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I'm retarded!!
Yeah, so this week I was in Vermont all week. I met this wicked cute guy at the motel I stayed it. One night I was playing basketball since the motel had a hoop outside. There were rooms right behind the basketball hoop. A CUTE teenage boy was outside on his deck reading 10 feet away from me playing basketball (except he was on the 2nd story.) As I shot hoops, I'd look back at him every few times to see him staring at me. I looked back a minute later, and he was gone. All of a sudden he was walking toward me! You have no clue how nervous I was. My heart was like beating out of my chest, and I felt SOOO sweaty. He asked if he could shoot with me and I said sure. He asked me questions like why I was here, where I lived, who I'm with, and I studdered in like every sentence because I was so nervous! I was like shaking, haha. I think it was because he was so hott and usually guys don't come up to me and start conversations, so I didn't know what to do. He basically did all the talking, and I stood there being boring and answered all his questions in a monotone voice. Next time, I wanna be prepared and not so nervous. What can I do to make myself feel comfortable and be myself? And don't tell me to pretend I'm just talking to a friend, it doesn't work for me!! With my friends I'm loud & outgoing, but I was nervous & shy around the hott guy. The hott guy didn't talk to me again! I made such a bad impression on myself. Help please, I wanna be able to keep a non-boring conversation with guys without studdering and saying stuff that doesn't even make sense!!
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First know that this is a very common problem. Many girls have trouble talking to guys they like.
The first step in confronting your fear is called visualization. It is when you imagine yourself talking to a guy that you like. Imagine that you are doing everything perfectly, and that there isn't a flaw in the conversation.
The next step is practicing. This is where you practice on a guy friend or a guy that you don't have a romantic interest in. This shows that you can talk to guys and it gives you confidence when you see a guy that you are interested in.
The final phase is the confrontation phase. It is where you face your fear of talking to the guys that you like.
It is actually a good idea to practice the confrontation phase while on vacation because if you really embarrass yourself, you won't have to see the person anymore once you go back home. It's great practice!
Good luck, and don't hesitate to write back if you have anymore questions. :)
Hannah
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Just relax, look him in the eyes, and smile a lot. If you looked away from him while answering his questions, it probably seemed like you weren't into him and just wanted him to leave. There must've been a reason he came up and talked to you, so just keep that in mind. Ask guys questions back..the whole I ask a question and you answer thing can get kinda boring. And I can't stress the smiling thing enough..you want him to know that you're happy he came and talked to you.
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