. And now I like this other guy, who is totally cute and I'm getting to know him, and i just dont want the same thing to happen again. I can't understand it, maybe somebody else does?
thanks for your help :) (link)
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wow this is a toughy well wheni read this i thought this girl isn't over her ex yet....yeah you may not want togo out with him but your hear tm ay be saying someting iffeent....try to forget about him when you tlak to that guy and just go fo him.
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Okay ill not to make this very long… there is this boy in my class and I really like him and have liked him for a long time [between 2-5 years lost count]. I am not sure if he likes me or not and I am scared to go ask him. We are actually really close friends and I also don’t want to ruin our relationship together. He means a lot to me and cannot get him out of my mind. My friends always ask me why I like him and I cant answer them because I have no clue why. I think that I might think he is cute funny but everyone else thinks that he isn’t cute. What should I do?
My other dilemma is that next year I am going to high school. I have a chose weather to go to one school or another and I don’t know which to go to. My friends are practically splitting. 5 of my friends are going to one school and him and 4 others are going to the other school. I really don’t want to loose him nor do I want to loose the other friends going to the other school. HELP this is really confusing and hard to deal with.
Sorry for how long it is and thank you in advance.
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okay well as for the guy i think you should go for it i mena don't just go ilove you and try to kiss him or anything dramatic just tell him in person or ask him do you like me nad see what he says.....after all he might be hiding that he secretly likes you weell as for the school choose what is best for you it is goin tobe hard but friends shouldn't be the only reason you go to a certain school.
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i have really sweaty under arms and no matter what i do they still sweat even when its really cold outside..sometimes they dont but when im around certain ppl or a certain enviorment they always sweat..any advice will help
thanks~
kasey* (link)
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oh my gosh i didn't think anybody else would have a prolbem like that......i do the exact same thing well anyway i have tried almost everything but this might be a little wierd but baby powder works better than anything i have tried....and don't worrie it will get better mine has. i think it has something to do with hormones
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so theres this guy(he will be called a) ..i really liked him and to me it seemed like he felt the same.over the summer i sent him pics (they werent good ones) and he told me he wouldnt show anyone well when school started one of my friends said they saw the pics on A's phone.then i found out that most of the guys at my school saw the pics. So me and A got in a fight but i went back to him we never went out he knew i liked him so we started hangout and one night i snuckout to meet him and we went in the woods and i gave him head then he hurt me agian...BUT i still went back to him then he txted on xmas break and he wanted a xmas gift so i did it agian..after i did it i txted him and asked if he liked me all he said was ''it was fun'' then sum1 told me he was going out wit some girl when i gave him his gift(if you get what i mean by gift) i still look back to both the times and i always think what if i had sex with him...idk what to do i wanna get over him i need help please (link)
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he was just talkin to you like that to get some. he is a total asshole and you should really stop goin back to him...the next time he asks you for a "gift" cus him out and tell him to go screw himslef cuz you aren't gonna do it no mre.
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13/f.
So I had been dating this guy for about 3 weeks, and I mean I REALLY liked him. I don't know if its because he was my first boyfriend in a year, since my last one moved, or what. But he was great, he would call me on the phone, and would talk to me forever. And he'd text me. When his phone broke he used his friends, everything. But I've never kissed a guy. (I'm a little embarassed by that, but I've always pictured my first kiss as something really romantic.) Anyway, when his friends were over at his house he'd call me, and say really perverted things, that totally disgusted me. (i.e. "When are we gonna bang") And I felt uncomfortable talking about things like that, so I would say something like "awkwardddd" or "kind of uncomfortable right now" and such. Well we got each other Christmas gifts, and he loved his, and I adored mine. (We exchanged at school, about a week or two from Christmas) Well 3 days before Christmas, he hadn't called all Christmas break and hadn't been replying to my texts. So I was just telling myself "He's at his families and forgot his phone" or something to ease my mind. Well 3 days before Christmas, he got lindsey to call me and say he just wanted to be friends. I heard the voicemail. And I didn't believe it, so I texted him. He said it was true. No reason why, I mean I would have settled for "I'm not attracted to you anymore." So, I tried to get over him. Its now February and I think I still like him, but I don't WANT to like him. I'm currently talking to this other guy, who's amazing, and I'd really rather be with this guy, than Joseph. But I need to stop this attraction. I'm fine as long as I don't see him. But when I do, its like I'm in love. Is this because of my harmones or something?!
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it has something to do with your hormones but probably not what you think......it will take time to et over him. it is hardwer when they break up with you because you still like them in the realtionship(most of th time anyway) but just let time do it's thang and it will be okay sooner or later...as for that other guy GO FOR HIM....i mean really what's holdin you back?
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Ok...im 14/f...
Me && my boyfriend have been going out for 4 monthes... I've been told that it sounds like he is controling me or whatever...
I really like/love him...but could it be he is...
When ever we get in a fight and I tell one of my friends (because i need someone to help me before i end up hurtin myself or something) well he gets mad and yells at me... Or my friend will say something to him and then he tells me to tell them to stop talking to him...
it makes me feel (excuse my language) shitty!!!
he makes me feel like it is always my fault we get in fights! And he bugs me by sayin boys names he thinks i like... i could do the same to him but i dont because we would end up fighting more...
What do I do?? (I want to be with him...)
Please help me!! (link)
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no offense but this guy is a real jerk.....i had a boyfreind that acted like that and then he hit me......yeah by brother beat the crap out of him but anyway i think you should get out of the realtioship before it get s worse....trust me it might be worse than you think he definalty sounds like he is controlling especially when he makes you feel like it's your fault. most guy who are controlling start out by yelling at you and blaming you for all the fights or conflicts you have and as for piontin out the guys he thinks you like i elieve he is try to make you feel like he doesn't trust you and he might soon start tellin you you can't hang out with other guys. sionce i have a little experience with guiys like this it sounds like it is heading in the wrong direction and i know you might think you ean to be with him and it might be hard to let go but in this case i think you have to.
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This guy and I have liked each other for so long and this summer was awesome we were like gf and bf and then things died out. Like every month i would phone him to see how he was and we would talk for ages and yet he wouldnt talk to me in school. So A few weeks ago i invited him over and honestley its like awesome we were all cuddly and like a couple and then he left. Then at school, ignores me and then sometimes he talks to me and he's like 'u ok?' and i've been like 'umm yeh' but he promised to take me to the cinema and he didnt and then he promised to come over on Friday and he didnt. Should I confront him, thing is if i do- i will have to be drastic and say ' Look if you care for me, if you really care, you will put effort in as a friend, otheriwse i cant see this friendship working out?' and im scared he will be like 'whatever' and not talk to me again. He said to me ' we will always be friends if not more' and he's a sincere person- im really confused. (link)
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okay this guy seems to be unsure himself...if he doesn't talk to you in school it may be because he doesn't really want to be seen with you or it may be he is just nervous to tak to you around other people. i would confront him and ask him why he didn't come over friday and then when you ge the answer casually ask him why he doesn't talk to you at school as much as he does on the phone and honestly if he does blow you off then just forget him even if he is really nice it would b stupid to hang around with someone who really doesn't care
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well i need help with this,
i'm 14 and a chick
my boyfriend just broke up with me about 2 days ago and i still love him sooooo much. like you guys have no idea.
but i dont know what to do, i want to get over him but it seems impossible.
and it was such a rash decision too.
about 3 days before he was telling me how much he loved me and that i was pretty and all these reasons why he loved me, but then he just broke up with me.
he says its because he cant handle the pressure of being in a relasionship, and i told him i wouldnt pressure him at all.
we had been dating for 4 months by the way.
help would realllyy be appreciated. and i'll love you forever =] (link)
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okay honey......it was only 2 days ago give it time i kow that everybody feels that way i know i did after all my relationships but i eventually got over it and i thoyught that no one would understand how much i still cared about them but you eventulaay get over it but if you don't you definalty need to tell him.....because sometimes it could be real.
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Can you really be skinny or burn off fat other than surgery? Because I'm just wondering..wouldn't you be skinney but then you'd have skin sagging out after your workout because your skin was stretched when you're fat? if not, then how? (link)
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hey that only happens if your REALLY fat and you drop wait really fast if you keep working out it should tighten up your muscles and your skin at the same time......don't worry i dropped 20 pounds and nothing ike that happend to me and i'm still losing wieght and if yuo just keepat it you should be just fine
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Theres this guy i like, hes so cute just the way we act around each other is adorable.. well we had pretty much everyclass together, and we'd always be talkin to each other and flirting... we hung out yesterday, in my head i liked him and in his he liked me, and then last night we talked forever and we told each other we liked each other, now hes soo shy to hang out.. i dont wanna pressure him, but idk what i can say to him. like today he said he was grounded, and well i know he isnt... i just wanna make him feel comfortable, hes never been in a real relationship or anything and hes none for being kind of prude, i just want a way to tell him to feel comfortable without actually sayin it (link)
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well i think he is ust scared to talk to you now i think you shoudl just go up to him and say hey and smile and try to make him feel more comfortable and just like tlak to him oncei n a while then star asking him to hang out again.
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13/f.
Warning: Very long.
In school I play it cool, when I'm by my family I'm neutral, but when I'm by myself or talking with my boyfriend I completely loose it. My entire family has a long line of deep depression for the females on my mom's side. All of my family members take anti-depressents. My mom, my aunt, grandmother, cousins, my great-grandmother used to take them before she died. She was crazier than anyone could ever imagine - she'd spent five years in a mental institution. I my self have been in one for exactly 8 days before they released me because, just like I do in school and in front of my family, I play it like nothing's wrong.
I've begun to continually cut myself. I know I need to quit. Half of me wants to quit, because I know it's what's right, but the other half loves it too much to get rid of it. It's like I've become a dependant on it - or on my boyfriend, also. When I'm constantly talking to him, I'm perfect. Happy as happy can be, but the second he has to go to deal with his own life I fall apart. I need to depend on myself to make me happy, but I can't seem to find the strength too. I don't want to. I want to depend on someone or something. But I can't; I need to find a solution.
I've been diagnosed with clinical depression and have tried just about every anti-depressent out there or all different doses - none have ever worked for me. I currently take 30 miligrams of the generic brand of Prozac, along with Adderall for my ADD and Seraquil for my acclaimed "bipolar" disorder I've also been diagnosed with - even though I don't have mood swings. The only different moods I have are mask neutral and depressed.
I've tried overdosing in an attempt to kill myself three times. I've tried shooting myself twice, and I've tried countless of times to kill myself by means of slicing any main vains - I want help, I need help, but I can't get it from the "professionals" because all they'll do is stuff me in a white jacket and into a room with squishy walls. I don't want that. I want help. Actual help, but I don't know how to get it. I'm just so overwhelmed. I want to be able to get on with my life. I want to be able to be a kid while I still have the chance, to be able to laugh with my friends and have it not be fake. I want to be able to act stupid and mess up while it still doesn't matter.
I'm not sure exactly what my question is, except for a cry for help. (link)
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well i think you need to try to find out what you think is making you the most unhappy then try to deal with that and just tkae it one step at a time...........if you need to talk to some one i'll give you my e-mail address and my sn for both yahoo and aim......if you evern eed to talk i'll be here okay?
AIM: AshleyLaskarin
YAHOO: ashmoe924u
EMAIL: nicolelaskarin@hotmail.com
if you ever need anything you can talk to me okay......i know talking help alot too.
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she's really upset about her compicated life right now,like her boy issues, and family issues like she has 20 years old guy and shes teeager he dont think she knows that she likes him but i think he kinda liked her and he said hes gonna wait 2 years for her. but she found out that he has a girfriend now and shes really sad and she feels like she doesnt wanna go to school anymore because of guy problem and her family problem and i told her "forget about it" but shes said it doesnt work what should i say to her? she also asked me what can she do to be happier? and she said "what do i do about my guy problems?" please help me what do u think she should do? please be serious i wanna help her out thanks a lot (link)
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well okay i have a friend like that.......she was really depressed and all becasuse she thought she couldn't get he guy she wanted and she was all depreesed. well the first step she needs to take is to try to keep her mind off of that guy and to stop being depresssed about him.....try to encourage her that he really does like her and until they can be together help her find some body else. FOr the family issses idk becase you haven't told us anything about them. ti's reallly tough but just like take her out places and spend a lot of time with ancd just encourage her to be happy and tell her that that guy isn't the only guy in the world and that he isn't all that matters in the world and just try to get her to underdtand that.
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i work really really hard and listen in class, do all my homework. i already talked to my teachers and everything but i can't help it, i can never do better than a B or a C in some classes!!!!!
im just stupid... idk how i will ever get into a good college with grades like that i don't know what to do!
my dad is CRAZY. he won't test me for ADD, b/c he teasted my brother and my brother had it, and he got so pissed b/c he said "ADD is for retards and i will not have another retard kid!" but he demands A's
he says B's are F's and I will get grounded
i don't know what to do I have to be smarter if I am going to survive my house and make it in life because my dad won't listen to me, I CANNOT TALK TO HIM HE WILL NOT LISTEN, and I already ahve a tutor for like everything and talked to my eachers
im just stupid.. is there a cure? PLEASE ANYTHING WILL HELP IM SO SICK OF NOT GETTING ANYTHING. IM TIRED OF MY DAD HITTING ME B/C IM STUPID IM TIRED OF BEING MADE FUN OF PELASE
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your not stupid and i odfn't think anything is wrong with you...it's soundsl iek you dad is way to hard on you and i think you should tlak to a consle ror aomething about him because that isnt fair on you....a parent shouldn't be that way towards there children my mom and dad only expect the best I can do not he bet THEY think i can do.......no offense to your dad or anyhitng but that was really worng what he siad about your brother...but just talk to a counlser about your dad a n maybe some methods on imprving classwork skills.
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Are piercings in or out right now? If so, what kinds? (Cartlidge, nose, lip, eyebrown, belly button, etc.) (link)
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well i just had my carilage peiercd and i saw a lot of other people getting it done so i think that is in...belly buttons i think are still in to. thenose isn't as popular but u could do it if you want...i'de say it's so-so anyway you go it will be okay EXCEPT your eyebrow that would SOOOO not be cool right now.
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A few weeks ago I was whining in class about how i was cold, and this kid said "want to wear mine?" I was like "really" and he was like "sure just give it back before the end of the period" ; I couldn't stop smiling; and by the end of the class, I developed a crush on him. I thought it was the sweetest thing ever.
I guess he was just trying to be nice, because he likes one of my friends. But my friends doesn't like him. He flirts with my SOMETIMES, but flirts with my friend most of the time.
again, but friend does not like him at all. I haven't liked him for that long, so I'm not so deeply in love with him that I can't live without him, yet. Should I try and catch myself before I fall inlove and get hurt? What should I do? (link)
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okay well let's see here how can i say this......just because he like your freind doesn't mean you can't make a move on him....i mean she doesn'tl ike him right? You should tlak to him more...and yeah that whole jacket thing was so sweet. And girl watch out becasue if he is as sweet as the guy i like then you'll tottaly fall head over heels for him....but that's just my opinion but hey i say go for it and tlak to him some maybe flirt a little and then see what happens i mean it can only get you xcloser so what's the harm?
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I'm really shy and I think I'm developing a crush on this guy.
How do I get his attention?
Should I wear my hair differently?
Because I already smile at him and strangely.. he smiles back. This rare cute smile.
Sometimes he comes up to me and tries to sit next to me.
Today, this lady handed out pens for everyone (math class~ to correct) and he didn't get a good pen. So he decided to take mine.. and he started to walk away. Then someone said something.. and he turned around and I gave him a /look/ .. he stopped and smiled.. and laughed.
I'm going to start to play this game (that he told me about) .. will that help bring up conversation? Like.. can you help me with the game. Explain it to me sort of thing?
Even if he doesn't like me. I'll love to have him as a friend that I could talk to and hang out with.
He's a year older than me though. He's a junior. Are juniors really interested in sophomores? (link)
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okay from what i know most guy don't pay that much attention to stuff like how you do your hair or if you did your make-up diffferently. But i don know they LOVE attention and i think that if you talk to him and maybe do use that game thing as an exscuse to tlak to him it will help...i'm really shy to and that's how i got my crush to notice me was by giving him LOTS of attention. He absolutly loved it.after that he started oing stuff that he knew made me laugh just to get my attention. just give himas much attention as possible and TRY to talk to him just don't sit there like an idiot. that doesn't work that well.
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This confuses me to the point where it makes me sad.
Ill explain the situation.
A guy.
Me and my friend both like.
We all know eachother VERY well.
He claims he hates both of us.
He told me he didnt hate me anymore,yet he told someone else he did.
He tells he hates her and he likes me as a friend.
Yet, he wont talk to me at school.
But, sometimes he talks to her.
Usually , he'll try and get my attention but not talk to me.
Or when we are together, he will do something to her and not me[for attention],he'll just like give me this stare.
oh yeah, i forgot to mention that both of us did sex kinda stuff with him, but i did it more and he said he would do it with me again but not her.
But at the same time, at school he would call me fat and etc.
IS this kid on drugs or what?
I need help , this is always making me sad.
And your gonna say to move on, i try and i try and i try,
i cant get over this kid.
Ive liked him ON and OFF for 3 years, but this time has been the most
thnks
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okay well this guy sound a lot like this guy that i like.....well i think right now he is going through a lot of emotional prblems and he may like you but is just afraid for anybody to know and he think that if anyione found out they would laugh......he is trying to decide what to do as for your friend i don't know it sound like he is just usng her but i don't know...i hope i helped
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13 going on 14 / f
Okay, some of yall read my problem last time.. its the same but, if you didn't hear about it.. its about this guy.. hes my bestfriend, we talk every night on the phone til morning, he tells me everything .. and guess what ? i fell for him.. i've liked him for a long time. i pray & i wish on stars that someday he'll be mine.. and im still not losing hope. Its pretty natural to fall for your bestfriend.. but the thing is that hes likes my bestfriend .. my "twinnie" shes my "twinnie" because we're so much alike & have so much in common. yes, thats right, he likes her .. and she knows that i liked him for a long time.. but then she started liking him, and she thought it would be wrong if they went out, because she knew i liked him.. but i put her happiness before mine, so i let her have him & that ill be happy for her. but then they're having some problems at the moment.. they're not going out though.. but i feel really hurt & basically cry ALMOST everyday T.T i hide my sadness from both of them, cause my twinnie knows about it.. but not him he'll like to know my secret but i cant tell him.. cause he knew i liked him before he js doesn't know i like him now. i love talking to him even though it hurts when he talks about my "twinnie" about how much he loves her and stuff, but it surprises me that he makes me happy. Sacrafices yannoe? i don't want to do anything to hurt my twinnie or him, but he keeps wanting me to tell him her secrets .. but i wont & he gets all sad & doesn't think i trust him, which makes me feel bad, please give me some advice on what to do & tell me how to get over him, cause its been hurting for a long time. and that i cant take it anymore, please.
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whoah that is a tough....but it's simular to mine except he isn't my best friend...yeha it hurts and i imagine it hurts you even worse but if she know s you like him then just explain to her in dept how you feel and then if she is okay with it and agrres to back of then make your move but if she doesn't just try to avoid him a few days and get your emotions in check then talk to him and see how you fell if you still feel the same step up to the plate and tell him
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im hanging out with a group of friends. we are 5. im really close to 2 of them and after 2006 the other 2 changed a lot. us three (really close friends) want to get ride of or ditch (sounds bad) but like not be the other 2s firends anymore. ive tried talking to them about it and giving them hints but they dont get it. wen i start school, wat should i do? i need to get rid of them. they have changed, they make us look bad and they are soooo annoying. helpp (link)
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best thing to do in avaiod them and when they get near you tell them straight up that you don't want to hang out with them anyore trust me it is the only way...it's on of those things that you can't handle gently
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hey! ok I have this boy at my school that I go out with and there is this other boy at my school that I really like and he likes me.. but I dont have the heart to tell my boyfriend that I like somone else! and I want my boyfriend to break up with me. so please help me! (link)
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well..there isn't a way to do it without telling him you want to break up but just tell him that you think you guy would be better as freinds and don't go out with that ohter guy right away wait about a week or so
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