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I don't know what's wrong with me, but whenever I want to try tampons, I get so scared and tense.
I can't even get the applicator inside of me... it's just, when something (tampon, finger) touches my vagina, I have this weird feeling and it's not good. I tried a tampon yesterday and I was just so scared, I couldn't even get the applicator in. Then a few hours ago, I tried again and this time I got so scared I broke down crying. I've had my period for 1 year and i've always used pads. I play volleyball and I am just so sick of pads. Also, my friends use tampons and they play with me. I'm starting high school and we have lockers, I really do not want my friends and other people to see me using pads. I know that I should't care what other people think, but it's not only that. I hate the feeling of pads... I want to try tampons soooo badly because i've heard that it's a million times better than pads. But I can't get the courage to push it into my vagina. Right when it touches me, ugh... i can't even explain it. If it helps, I've always been scared of needles and blood. That's why i'm never becoming a doctor. So any of you advicenators have any good advice for me?? Please don't tell me to stick with pads, because I am just so disguisted of them. I need advice on how to calm my self down when I try tampons, and how not to be scared. I know that they can't get lost... but I just start freaking out when it touches me. The thought of putting something inside of them... it just makes me dizzy and gross. Please help! I have a big tournament coming up and I would like to start using them by then. Thank you a ton (link)
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First of all, try Playtex gentle guide. Plastic applicators are a lot easier to use for beginners than cardboard applicators. Listen to your ipod, sit on the toilet with your pants and underwear at your knees, and your legs spread, and wait until you feel calm and relaxed. Close your eyes and just imagine the annoying feeling of pads while playing volleyball, don't even think about it, and then just get it over with. Try a couple times if you can't get it..I couldn't get one in the first time I tried but the second time was fine.
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i was friends with benefits with this guy for a year and just recently he got back together with his ex. they've been going out for 2 weeks and he wants to have phone sex with me already. for me its tempting but i dont want to be the girl he cheats with because i consider phone sex as cheating but he thinks that as long as we're not physical then its not cheating. what do you guys think? (link)
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Its not technically cheating, but if his current girlfriend finds out she'd still be really hurt and probably angry with you. Imagine yourself in her position..and don't encourage that kind of behaviour. We don't want guys to think they can get away with whatever they want, just because they have certain ways to rationalize it.
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I'm 15 years old and my parents seem to be calling it quits. I say seem to because my father had just told my mother that he would decide in a week whether he wanted to leave or not. My mother constantly tells us it's not my sister and mine's fault but my Dad... well he constantly tells my sister and I that mom is just a terrible person and that she doesn't appreciate us. I don't know what to think or do. What do I do if they finally split?
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My parents are divorced and I am glad that they have found happier lives, even if it means that they're not with eachother, but the one thing that I cannot tolerate is when one parent tries to tell me bad things about the other parent. Tell your dad that you understand that he is going through a rough time, but that you cannot take sides and you still love both of your parents. Let him know that that is not ok. If they are getting divorced, his trash talking will just make it harder.
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i made a xanga and i made the mistake of putting my aim screen name on it. so this guy he i/ms me and i got the vibe that he was hitting on me, but i realize that now, not when it was happening, and he was pretty much saying suggestive stuff, and i was kinda going with it, i guess. idk why i was? but i was and we've been talking for days but i just feel weird, like really weird talking to this guy, he says hes in a band, and i did some looking and i found their myspace, so i know hes not some creepy old guy or something, idk its just so weird, so my question is, basically, what should i do? (link)
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If he really starts to creep you out, just block him. He may not seem creepy at first, but honestly, do you really want to talk to a guy who saw your xanga and wanted to talk to you? That alone is creepy. If you enjoy talking to him, though, there's no harm in playing along with it as long as he doesn't know where you live, or your phone number or anything.
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hi what is a average or good weight
for a
14/f who is 5'5? (link)
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About 125 pounds is average. They say that for every inch above 5' you should gain five pounds..so like someone who is 5'1 should be 105, 5'2 should be 110, etc.
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okay well currently these few days when I went to the washroom, i saw my underwear being a bit wet. im not sure if its discharge, i heard it was like slimy, etc. but then mine is kinda like water, then later it dries up and looks kinda whiteish-yellowish. well before it dries up, it looks whiteish, not really gooey, slimey, etc. Is that discharge? if it isnt, then what is it? I cant feel it coming out though.
Thanks a bunch! ^-^ (link)
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Yeah, its discharge and its perfectly healthy. Sometimes it will be dry and sometimes it will be gooey.
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okay well im 15/f.
my life is awesome.
it seems like a fairytale, big house, all the money and cloths i want, ect. well today my dad told me that him and my mom where going to get a devorce. im devistated. anyone have any good advice? (link)
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My parents divorced when I was 11 and I was really torn up about it at first, but after a few years I've realized that it was for the better. It is hard to go from each parent's house to the other, and sometimes they say bad things about eachother to my face, which drives me crazy, but just be there for your parents because it may seem like its hard on you, but its much harder for them. But I prefer my parents being divorced..I love my dad's girlfriend and I'm happy for my mom that she is remarried and happy now. And my parents are much more lenient now that they're divorced. So its not the end of the world and its not the end of your fairytale life.
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i don't know what's wrong with me, but for some reason i can't get a boyfriend.I'm 15/f and I haven't had one [or a kiss] in the LONGEST. im becoming more and more depressive and lonely as days go by. It kills me inside to have to watch couples everywhere, specially because i know its MY fault. i get "hollered" at A LOT even walking down the street, so i know its not because im ugly or anything.lately, i cant even hold ANYONE'S glance for more than 2 seconds. im also the least outgoing out of, well, basically everyone i meet, and everything depresses me. i dont know what to do to get over my stupid shyness and get a boyfriend despite my lack of motivation to do so. I bet people, including my own friends, think im lesbian or something. what do you guys think? (link)
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I had the exact same problem as you..I was the last one of my friends to have a serious boyfriend and lose my virginity (not that that matters.) Sometimes when you've lived in the same town for a while its hard to find someone who is compatible with you. But things will change, I'm sure you're an attractive girl and you know that so why are you letting it depress you? At least you're waiting for the right guy instead of going for any jerk that hollers at you on the street. My best advice is to stop looking and just let things happen. There are a lot of random places that you might meet your perfect guy..at a party, at a concert, at the beach. So just stop looking and wait for him to come to you! Don't let the fact that you haven't had a boyfriend stop you from being outgoing. When you meet new people, you can be anyone on you want, so why don't you try to have more of an outgoing personality? Guys are attracted to confident girls who seem like they've got nothing to worry about. And if a few months pass and you still haven't met the right guy..don't worry. College will come before you go out and there are billions of options that will overwhelm you.
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ok, i have only madeout once in my life.
& i kinda forgot now caus eit has been a year.
so how do u make out?
what are good tips?
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Tilt your head, don't use too much tongue, put your hand somewhere like on his back or neck or lightly on his ear, and don't chew gum beforehand because once you spit it out it actually makes your breath sour. If you want your breath to taste good, eat mints. And if you don't know how to start making out, give him a hug and then keep your body connected but lean your head back so you're a few inches away from his face, looking into his eyes. And if you're sitting down, touch the inside of his elbow and just smile and look at him.
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when i masturbate i am aroused and it feels good and everything, but then right after i orgasmed, im like 'ok im done thats it' i never feel like i want to keep dong it or im still horny afterwards im just done. i have no feeling of touching myself after that. is that normal? and also is it wierd that i dont like dildos and stuff like that? i only like rubbing my clit and putting stuff in my vagina hurts and i cant get it up higher than like 1 or 2 inches. (link)
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Once you have sex, multiple orgasms are a lot more appealing than just masturbating so its probably pretty normal to just want to relieve yourself once. And most girls' erogenous zones are very shallow so its not weird that you don't need to stick something way up there to orgasm. Once you start having sex it probably won't hurt to go higher than 1 or 2 inches.
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I have some short hairs at the top of my hair if you know what I mean. I think it's due to hair breakage. My question is how do you get rid of those? My other question is, what happens when you pull them out, will other hairs will grow in their place? Is it bad to pull your little hairs at the top of your head? If it's confusing, i'm sorry but please answer as best as you can!
-Elizabeth (15/F) (link)
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I wouldn't do that on your own, but some hairstylists do this thing called "lining" where they move your hairline back a little bit by pulling out some hairs, so they'd probably pull out those little hairs for you and make sure its even. If you do it yourself it might turn out uneven and itll probably just break instead of pulling out completely, which means you might have some really short, strange-looking stubbly stuff there.
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14/f sorry in advance for this being soo long!
today i went to a ropes course for incoming freshmen to the highschool.i got really close to the people in my group and made new friends. i met this kid..lets call him nick.ive known nick since elementary school..but we never really became good friends..but we knew who each other was.today he was in my group and we spent alot of time together.i had one of my really good guy friends in my group too..his name is alex. me and alex were hanging out andd we were probably the craziest kids in the group.haha :] nick is kinda shy but about half way through the day he became more outgoing and talked to us..most of the day it was me,alex,nick and this kid vince hanging out.
me and nick ended up partnering with each other for a couple of the activities.we were getting along really well and were kind of flirting. we kept looking back at each other and smiling or standing near each other most of the time.
by the end of the day i really started to like nick..and i think he was interested in me too. i hope he was.=] but idk what would happen if we classes together in high school.my friend terri likes nick too but shes saying she doesnt so she can get over him..because he doesnt ever text her back or talk to her..and my friend alexa used to like him too but she says she doesnt anymore..but i think she still does.but she wont admit it because terri likes him too. i dont want to tell terri i might like nick because terri has liked nick for so long..like ever since elementary schoool.yeah 7 years.
how should i handle this?me and nick both are interested in each other but i dont know what to do because of terri..i would never want to hurt her feelings.but if something happens with nick and we have a chance i want to take it. any advice would be greatttt :)
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You should tell your friends that you really like Nick and think he likes you back, and ask if they mind if you pursue a relationship with him. Just be like "I know you used to like Nick and might even still have feelings for him but I was wondering if you'd mind that I like him, too." You can't help who you like, and your friends, especially if they're trying to get over him, shouldn't blame you.
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I am very shy around guys that I like, especially older guys. My face gets all red and I get quiet. I am a sophomore and my friend wants to introduce me to her friend, who is a senior. The guy is interested in meeting me, and thinks I'm cute. I really don't want to blow it, so what do I do to open up more and act flirty?
Thanks so much to anyone that helps:) (link)
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Smile a lot..show you're interested but don't act TOO available. If you think its going well while you're talking, touch his arm lightly. Making physical connections makes flirting much more meaningful. Don't brag about anything, but make sure you sound interesting and intelligent. Be mysterious about certain things, and if you get nervous and start shaking, use hand motions when you talk. My guy friends make fun of me all the time for how much I use my hands when I talk, but they think it is really cute and quirky. And remember, he's interested in you, so you have the upper hand!
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It's getting closer and closer to the beginning of school. I want to get a haircut before I go back. Since I'm no longer dyeing my hair black, I wanted to do something different, like a hair cut. I'm planning on getting layers so that I can blow dry it to look like that really big 80's hair.
I'm honestly a bit nervous right now, because I'm afraid the hair dresser will not cut my hair right, or it will look bad. I've actually never had my hair professionally cut, my whole life, my mom has just trimmed it.
Am I overreacting about getting my hair cut? Should I take this chance getting it cut? If I do get a bad haircut, what are some styles where you can't really see the bad hair cut?
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Before you decide how to get it cut, you should take a look at the shape of your face and decide if its long, oval, round, or square. Then go on google and look up "best haircuts for ____-shaped face." Then, once you've figured out what kind of layers will look good with your face shape, look up some pictures to find out exactly what you want and show your hair stylist. If you want really good results, ask around to find a hair stylist that actually really cares how you look, because some just like to cut hair as fast as possible. And remember..the first day, you will probably be shocked with the change but after a few days you'll get used to it. Just mess around in the mirror with bobby pins and bandanas and ponytail holders until you find some hairstyles that look good.
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Does anyone know a good sad book for a boy and girl, im not a reader, so please tell me a good one, and not hard. a book that a middle schooler could read!
THANKS!
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"Phoenix Rising" by Karen Hesse is really sad and I read it while I was in elementary school so its not very hard
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I've been seeing this guy mark for quite a while and i really like him. I'm 18 and he's 21. But I hate the fact that he goes to strip clubs! I think its completely disgusting and degrading towards women! No one would like their man getting a lap dance from a naked girl and feeling all up on her! Not to mention their completely nasty sluts! I dont think it's worth the 10 bucks at all for that and especially if he has a good women that can do the same damn thing for free! It's a complete insult to me and it's a slap in the face...like im not good enough to get him turned on that he has to go waste his money and watch nasty whores dance! He keeps talking serious with me and saying he wants to be with me and wants me to move some of my stuff into his place! But I don't think I can be in a serious relationship with someone that goes to strip clubs! I already knew he did that when I first met him, but I didn't care because I wasnt looking for a relationship and I was seeing other guys and keeping my options open. But now that it's getting serious and he's talking about offically being a couple, I don't want him to go there. And I know some of you are going to tell me that I should tell him how I feel and that I don't want him to go...But he already knows how I feel about strip clubs....he always tells me I look better than half the girls in there...but if thats so, than why the hell does he even go? He acts like im over reacting and like it's not a big deal. "Its not like Im taking them home with me" he says or "Its just like watching a porno!" And it doesn't help that Im not old enough to go in there and see what it's like and see exactly how bad it is. Also...I dont want to tell him to give it up because I dont want to be that controlling! His friends will make him feel stupid for not going with them anymore and act like Im being ridiculous and controlling him too much and that he needs to do his own thing. Then he will lie and go! I feel really strong about strip clubs and I don't like double standards. I hate how guys can do so much more that girls and get away with it!! I have half a mind to go to a party, pick out the hottest ones with the biggest dicks and have them all give me a lap dance at once and video tape it for him and be like "yeah...i didnt even have to pay for that amazing show" I bet I would get labeled all sorts of names but I think it's completely FAIR. But my point is, he would definitly not like me doing that, just like I dont like him watching girls strip. Im not going to be some peice of ass for him to go screw after watching a bunch of other women! If he can think of other women sexually than I can think of other men sexually! That's how I see it...anyone agree or have a simular issue?...Let me know! (link)
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Is this guy really that important to you? He knows you have a problem with him going to strip clubs, but he tries to rationalize his decisions and goes anyways. You should tell him that you're not ready to move in with him and be a real couple until he can compromise parts of his life that you're not pleased with. Because that's what relationships are all about: compromise. If he's not willing to do that, then wait until he is before you take the relationship any further. He needs to want to make you happy if your relationship is going to work. Even if you are happy with him now, a guy that doesn't see a problem with a naked girl giving him a lap dance may evolve into a guy who doesn't have a problem sleeping with someone who isn't his girlfriend.
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Yeah, so this week I was in Vermont all week. I met this wicked cute guy at the motel I stayed it. One night I was playing basketball since the motel had a hoop outside. There were rooms right behind the basketball hoop. A CUTE teenage boy was outside on his deck reading 10 feet away from me playing basketball (except he was on the 2nd story.) As I shot hoops, I'd look back at him every few times to see him staring at me. I looked back a minute later, and he was gone. All of a sudden he was walking toward me! You have no clue how nervous I was. My heart was like beating out of my chest, and I felt SOOO sweaty. He asked if he could shoot with me and I said sure. He asked me questions like why I was here, where I lived, who I'm with, and I studdered in like every sentence because I was so nervous! I was like shaking, haha. I think it was because he was so hott and usually guys don't come up to me and start conversations, so I didn't know what to do. He basically did all the talking, and I stood there being boring and answered all his questions in a monotone voice. Next time, I wanna be prepared and not so nervous. What can I do to make myself feel comfortable and be myself? And don't tell me to pretend I'm just talking to a friend, it doesn't work for me!! With my friends I'm loud & outgoing, but I was nervous & shy around the hott guy. The hott guy didn't talk to me again! I made such a bad impression on myself. Help please, I wanna be able to keep a non-boring conversation with guys without studdering and saying stuff that doesn't even make sense!! (link)
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Just relax, look him in the eyes, and smile a lot. If you looked away from him while answering his questions, it probably seemed like you weren't into him and just wanted him to leave. There must've been a reason he came up and talked to you, so just keep that in mind. Ask guys questions back..the whole I ask a question and you answer thing can get kinda boring. And I can't stress the smiling thing enough..you want him to know that you're happy he came and talked to you.
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Hair,makeup, and clothing..
WHAT'S IN STYLE!?
15/f. (link)
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Jersey dresses, colorful hoodies, babydoll shirts, keds, bandeau tops, long colorful wifebeaters, and big metallic belts are in this fall.
Skinny jeans are going out.
Smoky, smudged eyes are back in.
As for hair..angled or sweeping bangs are in. Higlights are out.
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14/f this kid in my town and i hooked up before the summer. he told me that over the summer we can do whatever we want and then we can "catch up" afterwards. we both got with other people.. so camps over and all, and we hung out 3 times and hooked up then. he told me that he liked me, we talk online and text often. hes the kind of guys that gets a lot of girls (but hes nice and sweet.. not a manwhore) do you think he is going to ask me out or is it just a summer romance?
help is appreciated! (link)
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If he gets a lot of girls he probably knows what he wants and how to get it. So, yes, he'll probably ask you out, unless there's another girl he has his eye on. You should ask him casually sometime "Sooo..what's going to happen when school starts again?" and maybe that will speed things along.
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Hi i'm 13 and a girl. Is it weird that I put on my ipod, go in my room and close the door, and in my underwear dance and lip-sync the words to the songs? Sometimes I dress up when I do it too. Sometimes i'm bored and it's really fun to me. Like do people usually do stuff like this, or am I strange? Tell the truth. Thanks! (link)
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I live in an all-girls dorm, and compared to some of the stuff that happens there, that's perfectly normal. I walk around and do my homework in just my underwear and bra, and some girls run around naked. Whatever floats your boat, don't worry, there's nothing wrong with you
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