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Parents finally quit?
I'm 15 years old and my parents seem to be calling it quits. I say seem to because my father had just told my mother that he would decide in a week whether he wanted to leave or not. My mother constantly tells us it's not my sister and mine's fault but my Dad... well he constantly tells my sister and I that mom is just a terrible person and that she doesn't appreciate us. I don't know what to think or do. What do I do if they finally split?
Thanks in advance
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You realize that if your parents marriage is failing that it is both of their faults, and that they are both people. You also realize that there was some level of incompatibility between them that neither could overcome so in a way its also kind of neither of their faults.
Your parents are human. Some humans just cant work well with other humans. They can still be good people separately.
I dont know what your mom is like. But if your father is saying things that you and your sister dont agree with ask him to stop and tell him that if he and your mother are going to get a divorce you dont want it to be any harder to love or respect either of them. That should zip him up pretty quickly.
Be understanding, because this is probably just as fucked and traumatic for them as it is for you. Unfortunately you kind of get shafted in the process, but generally when people actually go through with a divorce it was the best choice. For everyone involved.
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My parents are divorced and at first its difficult, but sometimes it is better for everyone involved when a couple spilts up. Everyone can be happier. When one parent badmouths the other it can be really hurtful and confusing, explain to your father that you love both your parents and you are not going to pick sides. Tell him that when you talk about your mother that way, it really hurts you and you would appreciate it if he didn't talk about her that way in front of you and your sister.
As for what you will do if your parents split up, it will be difficult for you at first, but remember that it is not your fault by any means and that a split up might be the best thing. It will get better and eventually you will form a more healthy family dynamic. With your parents happier your home life will undoubtedly be more positive. Try to remember that your parents still love you and they always will. No matter what happens between them. Hope I helped.
Love, Rainbow
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My parents are divorced and I am glad that they have found happier lives, even if it means that they're not with eachother, but the one thing that I cannot tolerate is when one parent tries to tell me bad things about the other parent. Tell your dad that you understand that he is going through a rough time, but that you cannot take sides and you still love both of your parents. Let him know that that is not ok. If they are getting divorced, his trash talking will just make it harder.
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