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Please help me with my friend's problem? shes really upset?
she's really upset about her compicated life right now,like her boy issues, and family issues like she has 20 years old guy and shes teeager he dont think she knows that she likes him but i think he kinda liked her and he said hes gonna wait 2 years for her. but she found out that he has a girfriend now and shes really sad and she feels like she doesnt wanna go to school anymore because of guy problem and her family problem and i told her "forget about it" but shes said it doesnt work what should i say to her? she also asked me what can she do to be happier? and she said "what do i do about my guy problems?" please help me what do u think she should do? please be serious i wanna help her out thanks a lot
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well okay i have a friend like that.......she was really depressed and all becasuse she thought she couldn't get he guy she wanted and she was all depreesed. well the first step she needs to take is to try to keep her mind off of that guy and to stop being depresssed about him.....try to encourage her that he really does like her and until they can be together help her find some body else. FOr the family issses idk becase you haven't told us anything about them. ti's reallly tough but just like take her out places and spend a lot of time with ancd just encourage her to be happy and tell her that that guy isn't the only guy in the world and that he isn't all that matters in the world and just try to get her to underdtand that.
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It's really nice of you to go all out to help her. If she wants to be happier, the first step is to stop wallowing in depression. She has to step out and all the more she has to go to school. School is a place where he won't be there to distract her. It is where all her friends are and where she can laugh and hang out with them to get out of that rut.
She has to understand that there is really no point in not going to school and staying at home under the blanket all day, thinking and crying over him. Tell me, what good can you get out of staying at home and overwhelming yourself with sadness? If she can name ONE good thing bout it, I'd bend down and kiss my ass from between my knees. He said that he'll wait 2 years for her but what happened? He dropped her for someone else. Then I have to say that it IS a good thing she isnt with him because he isn't a man of his word. The worst thing people can break is their promise.
Tell her that life doesn't just revolve around her problems. I'm sure there are other things for her to look forward to in life. Focus more on those for now. Tell her that she can do it. Each and everyone of us have our own problems and she has to learn how to pick herself up and be positive. As for her family problem, you didnt elaborate much so I can't really help you much there. If she wants to be happy, tell her to do the things she likes. Shopping, playing with her pets, watching tv, etc. You can help her as well by being her companion during this period of time.
I can empathise with her when she said she "can't forget" because it is really easier said than done. Tell her that forgetting bout him is not the only option. She can choose to keep herself so busy that he'll eventually slip her mind. Show her lots of support during this period of time and be very patient with her. Because at this point in time, she's at her most vulnerable and her self esteem may be easily crushed. Tell her to brace herself and be strong, and there will always be people out there who are far worse off than she is.
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